Thread for us classed as mature pregnant ladies

[Sheera1]

Hi all. I wasn't wanted to hijack any threads on hear with specific questions, but wondered if anyone fancied a chat thread for us classed as mature mums to be? Anyone who feels they fit in that box are welcome to join.

I will start. 🌞

I am 41. I have a 10 year old ds and one mmc 3 yrs ago. New partner is reason for the gap.

I was very shocked when I found out as we had assumed that ship had sailed as no joy since mmc. Head was in that camp and was quite a shock to come out of it.

I am 13 weeks based on my scan later Friday. Awaiting NIPT results hopefully today or tomorrow. Been cautious after mmc but hard to not get so attached as the weeks go by.

My first purchase if all ok will be a pregnancy pillow.

Honestly I feel massive already. I am very overweight but was with ds and had a perfect fuss free pregnancy. This time I am so 🤢 and tired and feel just ill from 4pm onwards.

Instead of it easing up, last night I was still feeling 🤢 trying to sleep and was very uncomfortable due to feeling like my womb is massive.

Anyone else feeling like this? Goodness knows how I will be weeks from now. Eeek.

Also @Clarkel1, its any consolation, after the first bleed I just knew we'd lost the baby. Not just that something was not quite right. I knew the baby had completely gone. 100%. But I was wrong. So those feelings are entirely normal. I so hope you're wrong xx

@Clarkel1 who scanned you at 6 & 8 weeks? If it was epu you should just be able to ring them back up and ask to be seen. I'm really lucky here as my hospital runs a 24/7 gyny A&E, which also acts as the epu. Basically you turn up at any time and they will assess you and treat as required.
As @AncientandPregnant says the midwife may refer you today and if not can you get a private scan. I think you should hold on to the fact that you've already had 2 lots of bleeding and all was still good. I had light bleeding in this pregnancy at 5 and 10 +2 weeks. Good luck xxx

Clarke1 screw the midwife and call triage direct now. Explain you have pain and bleeding and they should tell you to go for a scan now. If they fob you off, insist. It doesn't matter that they scanned previously. They should take any bleeding seriously.

Lole Frazzle says, it could all be fine, but please don't sit worrying about it. Please call them now. That is what they are there for.

Sending much love and hugs. Call and let us know what is doing on and we will support. Xxxx

Oops sorry Clarke1 just re-read your post as see you are waiting to see them. So pleased you are there. Sending positive vibes xxxx

Really sorry you're going through this @Clarkel1. I hope everything works out

Welcome @Shroppy. I'm 38 and also expecting my first. Due in about 6 weeks () and still terrified!

Re baby monitors - I was thinking of waiting a while since the baby will presumably be with us constantly for the first few months. Is that silly though? Should we get one straight away? They are so expensive!

They seen me done all my booking in bloods etc and said due to covid and the fact that I've been seen twice they'll not scan again as the pregnant in the right place ! The bleeding has again stopped for now pain feels higher up than cramps so wondering if it's growing stretching pains but feel my breasts are less tender and I'm less nauseated! I am honestly going out my mind

@Clarkel1 ugh, really sorry to hear that

Can you look into getting a private scan? I used Ultrasound Direct which were pretty cheap and have offices in most cities I think x

@Clarkel1 as Porcupine says, get a private scan ASAP. The cost will be worth it for your mental health x

Sorry you are going through this @Clarkel1. Hope it will be a good news for you at the end. If you can, try to book a private scan. 💐

Clarke1 I am actually astounded at this. Bleeding is always a cause for concern in pregnancy. There is no limit on how many scans they will do. You should not need to be paying privately for a scan when something is ot going as it should be. I am actually livid for you.

I would call triage and kick up a fuss tbh. It take minutes to scan. I can't believe they didn't send you straight to the scanning dept.

You have had cause to get scans earlier so what is the difference now. Things change in pregnancies so just because one scan was fine doesn't mean things still are.

I am not saying this to make you more worried but more that is how they should be dealing with it. Can DH call and give them a roasting? Call EPU/triage.

I am so sorry they have fobbed you off.

How many weeks are you again?

I've booked a private scan for tommorrow EPA's won't see me as it's in the right place 😞 and covid restorations ... I'm home now and bleeding has got a bit heavier I feel sick 😞

@Clarkel1 I’m sorry you’re going through this it’s so stressful and awful. I’m glad you’ve booked a private scan. Try to rest as much as you can today xxx

@Clarkel1 I'm sending you every positive molecule of energy I have right to you for tomorrow. This is an incredibly hard time that I wouldn't wish on anyone. I so hope all is okay xx

@onlyreadingneverposting8 This is one of my favourite baby stuff websites and look what I found.... gigil.com/collections/accessories/products/giraffe-toy-and-comforter-set

@Clarkel1 sorry you've been dismissed by your midwife - that's bad care indeed. Glad you've managed to get a scan privately. Sending you love xxx

@Frazzlerock that is amazing! But I think the crochet one has a special something about to! Currently halfway through a little chunky cardi. It's the most complicated thing I've made to date - I only learnt to crochet making the blanket - so about 3 weeks ago!

Hi everyone so the bleeding and pain ramped up and I called again and they seen me so everything is fine baby kicking arms and legs about I'm 10+4 exactly what I should be I have a cyst and a fibroid I also have a small pool of blood there so that explains things a bit. Thank you all for your kinda words I have been in bits and I just don't know how I could have told my wee girl but all is well I was in floods of tears... god this pregnancy is meant to sent me

@Clarkel1 great news! Baby is fine and you have an explanation for the bleeding. Rest up and try relax a bit!

oh i'm so pleased it's all fine @Clarkel1 x. Great news. Try to get some rest, you must be exhausted from it all xx

@fool11 @onlyreadingneverposting8 yes I'm exhausted with crying the pain is honestly awful she they have to keep an eye on the fibroid but will look at this more at my dating scan. This pregnancy has been challenging since the day I found out 🙈

YES Clarkel1 !! I'm so relieved for you!! God you must be absolutely thrilled!

Fantastic news @Clarkel1, so glad things are ok, poor you though what a stress, take gentle care of yourself please xxx

Thank you ladies I really appreciate all the kinds words xx

Just catching up on today's posts...

@Clarkel1 I'm so sorry you've been going through this but am so SO pleased they checked you over and that bubba is fine! It's so naughty that they wouldn't just check you over when you were at your appt. At least now you can hopefully rest your mind a little more 😘

@AliasGrape noooo! I can't believe it all sold out again so quickly! That's crazy! Keep your eyes peeled - now more people are returning to work, hopefully they will replenish their stock quicker online

Xx

@LittleMiss7 I know when I was at my appointment earlier I was sobbing and they just didn't seem to care 😞 still in a lot of pain and the bleeding a stronger but baby seemed fine this is my 3rd big bleed so it's just not been good ... the pains in my stomach are awful... ah well tomorrow's another day xxx

Yeess! So pleased Clarke1. So sorry you have been through the mill today. They should have scanned you earlier today. Covid Scmovid. A pregnant lady bleeding needs a scan. Brill news xx