Pregnancy after MC Part 6 - supporting each other through the highs and lows

[Daisybump]

I thought that this one sounded really good!

[Uki]

I thought copying mechanism worked to, as you are kind of copying your grief from previous pg. IYKWIM, maybe a freudian slip there.

As long as we don't became bahumbugs to others, like on other thread at the moment, or end up old babbling ladies then, we will be ok

[Mumpbump]

Very quick post today as busy with work so can't get properly stuck in! Congratulations becklespeckle! The risk of a m/c once a hb has been detected drops significantly... No guarantees of course (says someone who has had a late m/c), but encouraging nevertheless.

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[MrsMcJnr]

Hey ladies I got a BFP today it was faint but there. I'm so excited and so scared and wanted to start lurking with you guys, hope that's ok.

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[gemmamc]

wow!! congratulations!

Great to hear from you again, welcome to the thread....and lots and lots of luck to you. You are in a good place, full of helpful ladies who will support you through the next few weeks.

Lots of ((((((((hugs)))))))))))) and positive vibes....!

[hotchoc]

good to hear the scan went well beckle, not long for me now.

mrsmcjnr, fantastic news, congratulations.

hi to everyone else

hotchocx

[daisybump]

Hello again MrsMcJr.....and Big Fat Congratulations on your Big Fat Positive....lurk away by all means, but it would be nice to 'talk' to you as well.

Sounds like things are going really well for everyone at the moment, long may it continue

Fettle....don't worry about crashing on 'your' ante-natal thread. We're still getting people introducing themselves on the "due in June thread" and everyone gets a really good welcome (Mind you, seeing as we're fast becoming the pariahs of MN for our foul mouths and insensitivity, we're grateful for any new friends we can get )

Has anyone heard from Pecka?....I saw her posts on her ante-natal thread and have been a bit worried about her. I think she's got ascan tomorrow. If you're out there Pecka....big hugs and wishing you good news

Started on the raspberry leaf tea today....I can't believe that after all these months of wishing and praying that this pg is a 'keeper' it seems weird to change tack and wish the baby out!! 4.5 weeks to D-day and counting!!

[fettleandminifettle]

Can't wait until I'm wishing this baby out rather than wishing it in!! Can't believe you are almost there Daisy - how's the mat leave going?

MrsMc - so pleased to see you here - hope the consultant appointment on Monday is helpful and imformative. thank goodness you pushed for those blood tests, so you now have something to work with. Keeping everything crossed for you, you really deserve this little one to stick - big hugs.xx

love and hugs to all

xxx

[PurpleLostPrincess]

Hello all, glad to hear about the progress with the scan beckle and also welcome back to MrsMcJnr!

I suddenly realised that I've got two appointments next week - one with the consultant and one with the midwife. I was putting them into my calendar at work when I realised the date - I would have been due on May 15th from my last pg. I was going to book the day off to give myself some space but I've decided that the appointments will break the week up a bit. I have to say although it has hit me quite hard, I'm coping reasonably well but I can't say what I'll be like on the day!

I was wondering about Pecka too - hope all is well!

Take care all

PLP (20+5) xxx

[Furrymummy]

PLP it will be hard, but do give yourself time to reflect on your lost one, but remember to focus on all the positives.
MrsMc - Good to see you here at last, will be keeping all my fingers and toes crossed for you
Daisybump - wow you are nearly there, hope you are putting your feet up and getting lots of rest, no time for that when the babby arrives!
Fettle - IKWYM!! Long way to go yet but we'll get there!
Hotchoc - hi! only 4 days to go for mine, feeling equal parts terrified and excited!
And hi to everyone else on this rather gloomy looking May morning! Hope it gets better for the weekend.

Had another poor nights sleep due to tossing & turning and not be able to get comfy! Dunno what it's going to be like when I do have a proper bump!

[pinkrangerstartstowaddle]

Welcome Mrs Mc - good to have you here (IYSWIM)

PLP - it is a tough day on the Edd of the lost one but i found that i kept myself busy, but also took some ime out to myself in the gaden to plant some lillys ( in a pot, not to good at gardening) and they aree growing now and they are meant to come into bloom when this lo arrives so it still a nice reminder xx do what you feel best x

Dasiy - 4.5!!!!!! cant belive, when i started posting on this thread when i was 6 wks you was at 20!! how time flys!

Hope eveyone else is well x

[rubles]

MrsMc, I am so pleased for you getting pregnant so easily and getting the consultants appointment for Monday. Your head must be spinning at the moment with so many different thoughts and feelings for the future as well as still grieving your miscarriage. How is your dh?

But well done you for investigating the family link and getting the tests done, as you have put yourself in the strongest position possible now for helping this one go to term.

Fettle - I know what you mean about the ante-natal groups. I am undecided whether to post on September or October as I am due 28th September but fully expect to go over into October. I think I am going to leave it until after the scan next week (also Tuesday actually!). Trouble is, I don't have that much time to spread myself so thinly around all the different threads.

Daisybump - raspberry leaf tea. yuck. But I echo what Fettle says and I can't wait until I am in the position when I am wishing the lo out.

Purplelostprincess - I didn't have the added complication of being pregnant when my due date came around but I do remember getting very stressed in the preceding week. There were extra tears, cold sores and general signs of pressure etc, however when the day came I found it not nearly so bad as the anticipation. I did a few things to remember the baby and found it quite cathartic (like lighting a candle and talking to the place where I buried it to say goodnight & goodbye). It did feel significant for me, like I was getting a bit of 'closure'. I hope it goes OK for you.

Uki - what other thread???

[Woooozle100]

Helloooo

My, haven't been round here for a few days and have lots of catching up to do!

Mrs Mc - Wahey! So chuffed for you, petal!

Daisybump - omg - nearly there. Glad little bobba stayed cooking a bit more. I was a bit suprised at all the fallout from the June thread titles - thought they were pretty funny myself. Hey ho

Beckle - congrats on the scan. Yrs'll be round soon, Hotchoc.

Was tempted to get another scan yesterday (I work in matty hospital so am fortunate to have access to EPU / midwives) - was a bit ridic really though - basically I breaked a bit hard whilst driving (and hit a step). was only doing about 5mph so rationally I was a bit OTT in my reaction but sure you all understand.. my MIL had put me in a more anxious frame of mind prior to that by reminding me that I am at the same stage in pg she was at when she mc. Arrrgghhh! She means well but really is being PITA.

Sure I've been feeling some movements so that's been putting me at ease a bit. My next scan is just under 4 weeks (will be 21 wks by then)

BIg waves and happy wishes to all x

[Glimmer]

Hello to everybody.
MrsMcJ I posted to you on the other thread. Welcome!!!! I am very happy you will be joining us here. I second Rubles. You have done everything you can for getting yourslef in the best possible position and take some control.

Purple, I personally didn't find the due date that difficult. Actually, I had hoped I would find a little resolution in it and personally didn't, but it's different for everybody. Post here and let us know how is goes.

[Glimmer]

I was about to purchase a doppler from ebay when it occured to me that maybe some of you have one and would like to sell it? I would like it for the time between now and when I will feel start moving it (it's my first so i have a feeling it will be a while...). But maybe you are still using it, although you can feel the LO move?

[daisybump]

ejb...I'm sure all is well...they're pretty weel cushioned in there. at you MIL....just a wee bit insensitive of her, no?
I had people mention miscarriages to me at various stages, even though they knew my history, and never failed to be gobsmacked at their insensitivity.

Went out and had my hair done yesterday so feeling a bit less scummy mummy and a bit more yummy! DH and I not getting on at the minute (mostly to do with him being away all week and not really checking in enough or even sorting out time off after bub is born) so some much needed pampering has done just the job.

Like the name change PinkRanger .....you're halway there now....you must be getting very excited.

The whole anniversary thing is quite an emotive issue isn't it. My last mc was 21st April last year, and I didn't realise it had been and gone until afterwards (product of not being at work and being confronted by the date all the time). Then I felt guilty for not having remembered...but on reflection, it's probably a good thing as it means I am finally getting some closure and moving on. We planted two passion flowers in the garden last weekend though as a wee act of remembrance and have put them next to each other so they can grow together.

Lord...I'll start blubbing again soon....blardy hormones

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[daisybump]

hi firstar.....florists have just delivered me a big bunch of exotic blooms from DH....think my emotional wobbly must have scared him a bit!

[Woooozle100]

Daisybump - glad yr feeling nice and pampered and have good hair! Can empathise with what yr saying about yr dh tho - mine a bit like that. He's self employed - sometimes the way he prioritises his workload / time off is a bit skewed imo ('needing' to urgently water spuds at the allotment - check. Appointments etc -er its going to be difficult..) Think people just react differently to stresses / excitement / impending life change (!). Hope yr dh makes it up to you soon.

ooh I want a doppler too! Reckon I can justify spending my dd's birthday money on one - hey it can be a new toy (like something she hasn't already got ). Aye firststar - that bonding business sounds spot on. Ah I jest - as IF I'd spend her money in such a way! Despite spending 100 quid on balloons at the weekend (I know - that includes the helium cannister and parking ticket incurred whilst fetching em!)

Glimmer -am still at that stage of "feeling movements" where I wonder if its actually wind / a need for the loo. Had em before with dd but can't remember / still not sure

[Woooozle100]

Flowers - ah! That'll do

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[Woooozle100]

Aye - you'd think her last name was Beckham from all that fussing and faffing! Oh well. She won't be getting them next year (will be having pound shop balloons filled with rice and stuff)

You live and learn!

[daisybump]

Just blubbed down the phone at DH cos of the flowers and he was full of apologies....apparently it's all been gonig a bit tits up at work and he's cost his company a lot of money adn has been a mite worried about that. He didn't say anything as he thoguht I had enough to worry about. I'm feeling a bit now for getting myself in a state, but at least we're talking now and can look forward to a nice weekend.

Seeing the consultant next week to discuss elective c-section. I ended up with an emergency c-section with DS so have the option as the previous problem may re-occur. Been changing my mind on a monthly basis all the way through, and although it sounds like a great idea to have a natural birth....the thought of going through another 16 hours of labour and ending up in theatre anyway....