Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part 5 - TTC graduates

[BecsterG]

Hi Ladies, loving that we have e Pugh success stories and chat for part 5!

@Whiffle77 I can relate to time flying! The days just seem to disappear at the moment it's crazy.

Things seem to have settled a little in these past few days! She still feeds more in an evening but it doesn't feel as constant and there are some breaks in between which feels like a luxury! But then I start to worry she's not fed enough and not 'tanked up' so won't sleep well 😂 always something to worry about. I've also learnt a bit about wake windows and had no idea newborns shouldn't be awake for more than 90mins or they get overtired. So now I'm wondering if sometimes we've had an overtired fussy baby on our hands so I'm trying to encourage a nap early evenings. But then I don't know if that's the right thing if she is cluster feeding 🤷🏼‍♀️ it's all trial and error and I'm trying to work out what she wants and not always assume it's boob just because she's fussing. I still think it's a huge evolutionary fault that they don't come with their own instruction manuals 😂.

But I'm feeling better about things now and had a few days where I've felt like I've been able to enjoy her more. I kind of just accepted the fussiness and changed my mindset on it a bit which has helped. Once she's asleep she's a pretty good sleeper most of the time which is great - it's just getting her to sleep sometimes which is tricky and normally a two man effort. Last night I couldn't get her to settle so my husband did take over around midnight and managed to get her down and she slept until 5am 😱 quick feed and conked out again until 9am when I woke her! She normally won't settle with my husband when she's fussing but is fine with him during the day but these past few days he has been able to settle her. Unfortunately my husband goes back to work tomorrow and works shifts so he'll be around at different times each day and not always here in an evening anymore. Family are on hand to help but not sure many will be offering to help at midnight 😂. The dummy does work well helping her to settle at night when she just starts using me as a dummy.

Our next battle - it looks like baby has oral thrush 😩 GP has prescribed some treatment. No signs it's spread to me yet but I think it's very likely and can be tricky to treat 😑. Hoping it won't impact on feeding too

Thank you for making me feel more sane. I really appreciate it - it's good to know it's all normal and hard in the first few weeks! How are you doing?

@Fizzl

Could have written all this myself. This sound ALL very normal.
I promise it does get better, the more you get used to each other and confident and as you say accepting of fussiness when it s those days.
Bedtime get massively easier quickly as well.
Do watch for overtiredness and when she fusses try putting her down for sleep. Mine sometimes just passes out immediately.

But honestly you are doing great by the sound of it 😉
Hope her thrush resolves quickly.

Sooo question for my fellow breastfeeding ladies.
My periods are back and in full force?
Baby is 16 weeks in a few days but what the !!!!

I was sold that because i breastfeed day and night (no expressing)
and cosleep i wouldn't have my periods 🥲

Amelia is doing great here. The flight went perfect she slept most of it no crying!
She is such a cutie and is so big! She now rolls back to front all the time and enjoys it 😁 now trying to get her to go from tummy to back...

I will get the coovid vaccine when i go back homeH hope all of the other mamma sare doing good 👍

@Fizzl I’ve had both of my Covid vaccines now whilst breastfeeding and been fine. I was pleased to be in the age category to get Pfizer! I felt confident they wouldn’t offer it if it wasn’t safe. Also thought it would be good to potentially pass some of my antibodies to Rosa through my milk! But do what you feel is right xx
@SunnySideUp2020 that’s so rubbish re your period! I’m EBF and no sign yet- Rosa has gone from sleeping all night to waking once or twice so I’m hoping that’ll keep it away for now!
Clever Amelia rolling! Rosa can get onto her side but then is quite happy to just chill there! She’s just discovered her feet this week so that’s been her main focus! Can’t believe she’ll be 4 months in a few days, it’s gone so fast! This time last year I’d just got my bfp x

@scrumdiddly123

Yeah we were also having a wow moment last week. It was the day we had our bfp and i remember you followed a week later 😊
Pregnancy, giving birth and now having this little one has been a hell of a journey but we are so grateful and really loving this new life 💖

Ahhh she discovered her feer too this week 😄😄 it is super funny isnt it?!
She licks them like a lollipop and makes those slurpy noises 😅😅

I also noticed she wakes up more to feed now than she did a month ago!
Probably the famous sleep regression.

Glad to hear you had the full vaccine and all good, i will also have Pfizer 🤞

I also could have written your message @fizzl!! Wake windows were new to me too, and I definitely let him get over tired. Just don't get too obsessed with them like I did, its very easy done!! 🙈 it is really hard to know what they want, and she probably doesn't always know either!! It might just be some comfort. But you are both getting to know each other more and more each day, and she will be getting older and stronger and better at feeding which helps loads. It's deffo trial and error with how to settle them too - we would find a way which worked brilliantly for a week, and then all of a sudden he would hate that! Little monkeys. How have you got on with your husband being back at work? It does get so much easier I promise!

@SunnySideUp2020 I got mine back around 4 months too, I couldn't believe it! I thought I would lose loads of weight and not have periods for a year, what a joke that was 😂 I did express for awhile at the beginning though which may have impacted it, but Google told me it was pretty normal! My cycle is so regular now though, it varied by a few days before

Hope both you and @scrumdiddly123 are getting some better sleep, it's so hard when they are sleeping through and then stop!! We had the same but he is an absolute champion sleeper now...apparently there is another regression soon though, something to look forward to!

I also don't know where time has gone, he is 8 months now! I really can't believe it. He is such a lovely boy at the min tho, im finding this age so much more fun. Really enjoying weaning too.

Hope all the other mums and babies are doing well!

@Whiffle77 the whole napping thing has been another game changer for us! I feel so naive I didn't know this before 🤦🏼‍♀️ we have a good little system going now of feed, nappy change, sometimes a little play and then it's time for a nap again. I've stopped logging everything now and just learning to read what she wants rather than becoming too obsessed with a schedule. We've actually got quite a content baby now who is so much easier to settle and (dare I say it) things have almost felt easy this past week or so! Although she is very much a 0-100 baby and when she cries you don't get any build up or whimpering she's full blown tears, screaming, clenched fists but I just see it as she's a lady who knows what she wants and she wants it right now 😆 as in between she's chilled and content. I kind of want to go back to the first 2-3 weeks again and try again now I feel like I know what I'm doing 😂. The constant feeding/extreme fussiness in an evening has really eased up (who knows if it would have around this time anyway but I still think I was misreading her a lot) and she's still sleeping a good 4-5hrs before waking which I thank my lucky stars for everyday as I know some people have very different experiences at this age! You're right about getting to know each other better too, I feel like now I know what she wants and can usually settle her. So it's not been as bad as I expected with my husband going back to work. I kind of feel like we've found a bit of a rhythm (I daren't say routine yet as I'm keeping my expectations low 😂) and I've also discovered she loves being in the baby carrier which frees up my hands to get things done!

@SunnySideUp2020 it's good to hear you've had similar experiences too! It's so reassuring. You also only see people posting/asking for help when their babies don't sleep so it's good to see that you found bedtime got easier as I still expect every day she's just going to stop sleeping all of a sudden 😂 but I am prepared for some regressions along the way. Sounds like Amelia is doing great! And no crying on a flight is some achievement!

Oh no don't tell me that about your period! I've not had one for almost a year and fully expect/Hope it stays away a good couple of months yet!!

@scrumdiddly123 I'll also be getting Pfizer - I think I'm going to have it done when she's 6 weeks so if I feel a bit rough afterwards my husband can step in more.

How's everybody on here doing? It's been awhile!

@Whiffle77 that's so strange I just came on this thread to post the same thing! Wondering how everyone is getting on?

We're doing great. Elodie is 9 weeks already and it is going so fast but also feels like we've had her forever! Those first 3 weeks seem like a very distant memory and I already can't remember her ever being that small. But things we did 2-3 weeks ago seem like yesterday and the days are just flying by. It's so strange how your concept of time goes totally to pot! It's definitely true what everyone said to me on here in those early days - it's got so much easier and I'm just enjoying every minute with her. I feel so guilty that I wished away those first two weeks when I was drained and overwhelmed and wish I could have that time back again with a different mindset and just enjoy it more. The mum guilt is already real! I also keep crying over how quick she is growing - I think my husband thinks I've lost it and he has to keep reminding me she's only 2months old still 😳😂. How can your own tiny baby make you broody?! Hormones?!

She's also still a dream sleeper. She comes to bed with me around 10ish and usually asleep by 11. Wakes twice throughout the night but stays asleep until around 9-9:30! I'm getting more sleep with a baby than I did with the dog. But I know this isn't going to last and rather than just enjoying the sleep I'm already overthinking and worrying about changing a good thing - did anyone escape the 4 month sleep regression?!

Heyy @Whiffle77

Doing good here too! Amelia is 5 months in 2 days 😶
She is a sweet little girl! 💕
Giving me a hard time with her 4 months lasting sleep regression... waking 10+ times at night demanding the boob 🥲
We have been starting her solids since 4 months as per her doc advice. So she eats small amounts but likes it a lot!
She had an allergic reaction to oats though...
I am still on cmp free diet. Kinda fed up now.
Hoping to start her on special formula for allergic babies soon..
She doesnt take bottles though so might be hard! But we will get there!

If there is one thing i have learned in this journey is patience and everything is temporary- ish.

Annnnd we started ttc number 2 ☺☺☺
Currently 6 dpo. Not sure how it will go. I am still EBF 6/8 times a day and too many times during the night. But somehow managed a period and positive opks at CD35.
But days go by muuuuuch quicker having to care for the baby then back in the day when being pregnant was on my mind all day long!

How is everyone else doing??? 🤗

Hi everyone! Hope you’re all well. @Fizzl I’m glad you’re enjoying her! It just goes so quickly doesn’t it, got to make the most of every minute!
@SunnySideUp2020 wow trying again, that’s so exciting! I’m a little jealous although if I’m honest don’t think I could cope with morning sickness on the tiny amount of sleep I’m getting at the moment! Rosa used to be a great sleeper (11-7 every night) but the 4 month regression hit and she’s currently waking hourly 😭
Apart from that though she’s doing amazingly- she’s 5 months now, rolling both ways and sitting up for short periods unaided. We’re going to start baby led weaning at 6 months so only a few weeks away, looking forward to it!

Hey @Whiffle77 I thought the same thing tonight as our first baby of this group has turned. Jude is also one two weeks today! Madness. He took his first steps today too 😍

@SunnySideUp2020 good luck with trying. Fingers and toes crossed for you 🤞🏻

@scrumdiddly123 ouch the sleeping sounds rough. I hope she comes through it soon.

@scrumdiddly123 @BecsterG

Suchhhh cutiiiiesss 🥰🥰🥰

@scrumdiddly123 girl..
I am on the same boat here. Good sleeper turned into a nightmare. Hourly waking. Nights are more tiring than days for me. I wake up feeling so shit and achy 🥲
I also think morning sickness would kill me now. But i don't expect to get pregnant soon since it took us a while.

To other ladies... how did you get out of the sleep regression? Sleep trained?

@SunnySideUp2020 thanks. We've just come through an 8/9 week of up 3 times a night. Not sure if it was a regression or teeth! Hang in there

@SunnySideUp2020 @scrumdiddly123 those sleep regressions sound tough! How do you cope on such little sleep?! Hourly wakings sound brutal. I remember feeling like a zombie that first week Elodie was home and there's no way I could function like that long term. @scrumdiddly123 don't you have older children as well?

I'm really hoping we avoid a horrendous regression when I've been so spoilt with her sleep so far (seems daft in hindsight I used to get so anxious in an evening worrying that each night she wouldn't sleep) 😬 kind of seems inevitable it will happen though!

@SunnySideUp2020 I'm sure you'd cope just fine with any pregnancy symptoms! So long as your husbands around to support so you can take it easy you will be fine. I also think first pregnancy you can wallow and feel sorry for yourself but when you've got a baby I guess you just kind of have to get on with things and it might (hopefully) not seem so bad. 🤞 for you!

@BecsterG how is your baby 1 already?! It doesn't seem 2minutes since this group began nearly 2 years ago now.

Lovely pictures too 🥰

@Fizzl I know it's complete madness! Seems like yesterday in some respects that the chat started but also that it was ages ago!

I agree with what you're saying about first pregnancy. You take it a lot easier because you can but you will be fine and just get on with it when you're pregnant with another.

Hey everyone! Lovely to hear how everyone is doing 🥰

All good here. Daisy will be 8 months in a couple of weeks and I can’t believe how much it’s flown by! 🙈 She’s sitting, rolling, pulling herself up onto her knees, chats for England and never stops wriggling 😂 - where has my tiny baby girl gone?! It’s amazing seeing her grow and develop though, she’s such a happy little sausage ❤️

Aww @SunnySideUp2020 that’s exciting you’re trying again! Fingers crossed it happens fast for you.

@Fizzl Don’t worry about the sleep regression, it doesn’t happen to every baby! (Those who aren’t sleeping, feel free to cyber punch me 😂) Daisy has always been an ace sleeper too and everyone said the 4 month regression would get us, but it didn’t happen 🤷🏻‍♀️ She maybe had a spell of waking up a bit randomly for a couple of weeks, but it soon settled.

Hope everyone else is well. Early planning, but who’s already thinking of Christmas outfits for the babies?! 😍 I’m so excited for it! After Halloween of course 😀

@TerribleImagination sounds like Daisy is keeping you on your toes! It really does go so quick. I keep saying the same - where's my tiny baby gone and she's only 2months 🤦🏼‍♀️ I just want to keep her like this forever.

That's exactly the kind of story I like to hear re sleep regression 😂 a few people have said to us wait until she gets to 4months and it will all go pear shaped (which I know it can 😬) and it's making me quite nervous already!

We're so excited for Christmas! We've always made a big thing of it and now having a baby it's going to be so special. She's definitely going to have a few Christmas jumpers! Last Christmas I was just coming out of the first trimester and not feeling my best in December 😂 so it will be nice to enjoy it more again this year.

Veryyyyy excited for the matching pjs for xmas 😄😄

@Fizzl
It is true that not everyone go through the regression. And sometimes they also only last 2 weeks... !

@TerribleImagination can't wait for Amelia to sit up by herself to play 😀

Hiiii ladies. It's been a while since I've been on here and just read that you're trying again @SunnySideUp2020 how exciting 😍😍

I am one of those who have also got pregnant so incredibly fast and not expected 🤣 I am currently 18+2 and Bleu is now 6.5 months old! Gone so fast 💔💔

I'm just wondering did anyone have an anterior placenta? I've been getting so worried these last few days as I've still not felt anything and it's so disheartening as obviously with Bleu I had a posterior placenta and I felt him kick by now 😩 im getting to the point of where I think I want to go for another scan before my 20wk scan in just over a week for reassurance..!

Here he is fully loving breakfast and after a bath!

@mlax ah congratulations! That's exciting news. We've decided we want a fairly small age gap if we can and will start trying again later next year. I take my hat off to those of you who actually have the time and energy to dtd 😂

Those pictures are lovely! Looks like he definitely enjoyed his breakfast ☺️. Can't offer any personal advice re an anterior placenta but I know it's totally normal to not feel them kicking for quite a while later. Not that it will stop you worrying - I'd be feeling the same as you. When are you due? What will the age gap be between the baby and Bleu?

Congrats @mlax !!!!

I had anterior placenta and felt the first move at around 19 weeks but didnt realise what it was and definitely in week 20 i knew!

Not long for you!!!

Bleu is so cute 😍

So great to have updates from everyone!! Its so crazy how much time has passed, I'm loving seeing so many of the babies grow on insta as well! We are doing really well too, he is such a cheery little monster and I'm enjoying it so much more than I was. Hes commando crawling now which is a game changer. I feel so much less depressed too which is great, I wish I'd not put off the meds so long. Starting to plan my return to work which seems crazy! Both dreading it and looking forward to it in equal measure - I'm looking forward to using my brain again, and he will love nursery. Not sure if we will have another given how hard I found it and how depressed I got, but we were both a "NO" and now just a "no" so who knows! Plus he is pretty chilled and happy, not sure how I would cope with a more difficult baby.

Congratulations @mlax that is so exciting!!! They will be so close in age, that will be lovely for them growing up! Will you find out what you are having? I barely felt anything at that point, even without an anterior placenta so I wouldn't worry too much - I know that's impossible though!!

@Fizzl try not to worry about the regression, there's nothing you can do about it anyway so no point! There sleep can be disturbed by all sorts anyway, teeth and illness etc. So just enjoy all the good sleep you can and just deal with any hard nights as they come! We did sleep train at 6 months as before that he had to be rocked to sleep for every snooze which was hard work, it honestly changed our lives and he is so much happier too.

I'm also excited for Christmas @TerribleImagination I love it anyway but he will be so much more receptive to all the lights and I can force him to "watch" Christmas films with me! Also will be getting him Christmas outfits!

Gosh @SunnySideUp2020 and @scrumdiddly123 I'm sorry you are having such rubbish sleep at the minute, I really hope you both start to come out the other side of it too, that sounds brutal. It's so hard when you have been used to them sleeping well, you don't have the same adrenaline as the early days.

And good luck TTC @sunnysideup2020! That's so exciting. Can't wait to see more pregnancies and babies from these threads!

@BecsterG I can't believe Jude is walking and almost one!!! Thats so crazy! Are you doing anything for his birthday? I feel like I need to treat myself for DS birthday haha!!

How are the twins @MilsCookie and @ChampooPapi?

Hope everyone else is OK, sorry if I missed anyone - I waffled on so long and then got lost!