Fed is Best!!!!!!

[HotDawg123]

If you choose to breast feed - good for you
If you choose to bottle feed - good for you
But if you choose to be a breast feeding warrior and look at those who choose to bottle feed as scum then I hope you slip in dog shit tomorrow.

The amount of horrible women I've come across who are like this is too many now. And as I am heavily pregnant and have hormone rage it is really pissing me off.

Thank you for listening.

I would rather avoid having large cow molecules floating around in my baby's bloodstream. The consequences of this can last a lifetime.

Much better for my DC that I didn't die tbh.

constructive and respectful

you two are the fucking breastapo for sure.

bitch plopping

I bow to your leading example.

piglet- formula can be a life saver, no one disputes that.

Skerry don't get upset because I've called you out on your snidey bottle bashing.

And my comments were in response to your mini crusade you had earlier on the thread. HTH.

diana- I'm not "upset" at all, how funny. I am amused at your call for "constructive and respectful" dialogue, when you are clearly unwilling to do so yourself.

Read my other comments to people who actually want to discuss and debate. You don't. You DO bitch plop in these threads. I've conversed with you before. You just go on and on about formula being terrible and anyone that doesn't do it hasn't tried hard enough. I lost all respect for you when you were snidey and cruel to a woman who had had a double mastectomy.

You just go on and on about formula being terrible and anyone that doesn't do it hasn't tried hard enough.

You have invented that for your own purposes.

I really don't get these people who consider themselves such a hugely important influence in your life that they feel perfectly entitled to sneer and comment on how you choose to feed your baby. It's nobody elses business and it's utterly cringeworthy when I hear of people who think their opionion which is most likely never asked for, should override someone elses reasonable, personal choice.

It's fucking annoying.

I chose and am choosing to breastfeed. I went on to formula feed after a while with my eldest two. I was fed up with the pain and not being able to do anything on my own because my boobs were in demand all the time! That was right for me then and now I'd like to breastfeed as long as possible because it feels right for me now. I may switch to bottle feeding, I may not.

I wouldn't dream of telling anybody what I thought of their choice to breastfeed or not, 'cos it's nothing to do with me.

Somebody asking you what you think?

Fair enough.

Being a pushy know it all?

Piss off

Tell the opinionated fucks to shit off
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Opinion* not opionion!

Aargh!!! F-ing fed is best! Such an awful phrase and a damn scary campaign.

Fed is not best. Fed is be bare minimum to be above neglect. I couldn't give two hoots how anybody feeds their child but I don't think 'well done, you're at least feeding your child.' That's not a good enough standard!

Breast is not best, breast is the biological norm. Formula is a life saving product and thank god it has been developed. But there are two issues being confused:

1. Parental support - for both BF and FF mothers

1. Parental choice (mothers choice) -Choosing to feed one way or the other does not mean you feel negatively about the other way. On MN, IMO, there is far more negativity towards BF with a lot of name calling about it. There's a lot of info about BF, more than FF, but that's because of the nature of BF.

Choosing to feed your baby with formula does not mean that there shouldn't be the support available for all ways of feeding. BF mothers have a shocking lack of support because the medical/healthcare professionals aren't properly educated in BF. Many mums are forced to use resources such as MN because there is so little support for BF. FF does not need the same level of support - all the instructions are on the tub. It's not the personal attack on FF mums that people take it as.

Also I couldn't breastfeed either, I didn't produce milk at all

skerry whatever you say dear. Your militant stand point only serves to do your cause a misjustice.

I found (and I remember talking to my GP about this and she had the same opinion), that getting mum's to bf isn't the issue, its supporting them to do it and continue with it.

Having a health care assistant just telling me to 'put him on' and walk out the room, was not supportive or helpful.

I have to be honest that with both pregnancies I've found the bf support in hospital to be non existent. The midwives are too busy.

Oh god this thread has bought them all out!!

What FartnissEverbeans said, in spades.

Tea has summed it up for me. Fed is best is just ridiculous.

I've done both but am well aware that breast feeding has so much more benefit for mum and baby, and to say fed is best just belittles all the hard work that breast feeding mothers have put in.

Why does everyone have to make such a big deal of it though?! Do what works for you and move on

Postnatal wards are the pits of hell in my experience AnoiseAnnoysanOyster My hospital apparentlyhas breastfeeding support awards ffs, I didn't see any of it despite asking, and was made to feel like shit for asking. Hence leaving the hospital with bleeding nipples and no latch ASAP.

I think theres a problem with bottle feeding mums feeling judged and then taking a sneery stance at breastfeeding. Some bottle feeding mums make me feel as though im making a point by breastfeedig that theyre shit and im better - i couldnt give a fig how you feed your child - im not vreastfeeding mine to make you feel/look bad! (Dislaimer: this is only some mums, not the vast majority. I the same way that some bf mums are militant). Threads like this annoy me tbh. If nobody made a thing of it, it wouldnt be a thing!

And to be clear - i think a large portion of thw 'judging' that bottle fed mums feel is in their heads! Although i will agree that pressure from the nhs in the early days is wrong.. i dont ever see judging from mums except on mn

Tbh I've had more comments about me choosing to breastfeed. I feel like professionals promote breastfeeding but family and friends make comments such as:
He will sleep easier if you bottle Feed.
Maybe your milk is giving him colic, try formula.
Top him up with formula so he doesn't get hungry.
He is clingy because he's breastfed.
Give him a bottle so his dad can feed him during the night.
Breastfeeding is only good for first 6 weeks, then give formula.
It will make your life so much easier if you give formula.
Once you give formula you will wonder why you didn't start earlier.

It's not the personal attack on FF mums that people take it as.

That sums it up. Mums who breastfeed really do not give a flying fuck how others feed their baby, most peer supporters do it from a position of knowing how hard it is. But honestly, biologically in most cases, breast is best. Maybe the slogan is too pithy, but that is the nature of slogans!

Now as a FF mum, you take this unarguable generalisation as an attack on your personal individual choices or feeding problems and want to distort the general truth to comfort yourself that formula is just as good for a baby's nutrition, development, weight, immunity etc go ahead. But be prepared that all the women who have made a scientifically informed choice, often at considerable personal cost, will not be overjoyed in the way you diminish their achievement to breastfeed.

I think theres a problem with bottle feeding mums feeling judged and then taking a sneery stance at breastfeeding.

Exactly.

And it's us breastfeeders to blame for making formula feeders feel bad.

It's hard enough for many mothers to breastfeed without having to shoulder all that shit being dumped on us.

Pen as someone that has been called a 'lazy bitch' when I was bottle feeding my son in a cafe and ignored and left out from a post natal group as I was one of only two that was bottle feeding, I can assure you there is plenty of hate on both sides.

I have supported my SIL who is currently breastfeeding, she has done amazingly.