Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

Not checked in for ages. So sorry to hear of all your worries try and keep positive I thought I had m/c again so many times you just do its natural when you've experienced such heartache.

I'm so uncomfortable now but got passed my other prem stages with my other two dd's. Hoping this little one stays in until term so I can experience taking him sprightly home instead of going special care. Got no cervix left though :(.

Good luck with all scans coming up,soon I'm all for reassurance scans especially as we've all experienced heartbreaking situations.

Big hugs to you all xxx

tinkly I have someone who owes me £240 from Jan. It sucks - don't think I'll be getting that money now! I never did my invoices this afternoon in the end

Thank you double for understanding exactly what I ment. How you said you felt resentful it could all be for nothing is exactly how I feel. I still feel this one will stick, I really do...but what if it doesn't? And then I'll have felt this s**t for weeks for nothing. I'm still struggling, I think even more than yesterday, with my emotions.

Partner useless at understanding just how rotten I feel but to give him some credit, he is leaving me alone as much as possible.

I just want to be left alone and sleep until this bit passes. I've now got my booking appt sorted for next week but I should have seen the midwife today and I cancelled.
I can't think past just how horrible this is right now and I have had the same thoughts myself, that I don't want this anymore. Then I feel worse for being an ungrateful cow cos the outcome of a healthy pregnancy is all I want.

Sorry for being so self involved to everyone else. I just don't have the capacity to be anything else right now.

What's a 24 hour tape tinkly? Everything ok? I feel like I've missed something

lynsey I only booked in with the midwife on Monday, same day as my 12 week scan. 12+2. There's no harm in delaying really as long as your 12 week scan is booked. Trust me, these feelings will pass - in the mean time, it really is fucking shit. Such horrible feelings.

I bought something for the new baby. I also have a keepsake for the last baby - I'm glad I bought it before I had bad news. It represents the hope. Maybe something like that will help?

PS - be as self involved as you like. I keep disappearing off the thread because I can't cope with other people at times.

Just joined this thread . I just found out I'm 3-4 weeks pregnant this is my first pregnancy since I had a Blighted Ovum in March this year . I have 2 children from a previous relationship so this is all new to my husband . We were devastated when we went for 6 week scan to a empty sac :-( so so nervous this time around I hope everything goes smoothly .

tinklypoo thankyou . I feel like I'm obsessing over this pregnancy which isn't healthy havnt been to Dr's yet will go next week. I haven't told anyone apart from my husband and mother in law as last time I told everyone and then afterwards was left to explain which was extremely hard. I guess the only comfort I guess is it wasn't a baby...even though I still felt pregnant for weeks after D&C I felt like a failure to my husband he was so good though. I also don't want to tempt fate so I just bookmark baby clothing shops online that I like and have made a list of names that's all I'm doing till I reach 12 weeks. It's so hard not to tell everyone when it's so exciting isn't it? And it's hard not to want to buy little baby clothes . I'm crossing my fingers and toes for everyone !!

Good to hear from you keys - hang in there a few more weeks little one!

GTT test came back clear which is good - don't have to stop eating cake and chocolate woohoo!

Tinklypoo - buy something if you want to buy something. I've got some stuff I bought when i had my mc and it gives me some comfort as it acknowledges that they were here. I know they never touched any of it, wore anything or played with anything but it's still theirs if that makes sense?!

I'm 25 weeks now and I still think about the baby I lost, especially days like today as its a year since that positive test so I know it's going to be a tough few weeks.

T'was my guestimated due date today for my tiny boy born on New Year's Eve. Not had much time to dwell on it though, I have DD off sick, she woke up complaining of a tummyache for about an hour and then was sick, so home day today. She seems absolutely fine now so I'm not sure what that was all about. Thinking of you tiny one, you were very wanted xx

Butterfly

Butterfly, so sad, thinking of you today

Lynsey, don't feel bad for being self involved. Just getting through the days, however that's possible, is all anyone can expect right now! I also totally understand the feelings of potential resentment. It's all very well being positive - today I am pregnant, etc - but what if what that actually means is today I am sick as a dog, an emotional ruin etc etc. I really hope its all going to be worth it this time (for all of us!)

Tinkly, that sounds like quite the year. Well done for getting through it. I hope all goes well with your tests today.

Keys, sorry to hear you're uncomfortable but great to hear your little one is staying put for now. I hope people around you are making things as easy as possible for you.

Hey Lisa, welcome & congratulations. How old are your DC? It's funny you used the word 'failure', that is exactly how I felt too. The pregnancy which I lost was in an previous relationship, so explaining that to my partner has been hard. I'm 18 weeks now, and I've had to tell most people, although not work yet. I dread the un-telling if everything goes wrong now but it is good to not be keeping secrets from close friends and family anymore. I think there are good points on both sides, for secrecy and sharing. Do what's right for you. As for the shopping, I'm yet to buy anything. I've got my 20 week scan two weeks today, so if all is well, perhaps I'll start after that.

Hey mikesh my kids are 10 and 8 years both premature babies . My 8 year old is a miracle babyou as she is the result of a failed D&C . I have a bicornate uterus hence why I have prems babies. I've never had any problems until me and hubby tried this year (after being on contraceptives for 5 years ) I'm hoping that is why I had a Blighted Ovum as literally first ovulation cycle I fell pregnant. Hoping this time round all is ok. I told everyone as we were so excited even my 2 kids last time but this time I'll wait till 12 weeks. Butterfly sending you hugs today xxxxx
lynseyI totally understand how you feel sending you positive vibes xx
tinkypoolet us know how you get on and goodluckxx

Yay kids have gone to grandparents house (doesn't happen often) so I can go to bed!
Tomato soup definitely seems the way forward for me right now.
Thank you for the lovely msgs whilst I'm being a miserable sod... I've rang doctors again and whilst I can't see her til Monday, at least I can offload it to her then. I've not seen a doctor since my last mc and now I'm their new best friend or rather a pain in their neck!!

How is everyone doing today? Welcome Lisa, if you look back through this thread you will see my '4 week' posts. I'm 11 weeks on Monday so not too far ahead. The last 7 weeks have been really tough but there is lots of help on here xx

I meant to say - you can see my posts and will be able to see I've been through the second worries. Don't know why I didn't type what I meant. Baby brain I think!

Hi everyone... Just been looking through posts.. The sex chat made me lol! Poor DH is being neglected at the min, not that I don't want too I'm just frightened I'll end up being sick on him
I'm 8+1 and on Cyclogest twice a day so that just seems to be accelerating symptoms at the minute and making me feel absolutely rotten, has anyone else been on this and felt the same?

Ventured to the supermarket tonight for the first time in 3 weeks after poor DH and DC have been living on takeaways or meals out, I just can't bring myself to look/prep/cook at the minute.. BIG MISTAKE - looking at the food and even the thought of cooking it sent me dashing to the toilets to throw up and had to pull car over on the way home to stand at roadside being sick and crying because I was being sick lol SO attractive
Just wish I could sleep for the next few weeks and hopefully hit the 12 week mark and start feeling normal again, each day is a milestone at the minute and I've had 2 reassurance scans at 6 and 7 weeks, got another in 2 weeks time at 10+1 feeling really good and positive this time round.
Xx

I've just been trying on my swimwear for my holiday and caught sight of my boobs in the mirror. They are huge and I have blue veins popping out all over them! Gross! Really hoping it's a good sign though.

I've just thrown up for the first time :'( been feeling the awful nausea for 3 weeks but didn't quite expect to give my dinner up at this time of night. Only tried to clear my throat and I just knew it was gonna happen. Roll on 2nd trimester!!!

I have bad bloating I'm only 3- 4 weeks but look like I'm 3 months 😭😭 think it's because it's my 3rd baby. I posted on another thread to see if anyone else had heartburn and nausea at 3 weeks and quite a lot said it's too early in pregnancy to feel those symptoms so I second guess myself now 😭 what if it's a chemical pregnancy or another blighted ovum or a false positive...... need to stop obsessing and stressing. Drs on weds hopefully will ease my mind . It's hard cause I'm standing and rushing around again work . I am a hairdresser/beautician so I work from 9am till 8pm 3 days a week and it's hard on my body. Especially seen as I'm hiding my pregnancy till 12 weeks . I don't want to jinx it this time... hope you are all having a lovely weekend I just got home from a busy day at work it's 5pm over here . Thank God I stuck the slow cooker on this morning cause I can't be bothered cooking for my DH and children lol

I had crazy bloating lisa about a week ago and it subsided pretty quickly so don't worry too much. Could be wind as the other ladies pointed out to me!
I had a blighted ovum last year and had nothing to suggest that something was wrong til I went for a scan at 11 wks, just a bit of pinkish spotting I think. I had a mmc earlier this year too and that was much more obvious there was something wrong, I was spotting quite a lot, fresh red blood and pains that got worse over days.
You mention nothing like that so I would try really hard not to worry if you can.

In other news, I have finally given in and have booked a reassurance scan for Wednesday I was determined I wasn't going to but now I've got this far (8 wks tomorrow) and I feel so bloody awful, I just want to know if everything is well. Last time I went there I was measuring too small and they could barely see anything... this time I need them to say yes we can see a baby with a healthy heartbeat and it's measuring 8+3!
Fingers crossed!!

lynseyI'll be crossing my fingers and toes for you xxx please let us know how you go x

Hi everyone. I'm not sure if I am 'allowed' here. I had an MMC September 2014. I then had a successful pregnancy with my little girl being born August 2015. This board got me through that pregnancy.

Anyway I got a faint bfp yesterday! Maybe 10 days DPO. Taking it one day at a time anyway. I have had some brown discharge on wiping today. However I had exactly this with both my MC pregnancy and my successful one, so I know it's probably old blood from implantation and means nothing either way

Happy of course you're allowed here, congratulations on your BFP!