Posifrickinspring thread for PG after MC!

[BertieBotts]

If we can't be positive about the weather what can we be?

Welcome posters new and old.

Beautiful baby unicorns, so glad all is well

An exciting day! Hope you have a quiet weekend ahead.

Just catching up on the thread after a couple of days away - really pleased to see good news for unicorns and, earlier in the week, for keepingon - so pleased for you both! Also nice to see other people at 24 weeks - there must be a load of us due within a few weeks of each other!

Heard baby girl's heartbeat this morning at my 25 week appointment (although I'm 24+5). Magical sound!

That's so lovely, flatwhite! The one upside of my horrible day of no movement panic was that DH got to hear the heartbeat at the hospital (I'd heard it at 16 weeks but he never had). I have my 26 week appointment later this week and he's coming with me (teacher so on holiday) so hoping we'll both get to hear him again!

It's such a lovely sound @LisaSimpsonsbff! It must have been such a relief for you and your DH to hear it after all that worry. I'm also a teacher and enjoying the break! Booked the appointment for today though as my DH works Mon-Fri. It was so nice for him to hear it.
I love the movements, but they are also stressful if baby goes quiet!

Hello all - our baby boy was born last night, two weeks early after a very quick labour, and all is fine! Thank you for all your support, and good luck to everyone!

Fabulous news stealth

Enjoy new born snuggles

Aww, lovely! Congratulations Stealth :)

Starting to get nervous again about my scans this week - Tuesday and Wednesday. But excited to find out the sex as well. Hopefully Tuesday's one is very straightforward which should ease the anxiety for Wednesday.

Huge congratulations stealth! Hope you're enjoying your little boy.

Good luck for the scans, Bertie - why two? Different doctors?

Yes basically we get a standard one at our normal gynecologist and then we get an extra detailed one (we have to go somewhere else) covered too because of DH's genetic issues just to rule anything out. I don't think he is really sleeping either. But I'm unsure whether he is stressed about the same thing as me or not! He got really stressed to find out the sex before whereas I've accidentally been coming across things about people having to TFMR, or prepare for a child with significant challenges after the 20 week scan where everything had looked fine before, and then I watched OBEM last night which had a story about a couple whose first child had been born with heart defects previously unseen and unfortunately died, and so I'm ramping up a bit with what might potentially be wrong, even though I know chances are high everything is okay! When we had the detailed scan last time they said they couldn't tell about heart issues at that point but it did seem to have all four chambers which is good because one baby in DH's family several years ago was born with half a heart. I'm reassured that baby seems to be moving well (constantly!) and when we've listened with the doppler the heartbeat seems to be strong even though of course we have no idea what exactly we're listening for.

On more lighthearted note, he really wants a girl but once we've had a girl he doesn't mind what the next one is. Whereas I don't mind what this one is but I'm hoping the next one will be the same! So I suppose I am also hoping for a girl by proxy.

Ahh good luck Bertie it's really quite nerve wracking isn't it. I haven't seen baby since 12 weeks and have my anomaly scan on Thursday. I'll be 21+3 and just praying that everything will have grown in the right place etc.

Congratulations stealth! I hope you're enjoying getting to know him.

Good luck for the scans this week bertie and grumpy. I hope all is well in there.

@BertieBotts I watched that OBEM and it is definitely anxiety provoking that not everything can be spotted on scans. I worry a lot something might be wrong. We just have to hope that won't be the case. Doesn't make the anxiety any easier though does it?! Good luck for your scans.

@TheGrumpySquirrel good luck for Thursday!

@Stealthtoast many congratulations! Lovely news.

25 weeks here! Time is going quickly but also slowly if you know what I mean?!

What a weird coincidence, DH and I watched that OBEM last night - I've never watched a single episode before but I'm starting to worry about birth (while I completely support the Mumsnet birth injuries campaign in principle, I don't think it's helping me at the moment!) and so, in a possibly dubious decision, decided we should watch it.

I know exactly what you mean about time passing both fast and slow now, flatwhite (we're at almost exactly the same stage - I'm 26 weeks). I've been on two work trips in the last three weeks so that's seemed to go past very quick (why couldn't they have sent me anywhere in the first trimester when every day seemed like a year?!), and I had a bit of a panic when I realised that, in theory, it's less than three months until I start mat leave now - I have a lot to do before then! At the same time, I still feel like I have such a long way to go.

God I've just had such a weird thing, about an hour ago now. Like a pulling or pinching, almost like somebody plucking out a hair but inside my womb? I was teaching so I ignored it so I wouldn't freak out the children and it hasn't happened since, nor am I in pain but it was so weird, took my breath away for a moment. Now I'm just anxiously waiting for the baby to move, but it's hard to feel when I'm out and about and I won't be home for another half an hour or so. Has anyone heard of this, is it a totally normal I should just mention it tomorrow thing or is it more of a panic now kind of thing? Guessing baby just hit directly on some kind of nerve?

I think I just got a kick so that's good :) I'll definitely try wait until I get home anyway so that DH will be with me.

Defo moving and I've felt the weird thing again a couple more times! Doesn't feel as alarming now I am expecting it but still vv weird.

@BertieBotts Oooh that's exciting!! How many weeks are you now?

20 weeks! Going to be a military operation of timing to get to the scan tomorrow, too - the tram drivers are on strike, aaargh!

Thinking of you today Bertie, hope the journey's not too rough and you get really good news.

Definitely mention the pain/discomfort you had and see what they say. Is it an appointment or just a scan?

I haven't seen it for years but was wondering about watching OBEM again, thanks for the warnings! Might give it a miss.

Probably a silly question. I've got another scan tomorrow at 10+5, then 12 week one at 12+5. Would you tell anyone after the tomorrow or think what's the point as may look alright growth wise (fx) but what if there's bad news on the screening one?

I'm half desperate to tell my sister but it's her wedding in a couple of months and I can't bear the thought of having to give her bad news again. Which I know could happen anytime, but is hopefully less likely after the screening one. Or am I mostly all good if tomorrow goes to plan anyway?

Every time I talk to her and don't say anything, when I know how worried she is I'll never get pregnant again, I feel like I'm lying. But I would hate bad news to ruin her wedding prep.

Sorry, really boring!

@AnneLovesGilbert
I think statistically the risk is about the same at 10 weeks and 12 (well 2% vs 1% or something). I miscarried at 10w but baby was only 8. I felt pretty confident after my 10wk scan this time around and we did tell a few people.

@BertieBotts good luck today! I'm literally counting the hours until Thursday morning

Anne I told a couple of friends after the scan I had at 8 weeks as that was the furthest I had ever got. I felt better telling them because it helped share the load of the stress amd anxiety. I guess it is whatever you feel comfortable with. I'm sure your sister would be delighted for you. I hope all is well tomorrow.

And good luck for today Bertie!

I'm having an anxious day. I had some pain this morning. It literally lasted about 10 mins and I think was probably bowel related if I'm honest but it has set me off on a bit of a spiral even though baby is being very wriggly as I type this.

I'm also finding it hard now my news is officially out in the open at work (I can't really hide it anymore!). Everyone is saying congratulations and how exciting, which is lovely, but part of me wants to say no it isn't, it is terrifying! But they don't need to know about all my trials, tribulations and worries.

Does anyone else get preoccupied with thinking that the baby could just die at literally any moment?

I think maybe I could do with a referral to perinatal mental health.

Thank you both.

When I was pregnant with my MMC one, she planned a trip from where she lives to spend xmas with the family and made a huge deal, in a lovely way, of wanting to see me pregnant. The MMC was finally over mid November and I barely made it through xmas with everyone's sadness and disappointment, I remember her face on a few occasions

So the idea of telling her, her happiness, especially at seeing me pregnant at her wedding bridesmaiding, and then having to take it away from her with bad news, is just stressing me out loads. However, it could be bad news tomorrow, or in 2 weeks with the screening, or from the bloods results after the screening, or at the 20 week scan the week before her wedding, I'm going to be massive by then (pretty inflated at the moment) and I'm going to have to let people know and get on board with it all.

I've told my Mum but not my Dad and SM. My brothers won't mind when they find out, they'll be pleased but not as much as my sister.

Scan Thursday Grumpy?

Totally hear you keepon, it's the weight of people's expectations, it's exhausting and I haven't told anyone yet! The friends you told at 8 weeks, did they know about your losses?

There are friends who will be over the moon for us, the people who shoot me a meaningful look every now and then and say they're sure it'll happen soon, and it'll be nice to tell them, but in a selfish way, I don't have enough in my tank to take on anyone's hopes and fears right now, even though I think it's natural to also feel you're lying by omission!

@TheGrumpySquirrel I was told the same thing after I had my scan at 10 weeks (I asked cuz I just needed to be realistic about getting to the dating scan with good news. They said the only reason people go by the 12 week one is because most people have their first scan at 12 weeks (ish) but statistically a good scan at 10 weeks gives you the same kind of percentage as the one at 12.

Anne my friends did know about all my losses so they knew not to be congratulating as such. They were more just hopeful and helped me to try and positive by reminding me (and still do) of everything that was different, such as having had my op, being further on than ever before, nothing to indicate it had gone wrong. We didn't tell any family even though it was blatantly obvious at christmas. They all also know about all our losses so we worked on the assumption that they had worked it out and hoped that the fact that we hadn't given them any bad news was enough. And none of them were upset that they hadnt been told earlier when we did tell them after the dating scan.