Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part 5 - TTC graduates

[BecsterG]

Hi Ladies, loving that we have e Pugh success stories and chat for part 5!

@SunnySideUp2020 STILL pregnant! Got another stretch & sweep today so fingers crossed that works this time.

How are you?

@SunnySideUp2020 I've been having the weirdest dreams alright!! A few with baby involved and me not having a clue what to do with him🤣 had one where I left him outside and slept through the night abs woke up in a a panic that I hadn't fed him all night (wasn't remotely concerned in my dream I'd left him outside😄) I also get recurrent tidal wave dreams when I get a bit anxious and I'm getting lots of them!!
Can't believe we're nearly there although still feels so far away!! cannot wait now..my feet have really swelled up with oedema in the last few days and can barely fit my shoes on😢 and the pain of them..I'm sooo ready now!
Next hospital appt won't be until I'm 39+5 so guessing there'll be no early sweeps for me!

@mlax so today's due day!! Hopefully the sweep does the trick!!🤞🤞

@mlax Hopefully he is just punctual and will come soon 🙏

@Leok83
Yes same!!!! In my dreams i am useless at feeding, etc... completely lost 😅😅

Are you standing a lot? Oedema doesn't sound great but heard it s common towards the end 😐
Ask you DH to give you foot massage. I ask mine everyday. He must be so fed up by now...

I thought they d see you more often towards the end... but i guess if you had anything concerning you could just ring the mw.

I have mine tomorrow for check up.
And i know i have strep B test in 2 weeks (routine here). She will give me the exact date tomorrow.
And we are booking a private scan at 38 weeks just to make sure all is still good then (first time paranoid future parents!)

DH is off work now. Well jobless. But it was planned... so that we have time with the baby.
So we are now doing all the bits. Building furniture, will be doing next2me car seat pram equipment etc...

I am quite happy we are keeping busy tbh as i am worried it will start dragging from now on otherwise. So close yet so far as you were saying :)

@SunnySideUp2020 I've been standing a fair bit but moving..was doing lovely long walks but since Monday that's out the door now as I'm hobbling around on them😢 i feel so lazy now just sitting around all the time..plus also worried it's going to delay baby engaging! I said it at my appt and they were so unconcerned I almost felt silly for bringing it up but it's really become quite debilitating!! Have GP appt next week and the following one and if she's got concerns she'll send me back for hosp appts. But I definitely get the impression it's just something I've to deal with now! Have been getting the foot rubs too..I'd def say he's fed up of them 😂 Getting accupuncture tomorrow so hopefully that might help!

That's really good you get checked for strep B there routinely, I do worry here how they would actually know and it could be missed. Seems maternity care is definitely lacking in a lot of areas here but would have cost us about 4.5K euro to go private and that's with my health insurance so just seemed like such a massive expense for not much extra (don't think they even cover strep B with that either but they'd prob be more amenable if you asked about it). You wouldn't even get the private room you'd paid for as they're now kept for covid positive women.

That's lovely DH is off with you now, will he take much time off after the birth too? Will be lovely to get another scan too!!

@SunnySideUp2020 nothing happening here yet.

@SunnySideUp2020 all ok here thanks, how are you? 2 more weeks and I’ll be full term- crazy! I’m literally enormous so goodness knows how I’ll get any bigger! Still getting to grips with my diabetes and new diet but so far managing to keep my blood sugars within range. Got 36 week scan and consultant appt next week which will be with my new diabetes consultant so writing a list of questions to take and ask about induction and extra checks baby will need after birth etc!
Sorry you’re struggling with swelling @Leok83 sounds really uncomfortable 😞
@mlax @Ejb86 hope things get moving soon x

@Leok83 could you do the strep B test privately perhaps?

DH will be off until at least September i think or next year... depending on covid situation and what we plan on doing with our life
🥳

So my midwife wasn't keen on the scan for 38 weeks even though we would pay for it lol but she thinks unless there is an issue there is no point. Ok 😶

I have my strep B test next week actually. And she said if cervix favorable she will start offering sweeps from 39 weeks if my strep B comes back negative. If positive no sweeps.

@scrumdiddly123 it's good that you are keeping your sugar level under control. Hopefully no induction will be needed.

In my hospital the policy is 3 days stay after birth and if you give birth after midday it doesn't count as a day 😅 so effectively 4 days.
I find that incredibly long!!!

@SunnySideUp2020 I'm not sure..I'll have to ask my GP on Monday.
Wow that will be so lovely having DH off for so long! He won't miss out on any of the firsts like so many dads do (and mums!)
That does seem like a very long time to be kept in alright after birth! Here if all goes ok you can ask for an early discharge for 6-8 hours after the birth (Seems crazy short!) but otherwise it's generally 1 night after the birth and then home. I'm glad as DH not allowed in post natal ward..partners get kicked out after labour at the moment. Even with a section it's seems to only be a 2-3 night stay. Sister in law was out after 2 nights. Obviously those time frames are assuming all has gone ok. It's mad how different maternity care is between countries..you'd think it would be standard care everywhere.

@Leok83 yeah but no.... it's so different. For instance they just started to mention to me the movements pattern etc. Very odd.
6 hours after birth is the other extreme 😁 but given your partner isn't allowed i think I'd rather be home if all was ok.
And that thing about no giving sweeps if strep B is positive... in UK i know they just do sweeps regardless.
Anyway, at the end of the day we just want a healthy baby and mum and be home in one (patched together) piece!

Afternoon Ladies.

Bleu Bevan Flynn was born yesterday morning at 07:52am weighing 7lb 6oz.. he is a dream 😍

Rainbow Babies Born🌈

@MrsB16 ♀️ 🌈 Emilia born 14/09/2020

@BecsterG ♂️ 🌈 Jude born 25/09/2020 at 01:45 weighing 8lbs

@Zoey36 Babyboy♂️ 🌈 was expected on 03/10/2020

@FireflyGirl ♀️ 🌈 Baby girl born 23/10/2020 at 1.22pm, weighing 7lb 1.5oz

@BS9790 ♂️🌈 Isaac was born 29/10/2020 at 11.25, weighing 8lb 9.5oz.

@ChampooPapi 🌈🌈♀️♀️ Violet-May and Jean were born 04/11/2020 weighing 5 lbs 5 and 6 lbs

@Alviesmam 🌈♀️ Paisley was born 07/11/2020 at 4:52am weighing 7 lbs 5

@MilsCookie 🌈♀️🌈♀️ Frankie Jean and Georgie Mary born 23/11/2020 12:55pm and 12:58pm, weighing 5lbs 2oz and 3lbs 14oz

@Whiffle77 ♂️🌈 Baby boy born 25/11/2020
Weighing 8lbs 4

@kkr168 ♂️🌈 Baby boy born 02/12/2020

@TerribleImagination 🌈♀️ Daisy Elizabeth was born 26/01/2021 weighing 8lbs 14

@Mlax ♂️🌈 05/03/2021Bleu Bevan Flynn was born 05/03/2021 at 07:52am weighing 7lb 6oz

Babies due ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

@Ejb86- 40 weeks 1 due baby girl 05/03/2021
@Leok83- 37 weeks 3 due baby boy 24/03/2021
@SunnySideUp2020- 36 weeks due baby girl 03/04/2021
@Scrumdiddly123- 35 weeks 1 due baby girl 09/04/2021
@Fizzl- 24 weeks 2 due baby girl 24/06/2021

Congratulations @mlax Is he sooooooo damn cute 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

How was the birth??

@mlax he is absolutely gorgeous! Congratulations 🌈🎉 are you ok? You sound on cloud nine, he looks so perfect and lovely, well done you 💜

Ah wow @mlax he's absolutely gorgeous 😍💙 huge congratulations!! Hope you are doing well!xx

Congratulations @mlax he’s beautiful! Hope you’re both ok xx

Ahh massive congrats @mlax 😍 He’s such a cutie pie! Hope you’re doing well lovey xx

Thankyou ladies 🥰

I'm ok now..! The birth wasn't the best to be honest. I mean it definitely wasn't traumatic but pain wise, epidural didn't work it failed so obviously wasn't a pain free labour like I was expecting 😂

He is just a dream. Finding it so hard to believe he's here and he's mine xx

Oh ouch @mlax! The epidural not working I'd imagine is worse than not opting for one at all..At least if you'd decided not to get an epidural you could have been mentally prepared for the pain! Glad to hear all is goo now though😊!xx

@mlax congratulations he's is absolutely perfect! X💙

Thankyou 🤍🤍

Would anyone be able to help me at all please? My milk supply has started coming through and my breasts are absolutely killing me. Nothing has come out of them yet (I'm not breastfeeding) but they're getting bigger and heavier and more sore as the days go on. Is there anything I can do to relieve the pain / pressure? I feel like this shouldn't be normal 😩

You need to suppress your milk if your not breast feeding @mlax. You must wear a bra day and night and not let baby near your breasts (I know it's hard because they are on your chest!). Do not stimulate them or touch then AT ALL. It will go down in less then 48 hours I imagine lovely

This is what I was told at the hospital when I had the twins ☺️

@mlax and take painkillers for sure every 4 hours, it will help and it will get better soon I promise.

Thankyou @ChampooPapi I've just started taking some paracetomol for them and DP just got me some cabbage leaves.

I've been wearing like a little flimsy bra is that suitable? It's not wired it's more of like a bra that you wear when you can't be bothered with a proper bra?

@mlax yes that's fine bra wise, but the cabbage leaves are probably best left off as I really think advise is not to touch your breast/stimulate them at all. I used cabbage leaves myself and yoghurt ect when I was breast feeding to sooth my swollen breasts, but if your suppressing the milk you really are supposed to just bra up and not touch them. I promise even in 24 hours you'll be amazed how they go down