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Fed is Best!!!!!!

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HotDawg123 · 26/02/2017 20:58

If you choose to breast feed - good for you
If you choose to bottle feed - good for you
But if you choose to be a breast feeding warrior and look at those who choose to bottle feed as scum then I hope you slip in dog shit tomorrow.

The amount of horrible women I've come across who are like this is too many now. And as I am heavily pregnant and have hormone rage it is really pissing me off.

Thank you for listening.

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Onedaylikethi5ayear · 26/02/2017 21:00

Yes, definitely! Someone will probably pop along to tell you you are wrong but I agree wholeheartedly.

buckyou · 26/02/2017 21:01

Who are these people? I don't know any!

shippysail · 26/02/2017 21:01

See I always hear about these horrible women but 2 dc later and I'm still yet to meet one...I think the only person who commented on my feeding choice was my mil Wink

JJ1612 · 26/02/2017 21:01

I have chosen to bottle feed my daughter when she arrives. When people ask me if I'm planning on breastfeeding and I reply no they always look at me funny or give some kind of snide comment. Even the midwife gave me loads of breastfeeding leaflets at my last appointment even tho I told her I was planning on bottle feeding.

All I can say is my boobs, my choice!!!

KatnissMellark · 26/02/2017 21:02

I want to breastfeed but I don't care what anyone else does as long as they are happy and supported in their choice. Your body, your baby, your choice.

OuchBollocks · 26/02/2017 21:04

To be fair I would suggest that fed is the bare minimum!

YouJumpIJumpJack · 26/02/2017 21:04

You're right. I put myself through so much stress for four months carrying on because I didn't want people to think badly of me. I should have just done what I bloody well wanted.

I tried so hard but it wasn't for us. Fed IS best!

OuchBollocks · 26/02/2017 21:17

It's all misogyny anyway. Women are made to feel bad whatever their feeding choices. Breastfeeding? Exhibitionist! Selfish! Let dad do a feed to bond! Formula feeding? Selfish! Bad mother! Think of the children! It's just another tool to grind us down.

MichelleFowler · 26/02/2017 21:19

Breast is best.

Bottle is also fine.

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DianaMemorialJam · 26/02/2017 22:05

Breast is best.

Bottle is also fine

I do hope you keep that opinion to yourself.

nonsparkle · 26/02/2017 22:08

As long as mum and baby are both happy then how they are fed is no one else's business imo. I was on a birth board with a member of the breastfeeding police she was a cow.

KarmaKit · 26/02/2017 22:09

I whole heartedly agree.

I would also like to add if you're a bottle feeding mum who refers to breastfeeding mums as "breastapo" "breastfeeding nazi" or "weird hippies doing it for sexual kicks" then you can bugger off. General "you" not anyone personally.

Goes both ways.

Mrsknackered · 26/02/2017 22:11

Don't let it wind you up, your baby, your body, your choice.
However, I don't think I've really seen much negativity towards either these days. My grandma will argue that only a bottle satisfies baby and others would argue that it is liquid poison. End of the day, it's usually only a year of either and then it's in the past and forgotten and no one cares.
Mothers get judged no matter what they do.

JellyWitch · 26/02/2017 22:14

Breastfeeding is the biological norm (not "best"). But formula can be a lifesaver.

So long as women who want to breastfeed get all the information and support they need, no one should be coming after those who don't want to with a big stick.

pyjamaarama1 · 26/02/2017 22:15

Never met a real life breast feeding warrior.

Only come across them on MN funnily enough. The place for parents. Hmm Suppose they are safe behind their screens and keyboard though!

I formula fed from birth. I had no desire to breast feed and nobody will succeed making me feel guilt about it. I have a healthy happy child who eats a balanced diet and is thriving in every way.

I don't give a shit what anybody says about my choices, they are mine, everyone should concentrate on their own choices and own children.

Imstickingwiththisone · 26/02/2017 22:17

I've got a 6 week old and it's surprising how many people have asked how I'm feeding my baby, even from people who I just know in passing. I don't know whether others experience this or if I'm odd for thinking it's odd but I often think in my head 'what the hell has it got to do with you?'. I wouldn't ask the mother of a 5 year old what she feeds her child.

Is this just me?

MrsFarebrother · 26/02/2017 22:21

It's not just you, people do ask and it is an incredibly nosy and insensitive thing to ask.

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HotDawg123 · 26/02/2017 22:24

So someone reported me
Cheers
Think I can guess how they feed their baby

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sphinxster · 26/02/2017 22:26

2 DCs and haven't encountered this shit.

I was nervous approaching the subject with the midwives when I was pregnant with DC 2 and the midwife said "it's nothing to do with us, we don't take the baby home".
I hang out with a bunch of hippy baby-wearing hiking mums and they haven't so much as given me a suspicious sideways glance.

I'm sure it goes on but I'm certain these opinionated control freaks are in a minority.

AfroPuffs · 26/02/2017 22:30

Well you've come on here with a goady post attacking those that BF...but tried to hide it under a "fed is best" banner.

Why exactly did you post this OP? Hmm

happy2bhomely · 26/02/2017 22:31

I have formula fed 2dc because I wanted to. I didn't want to attempt to breastfeed the first. I made a half-hearted attempt with the second.

I breastfed 3 dc for a total of 54 months, because I wanted to and was able.

I got no support for either, but lots of questions and criticisms for breast feeding, by family friends and members of the public.

It didn't affect their growth, health or weight. It didn't affect their sleeping patterns or how clingy they were to me. It didn't affect how we bonded or how they bonded with their dad.

I agree that breast is best for the baby.
Whatever the mother wants to do is best for the mother, and ultimately better for the baby.
Formula is absolutely fine and nothing to feel guilty about.

NotTheBelleoftheBall · 26/02/2017 22:31

I exclusively FF DD. No one has been foolish enough to openly query it, I've only once been made to feel bad about it (inadvertently). I can sometimes see my 'Earth Mother' pals very carefully choosing their language to ensure they don't offend me regarding my decision. The HV raised an eyebrow, but hey-ho, my baby and I love her very much and look after her very well, but breastfeeding is not for us.

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HotDawg123 · 26/02/2017 22:32

For those who have chose to report me let me explain a bit better why I feel so passionately that "breast is best" should not be rammed down women's throats...:

  • some women cannot breast feed. Not through choice. And it may already be a sore point as to why they can't so to be told "breast is best" or patronising comments can be hurtful.
  • there is nothing wrong with formula for babies. What is wrong is leaving a baby screaming and not feeding them at all. Look down upon those people if you must.
  • the point is not that breast feeding mums are bitches. Only those who dispise formula and are wankerish to those who bottle feed.

I've had my own personal experiences with these types who have made me feel awful about myself and low and it gave me PND with my firstborn.
I just wanted to get it off my chest and maybe change some people's mind about it.
Jeez.

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HotDawg123 · 26/02/2017 22:33

AfroPuffs
Read again. I'm not attaching BFers
Nice try

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