Due December (thread 2) 👯

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Oops! We filled up the last one quicker than we could make a new thread! I'll try and tag people so we can all keep chatting here.

@watermelonwizard I also found out on my birthday! I worked out that if I go over by the same number of days as I did with my DD, the new baby will arrive on my DH's birthday, which would be neat symmetry. Don't censor how you feel about the pregnancy - you're entitled to your feelings. Once he or she arrives you'll love them just the same.

@DogsAndGin so pleased for you!

@DogsAndGin Sounds familiar 🤣 Could they see heartbeat at 6w? Im booked for scan at 6w4 which i know is super early just feel like I need something to confirm Im not crazy and its all ok lol... but keep debating whether to postpone it a week in case 🙈🙈

@baby2in2022 ah congratulations, isn’t it crazy how it works out so differently each time. Aw I feel so guilty about it. I got this job whilst on my last mat leave, so when they asked when I could start I was like ‘ummm 7 months time?’ Lol, so dreading telling them after being back for 2 minutes that I’m off again! Silly to worry about it really but hard not to.

@TradedAtlanta aw that’s pretty cool! A double birthday celebration would be fun :) thank you - that’s so reassuring for me to hear! X

@PinkFizz1 can’t wait to have you :)

Amazing scan news today! My early scan is less than a week and I can't stop thinking about the what if's! I'll be 8+4. We're going away for a long weekend tomorrow so hopefully it'll give me less time to worry about it. I went to bed with a relatively empty stomach the day before and woke up feeling super nauseous, so I've asked my husband to make sure I don't go to bed hungry again 😂

Also I finally understand what people meant. Y sore boobs! I hardly slept last night cos it was just so uncomfortable 😣 will check out some comfy bras at Asda this weekend.

I'm getting a little jealous of the scan pictures, I still haven't heard back from my self referral - kind of wish I just had somebody to confirm that I actually am pregnant. I'm half glad I have symptoms otherwise I'd have convinced myself it was all a lie 🙈

@Jj19 ah thanks I’ve just added you! (You’ve already confirmed this but I feel the need to ask again… no one on my friends list is going to be able to see that I like the group are they?? 😬)

Just been swimming and it def stretches part of my stomach somewhere - felt I couldn’t do breast stroke at all. The stomach cramps are weirdly strong sometimes and non existent the other time.

nothing though is as bad as the tiredness!

@LC84 They should be able to see the heartbeat at 6 weeks, the risk is more that if you ovulated slightly later than expected you might only be 5 weeks still (and therefore might not see a heartbeat, which could make you more stressed!)

@Nejnej2 yes thats whats making me go back and forth about whether to wait bit longer 🙈 we only dtd couple of times around ovulation ao am hoping my dates are accurate but guess you never know do you!

Has anyone told family-like parents? I’m 6 weeks this week, my husband is due to go away for a month with work next week (and won’t be able to come back if anything happens!) so debating whether or not to tell them so I’ve got some support but still feels mega early!! This is my first pregnancy so want to make it special but don’t want to disappoint if anything goes wrong!

@PinkFizz1 no one will see it 😊

@Hboz we told our family at 6 weeks because we weren't going to see my husband's parents again for a few months and we're quite close and prefered to tell them face to face. I told my mum not long after and actually it has been good to have the support. This is our second though and I've appreciated not having to act like I'm not tired with my toddler running around. If something did happen, would you want them to know so they could look after you?

With our first we did wait until after the 12 week scan but it really depends on you, there is no right way x

@Hboz I told my mum. I know the established way is to keep it to yourself until the risk of miscarriage is reduced but it some ways I think that's really old fashioned. If I did have a miscarriage, I'd rather have my mum's support than pretend the embryo never existed.

@TradedAtlanta I agree, we did with our first (keep it to ourselves until after 12 weeks) but actually if something happened there's no way I wouldn't be able to tell them and suffer through it by myself so why not tell them anyway and have their support throughout.

My brother and sister in law told us early with their first and second and we would have supported them through any loss.

@Hboz I told my mum almost straight away on all 3 of mine. It’s nice to have someone in on your secret and mine was super excited each time!

Has anyone else got the uncharming symptom, “heightened awareness of fanjo”? I just feel very fanjo-aware when walking around, like I’m squatting on a Gwyneth Paltrow jade egg. Sort of the “didn’t push the tampon in far enough” sensation. Weirdly disconcerting!

@stuntbubbles haha! No - not fanjo... that didn't come for me last time until well into the 3rd trimester. I am very aware of my uterus though - especially if my bowel and bladder are full it already feels really uncomfortable.

We told parents at around 6 weeks with our previous two, but DH is refusing to tell anyone until after the scan this time. I'm seeing my mum today though and then see her every week as she comes to the kids swimming lessons with me and I highly doubt I'll be able to hide it from her and would rather tell her than her guess.

We have told my parents straight away at 5w but he wants to wait til 12 wk scan to tell his...
I had previous early mc few yrs back so wanted my mums support from day 1 but we are waiting to tell his family as think they would be so upset if it doesnt work out he wants to wait a bit...

I dont think theres a right or wrong answer just whatever you're most comfortable with, and if your OH is going to be away you might appreciate your family knowing to support you? ❤

Thanks @Mommabear20 @watermelonwizard @lovesT @TradedAtlanta That’s so helpful!! I think I’m just nervous about it feeling more real haha i don’t want to get too attached to the thought in case it doesn’t end well! Need to get my positive hat on

@Noodle87 I'm getting jealous of them too as I keep thinking so much good news surely I'll have bad. Just can't wait but it's 4 weeks away 😳.

Thank you @Pinkfig

@LC84 yes! There was a very clearly visible heartbeat at 6 weeks.

@Noodle87 my EPU doesn’t allow self referrals. But, I called 111 and described my painful tummy. They told me to go to a&e, but I refused as I don’t want to waste their time, and told them I need to go to EPU. 111 took forever on the phone lying about how they can’t refer me - I had to keep pushing. Eventually she said, ‘well I can email them, which is the process for any health professional to refer you, but I’m not guaranteeing they’ll come back to you’…

Well, after she finally sent the referral email, EPU called me immediately and booked me in.

I just had an awful moment. Was at the front of my classroom teaching a maths lesson and could feel something happening. Was convinced I was bleeding but couldn’t do anything about it as I had a class full of children and no additional adult with me to take over. Cue the worst half an hour of me dreading what I would see when I next went to the bathroom but thank god there was nothing there. I swear something was happening. No cramping or spotting so I am all fine but it really gave me a scare. I’m now at a similar point to my loss so I think it’s a bit psychological 🥴