Staying posifrickentive- Thread 14 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

This is last time I'll be able to start up a new thread...so here we go ladies!!!

Sorry not to post sooner. .. my baby boy arrived 11.17pm on weds @ 40+9, weighed 8lb4, born in the pool.

It was a 3 day latent stage which was knackering and painful and despite 2 sweeps during, was still only 1cm by 3pm on weds, and 3cm by 8.30pm when we went back to hospital, convinced I was much further on because of how much pain I was in (turns out he turned back to back that day hence such a painful early labour). All went very fast after then though, they finally let me in the pool and on the gas at 10.30pm and he shot out 45 mins later, rather unfortunately doing some serious remodelling on the way which is still very ouch.

He's gorgeous and feeding like a total pro which is fab and I have enough milk for about 3 babies, argh! He's asleep on my chest now. DD is totally smitten.

Lucky wishing you all the luck in the world, hope it's not much longer for you now.

Did I mention that there might actually be a baby in September? Did I sort through baby clothes last night (for SIL who is having baby mid March, honestly). So what do I get this morning? Some streaks of blood when I wipe. Ffs

Cross post, congratulations butterfly!

Congratulations Butterfly! I did laugh when you said serious remodelling.

Grain - remember today you are pregnant, there are so many stories on here of people who have bled from 6-12 weeks and been fine. Mantra is "today I am pregnant" it's hard - especially with friends and family who are pregnant. You may not know my story - with my MC in Oct 2015, I had friends who were 24/20/16 weeks each, I was 12 weeks and had a MMC, and it's really hard seeing their babies (24 week one is his first birthday today) but I'm now pregnant again, and guess what today I am pregnant.
Try and think positively! X

Thank you Sah, I needed to hear that. Today I am pregnant.

That's what this group is for. Happy thoughts coming your way xx

morning everyone, sorry been a busy weekend.

welcome holly

butterfly congrats. glad everything is going great. would love to see a pic!

glad everyone else seems to be doing ok! i am fine here too. bleeding still stopped grain i bled from 5+4 to 8 weeks absolutely convinced it was another mmc but scan showed everything was gretat! im 8+5 today. got another scan friday as my sonographer was so sympathetic to my history which was nice. scanxiety is at bay for now.

ive actually been getting a bit excited. we had the majority of stuff from my previous pregnancy and had moved from a 1 bed flat to a 2 bed house to accomodate him but after he was stillborn my clothes have slowly taken over his wardrobe and drawers! i am now planning on how to declutter it all ready for another baby and have added a few bits to ikea shopping basket to help me. dm also bought some wool at the weekend to knit a blanket to match the bedroom range we purchased for son so that has me excited. her blankets are beautiful!

Good morning ladies, I've been off thread for 3 days and so much to catch up on!

lyndsey massive congratulations, your little girl is gorgeous and glad all went well. Same to butterfly its lovely hearing baby announcements gives us all some hope..

Welcome rolling (you're just a day behind me I think!), emma and hollymay this is a lovely thread and so good for keeping our sanity!

popcorn I'm so pleased that everything is well with your little one, that's brilliant news!

grain have you been in touch with your gp about bleeding? Could you get into the epu to get checked out?

I took Friday off work last week, DH bullied me into it as I'd been feeling so rubbish all week, and I was so glad I did, I think it really helped. Also spoke to gp finally who is prescribing me some anti-sickness meds and also leaving out a swab for me to check I don't have an infection. Though since stopping pregnacare my brown discharge has disappeared completely!

Been feeling a little better on the nausea front, which concerns me, but then I just wonder if at 9+2 I've peaked and now I'm coming out the other side?

I had one wipe of pink discharge yesterday which worried me, but nothing since and still some nausea, also boobs, nipples especially, have been killing me today and yesterday and acid reflux is a killer at the moment! So I am happy that today I am pregnant

After complaining of lessening symptoms not 3 hours ago, I now feel like crap - serves me right!

Sorry to hear you're feeling rubbish again oliver. The joys of pregnancy!! Whatever I had earlier on seems to be a one off. Wondering if it could be related to straining at the toilet? Anyway definitely don't think it's worth bothering EPU about just now, kind of wonder what's the point anyway, it's not like there's anything they can do...

I know what you mean grain I said that to my DH yesterday, I could call the doctor's and get referred to EPU but they won't see me until Wednesday ish, by which time I'll already know if it's the end more than likely and they won't be able to do anything to stop it.

So just going to carry on as I was, feeling more positive now definitely, boobs are really tingly and feeling rubbish, so all good and positive pregnancy signs I reckon!

Hi,

I've been lurking for a while but didn't want to join for fear of jinxing things. I recognise some of the names from the TTC after miscarriage thread, it's nice to see some healthy pregnancies progressing. I'm 6wks 5 days or there abouts.

Had a MMC last august at 13.5wks and then two CPs in the months after.

I've been really struggling to be able to think positively about this pregnancy. I have an early scan next Monday and can't stop thinking it is going to be bad news. I've had no signs to anything to suggest something is wrong. Until today I've had a few symptoms but not much today, even the boobs aren't as sensitive .

It doesn't help that we're away skiing this week (booked in Nov when I got fed up of another months unsuccessful TTC), so it's difficult to distinguish any fleeting nausea or end of day tiredness as pregnancy related. Plus I'm terrified something goes wrong while we're here.

Sorry to join with such a down and out first post. I really admire you all for being so brave in your pregnancies and hoping some of the positivity can run off and get me through the next 7 days until my scan.

Thanks ladies for thinking of me, I'm 41 weeks today and baby isn't showing any more signs of wanting to come out yet. I'm now wondering if she has a barrier in her way, like maybe her head is too big to fully engage in my pelvis or something. She's definitely still growing so also a bit worried about how big she's going to be when she comes out. Butterfly I hope I can have her in the water like you had your little one, although I'd like to pass on the remodelling, that does sound ouch! Glad to hear your little one is feeding well, that's such a big reassuring thing xx

P.s. when did people find their pregnancy symptoms started to increase? With my MMC I only remember feeling a bit tired until about 8 weeks and felt pretty rotten for a couple after.

Think it was the same with my dd (3yrs), but keep worrying I felt more earlier with the successful pregnancy.

As you can see I'm struggling to remain entirely rational

Lucky are you being monitored by your mw team? I went to 42 weeks with DC1 and she was only 6lb (born day induction was booked).

Sayit, oddly I had symptoms with pregnancies I lost then with this pregnancy nothing till I think around 10 weeks(ish) where I had sore boobs (but not immediately around 9 weeks maybe & not as intense as with my MMC) and I just went off food, mostly the thought of sweets, I started drinking decaf tea without sugar!

I've not had many sympathies with this pregnancy ocassionally excess saliva which happened really late after about 16 weeks.

I'm currently 24 weeks and I can feel her moving around. :)

On balance I don't think symptoms or lack of mean much.

Hello say I recognise you from the ttc thread. I'm glad you've joined us here, everyone is so friendly and supportive. My symptoms this time round didn't really ramp up until 7 weeks, from then on I've been so sick. Up until then I just had some cramping which to be honest felt much like period pain. But everyone seems to be so different so no symptoms isn't a bad thing. So try not to worry x

I've been so sick hence not posting on here much. I cried this morning I felt so awful. I'm struggling with looking after DD on my days off and working. I nearly called In sick this morning but I've only been back off mat leave for 3 weeks so don't feel like I can really.

hi everyone, hope you don't mind me joining.... finally found the courage to join a thread (can't quite bring myself to join a due date one!)
Currently 10+5 after 4 m/cs and the furthest I've ever got 4 scans down after bleeding but as of Sat everything looking as good as it can be at the moment. X

Hi Say, Littlepooch and Olivers I remember you all from the ttc thread.

Hello to newbies and congrats to you all!

Has anyone got any advise? I'm still really early but I can't get it to sink in at all. When I talk to dp about it, it's like talking about someone else? He said its hit him this morning properly that he's going to become a father again (he has a ds from his xw) He's a lot more chilled and optimistic than I am. He was my rock through all our mmcs. I don't know if it's complete denial, I guess some part of me obviously knows otherwise I wouldn't be here asking you lovelies for help. Was anyone else like this when they found out?

Thank you for the warm welcome .

HollyMay not sure I can offer any advice. I just wanted to say I've also been quite detached these last few weeks since we found out. I described to my DH that I still feel like we're TTC as a pregnancy doesn't always equal baby anymore in my head. I'm hoping that will start to change next week if the scan is positive.

Hope everyone is having a good start to the week. More skiing for us today but hoping it's an easy one and we can spy on dd at ski school

holly I've been very detached about it all. So i totally understand what you are saying! Self preservation I think - like I don't want to get my hopes up or get too attached. I think my DH is the same. I think it sunk in for him at one of our early scans, he seemed to engage a bit more and was excited. But to be honest we hardly talk about it - I think we both can't allow ourselves to get too swept up. Hopefully after our 12 week scan in a couple of weeks we can start to engage a bit more.

DH and I both were feeling really positive at the weekend, talking about maternity leave and car seats and not taking the baby on long car journeys etc...but yesterday I had a bit of a wobble.

I've had two wipes with pink discharge over the last 2 days which scared me and some funny tummy aches yesterday afternoon and evening which I think were stretching and/or trapped wind. But it all concerned me quite a bit, especially as my symptoms don't seem to be as strong at the moment.

DH was lovely and said we should have another private scan, but I just can't justify another £100 when our 12 week scan is just under 3 weeks away. Also if it's going to go wrong there's nothing we can do to stop it..

Feeling a bit more positive today as no more funny discharge since yesterday morning and feel a bit off..but I just can't allow myself to feel excited and am really still very scared. Only 9+3 today. I think it's because my bleeding started bang on 10 weeks last time and maybe I just need to get past that milestone to feel a bit better about this one..

Got some time off next week due to half term so spending some time with my DS before he goes up to his dad's. He wants to take me out for lunch and be my "Balentine" as DH will be away on 14th, so cute

Morning lovely girlies, welcome to the new faces!

Lucky you need tonseve that child an eviction notice!!
Plenty of dtd, playing with your nipples helps too rofl 🤣

Had my anti d on sat and the MW sent me to the MAU as I was hot and bothered and didn't feel very well.
Monitored me and checked my wee to find the ++sugar, she expects its that plus the anemia making me feel gammy which doesn't surprise me.
Baby had been a little quieter than usual yesterday and today, i can feel him pooching about but he's not battering my insides like he has been of late so I'm in between thinking he's had a turn around or maybe I should be worried, I'm keeping an eye on him and I might ring to speak to the middy later if he doesn't get more punchy soon!
I think I had a little 24 hour thing aswell which thankfully did one by Sunday, with 5 children a mad house and a business to run I haven't got time to be ill lol

Got my GD appointment this week hopefully and my physio app for my PGP pain so fingers crossed I'll get some help xxx

Hey All,

Welcome to all the new ladies - great to see some names I remember from the TTC after mc thread!
(Does anyone know the latest on Brenna by the way?)

Regarding feeling detached, it took me a long time and even now (20+3) there are times it doesn't feel real. The awful sickness at the start helped me to just not think about it too much. The 12 week scan obviously helped a lot - for me and OH as we could see there was actually a baby in there. Then my expanding tummy made it feel real and hearing the heartbeat at 16 weeks too. Each of those little milestones are a help but I know how agonising the wait is in between!

I had my 20 week scan yesterday and I was so nervous about it (partly because I couldn't have the blood test for downs at the 12 week scan as it started off as a twin pregnancy) so I was worried I'd find out there was something wrong yesterday. We went for a coffee when we got to the hospital as we were v early and I burst into tears in the coffee shop as I was so nervous - luckily OH is v calming!

Anyway, all was well and we found out we're having a little boy :)

I also feel little fluttery movements now which is also a massive reassurance - sometimes it feels like he has a kick when I'm having a wobble to tell me to stop being silly!

It's the due date from my second mc but having that good news yesterday has really helped me not to dwell on it and be sad today!

Becs - sorry to hear you've been feeling bad! Hope the punches (as long as not too hard) pick back up again today!

xx
20+3

Oliversmummy can you get to your EPAU would they offer you an early scan as together with your history and spotting they might want to give you an early scan. Ours does and it's self referred.

Becs definitely speak to your midwife and take care of yourself high blood sugar also needs to be monitored.

Hi all, been away from this thread for a bit as I have been feeling really sick the last ten days or so. I just want to throw up all the time. The only thing that helps is eating but the second I'm finished, I want to puke again. Exhausting when I'm trying to mind dd & work as well. And of course I'm analysing what's normal or not....

say I recognise you from the ttc thread, delighted you are over here. I am also hugely detached, feeling very guilty about it now.

Sorry wanted to post more to others but feel a bit light headed. Off screen again for a bit I think.