Staying posifrickentive- Thread 12 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread.... nice to see it filling up so quickly.

[XxBecxX]

Hya ladies, I'm 18+ new shoes, this is the latest that I ever been to feeling movement but I think as I've been suffering with some ibs type issues this last year that maybe I've become a bit desensitised down that way lol
It was a movement right at my belly button!
I do think I can feel him kicking my bladder tho at times ☺️

Well done on that lovely scan pic, so lovely!
Welcome to the girlies with bfp's, we know how scary it is, we've been here since we had ours and it's just a case of finding your best way to get through these early days with your sanity intact, at least you have xmas which can help to be a minor distraction? Xxx

[XxBecxX]

I think that's really kind of you watser, really a lovely motherly thought, shame everyone didn't have your kind heart, I'm sure he will be fine when you take back a big fat baby pic for him xx

[LynseyH]

Great news highhopes!
To those that have had the 2 mc, I also had 2 in a row but am now 28+4. Stay strong.

I'm really struggling at the moment. I feel so grumpy and feel like I have too much on my plate with no relief. I just want to sleep and be left alone.
It's strange as I had a catalog of disasters over the last few weeks and dealt with it all fine, now I just feel flat and and fed up I just don't know what to do with myself.

[INeedNewShoes]

You could write a song Lynsey - you've got some winning lyrics in your last sentence

Sorry, I'm not making light of your fed upness really

Its not strange is it that you feel fed up? You have had a lot thrown at you in recent weeks and you have dealt with it all stoically - everyone runs out of steam after a phase of one thing after another. Is there light at the end of tunnel with the too much on your plate?

[fuzzywuzzy]

Lynsey sounds like everything is catching up with you (understandably), can you take a day off and stay in pjs and do nothing?

Jaffa I've had a few miscarriages and with this baby I started to bleed around the time my period was due, I took three days off sick and stayed in bed. Because I was a wreck and if I'd have started a full on bleed at work I wouldn't have been able to cope. Bleeding stopped after three days and has stayed gone. I was prescribed progesterone at my scan at the EPAU tho I'm not sure if that's helped or if this one is meant to be go willing but this baby is holding on inspite of my fears.

DP who's so laid back he's horizontal keeps telling me each day that today I'm pregnant (then he was trying not to cry at the twelve week scan, we've never got this far before).

I have a sinus infection and am on antibiotics and paracetamol as well as all the other meds & vitamins I'm taking. I feel like I'm rattling when I move.

Stay warm and healthy everyone, horrible bugs going around.

[Naschkatze]

Sorry you're feeling fed up Lynsey. I agree about taking some time for you after everything you've put up with in the last few weeks. Plan something you can really look forward to at the weekend?

Great to hear Highhopes

Fuzzy Yes to all the bugs going round. Some kind of stomach bug is spreading like wildfire at my school; I'm desperate not to get it but it's tough when you work with young children who are not known for having the best personal hygiene skills. I've been feeling a bit off today so I hope it's not the start of it! Although I could use a couple of days off...

[LynseyH]

Kids all out tomorrow with school and nursery so I plan not to do much. Thank you ladies for understanding. With not having family local, there isn't anyone to take the pressure off. Partners family are less than useless and partner so wrapped up in trying to make his business venture work that I have to pick up the slack in every area.
I just wanted to talk to someone today and picked up my phone but knew I'd cry so put it back down.

Something to look forward to would be lovely but money is very tight at the moment and I'm inundated with kids parties to go to for the next 3 weekends Lovely to know my kids are so popular though!

Just wish I could pick myself up. Times like this, I'd love a bit of retail therapy but that's not do-able right now. I know I'll be ok again soon, as clichéd as it sounds, the weather doesn't help. It's so depressing!

[Miami81]

Lynsey sorry you are feeling a bit in the dumps. Try and take some time for yourself even if it is just a nice bath or something.
I am all over the place this week. It's my original due date today, have been trying not to focus on it too much but just feel awful this morning.
I am 7+1 this morning and have zero symptoms. Honestly even my sore boobs are gone, so really struggling to feel positive at the moment. Have a scan on Saturday and am absolutely dreading it, don't want this one to be over too, but at the moment not holding out much hope.

[emily86]

Sorry you're struggling miami. Original due dates are tough. Just do what you need to do to get through.

I know what you mean about lack of symptoms! I have vaguely sore boobs and that is it. I would do anything for some morning sickness! Not long until Saturday. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you. I just keep telling myself this is a new pregnancy and statistically, even with my 2 MCs, it is more likely to be successful than not. It vaguely helps!

[jpeg28]

Miami my boobs stopped hurting at exactly 7 weeks this time round, I was also bleeding loads so I was convinced that was it! Now I'm 19+2... I have everything crossed for you for Saturday. Symptoms definitely come and go... I know that doesn't make it any easier for you! Will be thinking of you.

lynsey sorry you've been having such a tough time, I would definitely be feeling low after dealing with everything you have lately! I hope you've managed to relax today and do something nice for yourself. Can you ask your OH to have the kids for an hour or two at the weekend maybe so you can do something just for you?

[doleritedinosaur]

Hope the scan went okay today whatser

Sorry you're feeling down Lynsey, must be really hard after the past few weeks you've had. Hope you had a better day today. Is there anything you can do that is low cost or nothing for you? Even window shopping pink outfits?

Sorry too Miami, symptoms are always up and down in the early weeks, the nausea with me kept going and going but the non nausea days, mentally were harder than actual nausea days. Good luck for the scan on Saturday.

I'm 25 weeks tomorrow and today is the first day I haven't eaten everything in the kitchen, been absolutely ridiculous. Worked out new baby doesn't like Mondays as that's the quiet day then resumed action rest of the week. DS is teething again and they flipped every time he was howling. My alarm clock also scared the crap out of them as well.

Got the midwife tomorrow, so hoping for heartbeat again, not sure what else she is doing and I have a lot of questions so may have to go back.

I can confirm the pregnancy yoga is working, I had to extend my bras and I haven't even noticed my ribs expanding I think mostly due to to yoga and breathing exercises for hypnobirthing. With DS I definitely noticed well felt discomfort.

Hope everyone has a good evening.

[Whatsername17]

I got good news at my scan - the placenta has moved so I've been okay'd for a natural delivery. It was very cute watching madam stick her tongue out, yawn and swallow! On a slightly scary note, she is 4lb4oz already! I'm 32 weeks on Friday! If she comes on her due date and gains 1/2lb per week as the books suggest then I'm looking at an 8lb baby! Dd was 7lb15oz so I think I can cope but I really hope she's not too much bigger! My brother had a giant head and I'm scared it runs in the family!

[INeedNewShoes]

That's great news Whatsername

I had my 16-week check today. Heard the heartbeat clearly and baby was moving around. I feel more confident now that I realise how resilient my foetus is to still be going strong despite me being so ill last week and missing 5 days of aspirin.

Possible small upside to my illness is that I'm 2.5kg lighter now than when I became pregnant despite having eaten loads in my first trimester. The midwife didn't seem concerned by the weight loss thankfully.

I've got a load of Serephine clothes to try on when I get home. Online order arrived today. I really need a black dress as I've got concerts coming up and none of my black concert-wear fits anymore! Generally I can't afford such pricey maternity clothes but as the dress needs to be smart I thought it might be worth the money.

[reindeerbitesback]

Hi everyone, I haven't had chance to read all the way through the thread yet but will be doing so shortly. I've just been directed here for support.

I had a miscarriage at 13 weeks back in February 2015. I already had two children before, but have been afraid to ttc since. I have now found out that I am 6 weeks pregnant. I want to be thrilled but I am terrified. To make it worse, I'm due to be married in 7 weeks and am having visions of miscarrying while stood at the altar, during our first dance or on our honeymoon and tinting the whole day/experience (and spending it sobbing on the toilet). My OH and I had discussed ttc after our wedding sometime into the new year but I was going to get therapy before that to prepare myself (I have quite severe anxiety anyway). I just don't know what to do. I can't bare the thought of having to tell family/friends before 13 weeks in case the worst happens, but if this pregnancy is the same as my previous ones I'll be visibly showing by the time the wedding comes around.

I just don't know what to do and am looking for any advice any of you can possibly offer. I'm trying hard to stay positive and get excited but I'm struggling. I don't know how to tell my OH and I know he won't quite understand my fear.

[INeedNewShoes]

Reindeer - welcome to the thread

The statistics say that having one miscarriage makes you no more likely to miscarry on your next pregnancy than any other woman. There are so many different factors that can cause miscarriage and just because it happened once before it doesn't mean you're more likely to miscarry again.

Having said that, all of us who have experienced MC have lost our innocence about pregnancy and have heightened awareness that things can go wrong. It is very difficult to be thoroughly positive but the stats are on our side!

I do recommend reading the thread because it has really helped me to hear about others' experiences and there are quite a few women here who are further along than me who are constantly proving to me that it is possible to get to the next milestone. I take a great deal of comfort in the other progressing pregnancies on this thread.

The other thing I get from the thread is that the posts are not all about miscarriage! There's lots of happy discussion about other pregnancy topics that are positive and show that we can still find things to enjoy about our pregnancies even if we are a bit cautious about things.

Congratulations on your engagement. The wedding will provide a brilliant distraction from counting the days of your pregnancy!

I have found that with every week that passes I gain more confidence in my pregnancy. I've turned a corner yet again today after hearing the heartbeat clearly for the first time. I feel excited for the first time this pregnancy!

[theAntsareMyFriends]

Hi reindeer I agree with what Ineed has said about this thread being a massive source of support. It so hard not to feel anxious after a MC and I think everyone has their own way of dealing with it. My way was denial. I didn't even think about it and threw myself into a big event at work and house renovations. Congratulations on your wedding and I hope that helps you pass the time until you get past your own personal milestone.

Ineed glad you are feeling better and that baby is unaffected. Can I be nosy and ask what instrument you play. I'm very jealous of your musical abilities. After years of cello lessons and then guitar lesson I had to conclude that I has zero musical talent.

Great news whatser. I've been told that bigger babies are actually easier to give birth to as they help themselves and there is more to push against. Not sure if thats true. We are a giant-headed family and I worried about it too. DS measured mostly on the 10-25th centile apart from his head which was on the 95th; however, when he was born it was his shoulders that did the damage to me as he was born so quickly he didn't turn so I guess the head was the least of my problems.

dolerite thats really interesting about the yoga. I'm tempted to give it another go this time. I can't breath through my nose which seems like a silly problem but so many yoga sessions seem to start with 'breath in through your nose and out through your mouth' and I just want to shout 'I can't'.
I'm also tempted by pilates or tai chi. Has anyone done that while PG?

miami my massive boobs when down at about 8weeks and I also expected the worst. I wonder if something happens at around the 7-8 week mark as lost of people seem to experience a loss of symptoms then.

lynsey I hope you are feeling better. Its rubbish feeling down and PG.

[Miami81]

Thanks ants. Super sore boobs again today, I think I just have to accept that symptoms will come and go.
Nausea yesterday but ok today.
I find this thread great, it is comforting to hear from others on this journey. Thanks

[LynseyH]

Morning all. To say the worry never ends is unfortunately true. I had to go off to the hospital last night with cramping in my lower belly and back (all on the left side). They'd asked me to come in when I rang to see if it was normal.
Was on the monitor for an hour or so and had to have swabs done. Also had to click a button each time baby moved and she played along nicely!
98% chance I'm not going into early labour thankfully and no signs of urine infection so was just told to take it easy and if anything happens to go back in.
Didn't get home til 1am so extremely tired today but just thankful all is ok.
One thing that was a bit scary was listening to a woman in active labour, although I've been there and done it before, it brought it all back and I thought "aahhh I've got to do that again!!"

[jbee664]

Oh Lynsey, sorry you had to go through that when you were having a rubbish time anyway! Glad to hear all is well now though. Having never done labour, I can't even imagine!! eeek!!

Miami - Good luck for your scan tomorrow. I'm the same with symptoms and stressing if they go. My acupuncture bands have really helped the nausea and sickness but then I worry when I feel normal again!

New Shoes - so glad you got to hear the heartbeat again, must have felt great.

I'm now 10 weeks and holding out for the 12 week scan in 2 weeks time. Still only told my best friend. I nearly told my bosses at work last week when I felt so sick but then I tried the acupressure bands and they really helped so I decided not to.

[MoonlightMojitos]

Just catching up! Congrats on the scan highhopes so glad everything is going well.

Excellent news on the placenta whatser! Glad to hear things can go ahead as you'd hoped.

newshoes that's great you got hear the heartbeat! Hope you got some nice new clothes from what you'd ordered.

Welcome to all the newbies, I can't add much that hasn't already been said but congrats to you all and just take every day and milestone as it comes. Like others have said the majority of people go on to have a successful pregnancy and a happy ending so try and focus on that. These ladies are all so lovely and it's been great support for me on here.

Sorry you're feeling down lynsey :(. Maybe just have a bit of a pamper session to try and have a bit of me time? Or find a good book? Must be so hard with dc to look after and I can imagine it's just all go all the time on top of all the things you've been through lately. Glad to hear everything is OK with you and baby though, must have been a worry.

Had my official dating scan today, all went well and baby played along nicely for NT measurement so just a wait for the results now.

[fuzzywuzzy]

I'm having the worst day. Been off work since beginning of the week with sinusitis, GP put me on antibiotics as I was running crazy temperatures which would not go down.

So I thought I was fine to goin to work today... had to leave at midday spectacularly throwing up on my way to the tube station, gave DP a fright.

Feeling very sorry for myself. & to cap it have a banging headache and really bad backache I am hoping I don't have a kidney infection or something.

[INeedNewShoes]

Fuzzy that's rubbish. Poor you. I hope you're looking after yourself now. Keep drinking plenty of water to flush through your kidneys and keep your hydration up.

Moonlight - great news

Lynsey - not one for a quiet life, are you!? I hope you're ok today and being kind to yourself.

I can report on my maternity clothes research now! (Please ignore if this is just incredibly dull )

I've tried on dresses from the following brands: JoJoMaman, Mamalicious, Seraphine, Dorothy Perkins and Red Herring.

The Seraphine dress wins hands down for material quality and flattering shape, the material is heavy enough that it hangs nicely and doesn't cling to the wobbly bits around my hips.

The Seraphine, JoJo and Mamalicious dresses are all around the same price point (£40–50) but the niceness of the Seraphine dresses puts the others at this price to shame!

My next favourite dress is the cheapest, the Dorothy Perkins dress (£24) - material thick enough to create a good shape and not be see through.

The Red Herring dress is OK (£30) but nowhere near as nice as the Seraphine dress (£44 after a discount) and the material and cut are cheaper-looking than the Dorothy Perkins dress.

On Jeans, I've tried on Seraphine jeans and JoJo jeans. The material of the Seraphine jeans is disappointingly thin and the straight leg cut and material too clingy for my chubby legs. The JoJo straight jeans are more generous in the leg but not so flattering on the waist. My search for jeans continues!

[INeedNewShoes]

Ants - I just noticed your question. I play the flute.

Its unlikely that you have no musical talent. Maybe stringed instruments just aren't for you – they are the trickiest in terms of technique and coordination!

[jpeg28]

Oh Lynsey you poor thing that must have been so scary. So glad you're ok.

Good luck everyone awaiting scans. I remember the long long drag to the 12 week scan and I was convinced it would be bad news. Got everything crossed for you all.

fuzzy that sounds awful... I hope you can get a ton of rest this weekend and you get better soon!

Thanks so much for the research newshoes! I desperately need a nice maternity dress or two for work. I'm only 19 weeks though so I sort of want to wait until I'm a bit bigger to spend so much money! Maybe I'll treat myself to one though!

I have my 20 week scan Monday and I'm so excited and nervous at the same time! To all you teachers out there... did you tell your classes or wait until they asked you?? I've made it so far without any one noticing and was thinking after my scan Monday morning I might tell my form, not sure what to do though!!

[INeedNewShoes]

jpeg - I'm only 16 weeks but all the dresses look nice on now, which helps me justify the money because I'm hoping the dress will see me through pregnancy and beyond. If it looks nice now I could probably wear it when I'm not pregnant at all!

January sales will probably be a good time to buy stuff