Gender discrimination

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I know the title sounds very forward, but it can only be described as this, but why do a lot of women feel disappointed if they are having a boy? Don’t get me wrong, once you have you’re baby, I’m sure you will show them the love and affection regardless of gender, but I find a lot of women almost discriminate against having a boy and feel a sense of disappointment when they realise they are not having a girl. I could be wrong, but I don’t think I have ever seen an article on here where someone is hoping they have a boy, it’s always a girl. Whilst I understand the concept of it, in the sense of wanting that mummy/daughter relationship, but I also find it a little unfair on boys who get quite a hard time when it comes to pregnancy. Just my thoughts.

@justanotherneighinparadise I do too, it’s mainly those with no children or girls that seemed disappointed. Not sure why, once I had my first son I was dying for another!

@DryIce that just broken my heart

Before I had my first son I always pictured myself with a girl. I’m an only child so only really had my relationship with my mum to go off, but my first son is everything I imagined having a daughter to be like! I don’t mean in a girly way, I just mean we’re so close like me and my mum, I thought I’d only have that with a daughter.

My 2nd son has just turned 1 and I think we’ll be the same too. I think people forget each child has their own personality regardless of their sex.

I didn’t actually realise this. I don’t have any yet but would love one of each, but I don’t mind too much. In fact I am actually leaning more towards wanting a boy, because I know my husband would be over the moon. But honestly we’d be happy with either.

I just wanted a baby. Girl or boy i was very happy. My friend has a boy and is hoping for another one.
Neither of us are girly girls though. That's maybe why we aren't bothered.
I am having a girl and i am thinking about how to raise her to be a proud, confident and lovely person. Not at all into the princess and diva stuff. I find it ridiculous and cliché but that's my opinion.
So I'd say it really depends on personality.
I do find it a little OTT some of the posts about gender disappointment.
Blame it on pregnancy hormones!!!

I’m not a girly girl either with two daughters one is very much like me (cried her eyes out when she had to wear a dress for an event 😂) as she got older she struggled with fitting in with girl groups as she just not bothered by make up or hair etc. Now my younger daughter who has been brought up the same really - dear god the pink the glitter the princesses dresses - but that’s what she wanted don’t get me wrong she played with trains and cars as much but having a girl desperate for me to do something with her hair other than a pony tail - I can’t!! She makes me go clothes shopping - hate hate it and loves the fluffy pink dresses - but she’s happy.
Dressing them in a pink tutu doesn’t mean you get a girly girl - I’ve learned their there own little person and work it out for themselves what they want/like.

Can I just say I think it's a bit insulting/kind of hilarious to assume that women would only want girls for a 'fashion accessory' and to buy them thing's with 'diva' on hahaha

@mhn1

Can I just say I think it's a bit insulting/kind of hilarious to assume that women would only want girls for a 'fashion accessory' and to buy them thing's with 'diva' on hahaha

You can be insulted all you want, for some women their 'gender' preferences are purely down to ugly stereotypes. Its starts with 'is it a pink or blue bump' and goes from there. Assuming a girl will be a mini version of them, will want to play dolls and make up, will have a close relationship with their daughter when they're older with shopping trips and such nonsense. Not all women are like this of course, but there's definitely a few who think girls are X and boys are Y.

Unless there's a medical reason, there's really no reason to want one sex over another.

@mhn1

Can I just say I think it's a bit insulting/kind of hilarious to assume that women would only want girls for a 'fashion accessory' and to buy them thing's with 'diva' on hahaha

Why? Every gender disappointment thread on here is about having a boy and not having a girl to take on spa days and shopping trips when they’re older.

@mhn1

Can I just say I think it's a bit insulting/kind of hilarious to assume that women would only want girls for a 'fashion accessory' and to buy them thing's with 'diva' on hahaha

There are literally posts on here every week from women saying things like how they burst into tears looking at “pretty girl dresses” when out shopping because they are having a boy, or that they always dreamed of having a girl so they could wear matching outfits.

I have a daughter and am 38 weeks with another (unknown sex) baby. I really don’t mind what we have. If I was that worried I’d have found out months ago. I’d like a boy because then I’d have one of each, I’d also like another girl because it’s all I’ve known. My main concern at this point is baby being born well.

@IDontMindMarmite

It's not "discrimination" to have a preference fgs. And in other parts of the world, there is actual femicide because people prefer boys so strongly. What a strange post.

Errrr yes it is and how is it a strange post ? It’s an observation. When you have some articles with women saying they cried with disappointment because they got a boy instead of a girl, which there has been a few on here, that’s discrimination in my eyes.

@ Turtle, exactly. This is why I felt the need to write this article, as I have seen quite a few posts on here where women have literally expressed emotions of crying with disappointment. It’s unbelievable really. I can understand having a preference, that’s not an issue, but to pretty much cry because you are not getting the girl you wanted is bloody weird to me. It seems to be far more common on here than people think.

@justanotherneighinparadise

Yep. It’s constant on here and it pisses me off no end. No wonder men are so fucked up if they start their lives as a regret.

Lol. Poor men. They have it so hard

All men start as babies and then boys. There’s a hell of a lot of input involved before they becomes the man you want to roll your eyes at.

When I found out I was having a little boy with my first I had no preference at all and I was over the moon when he was born, always been a mummy's boy and is stuck to my hip! (Now 2 years and 3 months old) second time around in all honestly I knew I was having a girl before the scan, i just felt it deep down and I still feel a little uneasy that I'm having a girl. I pictured myself as a mum to two boys, I'm happy as my partner really wanted a girl and I know it's lucky to have one of each but I just struggle to see myself with a Daugter! (Which I know will obviously not matter when she's here as I will fall in love regardless) but just thought I'd give a different opinion xx

I only want one child and I really want a daughter. I think I would enjoy picking her outfits more, I would hope we could have a similar relationship to my mother and I and that we can do girly things together. My mum is my best friend.

I have a boy and girl and expecting another boy. I desperately wanted another boy!!

I have a friend with 2 boys and she wants a 3rd but is put off because she's worried people will assume she's trying for a girl. She's not, she just wants 3 children and always has. In the same way I have a girl and a boy and once ds was born everyone said "that's you done then! Well done!" as though I'd a) deliberately had one of each somehow and b) would never want another as a result!

@pluckywormfish

I only want one child and I really want a daughter. I think I would enjoy picking her outfits more, I would hope we could have a similar relationship to my mother and I and that we can do girly things together. My mum is my best friend.

You do realise if you have a daughter they will have their own voice, thoughts and opinions and may not want to do anything ‘girly’. FFS. 🙄 I hope if you have a son they aren’t too much of a disappointment for you.

I just find it irritating and weird when some women get all emotional and cry because they didn’t have the girl they craved, but instead got a boy. It’s just bizarre behaviour and also its makes a mockery of the millions of women and couples that can’t conceive and could only wish for any gender. Having a preference is understandable, but actually getting to the point where you are upset because you are having a boy , which a lot of women get believe it or not, is pretty pathetic pathetic. Having a baby regardless of gender should be a joyful experience. Got no sympathy for people like this sorry.

I'm currently 18 weeks pregnant and secretly hoping for a boy! I already have a teenage girl and the teen years have put me off another girl - I can't do all this teen girl drama again!! 😂 Saying that I'll obviously be thrilled whatever the sex so long as baby is healthy. We find out tomorrow

@pluckywormfish

I only want one child and I really want a daughter. I think I would enjoy picking her outfits more, I would hope we could have a similar relationship to my mother and I and that we can do girly things together. My mum is my best friend.

And this ladies and gents is the level of intellect that usually goes alongside the gender disappointment threads.

Are you actually writing an article?

@justanotherneighinparadise, exactly. Why can’t a boy be her best friend ? Loads of boys are incredibly close to their mum

Pretty sure all these women here complaining about the "discrimination" of boys are mothers of boys themselves. And they look at their little Bobby and think "how dare someone not want him? How dare someone think a girl is better?"

Well, guess what? It's not about you or your Bobby.
People are entitled to want whatever they want for themselves.
There's nothing wrong with wanting a girl for whatever reason, even if it's just pretty dresses. Who are you to judge anyway?