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Pregnancy after MC Part 6 - supporting each other through the highs and lows

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Daisybump · 04/05/2007 09:35

I thought that this one sounded really good!

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firststar · 19/06/2007 11:38

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ejt1764 · 19/06/2007 11:43

Blimey, I look away for 3 days, and look what happens ... apologies for a mega post ...

daisyboo - sorry to hear about your infection - thinking of you and hoping that it heals soon. I second the suggestion of you going out just for a ride in the car ...?

purple - sorry to hear about you groaning and huffing and puffing - and about you lack of sleep. The physio suggested the following pillow arrangement to me, and it's meant that I don't have to turn over that often - I cab just do it when I go to the loo...
-2 pillows under your head.
-2 pillows between your legs
-1 pillow in front of you for you to hug / lean on.
This arrangement keeps my spine fairly straight - hugging pillow stops my shoulders getting crampy, pillows between legs keep pelvis from being squashed - having 2 pillows under head keeps spine pretty straight (I only ever sleep on 1 pillow normally - a lovely ergonomic one!)

rubles - It's lovely to hear from you - and it is fantastic to hear that you are enjoying pregnancy - I'm hating it, but it makes me feel a little better to think that it's not completely horrendous for everybody!

firststar - you will be a fantastic mum - the best thing my mum said to me when I was pg with dswas that my baby wouldn't care if I was the 'best mum' or the 'best-dressed' mum or any of that guff - all he would care about was whether I Loved him. Don't try to be the best ... just try to be 'good enough' - that's all your baby needs!
As for the bf - arm yourself with helpline numbers and shout if it isn't going right ... there's a really good thread at the moment with all the things people think are the most important things to remember about bf ... I wanted to add: 'it may well hurt - you are (probably! ) not used to somebody sucking your nipples for upwards of 4 hours a day, so don't stress if it hurts ... but somebody else said something very similar!
As for bf while tour PILs are around - don't be afraid to ask them to leave the room while you get the baby attached - they will probably want to anyway! I found that a big shawl or pashmina was fantastic - I used to feed ds everywhere - in shopping centres, in church - in fact I was in the middle of feeding ds during the service where he was baptised, and had to take him off to hand him over ... getting my nipples out in chruch was probably one of the most embarassing moments!

mumpbump - glad to hear you had a good Father's Day ...
As for the clothes, we've been sorting out ds's clothes to sell - and he found the father Christmas outfit we were gien for him for his first Christmas - I nearly PML - he tucked this romper suit thing into his tshirt, and spread out the arms onto his arms, and then perched the hat on his head ... he looked so funny!

fettle - I keep being told by people how 'well' I'm looking too ... I think it's because they can't think of anything else to say! Mind you, people who see me first thing don't say that, strangely - it takes until about 9am for the grey/green tinge to leave my face as I'm still being sick!

basil - thinking of you - only 9 days until your scan now ... try to stay positive.

glimmer - it was lovely to read your 'all about me' post - you are so right about rl friendships - some of my friends have had mc, but most of them have sailed through pg, and they just don't get it!
I'm glad telling your boss wasn't too traumatic ... and I'm also glad that you're adjusting to living with dh again!

uki - you are right, it is very hard to deal with people who haven't had mc - I still mourn the naivety of my first pg with ds ... happy 32 weeks!

beckle - the things you worry about change as you go through a pg ... now I worry if I haven't felt madam bean move for a while ...

plummy - glad to hear about your scan - great news - at my reassurance scan at 7 weeks, they told me I was still less than 6 weeks - at my dating scan at 12 +2, I was told that madam bean was measuring 12 + 6 ... she obviously had a growth spurt ... I am sticking with my dates - but only because I'm a curmudgeon, and because I know when I ovulated! For me to be at the date they suggest, it would have to have been an immaculate conception! Now, I like to think of myself as a good, Godfearing person, but that's going a bit far ...

bouncing turtle - the midwife who was listening the last time I was in hospital, showed me the difference between the placenta and the baby's heartbeat - the placenta sounds really wooshy, and the baby sounds a bitlike a ping-pong ball ... but don't panic if you can't hear anything just yet - it may still be too early! My GP found babe's heartbeat at 16 weeks, but it took a bit of searching around!

Right, I'm off to do not very much - I finished off all my reports and assessments yesterday, and took them into school - I was a whingy mess again lst night - I intend doing a lot of nothing today!

Take care all!

firststar · 19/06/2007 11:51

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daisyboo · 19/06/2007 12:31

lo ejt at your christening story...i hope it wan't being videod, lol.

thanks for all your lovely words...feeling much better and my wound isstarying to itch, so obviously on the mend. we got out on sunday...to a local garden (beautiful and the rain stayed away) then to est est est for a fathers day meal. feel much more human and am going to do the school run today......

off to catch up, hope all is well with every one.

beckle...i did the race for life a few years ago, after my mum had been through treatment for non-hodgkins lymphoma. it was very emotional and can't wait to do it again next year!

Woooozle100 · 19/06/2007 15:34

Hullo all

Daisy - hope the infection goes away sharpish.

ejt - hope you start to feel a bit better soon. Sorry yr still feeling so groggy. At least the new hair is a bit of a boost. yr christening / bf tale made me smile too!

firstar - ditto. You'll be a great mom. yay you'll get some good advice off people - you'll also get conflicting, uncalled for stuff. (things you'll prolly laugh at later on - old dear pointed out to me that my baby might suffocate in her sling and my scarf was a danger to her - twas about a foot away from her face btw) You'll find yr own way. Opinions are like arses really. Everyone's got one - nowt too remarkable and right about them

hullo basilbrush - 8 days now! All the best

Plummy - good news about scan. Ditto what everyone else has said about not being too concerned about the dating.

Purple - can't top ejt's pillow suggestions. I'm just stradding the v pillow I bought and never used to bf dd. It looks ridiculous but hey ho.

rubles - glad things are tottering along nicely

glimmer - hope appt with mw went well. And pleased to read that things are settling now dh is back - you really have had a stressful time of it. Enjoy and sleep!

Beckle - all the best. And congrats on yr milestone. I have a similar outlook to you re finding other stuff to worry about as the weeks go on. Tho its becoming less fraught / anxious and a bit more comedy-ridiculous if that makes any sense. My latest one is:- I really need to know if baby has a cleft lip / palette (hopefully 4d scan will show) cos I'll need to buy Haberman feeding bottles. I think now I can feel baby move, stuff is better

Welcome jellybelly and waves to bouncing turtle, mumpbump and anyone else I forgot

Same old same old with me. Realised I smelt disgusting on the way to work today (started off smelling beef pasties then was knocked out by the bo). This is despite shower this morning, anti-perspirant, clean clothes Uggh. Used it as an opportunity to pop in the shops and buy some new clothes (stetchy black maternity skirt from H &M and black short sleeve short from New Look. And some deoderant and body spray as well )

firststar · 19/06/2007 16:57

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Uki · 20/06/2007 05:19

My goodness

I cannot compete with ejt and ejb's mammoth posts well done.

BUT i will bring thie thread back to the top, I could barely find our thread as it was way down.

So top of the morning to you all

What's for breakfast???????????????

plummymummy · 20/06/2007 08:12

Just popping in to say hi to everyone and thanks for all your encouraging words.

It's my son's 3rd birthday today - can't quite believe it was only 3 years ago that I gave birth to my baby. Time flies.

I am off work for a fortnight now. So happy to be off work as it's been hard work getting up at 6am.

Woooozle100 · 20/06/2007 08:25

Happy bithday littlelad plummy Hope you all have lovely day. Enjoy yr time off work, P.

I'm on a no work day today. Taking dd to story session at library. Might do something about the hovel of a house we reside in. Might even iron spare bedful of creased clothes (oh and the ones that have been on the radiator since friday )

Just had shreaded wheat for brekkie, Uki. 3 of em as well! 1 for bub of course

Mumpbump · 20/06/2007 10:20

Morning all!

Uki - when I saw your post, I thought what the hell are you doing on here at that time of the morning before remembering that you're in a different time zone! Pregnancy brain continues...

Plummy - happy birthday to your not-so lo! And have a lovely restful (!) fortnight!

EJB - horribly envious of a day off. I had to go out for a work related meal last night, sat through it with chronic backache, made it home by 23:45, but ds woke up this morning at 05:15 and all I wanted to do was to stay at home and sleep... Instead, I had to drag myself into work. Am seriously considering having tomorrow at home to sleep...

EJT - you must be dead pleased at having your reports done. Are you now coasting until the end of term or will you have post-exam marking to do?

Beckle - what a lovely dh you have! Wish my dh would be a bit more proactive around the house. He is better at cleaning than me, but only does it if we are expecting company which at the moment is not very often!! Haven't seen anything from MrsMcJnr for a while. Will go and do a search to see if that picks anything up. Hope she's okay and just superbusy at work/on holiday...

Bouncing - let us know when you pick up a heartbeat. How exciting!

Daisy - glad to hear that the wound is starting to heal. I'm sure you're doing this anyway, but if you add tea tree oil and lavender oil to your bath water it really helps healing, as well as relaxing you at the end of a long day...

Firststar - only 5 weeks to go tomorrow (I think)... Is this your last week at work? I know I should really look back at the thread to check, but will take too long!

firststar · 20/06/2007 11:57

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Uki · 20/06/2007 12:46

Mump-yes I am around when you are sleeping, it's a little lonely sometimes

Firstar- shreddies too, I think I call those wheatbix, sounds healthy

Ona totally unrelated topic, i was just watching Tom Cruise and an interview he did talking about psychiatry on You tube, He is a FREAK, if you are bored have a look. Although you might not agree with me

firststar · 20/06/2007 12:50

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Uki · 20/06/2007 13:22

Oh not wheat bix then.

When I had my conference with Singaporean Guests i ended up making curry, rice and fried eggs for breakfast. I had Coco pops LOL and we both thought each other as weird, they are so not into cereals.

I think my friend a psyciatric Nurse would describe Tom as PD, she is always rattling off terms to me such as this (Personality disorder)

Can be quite a handy one IYKWIM, My dh is now watching Noel fielding on Youtube next to me, he is laughing his head off!!!I've never seen him before.

firststar · 20/06/2007 13:26

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Mumpbump · 20/06/2007 13:26

I remember going around S.E. Asia in my younger care-free days and the concept of drinking milk was virtually unknown. It was really hard to find anywhere that did muesli and it would normally be served with fruit salad or yogurt, neither of which I like. There is no way I could eat curry first thing in the morning though...

Uki · 20/06/2007 13:39

Well noel fielding is English, a bit of a nutty comedian i must say.

Yes curry for breakfast, and rice three times a day is a bit much for me. They were having major withdrawals because i hadn't served rice for a day. I did manage to introduce couscous though, which they liked.

I can't seem to talk about anything pg related today, someone needs to help me.

firststar · 20/06/2007 14:16

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Mumpbump · 20/06/2007 14:20

I think a day of being off pg related stuff is probably a good thing. It takes up so much of your time and energy in the early days when you're worrying about viability and m/c. You can't keep up that level of preoccupation!! Wish I could have a day without thinking about pg related stuff, but bubba is kicking hard, my back is killing me and all I want to do is sleep...

Firststar - thanks for clarifying about MrsMcJnr being on holiday. It's silly how you worry when someone hasn't posted for a while, isn't it? What are you planning on doing at the start of your maternity leave? Have you got much preparation to do for the lo or are you pretty much there?

firststar · 20/06/2007 14:34

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Glimmer · 20/06/2007 15:06

Hey all! Good to hear everybody is doing well.
Many congratulations to everybody who has passed milestones and had succesful scans. They are such a relif aren't they?

UUUhh - you can chase me with soaked weatabix :-) Am not a fuzzy eater but find that wheatabix tastes like wet paper carton...
Right now my favorite breakfast is dark bread with homemade strawberry jam.

Am lurking all the time, but somehow the tiredness of the world has come over me (much worse than 1st trimester). Iron levels are fine, so I thinks it's just the reward for not adjusting my life-style in the last weeks...
Maybe I am also starting to beleive that this pg might actually work out and since some of the stress is gone, I get tired? Well, there are worse things, so no complaint here.

Also saw IM on Monday and decided to book with her. She is really nice, seems very competent (which is very important to me) and
in case thigs shouldn't evolve the way we hope for the hospital is only 2min away. I can actually walk there in 5 min, which is reassurancing.

Am impressed how organized you are firststar!
Would love to go on mat leave right now, can we swap? :-) No, you deserve it!! But maybe we can go together :-)

Wave to everybody.

firststar · 20/06/2007 15:16

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daisyboo · 20/06/2007 16:19

hi guys....just a quick hello....I've been meaning to post something long and meaningful to catch up with everyone, but LO, DS and the fact that the ladies on my AN thread are all in labour over the last few days has kept me pretty busy.

Feeling more human and did the school run yesterday....then fell asleep for an hour, LOL. Em doing great, sleeping and feeding well, but she was a bit unsettled last so feeling slightly spaced out today.

Glad everyone seems to be doing OK.....firsty, you'll be joining me postnatal before long! And I found a success after MC thread, will do a link when there are more of us on the other side!!

firststar · 20/06/2007 16:48

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daisyboo · 20/06/2007 16:55

much better, but ther's a lot of tenderness above the wound actually on my (rather attratctive) saggy tum. Think they bash abd bruise you a lot with all the tuggung and pulling!