Staying posifrickentive- Thread 12 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

New thread.... nice to see it filling up so quickly.

[XxBecxX]

I could grab 40 winks in the afternoon when I take the bambino to nursery but it makes me feel worse for some reason, when my 8&9 year old where little it was physically exhausting so when they had a little napsy in the afters, we'd all snuggle together in my bed and id set the alarm for 2.30 but I used to wake up feeling groggy and sickly and ever since then my body kind of prevents me from napping lol
Ahhh the joys!
I don't know if I imagined it but last nite I needed another wee and I thought sod that I've only just had one and so I tried to hold it in lol but as i lay there on my belly i swear to you that I felt some sort of movements?? I have experienced movements at 13 weeks with one or two of them (flutters and bubbles) but 11+ is a bit early isn't it?
All I thought was that maybe my bladder being full, it pushed the baby towards my belly more?
All I can do is keep and eye out for it now and see if it happens again ☺️

[Whatsername17]

I'm really lucky because the 26 weeks I'll be taking is paid to varying degrees. Half pay plus stat works out at a decent amount which is handy. We will then have 6 weeks with both of us on full pay before dh takes time off and has 7 weeks of stat only. After that he will have 6 weeks of no pay but plans to use some of his inheritance to 'pay' himself stat pay to supplement our income. It will be tight but much more manageable than when we had dd and we earned less. As long as she arrives safely I couldn't give a monkeys about the rest though. I'm currently sat at home with dd after getting a call from school saying she felt poorly and it hurt when she wees. A trip to the doctors revealed no infection and she is now happily tucking into her packed lunch so I think I've been duped! Little monkey!

[doleritedinosaur]

Aw Whatser bless her, sounds like you have been duped.
I felt a bit like that with maternity leave with DS, just wanted to get past birth. Ended up moving and giving up work though so always varies anyway.

Bec I felt movement from 10 & half weeks with this one but only when lying down and doing nothing, so it could be.

I'm enjoying feeling so much movement, seems to move away from OH though.

Par its really good you talked to your DH, it does really help to not bottle it in. I struggled during my MC before this pregnancy, especially talking to OH about it but we did, especially as he blamed himself.
I had people ask me how long I'd been trying before this pregnancy and I stated I had an MC and chemical pregnancies which then makes them feel uncomfortable but its not healthy for me to hide or not mention them. Keep doing what works for you and remember your loss your way.
I especially understand the whole "pregnancy is amazing," getting said a lot.
Midwives do encourage skin to skin, so you should be fine on that aspect, I had about 20 minutes with DS before they weighed him and checked him over then he was back with me.

This week I'm mostly positive but its getting closer and closer to 20 week scan, 16 week one was good so I'm focusing on that.
House is getting more and more together, I just need to finish up rooms and get deep cleans underway before painting gets finished. Then we can get our fish for the living room before christmas and baby.

Ah that's a good idea, going downstairs Carrick, OH woke up to me munching my sandwich and reading a book hahaha.

Hope you get a scan sorted badger.

Hope I havent' missed anyone out. Brain is dissolving away with each day at the moment.

[XxBecxX]

I just wanna get this week done so I count the days down next week to my nuchal.
Thursday tomoz so that's good lol craziness at its best 😝

[LynseyH]

Sorry for my absence.
Got horrific pains that kept me awake, in my ribs and chest. To cut a long story short, was sent straight to A&E and after much poking and prodding, they think I either have a blood clot or gall stones. I have to go back tomorrow for ultrasounds and x rays. In the meantime I have to self inject a blood thinning drug which is bloody awful and hurts like hell.
Baby is still moving and they don't seem to think it's because of the pregnancy but pregnancy could have further aggravated the issue.
I'm scared of the x rays and radiation etc but there doesn't seem to be a way round it. Either way, if it's one of the problems they think, it's a nasty issue and needs solving.
Like I needed more things to worry over!!

[theAntsareMyFriends]

whatser that's made me laugh. I loved eating lunch with my mum and had a string of made up ailments so I could go home for scrambled eggs. How old is you DD.

lynsey that sounds so stressful and sorry you are going through a tough time. I hope the test tomorrow help.

blossom congrats on the scan.

dino I'm trying to be really open about my MC. I know it makes people feel awkward but I hope it can normalise it a bit and stop it being such a lonely place. Anyway, people who ask awkward questions deserve to feel a bit uncomfortable.

[jpeg28]

Bec that sounds awful!! Was there time for a nap?! I ended up on the sofa at 1 as couldn't sleep! I don't know how you handle sleepless nights when you have all the children too... I can barely look after myself!!

Lynsey you poor thing!! I'm so sorry and I hope they can get you on the mend asap!!

[Macauley]

I'm trying to work out maternity pay and leave, it's left my head hurting! Wish hr would give me a break down of what I can expect each month but that doesn't happen. It's like trying to work out a riddle!

[Macauley]

Sorry lynsey thread updated after I post and I didn't see yours! Gall stones are awful and so sore. I had them once and told dh that I thought I was dieing I was in that much pain. I've modified my diet now and don't suffer as much just occasionally. Good luck with the tests and hope you feel better soon.

[XxBecxX]

Lynsey hunny you must be so worried! I've suffered from gall stones too and they are horrendous, the way I would describe them is like im a cartoon character who had swallowed a burger whole, it's a strange full trapped feeling under my boobs and lungs, and the pains omg and it's like when I have an attack my whole digestive system seems to shut down, then I get sulphur type burps (although not always)
It's an absolute vile thing to have, like Macauley said it's quite easy to figure out if that's what it is because you get attacks after consuming to much fatty foods, over short or long periods of time.
If it's a clot I'm useless there as I dont know anything about those, my poor girlie Im thinking about you and wishing you well xxxx

Nope Jpegs no rest for me, I went into my youngest daughters room and couldn't believe the state of it, every single item in her wardrobe was ripped out, all her shoes toys and even used pull ups where squirrelled away randomly throughout the room, it took me from 9am - 1.30 and that was just tidying and not actually cleaning, although I did change the bedding.
I'll post a pic of the now tidy wardrobe and let's see how it fares over the next fortnight!

[doleritedinosaur]

That's really good news Blossom, hope next few weeks goes quick for you.
I know about the asking, I would get really angry when my OH's regulars would say "When is DS getting a sibling?" One did this just after my last MC and OH took him away as he could tell by my face I was about to say what for. Its just like yes, we've had a sex a lot for 6 months, what other intimate details do you want?

That's really good Ant, especially as it helps you. A few others admitted difficulties too and some were just very uncomfortable but more people should talk about it. Its a hard time no matter what stage, for the woman and the man.

Mac are you sure HR won't? I got a break down from my previous work it was afterwards but that's because they cocked up massively. They should know how much they're going to pay you anyway.

I'm carbing during GBBO, can't stop eating at the moment. Kitchen might actually empty at this rate.

[Longsuffering24]

Just wondering if since having a MC anyone worries more about other things being identified at scans? Just watching a programme about Downs which reminded me of all the screening that happens and the risks that get higher as you get older. Getting to 12 weeks is just the beginning of all the worry.....

[Whatsername17]

Hope you are OK Lynsey- sounds really scary!
Long - you worry about everything. 12 weeks is a milestone then you look to the next one. It's hard but we are in it together x

[Badgerbird]

Blimey bec you are very productive on little sleep! Do you get a bit crazy & manic? You must have crashed now surely?! Good work :) ps that wardrobe is so cute and girly, love it

whatser I have to say that have me a little chuckle too. Glad DD is ok.

blossom I totally understand and have that voice too. I keep saying to myself "most people have healthy pregnancies followed by healthy babies."

I told the cleaner at work (we work in private house so we chat together ) today I was pregnant and she couldn't understand why I was scared. I said because I've already had 2 miscarriages. She smiled and said " but you will be fine this time. It's prob just because you are a bit older and your body is just taking a bit longer." She's Portuguese and the way she said it just made me smile. It was just so funny to hear it put so simply. No beating around the bush, as though it's something completely normal which it is really. Anyway I'm waffling but it kind of put my mind at rest a bit

Scan booked fri morn. Eek!

Night lovely ladies. May you sleep deeply and through the night! X

[DoubleCarrick]

lynsey my love, I wish you all the strength in the world. I'm so glad they're planning on investigating what's going on. They will do everything they can to keep you and baby safe xx xx

[LynseyH]

Do you know ladies, I've barely spoken to anyone about this in real life, just the most important people. The people I wanted to talk to most are on here. You never fail to be lovely and supportive!
Thank you for the kind messages, they really mean so much.
Pain is still there but at the moment manageable. I'm trying to rest but it's not happening yet.
I did manage to get the injection in and although I was a big wuss and cried before it even touched me, it wasn't so bad. The nurse earlier was obviously a bit rougher!

My x rays and ultrasounds are booked in for 2.45 tomorrow so I'll let you know how I get on. I have to starve for 6 hrs before (starving a pregnant woman is brave!!).
Now I really do need to try sleep but thank you again all for being such a caring bunch
Sleep well everyone xx

[DirtyDancing]

jpeg just checking in to say I hope the scan goes okay tomorrow. Thinking of you x

[Macauley]

It's good that you are getting tests whilst still going through an "attack" lynsey. Mine were always a month to 6 weeks after so there was nothing there and never got to the bottom of it really! So I just cut out fats and it has helped. I think I read somewhere that you are more susceptible to getting gall stones whilst pregnant.

[XxBecxX]

Sending my love to Lynsey for her tests today xx
Sending my love to the girlies having their nuchals today xxxx

No badger I didn't crash lol
I just battled through them got the kids a macdonalds for tea, had a visit from a bestie then when her and her kiddos left I got cozy in bed and watched tv!

[LynseyH]

mac I read the same yesterday. Although I'd heard of gall stones, I didn't know anything about them so thought I'd read up incase. Plus I was so bored at times!
It seems easy enough to treat them which is good. Kinda hoping if the issue is one they've said, that it's the gall stones as that just requires keyhole surgery (safe in 2nd trimester). Blood clots means those injections every day :-/

[LynseyH]

Oh sorry ladies, Good Luck to those with scans today!
Thank you bec!
Managed some sleep last night so feeling a bit better mentally today.

[INeedNewShoes]

Morning everyone. Sorry I went a bit quiet. Just got back from holiday and trying to catch up with everything!

jpeg - sending positive thoughts for your scan today.

Lynsey - you poor thing. Good luck for today. Make sure you have a feast 7 hours before your appointment! I can't imagine not eating for 6 hours at the minute!

I'm so convinced that things have gone wrong with my pregnancy that I've caved and booked a private early scan for Saturday. I was determined not to have an early scan but at 9 weeks I just feel like the worry is affecting me too much now and I need to know one way or the other.

[INeedNewShoes]

Lynsey - if you had to, you would deal with the injections just fine. I'm having to inject heparin every day and it's getting easier with time. But, although it sounds so very mean, I'll wish you gallstones instead.

[Badgerbird]

lynsey that sounds sooooo painful and scary. You poor thing! Let's hope they get to the bottom of it today Hun.

jpeg good luck today with your scan :)

newshoes sorry to hear you are feeling so anxious. I find it so hard to stay positive when we just don't know what's going on in there! I really hope your scan brings reassurance

I've snuck in a snuggle up in bed for 30 mins in between my 2 different jobs today. Bliss. We've sadly had a death in the family this week so on top of pregnancy hormones etc and waiting for scan tomoz I'm feeling a bit worn out!