Staying posifrickentive- Thread 14 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

This is last time I'll be able to start up a new thread...so here we go ladies!!!

[Popcorn1979]

I think I need to adopt your attitude ginger! I def need a kick up the backside, I am fine at work and when kids are around but when they are asleep (and dh away this week) my mind goes in to overdrive! I have got through it before and it is far from the worst thing to happen so I need to remind myself of that.

Symptom wise I have slightly sore boobs and sometimes feel a bit rough but that is it although to be fair I am pretty blasé about symptom spotting as I have had all the symptoms and none and hasn't impacted the outcome! Both successful pg were quite symptom light so we will see!

I will be 7 weeks at scan on Tuesday (pretty sure of dates) so hopefully far enough for a conclusive answer on heartbeat.

Sleep well all and hopefully I will wake up with a more positive attitude!

[Gingerbreadmam]

I dont know if you do i just know for me those thoughts are keeping me going.

I guess after my son and people saying mc's happen because of chromosome issues i'd rather that than what happened with my son. As long as it can be managed quickly and simply.

Im very symptom light too and cant remember with my son i just remember boobs killed and i felt sick a lot and had mega food aversions but - i cant remember when. Im 7 weeks today. Boobs swing between being a bit sore n feeling completely normal. Nausea is barely there if at all.

I do feel flutters tho (i know wouldnt feel movement at 7wks but maybe some sort of reassurance or something) and with my son i craved lemons. Well the last few days i keep randomly fancying fish with lemon juice squeezed on it. Something i never normally eat so that is making me think there is a glimmer of hope.

I'll say it again - it's not over till it's over.

[ImGonnaSingTheDoomSongNow]

Just wanted to quickly pop on and say popcorn I had an early scan at 7 weeks as had on and off spotting the week before and got a definite heartbeat and could see the little egg sack thing that was feeding the little heartbeating blob, theh even gave us a picture. so yeah you should be able to see something.
Which is also why I'm suprised they won't scan others of you here. Especially with history of mc. I wonder if because I went to my GP it was better than if I'd rung epu myself.

[Dinnerout1]

Good Luck LynseyH!

20 days will fly by

I forgot to say I also have twin DDs age 8 including my 1DD! How I could forget them!!
I've had a awful pregnancy really, very stressful, achy legs at night where I can't got to sleep, nausea, light headness, earaches, headaches, nose bleeds, spots on the face which I hardly ever get! Heart burn, itchy feet, itchy eyes, dry skin.. Omg the list is endless!
With my Twin DDs all I had was sickness and then with my DD age 1 just nausea and a cold for 1 month between 16-20 weeks.. That's it! But this pregnancy is so much worse. Whether it's because it's my forth pregnancy my body is breaking down lol or it maybe a sign of a different gender! 😁👏🏻 any thoughts on the matter!???
So basically it's just a waiting game for you now.. How exciting 😁❤️ Will it be your first baby or?? Xx

[Sew3stitch]

Thanks for new thread Lynsey.

Popcorn good luck for scan on Tuesday. I'm 7 weeks now too and depending on hcg results think I'll book a scan for later this week (if GP doesn't refer me to EPAC). Was gonna hold on to 9 weeks which would be past the stage last baby grew to but don't think I can deal with the uncertainty until then.

Dinner maybe different symptoms could mean a boy! No experience of this but v interesting to see if that's the case...

Happy Sunday all, hope you have some nice plans.

[Dinnerout1]

*Sew3stitch
I thought this too that the gender may be a boy but I don't want to jinx it so will find out in 2 weeks. Tbh I'm very happy either by boy or girl so either one is great, with 2 MCs after DD age 1 in not going to be fussy. I have everything I need if it's a girl so it wouldn't matter but if it's a boy it will be a whole new wardrobe! Got my scan in 2 weeks to find out gender just so excited to see it on the screen it's so amazing and special. Twin girls will be at school but DD age 1 will be coming with us.
Enjoy your Sunday too xx
How are you feeling in this pregnancy than your last, do you feel any different? And have you been well? X

[LynseyH]

Hi dinner and thank you! Yes just waiting on baby now. No not first, I have 3 boys! I had them, followed by 2 mc, now expecting a little girl.
Been a rough ride but you'll know this yourself.
Yikes that's an awful lot of side affects! I can say though, all the symptoms that I can identify with, have been in this pregnancy, I had a reasonably easy time with my boys.
I think your right, 4th pregnancies are bloody hard work!! I've done nothing but moan all the way through this one!!
Everyone tells me it's harder as I'm older now (still only 31 lol) and the fact I'm running around after the kids etc xx

[ImGonnaSingTheDoomSongNow]

dinner I don't think differing symptoms are much of an indicator of gender really. I think every pregnancy is different.

I read an article the other day that apparently pre-conception blood pressure can be an indicator of gender. Low blood pressure resulting in girls and high makes boys, which was quite interesting.

[Dinnerout1]

LynseyH

we are the opposite! You having 3 boys 2MCs then girl and then me with 3 girls 2 MCs and.. Well we will just have to see!! 31 still young I'm 34 and still feel young in age apart from the symptoms. Do you have a name picked out for your baby girl?

Imgoingtosingthedoomsongnow,

No I'm quite happy either way boy or girl as long as she/he is healthy ❤️ But it does make you think having easy type pregnancy with my 3 girls than to this pregnancy but like I said it could just be due to it being my forth pregnancy and my age xx my blood pressure has always been quite low even before pregnancy so I can't see a difference.

Are you expecting? Xx

[ImGonnaSingTheDoomSongNow]

Dinner it'll be interesting to find out if it does turn out to be a boy. I think we're all the same in just hoping for healthy babies regardless of gender . I've always had low bp too, makes me dizzy whenever I stand up.
I'm 11 weeks at the moment, got my 12 week scan on Thursday.

[doleritedinosaur]

imgonna I have really low, low blood pressure, never triple figures & first pregnancy was a boy so he's debunked that haha.

I know with early scans the measurements can be up to 8 days out, which is why some EPU's don't scan before 8 weeks because it can be hard to see anything before 6 weeks. With this pregnancy I definitely didn't want one before 8 weeks due to the wait of 2 weeks between scans last time, it was horrible.

Actually managed to get 6 hours of sleep but now back in bed as OH & DS are out. Debating a bath but finally comfortable.

Hope everyone has a good Sunday.

[DoubleCarrick]

Did whatser have her baby? I haven't read back, I'm sorry.

Baby has been in hospital since having him. Starting to feel stronger but I hit breaking point a week ago. My poor baby.

Just drumming up some support from those of you who know me. I started a thread of my own for support.

[Naschkatze]

That must be so difficult Carrick. Why is he still in hospital? Can you stay too or do you have to leave him? (I don't know how these things work at all.) I can imagine you're just desperate to get him home but I'm sure it's the best place for him at the moment. I hope you're both being well looked after.

[XxBecxX]

Double he looks amazing xxx
As he been under the lights as I can he has a touch of jaundice still x

Are you struggling very much my lovely, your doing so well xx

[Gingerbreadmam]

carrick he is beautiful. Im rather new to the thread but how are you doing? How is your son getting on? Any sign of him coming home any time soon?

[DoubleCarrick]

I can post on this thread on my phone! The other thread was too big for my phone to cope with so I couldn't touch base with anyone!

They haven't been sure what's wrong really. They thought he had meningitis but treated him for a chest infection in week one. This is the start of week three - his heart was given the all clear by the cardiologist on Friday which is a massive relief. The current theory is that he's inhaling his milk which is causing his oxygen levels to drop.

He's been off oxygen for 12 hours now. They've put Gaviscon in his milk and put him on meds. Hopefully only another couple of days.

The birth was amazing and so uncomplicated. This is such an uncommon situation to be in, I'm gutted that my first two weeks with my baby I've been stuck here. No way would we leave him, currently I'm doing days and dh is doing nights. It's slightly easier than last week when I was stuck on postnatal ward

[Gingerbreadmam]

Great news about his heart carrick that must be such a relief. Sounds like they have a good plan of action in place for him and he is improving which is great news. I will keep everything crossed he is well enough to go home soon.

Sounds like you and dh are doing a splendid job looking after him round the clock.

Is he your first? Glad you had a good birth.

[jpeg28]

Oh Carrick I'm so sorry you're having a tough time. That's great his heart is all good! What a relief that must be for you. He is so so gorgeous!! I hope you can take him home soon. Xx

[LynseyH]

Oh carrick what a nightmare, I hope little one is on the mend super quick and at home soon. Sounds like a very practical set up you have going on but can't imagine you sleep much when your away from him either. Sending very best wishes.
dinner isn't it funny we have the opposite situation! I'll be interested to see if your expecting a boy or girl this time! Agreed we all want healthy babies first and foremost but I also think it's natural to sometimes have some thoughts on whether we'll have a new son or daughter. I was on this thread right back at the beginning of my pregnancy and as it got closer to finding out, I felt I almost had a pressure on my shoulders for a girl. I started to get really stressed over it! I knew there would be a tiny part of me that was upset if I was having another boy. Not because I wouldn't love another (I adore my crazy kids!!) But because I wanted to have a daughter too and have the experience of it. When I found out she is a girl, I was gobsmacked!! It took some time for it to sink in and I've had them check a few times too at growth scans etc!
I think it adds excitement too, which is much needed for pregnancy after mc.

For anyone who has missed the link from the previous thread and would like to join us over on Facebook too, here's the link:

m.facebook.com/groups/252709115158353

carrick we set this up for us to all keep in touch now and after the babies are born, I think we've all become involved in each others journeys so it's a way for us to stay in contact for as long as we want xx

[knorrig]

Carrick, he's beautiful, hope he gets better v soon and you get to take him home.

Now 18+2 and still want to hide it from work (boss and lady who work for me know but want to wait to announce to the rest until 20 week scan) but bump is quite obvious now so wondering what I can wear tomorrow!!

[theAntsareMyFriends]

Congratulations whatser, she beautiful.

carrick I really hope you get out of hospital soon and can get some answers. He's really lovely and it sounds so stressful for you and your DH but I hope soon these few weeks will just be a memory and you are able to get on with enjoying your new little family.

My plan it to try to keep up with this thread as I slightly lost it with the last one. My MC was at 9 weeks and I thought that after the 12 week scan I would be able to relax, then we had all the drama with possible complications and more tests and I thought that after 20 weeks I would be OK and would be looking forward to my new little boy but I've just found the anxiety has grown and I'm struggling with it a bit. I keep having nightmares that the baby is born early and is unwell or that its been born but I've lost it somewhere. I'm getting plenty of kicks but I still don't find them reassuring and then when he's not kicking I'm getting worried about it too. I just wish I could relax and be happy but for some reason I still can't let myself believe that this will all have a successful outcome. Anyway - sorry for the moan, it feels better to get it out!

knorrig I still haven't told work (still got issues with my contract) and no one has actually noticed which is a bit ridiculous as I'm 26weeks. Big winter jumpers and having to wear a coat a lot of the time helps.

I hope everyone else is doing well and not coming down with one of those nasty winter colds that seem to be doing the rounds.

[Myusername87]

Hi everyone! I stumbled across this post when trying to calm my overactive paranoia!

I am currently 6 weeks pregnant, I have a 5 year old but sadly suffered a miscarriage in October :(

Obviously I am so lucky to have a wonderful DD but I am so unbelievably scared something will happen. Obviously since the last miscarriage I'm on edge but have also had 3 random episodes of light pink spotting (usually the once and it's gone within an hour). Can't really say I've ever had a positive experience with midwives/hospitals but have managed to get in to my local EPU when I'll be 7w3d for an early scan.

It's my birthday this week and we are going away (trying to chill and enjoy it but I'm struggling fortunately we are only within the uk) but as the scan isn't until a week today I am a bit of a nightmare nerve wise!!

The irony of ever needing a drink so badly to "calm" the nerves!!!!

[Gingerbreadmam]

Hey myusername how are you?

Im in pretty much the same boat as you. Mmc november 2014, stillborn July 2015 and this is my next pregnancy and im 7+2 roughly.

Started bleeding pink last saturday which tailed off to brown spotting my the monday and been spotting on and off since. Have an early scan booked a week today but not feeling very optimistic as i dont really feel pregnant. Very mild symptoms if any tbh.

The spotting has been irregular, mostly pale brown some days not at all some days a bit heavier. My bleed wasnt huge but unwanted so panics you.

I keep telling myself something someone on here said 'it's not over until it's over' whilst making logical plans on how i will manage things if it is the worst news as i suspect. Its a stressful time carrying on as normal. My two line managers are aware of my predicament and as i suspected are not really doing anything to make me feel supported. keep giving my shit jobs and stuff i really need to think about when all i am thinking about me and this pregnancy. Shouldnt have expected anything other they were completely shit after my previous troubles. I'd go off sick but the boredom would send me over the edge

[AButterflyLightsBesideUs]

Oh carrick he's just gorgeous, what a lovely little boy. I'm so sorry you are having such a difficult start, I can't imagine how stressful and exhausting it must be. I don't blame you at all for falling apart last week. Has he managed to stay off the oxygen overnight? Everything crossed you are all home soon and can start finding your feet as a family xx

Still pregnant, 40 weeks today and tired, sore and hugely emotional and fed up. Massive sobfest last night after another day of pointless contractions that wore me out and then buggered off, same as Friday. No sign of anything whatsoever this morning damnit.

[oliversmummy26]

Welcome Popcorn I'm on the September 2017 board too and know exactly what you mean, oh to still be oblivious to the pain of mc! I didn't have a period between mmc and bfp either, how are you dating your pregnancy, or did you know when you ovulated? I am going from when bleeding first started with mmc, but could be completely wrong. That puts me at 7+6 today.

I've have a few bits of brown/pink spotting/stringy discharge over the weekend but nothing that overly concerns me. What worries me is this irrational perhaps not quite to irrational really fear that a scan will show up another mmc

Booking in on Wednesday and DH and have have decided that if the mw won't speak to epu about getting us an early scan for reassurance but also to confirm dates, then we're going to find the £100 for an early scan, just to put my mind at rest..but also if something had gone wrong we can get it sorted sooner rather than later.

Doesn't help that my DS came back from ex yesterday clutching an ultrasound picture - his step mother is 4 weeks ahead of me after having had a mc last September...I'm pleased for them kind of (he did cheat on me with her when I was at home with a 14 month old baby) but I don't think I would be sending DS back home with an ultrasound picture, I do think it's a bit insensitive.

Anyway, determined to do everything I can to get this baby to stick, I don't think I could bear to go back to the beginning again