Pregnancy after MC Part 6 - supporting each other through the highs and lows

[Daisybump]

I thought that this one sounded really good!

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Hi

Glimmer- great news about you and dh being back together in one country, he can now pamper and massage you well done for hiding your pg for 20 weeks, wow.
I agree too, this place is the best for everyone understanding. For that doesn't happen much in RL, last weekend everyone kept asking me "oh what do you think your having....rah, rah" and I wanted to say "Just let me get the baby" none of my friends have ever had any probs, so really don't understand.

Basilbrush - Good luck for scan, hope it goes quick and keep positive.

firstar- I feel I've missed your post, was it another thread? anyway glad to hear mump and fettle have made you feel better, i agree you'll be a great Muma, I can't wait to hear your birth announcement.

I set up baby room on the weekend, and got out all the clothes, ahhh so small.

But apart from being a happy 32 weeks, my legs are swollen, back is hurting and major lack of room between bump and boobs, makes for much bra uncomfort My favourite place is bed. I got a new one since last pg and it'a a joy.

Hi

Glimmer- great news about you and dh being back together in one country, he can now pamper and massage you well done for hiding your pg for 20 weeks, wow.
I agree too, this place is the best for everyone understanding. For that doesn't happen much in RL, last weekend everyone kept asking me "oh what do you think your having....rah, rah" and I wanted to say "Just let me get the baby" none of my friends have ever had any probs, so really don't understand.

Basilbrush - Good luck for scan, hope it goes quick and keep positive.

firstar- I feel I've missed your post, was it another thread? anyway glad to hear mump and fettle have made you feel better, i agree you'll be a great Muma, I can't wait to hear your birth announcement.

I set up baby room on the weekend, and got out all the clothes, ahhh so small.

But apart from being a happy 32 weeks, my legs are swollen, back is hurting and major lack of room between bump and boobs, makes for much bra uncomfort My favourite place is bed. I got a new one since last pg and it'a a joy.

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BB - well done on getting to this milestone. It is such a worry when you're approaching the same stage as your previous m/c, but sounds like it's all going well, so fingers crossed for a positive scan result for you!!

Uki - hiya! I can't wait to get all the old baby clothes down from the loft. We got some for a tiny baby (less than 71/2 lb) for ds and I am really looking forward to comparing them to his current size. You sound like you're fairly well organised...

Firststar - I actually think one of the advantages of being a working mother is that, once you go back to work, you operate to some extent in a vacuum and aren't so aware of what other babies of a similar age are doing so have less opportunity to compare/reason to worry about your baby's development. That said, I do envy people who stay at home and can talk to other mothers about their babies. Can't imagine anyone here being too interested in ds' latest bowel movement or such things...

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Hi all!
How are you doing Basil? Milestones are hard, I hope you are keeping yourself well occupied and not stressing too much!
I am now at the stage when I lost my first baby (although missed m/c so didn't find out for a while) and having a stressy week. Also is a year since I lost my Mum this week so doubly hard. Keep panicking cos I am still needing the loo badly in the mornings and that usually goes with me once the uterus moves up, I'm 12+4 so surely it should have moved up by now??? Or maybe it has and my bladder is just not as good as it was 4 1/2 years ago when had DS2! Ignore me, I will panic until baby moving regularly I guess! (and then prob find something else to worry about...)
Sorry to all you guys in pain, feel free to moan as much as you need to - that is what we are here for .
Firststar, I'm sure you will be a great Mum, it is something we all worry about I think but I think if you do your best then you are a good Mum (if that makes sense). As for BF I completely agree with what Fettle said, just try your best with it. It takes time for you and baby. With regard to feeding in front of others, with DS1 I used to cover my shoulder with a blanket and such and it was quite obvious what I was up to! With DS2 I didn't bother with the blanket and even fed him on a bench in the middle of Lakeside and no-one noticed! I also used to go to the other side of the room and feed on the computer chair when people were round so I could still join in but be discreet.

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Thanks Firststar , just keep focussing on next week and not thinking about this one, might see if MW can find a HB this time next week, that will put my mind at ease a bit I think. Need to tell my DSs soon - little one has noticed I am 'getting fat round the bellybutton'! Doing Race for Life on Sunday too so feel I am doing something positive (however small) to help find a cure for cancer and make sure less people have to go through what my Mum did.
Blankets are good and also loose tops!

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Hi Beckle - I was needing to go to the loo more frequently right up until the last few weeks and I'm now 25 weeks, so I think you may have a while before the frequency of your toilet visits reduces... Sounds like you have a tough week ahead of you so I'm sending lots of positive thoughts your way - can't think of an appropriate visual so you will just have to take my word on this one! My mw refused to try to listen for a hb before 15 weeks because she said it was unlikely to be detected before then, so don't feel downhearted if they say no or can't pick anything up next week.

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Hi everyone. Had a scan today. Baby seen and heartbeat. Measured week younger than my estimate, but their measurement consistent with the last scan they did two weeks ago. Very happy but wish they'd measured it a week older as now I have longer to wait til it's safe!

Glad all ok Plummy - is there anyway your dates could be out? Try not to worry - baby is obviously still well and happy and growing, so all good!!

Beckle - very jealous you have the energy for the Race for Life!! Well done you - hope the weather is good!

Glimmer - I know what you mean about getting used to having DH around - when my DH goes away for 5-6 months, it is always a bit awkward for a while while we get used to each other again and each other's little foibles - but worth it!!!

take care all
xxx

ok I am being a bit thick here I think so please help me out. A pregnancy is usually dated from the date of the last period isn't it? My LMP was 21/4/7. I have worked out that I ovulated on 4/5/7 (CD14)- got this date from working backwards from the dates given by epu today. The date makes sense as it was the week following my period. Does that mean the dates are right then? I was going by the date of my LMP rather than ovulation.

Hi plummy....glad things were ok with the scan, but sorry about the dates thing. My EDD from my LMP was 18/06, but from my dating scan at 12 weeks was 10/6. This fits with what I know about my body, as I ovulate very early in my cycle (circa day 6/7). You may have ovulated late that particular month.

Just remember though, that its all fairly arbitrary and that baby will come when he's ready, not because a hospital said "this is the date".

He's growing well so keep focussed on that. Good Luck xx

Well, if I ovulated on 4/5 that would be exactly two weeks after period started, so that would tie in wouldn't it. Also, I got a bfp around 12 days after 4/5 - so that would be right too wouldn't it.

Hey everyone, back from London. Very tired from lots of walking. Had a few tears on occasion due to be tired and cranky. DH was very sweet.
Special helloe to Basilbrush congrats, sending you lots of good vibes! And Rubles long time no see, glad to hear you are doing well! Mumpbump that is so weird, I've had a couple of dreams where I was being raped and a dream that I was naked and no one else was. Had a few other bad dreams too but also a lot of erotic ones . Mad4girls have posted info on tooth removal on Dec 07 An club for you, I hope it helps. Good luck! Glimmer IKWYM about the ladies on here and I agree, what a lovely bunch we are! Daisyboo sorry to hear about your wound, hope the infection clears up quickly! Plummymummy the dates that they give you at the scan are plus or minus a couple of days. I second what Daisy said, bub will some when s/he is ready Beckle well done you for doing the RFL, good luck! Plus hello to Ejt, Uki, fettle, firststar, purplelost, neuro and everyone and sorry if I forgot anyone, but so tired!
Been a bit naughty and have bought a prenatal heart monitor... bought it off ebay for £20...

I'm less bothered by due date than by baby developing ok iyswim.

I really wouldn't worry too much, from what I've read, the dates from scan are based on the assumption that foetal growth is pretty linear. But just like babies themselves, growth can slow down and speed up for the foetus. That's why the scan dates aren't always bang on accurate. One of my friends, after having her 20 week scan, had her edd moved forward by 9 days!

Oh I see. Makes more sense now. Thank you

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Firststar, I find Race for Life very emotional too, the first time I did it I was in tears because of the things people wrote on their papers. 3 years ago my friend?s Uncle was diagnosed with cancer, although I didn?t know him well it was awful to see the way it affected my friend and her family so I decided to do RFL as it seemed like something positive. Then last year my Mum was diagnosed and unfortunately died a few days beforehand but as she had sponsored me I felt it was even more important that I did it. Thanks to all of you for your good wishes! I doubt I will be overly energetic at it this year but next year I am planning to run it! Next scan is 20 weeks.
Mumpbump, I am really hoping the MW will try to find a HB, a good strong one was found at 14 weeks with DS1 very easily so I am hoping they will agree to do it and find something. I just really want to tell my DSs (and buy some bigger clothes) but don?t want them to be disappointed, they were very upset about m/c last year although I just told them I had made a mistake and was not pg.
Plummy, so glad you had a good scan! Must be a sigh of relief but IKWYM about being put back a week, the waiting at the beginning is awful isn?t it? Very good that measurements are consistent too! When you OV sometimes the egg is fertilised by ?sperm-in-waiting? and sometimes towards the end of its fertile life so surely that would make a difference on dates also? Am sure mine must have been fertilised by waiting sperm as my date by scans puts me a couple of days earlier than what I worked out from when I know I OV'd. Daisy is right too ? they come when they are ready!
Daisy, how are you and LO? How is your scar now? (ouch).
BouncingTurtle, have been considering getting a heart monitor myself, have you tried it out yet??? Hope you had a lovely time in London, you do sound like you have a lovely DH! IKWYM about the tired thing too, had a really busy day yesterday with my day job, phone kept ringing and all hassley calls so got none of the housework done. Then had to go to work in the evening too. DH got home from work and asked me how day had been, I just cried all over him about how bad I felt about getting nothing done! Poor guy, got in last night and he had hovered everywhere and cleaned the kitchen (even the floor). Bless him.
Has anyone heard from MrsMc? Just wondering how she is!