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Staying posifrickentive- Thread 15 for ladies pg after mc

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XxBecxX · 05/03/2017 09:50

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MulderitsmeX · 23/04/2017 11:10

Hello all, may I join please?

Had a Mmc at 10 weeks (baby died at 8) beginning of jan.

Am now currently 4+4 so super super early but wondered if there are any tests that I should be having this time round? Doctors seemed confident it was just a chromosome thing last time and should be fine next time but I have no sympotoms yet so super stressing. Thanks!

Miami81 · 23/04/2017 12:43

Hi mulder
Congrats again. As you know from the ttc thread I am trying everything that I can legally get my hands on this time. But I have had two mc and just couldn't do nothing.
Statistics support your doctors theory so it is very high probability that you will be fine.
In the nicest way possible I hope that you get hit with loads of symptoms in the next week.

MulderitsmeX · 23/04/2017 14:03

Thanks miami its just such a head fuck isnt it?

Haha me too - never wanted so much to feel ill before in my life!!

SayItIsntSo1 · 23/04/2017 21:28

Hi Mulder, I hope this pregnancy is a successful one for you.

Amy, I remember having forgetfulness when pregnant with dd. Nothing like that yet with this one but there's time yet!

I am having an angst filled day. I always seem to get like this in a lead up to a scan or appointment. DH is away this Wednesday when my scan is and that is playing on my mind about how the hell I deal with something being wrong if I'm on my own.

On a better note- I'm 18wks tomorrow. I braved the scales yesterday and discovered I've put on 12lbs already! I'm hoping I can reign my eating in as I put on nearly 3.5st with dd and the last 14lbs were a nightmare to lose Blush

knorrig · 23/04/2017 22:59

Welcome Mulder wishing you a happy healthy pregnancy!
Miami and Mulder please don't worry if you don't get symptoms - a friend of mine had none with either of hers, me and my sister pulled a face when she told us after we'd both gone through pukey days up until week 16!
After my worry and hospital visit a few days ago worrying he wasn't moving much...I'm now lying here watching my belly wobble up and down...so weird to see!
31+1 today

TootsyBella84 · 24/04/2017 08:17

Hello ladies, I haven't posted much on here but still early days. 6+2 today and it's a week tomorrow until my scan at EPU. Sickness is officially kicking my ass, I had nausea and a little sickness with both mmc but not to this extent so I'm hoping it's a good sign even though I'm hating it. I'm really trying to be grateful! Bleugh I guess if we find out everything is okay I can try to embrace it and know its all worth it but right now I'm thinking this is just cruel if it's not good news again x

Miami81 · 24/04/2017 08:26

So light spotting has become a definite bleed, and the cramping has continued. It definitely just feels like a period now. Did a cb digi this morning and got a 3+ but not feeling super positive that this is a viable one. At 4+6 today. Going to try and get gp to do hcg bloods today and follow up during the week. At least that way we will know for definite. Limbo is the f'ing worst.

GingerHanna · 24/04/2017 08:44

Oh I'm sorry Miami... I hope you get certainty quickly.

grainmum · 24/04/2017 08:51

miami sorry that you are having a worrying time, hope you can take it easy today and that you have support around you.

say I'm hope the anxiety is better today. I think after our previous experiences we are programmed to brace ourselves for bad news. Try to focus on the facts, and on today x

WLMcI · 24/04/2017 09:45

Aaaaahhh so this is happening! I'm 4+4 today; it's my second pregnancy, my first ended in a MC in early Feb. I found out 2 days ago and it still feels unreal. It was so unexpected as I was sure AF was on the way (moderate cramps bang on 4 weeks), but the bean seems to be hanging in there so far. Mild cramping and odd twinges was a symptom for week 4 last time I was pg, so I guess there's a pattern there, but it's a head-melt!

Has anyone else found that your inhibitions about telling people have changed one way or the other after MC? For me, I've found myself wanting people to know about what's going on, whereas I would have been quite a private person before. I ended up telling everyone I work with about the MC and they were amazing, as were my family and another close friend. I've already told my mother about this pg, as I want her to know how I'm doing and I know she has worried about me these past months. I didn't tell her until later with the last one, and everyone else will be after the 8 week scan or 12 week scan--but I want her with me on this from the start. And that's unusual! Maybe now I just understand better how a mother can be absolutely demented with worry so I feel closer to her.

It's a nervous time, so I've concocted my plan: 1) Going to the community midwife at the GP tomorrow for booking in as they're only there on Tuesdays, and I have no Tuesdays off work in May. I'm sure she'll be all "oh, it's really early" but there are no standard 8 week booking-in appointments here, it's come-when-you-can. 2) Then holding on to my positivity until the 8 or 9 week scan which I arrange myself with the EPU. 3) Trying to be super fastidious on the banned foods and caffeine front, as well as doing the morning yoga and bedtime sleepy ocean waves talk-down so I sleep better. 4) Trying not to bore you all by writing a novel for every MN post! Grin X

INeedNewShoes · 24/04/2017 10:25

Oh Miami - how frustrating. I hope it turns out to be a one-off bleed. Its good that the test is saying 3 weeks. You must have a decent level of HCG which is more than half the battle. Crossing my fingers for you.

knorrig · 24/04/2017 10:44

Everything crossed for you too Miami there's a few from this thread who had early bleeds and now have babies so hopefully everything will be okay.

SayItIsntSo1 · 24/04/2017 11:40

Miami I hope everything turns out ok.

Welcome WLM.

Well I am freaking out even more today. I feel a bit ridiculous really, that I can get so worked up. It's proving difficult to focus on work and I'd like to go home and hide for a few hours to get my head straight. On my way in to London for a 1-2-1 with my boss so doubt that is going to be a possibility today Sad.

SayItIsntSo1 · 24/04/2017 11:41

Knorrig I'm glad you're getting those reassuring stomach wobbles, they're ace, if a little odd to watch Smile

Hazandduck · 24/04/2017 12:33

Just catching up after a weekend of utter exhaustion and feeling so crap. Has anyone else had tiredness and nausea get worse after 10 weeks?? I thought it was meant to ease! I'm 11 weeks today and feel like a zombie.
Miami I'm really sorry this has happened, crossing everything it is just a bleed and will stop soon.
Say I hope you are ok, do you have any techniques to help with anxiety? A friend you can call or maybe yoga or even just sitting quietly with a cup of tea?
Sock thank you your wedding sounds like it was amazing and you didn't let other people try and control the day! It's so easy to give in to what people tell you you should and shouldn't do.
Ah thank you pooch I love a wedding! It's so much fun planning it all, I don't get the bridezilla stress it's honestly one of my favourite things I've ever done haha x

theotherendofthesockportal · 24/04/2017 12:45

Hi ladies, I'm feeling absolutely exhausted, which is making me feel really sick.

I was up 5 times last night to go the loo. Is this normal or should I be asking my midwife about a possible uti?

@WLMcI I have been quite open about my mmc, I need the support. It's changed me as a person, I used to be a bit of a doormat but now I'm feeling better about standing up for myself. This is all down to the dismissive attitude of the a&e department when I turned up bleeding. I'm keeping this pregnancy as quiet as I can for as long as I can.

@Miami81 I have my fingers crossed for you.

@Hazandduck please keep us informed of your wedding plans! I'm excited for you

oliversmummy26 · 24/04/2017 12:49

Miami just wanted to send hugs and positive thoughts, hope you get some good news soon... Flowers

Hazandduck · 24/04/2017 13:24

Sock I feel you on the tiredness making you sick thing. I don't feel sick generally it is just I get so tired I feel like if I don't sleep immediately it's like a car sickness/fuzzy head feeling. Horrible, but actually really reassuring as I've had hardly any sickness and quite a lot of back and stomach pains this whole pregnancy.
I will keep you updated definitely :) It's amazing seeing it all come together. We are giving notice tomorrow afternoon, think it will feel real then!
Also, re changing after a miscarriage. I have totally changed. I'm scared to tell anyone now in case it goes wrong, hence why I've got my first midwife appointment on Friday at 11+4! Beforehand I told so many people and I did share about my miscarriage and was astounded by the support of so many people and how many women had gone through it too...It has taken away my innocence and I guess naivety about pregnancy and really made me appreciate my relationship with my OH. We are so much closer now. I definitely think it's made me more private and withdrawn about TTC and being pregnancy again x

SayItIsntSo1 · 24/04/2017 15:15

Thank you lovely ladies. Haz I have a few things that help but not many of them work in the office. I find if I can switch myself on to getting in to work it helps and then I can deal with it better at home. It's just Wednesday's playing on my mind, I can't imagine going to a scan and not worrying there is going to be something wrong and it all builds from there.

Meant to say the other day, if you're still reading Alb, I popped on to yours other thread and I'm so pleased things are going well so far for you and baby Alb. I'm sure we're all still rooting for you here.

We'll be on to thread 16 soon! I remember when my MC happened I hoped I'd be on the thread by a particular number. Can't even remember what it was now but it seemed very important at the time Confused

knorrig · 24/04/2017 21:31

Thanks Say it does really help after my panic last week!
Sorry you're having freakouts, it's so tough...I had a complete meltdown the day of my 20 week scan, I burst into tears in the hospital coffee shop just panicking they'd give me bad news. I don't think I'll feel completely okay until he's here in my arms.

Haz sorry to say but the tiredness went on until about week 16 (maybe later) for me, I kept saying to OH I wonder when I'm going to get this 2nd trimester burst of energy! The nausea did fade too - the acupressure bands really helped me too.

capet · 24/04/2017 21:32

Hi,
Do you mind if I join?
10+6 today, ttc no 2
Have had two previous mmc-last august and December, started bleeding at 10+3/4 with both of them, baby measured 8+2 both times,
So obviously really nervous this time and time is dragging,
Have my booking in scan in 2 weeks,
I can find the foetal heartbeat on doppler, have been able to for past 2 weeks,
However this evening- TMI alert- went to toilet and have been constipated, when I wiped there was bright blood on tissue, i thought maybe pile but it was really difficult to tell where it was coming from-I know that sounds ridiculous.
I found the heartbeat again after-took ages, much easier to find in morning and it was faint but 160bpm or so,
Has this happened to anyone else?
I might try to get an earlier scan this week now, really anxious, thought I was coming into the relatively safe zone

Hazandduck · 24/04/2017 23:07

Hi capet we are very close in dates, I'm 11 weeks today.
Has the bleeding stopped now? If you've had constipation could you maybe have piles from straining? They can bleed I think. I really hope that's all it is.
I had two MCs at 10+3 too last year and getting past that day this time felt like such a breakthrough! I've paid for an early scan and it was totally worth it to put my mind at ease (for about half an hour...)
I have a Doppler but am too scared to try and find the heartbeat. Have you spoken to your midwife about your concerns? X

FlourishingMrs · 25/04/2017 04:34

Hope you are all well. Baby is nearly six months. How time goes.

oliversmummy26 · 25/04/2017 10:19

Capet chances are if you've had no more bleeding that everything will be fine, but can you speak to your GP and ask to be referred to the EPU? They would hopefully see you in the next day or so and be able to put your mind at rest.

FWIW I had a mmc at 10 weeks and baby measuring 8ish weeks...started with light bleeding which got heavier over 2 days before my scan at EPU. However, with this pregnancy (am now 20+2) I've had loads of bleeds and baby is just fine. So it's not necessarily the end to have bleeding...keeping everything crossed for you.

capet · 25/04/2017 10:53

no bleeding after that, just small bit of brown this am when came into work, no cramps or anything, my 2 mmc started with pinkish discharge that then went on to become period like bleeding,
have googled and apparently you can irritate your cervix by excessive straining,
i could find heartbeat again ok this morning
but am going to book a private scan later today i think to see what's happening
am now incredibly aware of every twinge and ache