Posifrickinspring thread for PG after MC!

[BertieBotts]

If we can't be positive about the weather what can we be?

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Lovely pic Grumpy! That's amazing :)

@BertieBotts sounds like you've had so much to think about and decide on. I can't imagine what it's like but it sounds like your dh is a fantastic support and like he is and would be prepared whatever happens.
Sleep well.

Bertie sounds like a really overwhelming day. Congratulations on the detailed scan going well. From the odds you gave up thread it sounds very unlikely that anything would be wrong anyway at this point - I understand your reticence to do amnio given the risk and your dp being unsure of what the right decision would be if you did get a positive. I hope you get a good nights sleep and can focus on enjoying the rest of the pregnancy x

This is such a big and stressful decision for you Bertie, and so much to weigh up - but it sounds like you've made the choice that feels right for you both. I think your logic about not swapping a bigger risk for a smaller one makes a lot of sense, and I also think you shouldn't be having any procedure - especially quite an invasive one - that instinctively makes you feel so anxious and upset. It sounds like you had a horrible day but really worked through some stuff that's been bubbling under there ever since you found out you were pregnant.

Congratulations @TheGrumpySquirrel! Gorgeous pic!

@BertieBotts sounds like you've had a lot of thinking to do, bless you. Pregnancy is stressful enough, never mind with other worries to consider. How are you feeling today?

Congratulations @TheGrumpySquirrel! Gorgeous pic!

@BertieBotts sounds like you've had a lot of thinking to do, bless you. Pregnancy is stressful enough, never mind with other worries to consider. How are you feeling today?

Congrats grumpy that is a lovely scan picture. So pleased it went ok for you.

bertie wow what a lot to process. I'm glad you could also write it all down here and also help hopefully to think things through. hope you're feeling ok today.

I don't really know how I'm feeling today. I had got more on board yesterday and was thinking about "our smiley boy" with or without any issues, and I also feel totally morbid for thinking so much about "issues" when it's really such a remote chance! I do want to have this baby, I don't want to go back and start again. I want to stop thinking about tests and results and see how it goes. I was not especially thinking about having an amnio at all so to have it suddenly presented as an option was probably the shock I wasn't sure about.

I'm a bit worried I haven't really processed it though because I've only had that one moment of crying about the lost train when I was totally tense about it and since then I thought I'd fall apart and "feel" it when I gave myself permission ie when I got home from work, yesterday when I was at home alone or today but no. It's back to pinterest clothes boards but my heart isn't quite as in it as it was before. It feels more like the early weeks when I was detached from the pregnancy, even though I can feel him moving around in there (and I can say "him" now without it being weird :)) I know I have plenty of time to bond and things so perhaps I just need to keep pushing on. I DO definitely no longer feel like it would be better to terminate for a serious disability at this stage than have the baby so that is a change from Tuesday night and makes me sure it's right not to have any testing now, so I think it's just a case of trusting and accepting whatever happens. There's just still always that what if.

I think it makes sense that you're very much still processing - it's such a lot to think about and go through. I know it's particularly hard because if you did want an amniocentesis then it needs to be done soon, but I think you need to give yourself the weekend, at the very least, to keep thinking, keep talking to DH, and hopefully to come to a place where you feel like you can completely accept the decision you've made.

Ps. Yes please on the new thread, Bertie!

I'm so simple I have no idea where the new one is, or is anyone will even get this message 😂

and I have very gracefully thrown up a couple on times on my way to work like a classy bitch

@BertieBotts when you make one will you link it here?

My anxiety levels are ridiculous at the moment. I've not really felt movement despite being nearly 20 weeks - I know I've got an anterior placenta which could be the reason. But other than an expanding stomach which I'm still convinced is just fat, I don't feel pregnant.

Scan isn't until 23rd which still feels like an age away. And the lack of bleeding is making me highly suspicious.

Hope everyone is doing okay.

9 weeks today and as nervous as ever. I am finding my anxiety is spilling into other things so feel like i am worrying about anything and everything! Its exhausting....

Just past 8 weeks and also in a constant state of low terror. Very tiring indeed.

Kirin I had an anterior placenta with my dd and felt nothing until about 25 weeks. Was very disconcerting when she suddenly started doing huge star jumps which I only ever felt down my sides until much later, so it defo does affect feeling movement.

Sorry, I ended up getting distracted last night! Here's the new thread:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3221956-Fresh-Start-thread-for-pregnancy-after-miscarriage-or-loss

Oh dear...sheep! Little one wanted to go to a farm today. I never thought but as i was walking around suddenly paniced about sheep. I never touched them but hand santised anyway. Surely standing next to one isnt a risk??

Sheep are OK, it's pregnant ewes you need to avoid. If you're worried you could ask your midwife for a toxoplasmosis test after 2 weeks. IME if the sheep are risky they have signs up everywhere saying no pregnant women.

www.gov.uk/government/news/pregnant-women-advised-to-avoid-animals-that-are-giving-birth--2

Thanks Bertie they were ewes and lambs but i asked the farm and the last one was born 1 month ago so i hope thats ok...