Old ovaries, new lines

[kwastell]

Group for people from the 35+ TTC group who've got recent BFPs.

@Homassy @lastditchattempt20 @Matilda19

That’s great re scan and going back means an extra hello to baby 🥰

We have Harmony booked for Thursday .. still bit sad partner will have to stay with children and not come in especially as it a 90 min very detailed scan too ( including a nuchal check etc too) . But they are going to send me a video of it thankfully and results should be back in 5 working days so not too long .

Welcome @Honeydukesmum 😁

It’s good news on your scan @KJB2020... I had a peep at my baby yesterday as the consultants here seem to enjoy scans at every opportunity. Now I need to make an appointment for a more detailed scan at 22 weeks. 16w5d here and it’s all still a secret for now. I know my family back home will stress out due to the ongoing restrictions, so just want to reduce everyone’s worry by keeping this to myself. However I’m going to have to tell my employer pretty soon, I’ve got a senior role and next year is full of projects so some cover will need to be organised, even if I’m just taking 3-4 months off. I’m excited though to be visiting a potential crèche tomorrow 😁😁😁

Hello👋 I've not been on here for a while - have been busy with work and looking to move house.

Congratulations @Honeydukesmum and @Waitingforbabypage 🎉

Good to hear about scans @Wavesandsmilesencore @KJB2020 We had a 16 week scan a couple of weeks back and all good. Am 18 weeks now.

Just found out I have a new job in a new team in a restructure at work. It's what I've been pushing for for ages so am very happy it's happening, but the timing is a bit annoying. I'll only have 2.5 months from when it starts before I go on mat leave and whilst I'll have mat cover I would have liked the chance to shape the role. It's a big step up in responsibility but it's the same level as my current role, so I might be able negotiate a bit more money but nothing significant. Did someone else on here say this happened to them?

Hello all, didn’t realise you were here til this thread was mentioned in another one!
I’m 42 and 5+5 after my first IVF cycle, one embryo transferred at 5 days, due 30 Jun 21. Got an 8 wk scan with the clinic on 18 Nov and booking appt with the midwife the day after

Hey ladies, I finally found the thread from the golden ovaries chat! So lovely to see some familiar faces again! Hello to those whom I haven't "met"! 😍😍😍

Sorry for those of you who've had a rough time - sending all the virtual love! 😘😘😘

Congratulations on all the scans and BFPs! 😍😍😍

Just got a positive HCG test this morning - CD31/15dpo! Been feeling nauseous for days! Very confused with the whole weeks chat (from first day of last period), apparently this means 4 weeks already?! 🤯🤯🤯 Trying to be cautiously optimistic and not overthink every twinge! 🙈

Welcome @Sunbird24 and @M4v3r1ck! Enormous early congratulations to you both 😁

@kwastell something similar for me at work. I knew there was lots of imminent restructuring going on and had got to almost offer stage with another company when I was offered the bigger role in my organisation. I’m now running what was two teams and part of some bigger projects but no salary increase yet (I’ve said I’d expect something especially as the other company was set to offer around €50k a year extra). However I’m actually happy with the fact I can continue to work from home and even post covid have much more flexibility around when and where I work. This makes such a big difference. Yet to break the news however and just trying to get as many plans in place as possible to allay concerns around how the teams and projects will manage in my absence....

Hi ladies! I'm probably among the oldest here :D I'm 43 and pregnant naturally with my second child. I only just found out, so I'm trying to just take one day at a time, because the risks are obviously high. But I'm really healthy and strong, and my first child is only two, so I've sustained a healthy pregnancy reasonably recently...

Anyway, good luck to everyone!

Hi ladies, can I join?

I'm 42 and 4+3 today after our last attempt at FET. I already have 17 month old twins from the same IVF cycle.

Feeling very anxious but trying to stay positive and take it one day at a time.

Hi all, I was invited here by @lucieloos and am at a very similar stage to @M4v3r1ck :)

This will sound stupid, but so far I've been too scared to join any threads on the 'pregnancy' forum in case it all goes wrong, as it's such early days. But here we go.

I'm 39 and I got a faint line on a cheap HCG test on Saturday (31 Oct), followed by a "1-2 weeks" on a Clearblue digital. I'm technically 5 weeks pregnant, based on my last period.

It was a massive surprise, as I recently found out I have a very low ovarian reserve (dwindling egg supply), which doesn't stop natural conception, but means the odds are against me. It therefore kind-of feels like it might be my 'last chance', which is making me extra-anxious.

I had my first child aged 36 (nearly three years ago). We conceived the first month of trying - so three years later, finding out about my egg supply issue was unexpected and upsetting. I've spent the last couple of months adjusting to the idea that our daughter will be an only child, as IVF is rarely successful with low egg supply.

I'll summarise my list of worries to get them all out of the way! I'm sure others will feel the same about various things.

What if it's not 'real'... I daren't take another test in case it says something else! Should I?

Worrying about egg quality - as my eggs are low in number, the risk of a problematic egg is higher. Also, I ovulated late (day 19/20), which might affect things - although clinically, 'late ovulation' is after day 21.

I'm scared literally every time I go to the loo, in case of blood appearing (I had implantation bleeding with my first pregnancy, but not this time - and now I think implantation must be past).

Symptoms - I felt a bit sicky and crampy the week before the test, so was convinced my period was coming. Since the test, I've noticed various aches and twinges which have panicked me. But then today I feel a bit more comfortable and now THAT'S panicked me! Hopefully intermittent symptoms is normal.

Waiting - I intend to have an early scan at 8 weeks, but that feels so far away! Will have to go in alone and dread telling my husband bad news after. I'm really struggling to believe it's real!

Then at 10 weeks we'll hopefully do an IONA/Harmony test to check for abnormalities. With my age and low egg supply, I'm especially worried about that one.

Is anyone else as panicky as me?! Sorry about the ramble. I'm trying really hard not to get too attached to the idea, but it's so hard...

@CC81 I totally get where you're coming from. I'm very worried about the quality of my eggs and potential abnormalities, also hating the idea of having all the appointments on my own, especially since we live in Italy and my Italian isn't perfect, and what if they give me bad news and I don't even understand it or something.

Physically I feel really good - I did in my last pregnancy, too - but OMG my mind is all over the place. I'm only just functional

@ZoeRoma @SamoyedFan123 thank you for sharing your positive stories!!! 😍 I hope this pregnancy is healthy and smooth for you too! 😘

@CC81 do not apologise! That's what we're here for! 😘 There's so much overwhelming information out there, so it's only natural to be worried. I feel you! 😘 I've been having intermittent symptoms and I believe this goes in line with all the hormonal changes that happen right now! 😃

What I'm trying to remember is "biological age" and not "chronological age" - that's what is important! Some of us here are probably healthier and fitter than people a lot younger! 💪🏻

Thanks @ZoeRoma and @M4v3r1ck - I'm glad I'm not the only one!

@ZoeRoma - Must be really tough being somewhere without your first language. It's good to hear that you feel strong and healthy. Plenty of people have healthy babies at your age :) I know the same goes for me (at 39), but I worry mostly because of the low egg supply thing.

@M4v3r1ck - You're right about the biological age thing. I have a bit of a conflict there, as my egg count is low for my age BUT I've had two fertility scans which both showed my insides are in good shape for my age. I have a healthy womb and ovaries, with good blood supply and no abnormalities. My other hormone levels have also been fine - it's just the FSH/AMH that were troubling (which indicate the low overall count).

My first pregnancy was all pretty straightforward. I honestly can't remember how I felt before 6 weeks, which is when I took the test! After 6 weeks I was really tired and felt a bit sick, but nothing major.

Accidental bold text, sorry!

Just sneezed and discovered how much round ligament pain hurts! Why does nobody warn you about this stuff? 😳

@Sunbird24 oh ouch! You poor thing!

I can feel the start of pelvic girdle pain if I walk too much too- forgot how much that hurts.

@Sunbird24 - Yes, all the aches and pains are rather disconcerting!

Does anyone else find that digestive sensations are really confusing, too? Obviously constipation and bloating are just two of the lovely, glamorous pregnancy symptoms we get to enjoy - but as the organs are all so close together, sometimes I'm not sure where the discomfort actually is!

Also, is anyone else on their second pregnancy finding any differences? I woke up feeling pretty yukky today - took me a while to get up and about. Clinically I'm 5+2 (but only 2+4 since probable conception). I'm sure that first time around it was 6 weeks before I noticed symptoms, but I can't remember.

I may take another Clearblue digital test soon, to see if the 'weeks' indicator has gone up. Then if all seems okay, at 6 weeks I may call to book my early scan and 'booking in' (for 8 weeks). Probably should book a flu jab, too.

@CC81 I'm only 4+4 but feel horrible in the mornings too. I did very this way early in my last pregnancy too but I did have OHSS that time so I want sure how much of it was caused by that.

I'm off to the clinic for my first HCG blood test now 🤞🤞🤞

@CC81 I have spots this pregnancy. My skin was perfect last time

I have extreme nausea constantly 24/7 which started around 5 weeks. I'm now 7 weeks today and it's really starting to get me down. I've been on cyclizine tablets but they aren't helping at all. This is my 3rd pregnancy. The first one was pretty bad with sickness, second was a breeze but this has to be the worst!

Ahhh and breathe ( well to wed ( hospital nuchal ) and Friday harmony results due)

Had private harmony today at Beard Mill clinic near Oxford and was lovely experience. My girls had to stay outside with daddy but I could hear them chatting to the chickens running free outside ( it’s a old water mill). Felt very cared for, so thorough and results within a week so not too long to wait. Had a full nuchal and everything that can be checked re anatomy was done and discussed . Screen so clear too.

Once they are back it may feel real 🤞

Good luck @Honeydukesmum, and I'm glad you had a good experience today.

We've just decided to go for Harmony

I'm also going to get a nipt test but think we have decided to go for panorama. Not looking forward to the wait for the results from that. Hope all goes well for you @Honeydukesmum

Good luck @Honeydukesmum xxx

For our first child we had an IONA test at 10 weeks (same as Harmony/Panorama), as the lab was in Manchester, where we live. It meant we were less nervous for the 12-week scan.

I am DREADING doing it again, being three years older and knowing about my low egg supply (which may mean more risk of abnormalities - although no one really knows). But if there's a problem, I want to know as early as possible.

@CC81 I'm not sure a low egg supply would mean more abnormalities. I also have a low egg supply but it was only ever an issue when we were having ivf that's mainly what they test it for to see how well you are likely to respond. When trying to conceive naturally you only need one egg a month so as long as you are ovulating there is just as much chance as someone else of a similar age. I think the most likely effect naturally would be a slightly earlier menopause age.

@lucieloos - Hopefully you're right, thanks.

We've had 'fertility MOT' tests with IVF clinics in recent months, and different doctors seem to say different things (although as you say, all concur that low egg supply is problematic for IVF).

My concern is that if the overall supply is lower, there will be fewer 'good' ones in there. But hopefully the fact that one has got this far means that it's in with a fighting chance!

They also said it's a good sign that we've got a healthy child already.