Staying posifrickentive- Thread 12 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread.... nice to see it filling up so quickly.

[XxBecxX]

Badger I'm fuming for you, like your not in enough emotional distress they are adding to it!! 😡
In a way you are better waiting to 8 weeks so you can really see what's going on without the anxiety of too early scans and empty sacs and recalls & what not but still it's hard going holding onto the positivity for that long, where about are you based? Are there no other EPU's near by?
Mine around here are self referral ones, there's at least 3 within a 15 mile radius to me. Xx

[jpeg28]

Welcome Phantom and congrats! It's so scary and this thread is a great place to get all the anxieties out and get some great advice! Welcome strawb too and congrats. That's awful that you have been through 3 MC in one year I hope so much this is the one for you!

longsuffering I have avoided hair colour and I'm almost 12 weeks. I look horrendous!!

Carrick great pics and sounds like some amazing bargains!!! I'm tempted by the cloth nappies... I reckon is way cheaper but I'm just not sure!

Love all the nursery chat cannot wait until I'm at that stage!

I'm 11+4 today and I'm starting to dread my 12 week scan which is on Thursday. I'm just petrified they will tell me I've had a MMC especially as I'm starting to feel more normal. Also my bloat seems to have gone. I know if that's they case there is nothing I could have done but I'm just so frightened. I told someone else at work today and all I could think was that I may have to tell them in a few days I've lost the baby.
Sorry for the dramatic post!

[XxBecxX]

Awww jpeg I'm feeling exactly the same mines Wednesday next week, it's so scary it's unbelievable.
I keep feeling round my boobs each day to see how sore they feel, it's a mental torture isn't it sending love to you ❤️❤️❤️

[jpeg28]

Thanks bec least we don't have too much longer to wait! It feels like the longest few months ever but also that it's gone really fast!

[XxBecxX]

Wouldn't it be amazing if we both make it to the end! We would only be 5 days apart, now that would be exciting lol who gave birth first 😋

[Netcurtainrummager]

Lovely told see you guys are date buddies, how exciting! Ants, sorry to hear youve been feeling rubbish. When'she your scan? Be nice to swap scan pics... mine is 18th Oct, my Dad's birthday. Not sure if that's going to be a good thing as he only passed away in June, but as my checks so far have all been positive I'm going with it as it'll hopefully be a way to bring sunshine to the day. He would have been so pleased for us.

Welcome newbies x

[XxBecxX]

Arr net I can only imagine that it's fell on that date for a reason and what a better tribute to him then to have you scan that day! What was his name, would you call your baby after him x

[XxBecxX]

What scan will it be net

[jpeg28]

Fingers x bec! It's so nice having people due around the same time, we can panic together!

[XxBecxX]

Indeed we can my darling 😂😂

[DirtyDancing]

jpeg I am 11+5 today and my scan is on Friday. Handholding for this week. It feels like it is taking forever. I don't know what state I will be in by then!

[DirtyDancing]

Bec I see you are too!

My due date is 19 April from my dates will see if they match at the scan on Friday x

[XxBecxX]

Hey dirty that's my birthday!! I'm due the 25th, it's a bit exciting isn't it xxx
I'm daring dream lol
So I'm gunna keep everything crossed for you to my lovely xx

[Hazandduck]

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[jpeg28]

Looks like we are just days apart dirty and bec! My EDD is 20th April but we will see what scan says Thursday. I don't think I can wait that long!!

[dreamingaboutcheese]

Been off for a few days. This ten day wait between scans feels like 10 weeks! I keep having to stop myself thinking about the bump I'm case it's not viable but then I feel guilty as with DD I was already talking to her in my tummy by now!

Congrats strawb, I've had 3 MCs this year too so understand how you're feeling. My dr has given me progesterone and aspirin to take which will help prevent early bleeding apparently. You could ask for that?

[XxBecxX]

All our children so far have been born in the same 4 weeks of the year which is also the same month my husband has his birthday he's the 19th of August and we had our first one on the 24th, then one on the 15th then one on his birthday the 19th! So I said wouldn't it be nice to have one around my birthday and that's when my dates are would you believe!
Your so lucky girls having your scans this week x

[XxBecxX]

The waits awful cheese xx

[Netcurtainrummager]

Isn't it just Bex! My due date is 1st May according to early scans, and my birthday is the 6th so we may both have birthday babies! Scan is the 12 week one, just want these 2 weeks to hurry up! Dad's name was Derek Alan, but as he and mum hated each other pathologically (and I'm not even kidding!) Ive never felt able to use names from either of them. We do have a family name of Robinson on DHs side though, and would love to use it, or a version of. Best wishes for scans this week ladies xxx

[ParForTheCourses]

Morning everyone. I'm so sorry for anyone else who goes through loss like this, it really does make the time after much harder.

I'm in my 3rd trimester and breathing a little more of a sigh of relief now but I still find myself getting anxious.

Yesterday a song came on the radio and I suddenly started to cry thinking of my first baby who I miscarried at 10 weeks. I was always convinced it was a boy and so for this pregnancy I was convinced he was a she until the 28 week scan. I do love him and I get very worried but the heartache I felt after I lost my first it makes me feel like I don't love my little boy as much. And that really upsets me.

I spent 12 weeks pretending to myself I wasn't pregnant and didn't get as upset then as I am now. I did worry because he was a threatened miscarriage but thankfully all was well. Not sure if anyone else felt this kind of worry, like you aren't loving as much. Thing is I know if I lost my boy I'd be devistated.

[XxBecxX]

Lol about the mum and dad, mine havent seen each other for about 22 years or if imagine it would be the same for me!
My brother is named after my father so I was tempted to call my one of my sons after him (brother) but he hasn't had his own then and I felt like I should leave the name for him.

Awww Paw my lovely, you do love this baby and you love it more than life itself, you are in 'self protect mode' you've suffered a terrible heartache and you darent even believe you could be so lucky as to have this baby in your arms and it all be amazing but It will be!
They can guess at reasons why some pg's end and some make it but as mothers we don't care we are just now missing a little part of our souls, thing is tho and you must trust me as I'm speaking from varied experience that you won't ever get over what you have been through but you will learn gradually to cope better, and let me tell you that when you have this beautiful little bubba in your arms you will come to an understanding with yourself that although horrendous what you have been through, if it hadn't of happened that way, you wouldn't be cradling this most amazing, delicious smelling little dream in your arms right now!
And everyday he changes and becomes his own little self you couldn't imagine him not being him and will find greater comfort in knowing he was the baby you where supposed to have.

Xx

[XxBecxX]

And also to add you are very very very normal, don't bottle up these feelings for fear of judgement, we have all felt this way xx

[ParForTheCourses]

Thank you XxBecxX. Im so sorry for your losses too.

I'm crying as I read your words because it feels relieving that someone understands. I dont feel so much like km going to be a bad mum. No one talks or mentions or looks comfortable hearing about my first baby now except dh. And he gets so sad too that I tried not too.

[Badgerbird]

Oh blimey bec! Trying to hold it together here in RL then just read your last post and I'm in tears! You are a sweety. I know the words aren't for me but I'm sure everyone on here can take something positive from them. par you can only feel the way you feel Hun and there is no right or wrong, you are probably still grieving whilst trying to protect yourself and look after your baby bump now.... and don't forget the hormones! There's a lot going on. Try and be kind to yourself

bec and jpeg sorry to here you are so worried about your scans. It doesn't seem to stop does it ladies! Just keep looking at the stats of positive outcome per week.

cheese I've been there too (a few times) and yes those days draaaaaaag. You can do it though. Try and keep yourself busy. Fingers crossed for you.

I'm gonna see if I can get a scan booked for Friday now. Let's see if there really is a healthy little baby in there! I can dream :)

[Badgerbird]

Oh blimey bec! Trying to hold it together here in RL then just read your last post and I'm in tears! You are a sweety. I know the words aren't for me but I'm sure everyone on here can take something positive from them. par you can only feel the way you feel Hun and there is no right or wrong, you are probably still grieving whilst trying to protect yourself and look after your baby bump now.... and don't forget the hormones! There's a lot going on. Try and be kind to yourself

bec and jpeg sorry to here you are so worried about your scans. It doesn't seem to stop does it ladies! Just keep looking at the stats of positive outcome per week.

cheese I've been there too (a few times) and yes those days draaaaaaag. You can do it though. Try and keep yourself busy. Fingers crossed for you.

I'm gonna see if I can get a scan booked for Friday now. Let's see if there really is a healthy little baby in there! I can dream :)