Staying posifrickentive- Thread 14 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

This is last time I'll be able to start up a new thread...so here we go ladies!!!

cookie for me ginger biscuits helped and bread sticks. Like everyone says... little and often. It does go away! At the time I thought I was dying I felt so rough! Now I can't even remember it. Hope it disappears for you soon.

Little pooch. It is such a hard decision and we all know the feeling of not really relaxing after the first 12 weeks. 39 weeks today and still paranoid...
We told our parents after 2 successful early scans at 11 weeks but I still felt a little uncomfortable with it and they were under strict instructions to not tell anyone else. We then told wider family at 16 weeks. To be honest, if/when we have number two, I think I would try and wait a bit longer! I found it really scary up to about 24/25 weeks thinking about all the people who knew and what I would say if something went wrong.
I think you have to go with what feels right to you and maybe compromise with your DP. Waiting for the test results sounds like a good compromise and asking DP to tell MIL not to share yet.

pooch we told close family over Christmas when I was about 8 wks (after successful early scan), mainly because they would have realised from me not drinking anyway. And have told some extended family following 12wks scan.
I have also told a few friends at varying points inbetween. My line manager knows and one work friend but no one else at work yet and am nowhere near comfortable telling all unsundry yet.

If my MIL had been like yours I would definitely be very hesitant about telling her though I can understand your OH wanting to tell her.

Have you explained to him how she made you feel and why you don't want her to know yet?

cookie i needed savoury things for nausea and found salty popcorn helped. I also ate dry cereal but not sweet stuff - can't remember what it was now - and nuts. With DS I ate a lot of gingernuts but this time didn't fancy them.

pooch this time we told my parents and DPs parents but they were asked not to tell anyone else and didn't. We felt if things went wrong we would need their support.
We got not good news at the 12week scan (later turned out to all be fine) so was really glad I hadn't told anyone. It made me want to keep it quiet for as long as possible and we didn't tell people until after the 20week scan. I'm now 29+4 and still haven't told work or some friends and have really suffered with anxiety about telling people but most other people I know go with telling people after the 12week scan when the blood results are back. With DS we told people outside close family after hearing the HB at the 16week appointment.

Pooch for this pregnancy we told parents and my close friends very early as I was in and out of hospital so OH said we should tell them. It wasn't the nicest experience as we just said "we are pregnant but might not be for long"... I was very negative! But then I told people slowly after my 12 week scan. Didn't tell kids at school until after 20 weeks. I didn't want to tell anyone, would have rather people just discovered it! I was (and am still!) so nervous something would go wrong and my MIL was always pressuring me to tell people when I was with her. I hated it!
I suppose tell the people you trust the most and those who will be there for you through the anxious times. For me a switch sort of flipped after 20 weeks and I didn't mind telling people.

INeedNewShoes I'm trying to but the thought of food is making me sick. Managed to get down some toast though and trying to nibble on some ginger biscuits Purple Thankyou will deffo try and give the sickness bands a try
littlepooch i know it's awful! But worth every second. Thankyou for that, have been sipping water and it seems to be helping.

Ginger Jpeg Ants Thanks guys, seems to be easing off now, had a 2 hour nap which helped too!! 🙈 Ginger biscuits it is, lucozade dosnt really go down well with me so trying to drink lots of water instead

Hi ladies, just dropping in to share the happy news that my little girl arrived healthy and thriving on the 8th Feb at 41 + 2. We had complications during delivery where due to her large head being at an awkward angle and my small birth canal her heart rate dropped when I was pushing and we had an emergency forceps delivery. I then lost a lot of blood and had tacchycardia and time on the HDU, although she was absolutely fine once born (thank god!). I'm now out of hospital on the mend and loving every moment with my new cuddly bundle of joy. To those still pregnant, I hope your journeys have as happy an outcome as mine, all the best with upcoming deliveries for those near the end too xxx

Congratulations Lucky!!! So good to hear from you. Sorry it was a little traumatic for you both but glad you are both doing well. Xxx

Congratulations lucky! What lovely news! I'm glad you are home now x.

Thank you everyone for your thoughts and experiences. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels cautious. If I had my way I'd keep it quiet until 20 weeks. But dh feels there comes a point where we have to try and be positive and not live with a feeling of doom hanging over us. I do get that. I think I will ask dh if we can wait until the test results at the very least and then he can tell his mum but to be firm and say she is NOT to tell anyone else until we say so. If she does then as far as I am concerned - that will be it for any sort of relationship between her and me. He knows she's a bit of a nightmare but they have a complicated relationship and I think he feels bad that my mum has known since 6 weeks and she doesn't. He sees how close I am with my parents and how supportive and caring they are and I think deep down he'd like that with his own mother. Except she's not interested. He knows how I felt about what she did to me and accepts that she was an insensitive cow to do that to me.

Congratulations lucky, glad that despite the troubles on the way you're little bundle areived safe and well in the end and glad you are now recovering and enjoying your time together.

It is definitely very hard to feel positive and excited durjng a pregnancy after mc. I was lucky enough to have my DD with no problems or worries (caught in the first month of trying too) and apart from a vague knowledge that something bad could happen it never really felt like it would. Roll on 4 years, almost 2 years trying and 2 mcs and it is so hard to just be excited as everything feels on a knife edge. Like the mcs have opened up a huge world or worries and fears. But I try to take each milestone passed as a good sign and not to overthink too much (much easier said than done that's for sure!).

pooch I think that's reasonable to wait until the test results. And as you say, your OH is probably just sad he doesn't have a good relationship with his mum like you do with yours.

Congrats Lucky :-)
I had another scan today.. sac could be seen on an abdominal scan. Although on it all she could really see was the gestational sac. But on an internal scan she saw it and the yolk sac.. Told to come back again in another 2 weeks.
Had a first scan two weeks ago when absolutely nothing was seen on an abdominal scan and they did see sac on internal but there was definitely growth today and it was much bigger now.
Thing is I have no idea of dates as id had what I thought was af 3 times in around a month. Gp said she thinks it sounds like a chemical pregnancy at the end of Dec as I had 2 positives and then a negative test a week later on the 10th Jan. Had bleeding on 24th Jan which I thought was period again! Had gone to my doc really about that but by the time I could get an appointment it was the 31St January. She wanted to do a preg test to tick off all the boxes and it came back very faint positive which is why she sent me to the epu for a scan.
So if I happened to have fallen pregnant after the negative test on the 10th Jan today is only 5 weeks 3ish days since then so what she saw on today's scan would be about right?? She said to come back in 2 weeks and hopefully we would see a heartbeat then..
Im only 27 and when we had the mmc in August we were so excited but to turn up at the booking scan and not see a hb has scared me. Im afraid to get my hopes up this time around. And tbh I really don't know what if expect to see on a scan earlier that that. Last Sunday a clear blue digital said 2-3 weeks on Monday gone by it said 3+ so by that I'm reckoning I'm around 5weeks. So really I'm sort of hoping for some guidance or reassurance that at 5 ish weeks to only see gestational sac and yolk sac is normal???

fizzy flavoured aldi water is good for me too cookie

congratulations lucky and well done sounds like the birth was tough but your little girl sounds gorgeous and sooo worth it.

Congratulations Lucky! Glad to hear you're home and on the mend. Enjoy those cuddles.

Congratulations Lucky, enjoy your gorgeous baby & hope you recover easy & nicely.

Hi all. I've decided to come and join you. I recognise a lot of names from the ttc after miscarriage thread I was on before which I've been avoiding for the last few months as I was getting completely obsessed with everything.

I don't know how many of you remember my story. To cut things short, this is my 6th pregnancy. I have two dd's who are 7 and almost 9. I've had two miscarriages last year within months of each other.

I took an ic test on Sunday last week to get a very faint positive that I wasn't expecting. Rushed out to get some frer's and yep positive.

So I'm 4+6 today, been having cramps and sharp shooting pains down low, mood swings, back ache and feeling a tiny twinge of nausea.

I wasn't going to join the pregnancy thread but after the last two times I have to give myself a little slack and be hopeful.

Would like to say congratulations to all you ladies pregnant and who have just given birth. Gives me some reassurance that things may just go in the right direction this time xx

Hi smurf that all sounds confusing and hard work to deal with, you have my sympathies.

I don't know for sure but I would imagine that sounds about right. I've added a (rather crappy) picture of what was seen on my internal scan at 7+1, which as you can see is not much. The small blob at the top is the yolk sac and the bigger blob is the embryo.
I hope that helps somewhat.

Oh Amy, I'm so glad to see you here (I was previously jbee on the other thread) you've been through so much this last year - I hope this pregnancy is a happy and healthy one for you!

Congrats on your bfp amy and fingers crossed this one all goes well for you.

Welcome and congrats Amy.... I'm so sorry for your losses. I really hope this is the one for you. You're in the right place...this thread is a life saver!!!

I'm feeling a little anxious today as baby is being very quiet. Even though I'm almost 32 weeks I still haven't got a movement pattern, probably because of anterior placenta. Yesterday I did feel movement but it was quite slow movement, like a foot slowly hitting me in the ribs! I know it's early in the morning but I haven't felt anything this morning. Thinking I'll give it an hour and then see.

Thanks everyone.

JPEG I remember with my pregnancies with my girls having slow movement due to an anterior placenta and with them both being breach it was hard to feel anything. My midwife said to drink a massive glass of cold water, it usually wakes the baby up.
I found as well that if I leaned on something cold, like the work surface touching my tummy it would make them jump and then they'd roll around in there rather than kick. I also found that when it was really really quiet that was their sign to wake up for some reason!

congratulations lucky!

Welcome and congratulations to the new joiners too. smurf I had a scan at exactly 6 weeks and you could see a tiny circle and they just could just about see a heartbeat, think I was quite lucky to see it so that sounds right for 5 weeks to me.

jpeg hope baby wakes up for you soon, I'm sure it's just a lazy day but your right, best go check to be on the safe side

Thanks Imgonnasing I reckon I'm about 2 weeks earlier than your scan pic at 7+1 so hopefully this will be what we see when we go back again in 2 weeks time

Ice cold water did the trick!! Still not really really active but definitely in there! Thanks for the tip Amy