Missed miscarriage

[jpclarke]

Just wondering if anyone can tell me their experiences of this. Found out today baby is only measuring 6 weeks and I should be nearly 11. Absolutely devastated, the doctor has given me 3 options. Wait for a natural miscarriage to happen, give me some tablets or a D&C she is recommending D&C because I have had 3 previous c- sections. I just don't know what to think. And what is the best.

I'm doing alot better. Being back at work has really helped actually. It keeps my mind occupied and my colleagues make me laugh. I'm in a much better frame of mind. I would definitley recommend using headspace. It's an app and you can do 10 days for free. It has really helped me get in a more positive mind frame and to be calmer. I'm here if you need to open up or vent or just chat. But talking to a close friend may help. I know you said a colleague had been through it. Try and speak to them outside of work. Talking to my sister in law really helped as she went through it last year. X

Will this ever start to feel better. I am functioning in normal life because I have to buy I just can't get it all out of my head. I am going to ring about counselling this week.

Hi, I'm so sorry you're still struggling. I am coping much better than I thought I would. Are you working? If not going back will help. Or take up a hobby? You need to keep busy. This will help take your mind off it until eventually you think about it less. Counselling is a great idea.

Yes I am working. To the outside world I am fine and I am not visibly upset. I just can't shake the sadness of it all. It's a very weird feeling. I had to stop myself from buying ovulation tests the other day as I don't want to become obsessed with it all again.

Are you trying again? We are and the hope of a baby is keeping me going. We are trying for our first.

We haven't decided whether we are trying again yet but we haven't decided on any form of contraception either. I don't really know yet. I hope you get a positive result soon.

Have you felt any signs of ovulation yet pancake??

Yes I believe I ovulated late last week. I had faint line on opk. But I'm not good at taking those. Also had fertile stretchy cm. So now in 2 week wait. So will maybe test end of next week if no af yet. Unfortunately I have had a uti so been on antibiotics but they are safe for early pregnancy just incase. Think I'm recovered now. Been feeling a bit low the last few days as been away with work and didn't do headspace for 5 days. Turns out I really need it. I have subscribed now and started the Grief package today. How are you?You ovulated yet?

I haven't been testing for ovulation so I don't really know, prob better in one way as I am not over thinking about it. UTI's are a real pain, I am still having good days and bad days. It's very hard, I don't know what the right way to feel is. Exercising is still not making me feel better as such but I feel doing it is good. I always used to feel good after a good workout. Sorry to hear you are not in a good place but we have to be kind to ourselves it wasn't that long ago either. And it's a very hard thing to forget.

Thanks. I'm feeling a bit better today. I've done 2 days of my grief package on headspace. Trying to think positive. I hope you're ok. Have you started your counselling?

No I haven't even rang to make the appointment yet, I keep finding excuses. I know I need to do it. I have good days and bad days now. Today I was ok but yesterday I was upset. My dh wants a fourth and he is definitely making it his business but I have no idea where I am in my cycle so I am not stressing at all about it.

@jpclarke good not to stress. But if you're still struggling do contact someone. Perhaps Miscarriage association? I hope you've had a good day today.

I was busy today so I didn't get too much time to think about it. How are you coping? I had a tiny bit of spotting yesterday so I don't know what that means. It comes in waves now I have good days and bad days.

Yeah same here. Works been busy so I've been ok this week so far. Not had af yet. But it's 4 weeks Friday so expect it soon. Or if not hoping for a bfp... fx.

I am four weeks tomorrow!! Dr google suggests my spotting could be implantation but who knows. I can sometimes have 30/31 day cycles so I am just going to wait and see what happens. Dreading having a period, as it just brings me back to thinking this shouldn't be happening.

I really hope for you it is implantation spotting, fx! I've had weird cramps or pain hoping that's implantation or something.... I really hope we both get good news soon!

It's such an emotional rollercoaster. I have such mixed feelings about pregnancy, I am afraid of this happening again. But I would still love another baby.

Yes I'm the same. I want so much to be pregnant again but also am scared incase it happens again. But we will keep trying as we both really want kids. Fx it happens soon.

When are you going to test? Still no sign of my period. I have been having lower back pain but I know that could mean two things.

I tested yesterday but too early probably. Got a bfn. Will wait and test Monday maybe. Or buy an early clear blue maybe. What about you?

I tested on Wednesday with a cheapie and got a bfn but I bought early response yesterday but I haven't used it yet.

Another negative this morning, feeling like af is imminent. Did you test yet?

I tested twice but bfn. Feel like my uti might be coming back. No sign of af yet. I just want to be back to normal and get trying properly. I hope your af comes soon. X

O no, I felt like that after mine too. So I started drinking cranberry juice and it seems to have stopped it. I just want to know what's going on with my body that small discharge the other day has me completely thrown.

I've been having on off sticky cm so thought it was early pregnancy... silly me I'm sure it's not. I have some cranberry might drink it now. Been drinking lots of water. My right side hurts when i pee. So worried my uti is worse... who knows