[quote Firegirl35]@biscuitcat I’m not sure the vaccine will be as successful as people hope.. think it will be slow to reach people and you have to be invited to go for it. Not sure of uptake and how effective it is. Is it immoral to bring a child into the world when it’s in the state it’s in? My OH said a few things along those lines but in relation to climate change (as we had just watched a documentary about the coral reefs bleaching), so now I’m even more terrified to tell him. Comments in the past 24 hours:
Me- “You know what we need?” (Was going to say heated towel rail
Him- “An au pair”
Him (watching Reef documentary): This is why I sometimes don’t want kids, this is what you’re bringing them into the world is f*ed. It’s almost immoral to have kids”
Him: “I got into shit with my ex one Christmas as I had been bed bound with depression for a lot of the year, and only managed to get to boots to get all her Xmas presents and she went mental”
Me: “Why were you bed bound?”
Him: “I dunno I had probably found out she was pregnant or something”
Their two children were unplanned when she was on the pill, same as me now, and he didn’t want kids then it wasn’t his choice.
She got pregnant with a third but aborted as they would have struggled with three. Now he says having a broken family (she had an affair two years ago) is not what he wanted, and he would never of had kids as all he’s done is bring two more broken people into the world. His dad cheated on his mum when he was 8, the same age as his son, so he took it hard. His son is also asking why his mum and dad can’t be together, and saying he doesn’t want Christmas. I’ve been with OH for 5 months and moved in after 2 weeks, so it’s all been a bit rushed and full on. Formed a very strong bond with his children especially 6 year old daughter, but I think he had hoped I would be satisfied just being a stepmum. I’ve told him from the off that I want my own, as it breaks my heart they aren’t mine. When we first got together he told me he would give me a baby and I wouldn’t have to worry, but he’s said he wants to wait. He’s blown hot and cold about it ever since, with little comments/jokes so that I don’t know where I stand on the issue. I was going to bring it up in a serious conversation in the new year and maybe it would lead to us splitting up if he decided he definitely didn’t want any more and I did. And now I’ve gone and got pregnant and it’s too late.
Sorry for the brain dump 
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Hello, how are you doing? Reading that sounds like you’re processing a lot. Have you told your partner you’re pregnant? Sending you big hugs, it’s a lot for you to take in.