Missed miscarriage

[jpclarke]

Just wondering if anyone can tell me their experiences of this. Found out today baby is only measuring 6 weeks and I should be nearly 11. Absolutely devastated, the doctor has given me 3 options. Wait for a natural miscarriage to happen, give me some tablets or a D&C she is recommending D&C because I have had 3 previous c- sections. I just don't know what to think. And what is the best.

I went back for my post op check up with my consultant, she was so nice. I was crying as soon as she asked how I was but I was dreading going back into the room where I got such bad news. She wants me to speak to a counsellor said I really need to look after myself. Because I have other kids I have just been putting them first. There was no known reason why it happened, but she did do some bloods to check my vitamin d and thyroid. She said the spotting I had been having is perfectly normal and that it takes 3-4 cycles for things to settle down after. I was really reassured by her.

I'm glad your appointment went well. A councillor is a good idea. It is good to talk about it. I'm not having the best time. I was never offered any follow up checks after op? Anyway UTI is back for third time now in a month. I also have flu and now a bad chesty cough. Not had a cold for a long time! Feeling crap all over really. Went to a third gp yesterday as can never get the same one. She is taking it further. Gave me antibiotics for 7 days this time. Examined me and took a swab. Sent urine and swab for tests. 1st time test result is mia. 2nd said clear but actually showed white blood cells but no-one told me. This time showing white blood cells too. I have a phone call appointment with her tomorrow. If clear again I will be sent for ultrasound to find out what is going on. Feeling worried. What if this is something bad. What if I can't have kids now? Sorry freaking out atm. Still no af obviously too.

That's awful pancakes. I am glad you have finally found a gp who is taking it seriously. I couldn't understand why you were only put on an antibiotic for 3 days both times. My dd suffers with uti's and she is always given an antibiotic for 5-7 days. I hope they get to the bottom of it. I presume you have done a pregnancy test?

Hiya, Yes taken a couple of pregnancy tests last week. Yeah I don't understand why they gave me only 3 days last 2 times. Seems nowhere near enough. Last time though they worked quite quickly. In fact within an hour I felt more comfortable. However I'm now on day 3 and feel worse which is annoying. Hoping the gp's call will shed some light on it. How are you doing?

Tests all negative. Gp requesting urgent ultrasound. Should get a call next week. She now thinks that have they left something in after smm.
... I feel like this will never end

That's horrific, when will you have the ultra sound? You poor thing. It's bad enough to be going through this without extra complications at least your gp is finally now taking it seriously and hopefully your body will be back to normal asap.

They phoned yesterday and booked scan for 2 weeks time. I then phoned back as my GP said it was urgent so told them this. Now its Thursday. It's so depressing having another ultrasound with no baby to see. I just cant see the other side of the atm. I really need it to be over.

My gynae gave me an ultrasound last week too, I tried not to look as I didn't want to see. So I can definitely understand you not wanting to see, that's outrageous that you have to wait so long. Especially because it is there mistake if there is still something left. Are you still at work?

I'm back at work tomorrow. Will need to tell my boss about Thursday. Dreading it as feel so guilty being off again. I was on holiday Mon, Tue and Fri and was off sick Wed with the cold and the pain being back. Luckily the pain isn't constant atm. It's on and off and just uncomfortable. Me worrying isn't helping as its making me feel sick. Been crying alot tonight.

How are you today? I hope your boss was understanding, it's real crap that this nightmare is being made worse for you. I went back running after all this happened and was freaking out after I got my period because I would cone back to spotting. My gynae said it can take 3-4 months for your body to go back to normal. Concentrate on yourself and don't be worrying about things that are outside of your control.

Hiya, Yeah my boss has been really good. Feeling much happier as my af started yesterday!! Cramps are awful but I'm just so glad I'm not broken!! Still going for scan anyway. Hopefully it is clear. Perhaps the white blood cells were caused by the build up of no af for nearly 9 weeks? Who knows. How are you doing?

Scan all clear. She said my womb and overies are healthy too. Such a relief!!

I am delighted to hear your scan was clear and that af has finally shown up. At least you can get back to ttc.

How are you feeling now pancake? I had a very teary day. I just can't get this little baby out of my head. I have to pretend like I am ok on the outside but I am so upset on the inside.

So sorry I didn't get a notification you'd posted. I am the same, pretend to be ok but I'm not. I guess it's a case of being strong and carrying on. I have been alot happier ans morw myself since the scan. But I want to be pregnant again so much it puts alot of pressure on us. I got upset on Saturday as he didn't want to have sex for 2 days. We had a heart to heart and he opened up about how he's feeling. It really helped us both. We both feel a relief we've discussed it and feel much closer for it. We have tried more now as I think we felt less pressure. My app says I should ovulate tomorrow but I've not had lots of stretchy cm so who knows. Fingers crossed it'll be this cycle! If no af I'll test on 15th August. Will you try again?

It's such a stressful time. I got my second af last week, another heavy and painful one. I have mixed feelings about trying again. My gynae gave me her mobile number and told me to contact her anytime, she wants to see a counsellor and I thought about texting her today. Are you doing opk's? She did tell me it could take 3-4 months for my cycles to settle down, so although your app says you are due to ovulate your body might be doing something different.

That's very kind of her to give you get number. I think counselling would be good for you. Just having someone to talk to.

As we don't have kids I feel the only way I'll recover is to have a baby. I've only had one af. Had sticky cm today after my last post. So fingers crossed I'm ovulating. I don't really do well with opks. I got negatives the month I concieved. I can't do the not drinking much. I just get headaches. So will just go with it and keep trying.

I hope you have a successful pregnancy soon, I can totally get the only way to feel better is by having another baby. I would of liked a smaller age gap and now I don't know if I would like a larger age gap. The timing now isn't right either with work. But in saying that we are not not trying and we aren't taking any precautions as such. We'll see I am undecided, my dh wants another. We had originally said if we got pregnant before April then great and if we didn't then we would be happy with our 3 but now this has put a spanner in the works.

How are you getting on pancakes? I am hoping you have had a positive test? I got my period again, I think every month now when it arrives I get upset all over again.

Hiya, No positive test yet unfortunately. But I've had my 2nd af so that's good. Atleast my bodies working. Will keep trying. I had a very difficult week last week when my af came. I was very hormonal and cried alot. Went out with friends and drank then got upset. But feeling better since af stopped. We are decorating our house so that's a good distraction. Very tiring! I hope you're ok and I hope you are feeling less down about it. Xx

I am sorry to hear that you have been going through some tough times. It's just not fun. I was in town shopping today and all I kept seeing was pregnant women. It's so hard seeing a pregnant woman. Life is so cruel sometimes. Doing up your house must be fun. I hope you get your positive very soon.

Eugh had last week off and was my Birthday. It didn't go well. My husband is stressed and dealing with his emotions finally. So was a stressful week. Now today he tells me his friends wife is pregnant. I feel like I've been punched in the stomache. It hurts so much. Why is she pregnant? Why aren't I? Why does she get to be ok and not me? There's also a guy at my work who's wife is overdue. I feel so jealous I can't speak to him about it at all. I'm dreading him bringing in photos. I just thought I'd be pregnant again by now. It's now been over 3 months. I ovulated last week. We did do it a few times but with the upset I didn't try as hard. I fear I've missed a chance. I can't cope with the waiting I really need to be pregnant this month!! It's just so unfair. How are you feeling?

Oh pancakes so sorry to hear you are going through such a hard time. I definitely hear you in hearing others are pregnant I am avoiding pregnant women I know. I keep selling up even still if I have to talk about it. My insensitive bil called st the weekend discussing his new baby that is due any day. I had to leave the room. My gynae told me it takes your body 3 months to settle down after the d&c so I hope it happens for you this month. In one way it's good that your husband has showed his emotions about the loss, I sometimes feel my dh was not at all impacted by our loss.

I think I'm pregnant!

Hmm it won't let me post anymore on here. But I took a clear blue digital and it said 1-2 weeks so I'm 3-4 weeks!