@greentriangle99
Yes, but the reason that women in violent and abusive relationships sometimes have their children removed by SS is because they continually prioritise contact with the abuser over the welfare and safety of their children. Adult women can make their choices and accept them, but children can’t. OP can choose how she handles his blackmail and whether she continues the same cycle with him over and over.
I think people are trying to make the OP see that she is in a very serious situation and there is a credible risk of not only upgrading to a CP plan again, but of social services starting pre-proceedings to remove her baby and the unborn at birth if she continues the pregnancy.
This isn’t going to go away with a few white lies and asking people nicely not to share information. Even clinicians at a private abortion clinic are duty bound to safeguard children.
Clearly the OP is still scared of her abuser and he holds significant power over her, she is being coerced and blackmailed by him and her behaviour is entirely influenced by the threat he poses. But the only way to deal with this is to be honest with the social workers. Being up front with them, that they have been seeing each other again, explaining that she is now pregnant and is concerned for the escalating risk to existing baby and herself will secure further help. The fact that she is planning to have a termination so she does not have any further ties to him will be viewed positively by SS and they will rightly recognise that it is not appropriate to close the CIN plan yet as he still poses a significant risk.
If she tells loads of white lies and covers up the contact with him, and the pregnancy/termination and sweeps it all under the carpet, she is not securing safety for herself or her baby. He will get worse, OP or her baby will be harmed, and police/SS will be involved again and any chances of retaining parental responsibility would be gone forever.
OP seems to misguidedly think that because she can can look after her baby with clothes and food and hygiene that everything is fine and dandy and SS are happy. They were never involved (that we’ve been told) because they had concerns about her ability to do the basic tasks of baby care, it is about her being able to persistently and reliably safeguard her child from the emotional and physical harm caused by domestic abuse.
The stuff about the CP plan being downgraded to a CIN and then now moving towards closure is a red herring, those positive things happened based on lies and false information, false assurances provided to SS by the OP that she hasn’t stuck to. OP is very misguided if she thinks more lies will rectify the situation.