F***ity f*** f***, is 49 too old for a child?

[Salubrious]

I never swear but jeez I’m in shock. DH and I never had kids due to my endometriosis and in the end we just gave up...we do however have two beautiful step-children who I class as my own flesh and blood.

Today I found out I am pregnant. Missed my period and knew something was up as it’s like clockwork. Decided take a test just to rule it out and both tests had a big blue line! My DH is away on business and I’ve spent the day in a daze....I’m worried I’m too old and there’ll be a mass of medical complications...please someone tell me this can work out....

MY mum had my sisters at 42 and nearly 45. She made comment about her age to a nursing sister and she said a women in next ward was 52.
Also a mature lady at church had a baby, she was absolutely delighted and never had any problems. He has been a wonderful son, a complete joy to her and her husband and he has just started working.
So Congratulations. Look after yourself.

Congratulations! My Granny had my mum aged 48, and that was in 1951 without all the sophisticated medical advances we have now and both were fine, so of course its not too old.

Congratulations!!

Congratulations! My auntie had twins at 48. A year later she found out she was pregnant again...with another set of twins! Never too old OP!

My grandmother had a healthy baby (my dad) aged 45. This was in 1951!!!

You’ll be fine, go for it xx

Congratulations

What a wonderful Christmas surprise for you. All the best with the pregnancy.

Congratulations!!! Obviously not too old
Late babies are an incredible blessing. Don't envy you the night shifts tho :D

Congrats. Just take hangs one day at a time and try not to stress. Just enjoy the pregnancy and go with the flow. Good luck x

Congratulations!!!!

Congratulations

Hey congratulations I read an article on line only the other week that increased age is no longer thought to risky I wish I could remember where I read it to tell you all I can remember was one point they made about the risk used to be that as you get older they used to recommend amniocentesis which carried some risks but there's blood tests you can have now instead of amniocentesis xx

What lovely news!

So wonderful! Congratulations op! I am so happy for you. What a Christmas gift. Enjoy this magical time to the fullest

Nice Pricilla

Congrats! I have endo too and wasn't expecting to be able to have kids and then boom - twins (I was only 35 though). I'd definitely see your GP, start folic acid and prenatals Asap. Just be aware that multiples are more common as you get older ;)

Priscilla What a nasty message!

I’m not sure being a grandmother at 42 is something to aspire to pricilla.

OP, congratulations. It’s early days so take it one day at a time and try and enjoy it. I hope everything goes well!

Congratulations OP. My parents were mid 40s when they had me and I was an only child. I kept them young.

priscilla

You do realise the OP is an actual person? You are not just typing away your nasty shit to no one. Do you speak to people like that in real life? No, I bet you don't.

It depends how you feel really. I’m 30 and this is my last child because my body feels like it’s breaking to facilitate it, I don’t think being any older would be any good for me. That said there are 40 year olds that breeze through pregnancy like I did when I was 19/20... really just depends on yourself!

Congratulations!

Firstly, being older does not always mean a mass of medical complications, so try and take it day by day and stay positive. I felt stressed every single day of my much wanted pregnancy (at the sprightly age of 43) with twins, fearing it would all go horribly wrong and guess what, I sailed through it all with absolutely no medical problems but was miserable every day! Babies both born healthy & are those type of kids who are lucky enough to have never even been off school.
However, I hugely regret googling "older" pregnancies though, because I (eventually) realised its mostly only those who have suffered setbacks and heartache who post, and I think this really affected me.
So please try and relax and enjoy your pregnancy, your body has shown it is ready to conceive a baby - now you just have to keep reminding your brain of that amazing fact. Best Wishes.

Congratulations and good luck.

Priscilla you do realise that before contraception and legal abortion many women carried on having babies at this age? Because many women are still fertile?

Please ignore Prisilla above. FFS. Someone who was a grandparent at 42 probably doesn't understand what it's like to live through your typical childbearing years with a condition like this and have to come to terms with not having children.

It's obviously a difficult situation that requires careful thought and planning. I lost my mum at 61 so if I were having children later in life I'd have to be confident that there were family and finances in place to provide for them if anything happened. But my nanna lived to 94 so goodness knows things like that are not inevitable!

Do what you feel is right but it's absolutely possible. You would probably need to be under consultant care and closely monitored but so are many other women for many other reasons.

Congratulations!