Fed is Best!!!!!!

[HotDawg123]

If you choose to breast feed - good for you
If you choose to bottle feed - good for you
But if you choose to be a breast feeding warrior and look at those who choose to bottle feed as scum then I hope you slip in dog shit tomorrow.

The amount of horrible women I've come across who are like this is too many now. And as I am heavily pregnant and have hormone rage it is really pissing me off.

Thank you for listening.

But pen some mums really do
That much is evident from this thread

Lots of good points on here. As I've said I've done both but actually felt more judgment from BF. No one in my circle did it and I was made to feel uncomfortable, but also that I was bringing it upon myself for BF!

Can't we all just stop talking about it and get on with supporting each other?

diana skerry whatever you say dear. Your militant stand point only serves to do your cause a misjustice

You are fighting a straw man.

I have no " cause", I am not "militant". If viewing me in these terms makes you more comfortable in your choices that's your prerogative, but highlights your attitude as being very shallow.

serial As a ff mum that has been relied on by my SIL for middle-of-the-night calls when she has been close to going for the bottle because she is sore/tired/not latching etc, I can assure you in the real world women DO support eachother. However, there are a select couple of posters on here who revel in their breast feeding smugness. I have observed it. I will say, yet again, it was on a thread about a new mother who had had a double mastectomy. No. Fucking. Need.

Yes primary!

If 'fed is best' was a rational, well-balanced, research based campaign, then it wouldn't be anything to do with mum's who choose to FF, whether at birth or after a period of BF. It should be a campaign to inform new mum's of the signs that feeding (BF or FF!) isn't getting enough milk into baby. Instead, it desperately tries to scaremonger mum's into using formula when there maybe isn't the need. (Again, I'm not talking about people who have CHOSEN to FF!!) It doesn't spend enough of its time informing parents or campaigning for the education of healthcare professionals to be a credible campaign IMO.

It's just fuelling these 'mummy wars'

skerry like I said, the thread where you were snide and cruel to a woman who had had breast cancer has made me lose any respect for you. So good day to you.

And I also feel there is far more judgement for formula feeding- far more. Maybe it's the circles I mix in.
And Diana ffs what did she say? Well if you tried hard enough you could have a breast tissue transplant or hire a wet nurse? Some people are incredible

If I posted to say I fed my one year old nothing but processed microwave meals and McDonald's, would people say
'Fed is best, it's up to you what you feed your baby, it's not poison, they won't starve, as long as you're happy baby will be fine'

I understand why some people give formula the same as I understand why some people give their baby/child nothing but processed food. To compare breast milk to formula and say 'fed is best' is just complete nonsense.

Fed is not best. It is a biological fact universally throughout the globe that breast is best. If you are choosing not to give your baby 'the best' then deal with your guilt. Taking rubbish on here just makes you look ignorant op.

I literally HATE all this animosity between mothers.... when we have babies we need to do what works for us.

I am breastfeeding - but I have found it really difficult at times and completely understand why others choose to FF.

I have lots of mum friends, some BF & some FF.... it's their choice and I don't care.

However my husband has a serious illness and is on immunosuppressants & after a load of blood tests on me - his healthcare team have impressed the importance on me that I continue breastfeeding so that I can pass on my immunity and maintain my DD's as much as possible until she's old enough to have loads of vaccinations including chicken-pox etc or she is more at risk of passing on normal childhood illnesses that could make him seriously ill.

In our situation breast is best & it's not always just about being fed and I'm sorry that you find that slogan so offensive.

My journey has been really hard - and those who are passionate about breastfeeding are the ones who have helped me when they didn't need to and when H/V were out of their depth.

At what point was I able to make a choice to be a breastfeeding warrior??? I didn't see that in any of the leaflets.

I'd like some war paint please. Is there a choice of weapons?

I breastfeed a 3 year old. I've heard all the comments.

I BF because it's free and I'm lazy and I was lucky enough to find it fairly easy after a few rocky days and some good support, but if you say that on MN you're accused of being a smug BFer.

FF mothers feel judged, BF mothers feel judged. That sounds like a big pile of dog shit all by itself.

dont her and her friend kept staring at me ( I started to wonder if I had something on my face or something !) and they had sour faces. Then she came out with it. So I said 'yep pretty much love' and she backed off.

All I don't think YOU are smug. I think that's lovely actually. And amazing!

However said Bfing Mums don't care how other people feed their babies I disagree. I'm on a FB group (for gentle parents ironically) where FF is massively looked down on and judged, if anyone mentions they are FFing they are questioned about why they are not breastfeeding and that formula is poison etc.
Everyone should just mind their own business and feed their baby however they want to.

love that's an unfair comparison.

And if you saw my earlier post for example, I think there isn't enough focus on toddler feeding POST weaning. That as a nation is where we fail IMO.

diana- Everyone should just mind their own business and feed their baby however they want to.

Again a very shallow attitude.

Are you suggesting society is meaningless?

If you are choosing not to give your baby 'the best' then deal with your guilt. Taking rubbish on here just makes you look ignorant op.

Comments like this are ignorant. Some of the comments I had had me in tears.

I had no bloody choice yet people chose to comment about my situation. Commenting about my 'choice' with absolutely no knowledge and willful ignorance.

sorry diana- I misquoted you.

I make that comment to chocolate.

skerry I never said that, you have quoted so embody else. But nice try 😬

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Do people not normally get support from community MW/HV?

My midwife has told me to use formula as my baby hasn't put on any of the weight he lost after birth and I can't express enough to supplement feeds. His latch is fine, although when I thought it wasn't in hospital I was given a galipot and told to hand express and shown pages in a book for instructions. I was 12 hours post-partum with not a clue. Neither of these approaches have felt supportive.

kardashianlove the suggestion that I am effectively topping up with junk / fast food, despite this being the medically indicated management plan, is hugely offensive.

But this is it. It's really not amazing to breastfeed a three year old. Biologically, it's just normal. But we have moved so far away from what is normal with our convenience food and jumperoos and car seats that normal is now a tiny fucking dot on the horizon. That's why 'fed is best' worries me. It takes what is biologically normal and tries to define a new post modern norm! Normal has now become stopping breastfeeding after six/twelve months, but that hasn't been 'normal' for the last several millennia!

It's really not amazing to breastfeed a three year old

I disagree.