@Sethis
If the situation was different, then yes, I probably would have a different opinion, (Seems rather a bizarre thing to say as applicable to everything?) but this is how things are. For what's its worth, I am pretty sure if it were men who had to balance their life choices with pregnancy, labour, body changes, and balancing your life/career with the needs of your family, the world would be a very different place, but that's another discussion, for another time.
Yes, when two people have sex and an unplanned pregnancy occurs, both parties are equally responsible for any consequences. But, we aren't discussing accidentally buying a car that one partner does want, and can return with little or no consequences. The woman always bears the consequences for sex, even if you can't physically see them, appreciate this or understand them.
Your comments feed into the discourse that women of child bearing age are conniving and not to be trusted, and men are victims. That men should be able to have sex and then women should automatically do their bidding with a resulting pregnancy, because there is no middle ground. And then you say you are going to bow out so the thread isn't derailed? Awful.
Whilst I can appreciate that it could feel as if the male has no control over something that could ultimately affect his future, he does have control over a) his contraception choices, b) who he has sex with, c) if he will be involved with any resulting child.
I do find attitudes such as yours abhorrent, and it achieves nothing other than apply pressure to women who find themselves in this emotional situation. At the end of the day, it is her body, and so yes, she does have the final say.
OP, I am sorry these comments have been left on your thread. I think you are doing everything right, in considering both of your needs, having an open dialogue with your partner. No one can reach the decision for you, but ultimately, it is your decision.
I hope you have some support in RL.