Pregnancy after MC Part 6 - supporting each other through the highs and lows

[Daisybump]

I thought that this one sounded really good!

Message withdrawn

furrymummy, interested that you are finding it hard to sleep, i am having a nightmare staying asleep and eaking every hour at the moment, it is not helping my state of mind being so so tired. 3 sleeps to the scan, will be good to compare notes after.

hi everyone else,

hot choc

EJB - I also had to slam the brakes on, but I was doign 70mph at the time, traffic suddenly slowed very quick and I was quite paying attention .
Ever since then I've had a bit of discomfort in my abdomen, now I have a dull pain in my left side. Should I be worried or am I just being neurotic?

I meant I wasn't quite paying attention!

Furry

hope I haven't frightened you. I honestly can't say - I think any twinge you feel would be magnified after that - ie you may have been having abdominal discomfort before just cos of stretching ligaments but you would be far more aware of it after a little bump / surge in the car. However, I would advise that if you are having any cramping type pains to go and get it checked out. Call yr MW for some advice. Though like Daisybump said to me, bobbas are pretty well cushioned - and they certainly seem to survive some pretty horrendous situations.

Sure all is fine - but do whatever you need to to for peace of mind is all I can suggest x (Am not a mw btw - just IT geek)

Furry -- I thought I share my strategy on cramps and pains (had some recently). I remind myself I had had absolutely none when I mc (I guess it's that mmc fate again) and so I take is as a sign that things are moving/stretching etc. I have also noticed that I get much easier injured, e.g. when I twist too much, it's turns right into an 'injury' that I can feel for days. This works for me, but it you are worried
go with EJB's advice and get checked out.

Dasilybump -- Lovely: flowers! It often is so much easier for us when our DPs decided to open up and talk than when we do not know what's going on. I am glad you are talking again and you know why he is stressed. Hope things will resolve themselves in time.

I'm sure it is fine, good advice BTW Glimmer!
I stopped feeling sick about 2 weeks before m/c, so every time I throw up now, I'm "Yippee still got m/s!!" lol.
EJB don't worry I know I'm just being neurotic!

Wow! what a lovely response from you all, thanks so much for making me feel so welcome here

Firsty ? thanks for the advice, I will be pushing for an early scan, desperate to see a heart beat this time round!

When?s your scan hotchoc?

Daisybump ? thanks! I love raspberry leaf tea but have put it to the very back of my cupboard! how long have you got left (in theory!)?

Thanks Fettleandmini

Purplelostprincess thanks. Understand totally why that date will be hard, I think we all dread getting there, pg or not, I hope the appointments go really well!

Hey FurryMummy I missed you so I followed you! Really hope that things are going well and that work is not as stressful. Good luck for the scan!

PinkRanger ? lol at the name extension!!!

Rubles it?s so lovely to talk to you again too!!! DH is good, measured excitement and already calling me Mummy asked this morning if he still had to take his WellMan Vits!! (of course he does!!) Hope the scan goes well!! Posting on too many threads is my downfall too.

Ejb ? hello! glad to hear all is well!

Thanks Glimmer ? things good with you?

Hello all!
Pinkranger - love your new name! Glad that all went well with your MW too. TBH with you I don't think you ever stop worrying, I thought I would with DS1 once he was born but there is just a whole new set of worries! He is nearly 7 now and I still worry - its my job!
Rubles - It must be lovely and quite reassuring when you see some movements! I don't remember at what stage I saw movements with my DSs but I felt them move fairly early - I think it is something to do with being slim and also short in the body - baby has nowhere to go but outwards!
Fettle - I have found it hard to settle on the a/n threads too, spend a while with the TTC after m/c girls and felt really at home there. Sometimes the optimism and excitement of the a/n thread girls makes me feel a little envious, I wish I had some of it! Can I be nosey and ask about what happened with your 12 week scan? Were they a long way out with your dates?
Mumpbump - It is encouraging to know that a HB at 6-7 weeks is a good sign but I do know that there are no guarantees either. With my first m/c they detected a HB at just over 6 weeks but baby died at 12-13 weeks. Mind you, last time it was 5 weeks so I am past my first hurdle now, both m/c were missed ones so that is obviously a big fear for me. My body just doesn't like to give them up! Even my DSs were both late! Due another scan at 10-12 weeks, am going to try and convince the MW to send request in late so I get it nearer 13 weeks. How are things going for you? How is your Mum getting on?
MrsMcJnr - Hello and welcome! Glad you've joined us! Hope it all goes well with the consultant on Monday, so pleased they fitted you in so quickly! When is your due date?
Dasiybump - How goes it? 4.5 weeks to baby, you must be getting excited now! Glad that you and DH are talking again, sometimes you just need a good clearing of the air, bless him for the flowers too! Re: Pecka, she has posted on the Dec a/n thread - she had scan today and saw baby and heartbeat too!
Purplelostprincess - Due dates are definitely hard, I was not pg on either of mine and always felt that it would have been a comfort to me although I am sure that it would have been just as hard had I been pg. I have to say that the days leading up to it were worse, on the actual day I just felt a bit lost IYKWIM. Hope your day is okay, just do what you feel.
Hotchoc - Not long until scan now! Is a strange mixture of excitement and worry while you are waiting isn't it?! Sure it will be fine.
Furrymummy - I too toss and turn at night, either too hot/too cold/need loo/need drink/rolled onto boobs (ouch!). Is all part of the deal I think! Not long until our scan either! Am sure your baby is fine, it is well padded in there and also, before 12 weeks will be located below your pubic bone. If you are worried though I would speak to your MW, even just for some reassurance.
Ejb - Am sure your baby is fine too but if you are worried and have access to scanning dept then why not? Anything that puts your mind at east is a good thing! Also you should ignore your MIL , you don't go telling a pg woman that! I am always careful not to talk about m/c with pg women but some people (lots of people actually) are not so tactful.
Anyway, hope you've all got good weekends planned, sorry to anyone I have not mentioned and Hi to you!

Furrymummy - I meant not long until your scan (serve me right for not previewing!)

and Ejb - I meant put your mind at ease not east!

(going to blame pg hormones turning my brain to mush...)

I caught Peckas post...not that I've been lurking or anything. Brilliant news

MrsMcJr...due date is 4 weeks on Sunday, but I have an appointment next week to discuss elective c-section. The closer it gets, the more appealing that option is, even though I've been confident about a VBAC for ages. The thought of going through hours of labour like last time only to end up back in theatre isn't very appealing, and they can't give me any guarantees that it won't happen again. and I was such a wreck after DS....at least the recovery with an elective is quicker.

Right off to lurk on May for babies being born!!

Hi girls - hope this weather improves for the weekend - it's really dreary here today.

Anyway, Beckle, can't remember exact details, but around 7+4 I had an early scan due to spotting and they dated me as 7+5, so not bad. At around 12+5, they dated the head as 12+6, length as 13+2 and then said I was 13+6! Never really understood why, but I'm pretty certain the sonographer even with her 25 years of experience made an error. But she moved my due date from 2nd Oct to 23rd Sept.

as I'd been induced with DD at 36 weeks, it was pretty important to me that they get the dates right, as the difference between 35 and 36 weeks can be quite significant. So I had a "heated" discussion with my consultant, who agreed to go with my early scan, as they are apparently more accurate than later ones and put my due date as 29th Sept. Still not what I thought, but much nearer, so I'm happier!

Sorry, that went on a bit! I don't think any of them really trusted that I might actually have known the 48 hours in which I ovulated. Women can't know that much about their bodies!. Should have introduced them to the chartspotters thread! AFter 4 years of taking my basal body temp, I can be pretty certain of when I ovulated with this pg, but I think they were slightly grumpy as I'd conceived within 2 weeks of my 2nd mc, so I didn't give them a last AF to date by!

anyway, I have my 20 week scan on Tuesday, so hopefully all will be on track. have to say that I'm not feeling as much movement as I would have expected - definitely not as much as I felt with DD, also I'm not as big as I was at this time with DD, although I started off this pg much heavier than I was back then. I keep telling myself that the fact that I'm carrying extra weight will dull the feelings of movement and perhaps the placenta is right at the front, so I won't feel any movement there and you obviously can't feel it round the back. I also know from advising you lovely ladies on here, not to worry in advance as there is nothing I can do, but it is so hard! Thank goodness, we have a lovely weekend of no commitments, just family time ahead of us AND we just got Skyplus fitted and we are all like children with a new toy!!! I get to watch Skyone! I might even find out what this LOST is all about!!

Sorry that was all me, me, me, but DD needs me now, have to go!

Hope you all have wonderful weekends.

take care
xxx

I tell you what Fettle, the medical profession really get to me sometimes, the amount of things they get wrong (and unecessary worry they put us through)! I was put at different stages during the 3 scans I had with DS1, at one point a week more than my dates, they stuck with the date of my LMP though so that was okay. Are you likely to be induced early again this time? If so then you would think they would be far more careful with your dates! I was quite chuffed that my scan showed me to be nearer to my ov date than my LMP (although still a couple of days earlier than I thought) - is the first time I have ever felt ov! Must have fertilised with sperm-in-waiting I reckon! Am sure your 20 week scan will be fine but we all know it is hard not to worry! Think if baby sits near the back then you will not feel too much, there is still plenty of room in there for him/her to swim around in!
ps - sooo jealous about skyplus - I want it! Thankfully have a lovely friend who records LOST for me - I am very addicted to it!

Hi beckle - get Skyplus it is great!

anyway, hopefully won't be induced early with this one - have a 50:50 chance of developing obstetric cholestasis again, which has an increased risk of fetal death after 37 weeks, hence why I was induced at 36 weeks, as even with treatment my liver enzymes and bile acid levels weren't coming down. Trying to be positive about all this though - 50% chance it won't happen again and so far this pg is very different from with DD!

take care
xxx

Fettle - well fingers crossed it'll all be okay!
Still feeling some discomfort but getting used to it.
Hope you all have an nice weekend!
OOh just like to say I'm loucky coz I have a DH who is sweet and supportive, he is so lovely!

Hello all. Thanks for the encouragement about my upcoming date. With my first m/c, it wasn't so much the due date that got to me - I distinctly remember being at work and realising it was a year to the day that I had actually m/c'd and I broke down and ended up going home. I'm glad I've realised ahead of time this time and hopefully if I prepare myself and just keep thinking about this LO I should be OK. I like the idea of planting something though so I might take you up on that idea!

Glad that scans are going well so far, its such a tense time for all of us! ((((hugs)))) Also great to hear about pecka

fettle - you stick to your guns as you know your body best! I know exactly when we conceived as its the only time it could have happened (iykwim!). I appreciate that the sperm can hang around for a few days but if you know, then you know and they need to listen to you! Ooohhh, skyplus is fantastic!! My parents have it and I'm sooo envious! Only thing is, my Mum forgets is that not everybody has it - when she calls me, I can't pause what I'm watching which is really annoying if I've been looking forward to watching it for ages!!! If you do get into LOST, let me know - I'm a massive fan (if you hadn't already worked it out from my screen name lol!!).

Gosh I've missed alot

Welcome - MrsMc. your reserved seat is just over on the right stalls, and your not going anywhere till the shows over!!!!!

Rubles- I was talking about two threads at the moment about negative comments to pg women, by other people bringing up all their bad m/c experiences and making newly pg women feel bad, I think one under pg and one under miscarriage. I don't want to be one of those IYKWIM

RE- Dopplers, don't want to put you off but I had a really strong urge to buy one, looked into it and all that and then got to about 18/19 weeks and the urge left completely, as I feel baby so often now. I mean they would be good but realistically i think you would only use a few weeks, and money might be better spent on baby

Purple- hugs] for your due date.
I hope you find comfort in having new bean now.

WOW - so many posts!

Just pooped in to say Welcome back to MrsMc - lovely to see you again - may your stay be long, boring and uneventful!

Purple - I found that the anticipation of the due date was worse on both occasions than the due date itself: neither day was especially wonderful for me, but I got through it - and so will you. For me, the first due date, when I was still very raw about the 2nd mc, was much worse then the 2nd due date - on that day, I went to work, as normal, but dropped by my church for evening prayer on my way home, sat in for the service, and lit a candle.

What I found really difficult was the fact that I ovulated on the 1st anniversary of my 1st mc - so was trying to make a new baby on my first lost baby's birthday ...

fettle - Come on in to the October thread, and feel at home - there's a lot of the same people on there as are on here ... I frequently get confused about what I've said to whom! (I think Mumpbump may feel the same way!)
I found it very hard to pluck up the courage to post on any thread before I became pg this time around - I posted briefly on the ttc after mc thread, but like you may feel, I felt as though I was an intruder!
I'm the same as you in that hospital dates and my dates are putting me in 2 different months: I've decided to go for the October thread as that's where my dates put me - and given that I know exactly when I ovulated (see above!!), I'm giving more credence to my dates - I also know that I cook 'em longer than most, and as I'm desparate to go for a vbac, and have absolutely no intention of agreeing to even try induction, then the longer I have the better.
I haven't even introduced myself on the September thread - but that's more to do with a lack of time!

Daisy - glad you're feeling a little happier - flowers are always lovely!

I'm sure I must have missed something monumental ... so sorry, and hello to everybody I haven't mentioned!

The choir sang before the game last night - the rain stopped just before we had to go on to the pitch to sing - I'm sooooo glad I didn't have to try and sing in the pouring rain! Singing was good - and we won ... fingers crossed that Borders beat Ospreys today, then we win the league! (mind chances are that Ospreys will beat Borders soundly ... and then they'll win the league!)

Have a good weekend everybody!

Hi ejt! I promise if you get time to post on the September thread I'll give you a big welcome! xx

I hope you all don't mind me posting on this thread but I really don't know where to go. I was (or so I thought) 12 weeks on Monday and started light bleeding. I went to the hospital and was scanned and told that I only looked like 7+3 and that my dates didn't match up so I was miscarrying . I was told to go home and that heavy bleeding and pain would start in the next 2 days but I have had nothing so far. I am due to go for another scan on Tuesday but the longer I wait the more hopeful I get. Can anyone give me any advice.

I am 25 and niavely thought this would never happen to me! Just don't know where to go for advice as it all seems like a bit of a grey area.

Oh poor you! Everyone on this thread has had a m/c in the past so we know how you are feeling. Please feel free to offload. It might help if you have a look in the Miscarriage/bereavement section - you will find lots of support and practical advice on there.

Oh dear you poor thing! It's so awful being in limbo and not knowing whether to be hopeful or not! As furrymummy said, feel free to vent on here as we've all been there and know how you feel. We'll try to help you to fill in the few days between now and Tuesday as it will feel like a lifetime for you.

(((((hugs)))))

Thank you for your support. I am so desperate to be where you guys are again. I have heard you are more fertile just after a mc to we will be trying asap!!! Hopefully I will be on here again with better news soon!!

For now the worst is still to come I fear.

Thank you xxx