Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

Carrick agree with the others that your MW's practice sounds ethically dubious for someone working even part-time in the NHS, if she's doing private work in NHS time that really isn't on in terms of staff codes of conduct. If you're really really keen on her is there any reason you can't just ring her and have a straight conversation with her about sorting it out so you're clearer? If you can't do that, not sure I'd want someone I couldn't call and talk directly to as my midwife anyway.

Yorkshire also really sorry to read that and hope you're taking care of yourself and getting lots of TLC xx

Very sorry Yorkshire . I hope you get another chance sometime in the future x

I'm so sorry you're going through this Yorkshire

I've just done another cbd (I know I know) and I've now got a 3+. I know it doesn't mean everything is ok but it must be a good sign right?? I don't understand though because ALL of my symptoms have gone. I've got more energy, boobs don't hurt at all, stopped needing to wee all the time and I haven't had any sickness at all. I'd come round to the fact that it had stopped progressing. Maybe it still has. I've got a scan on Tuesday & weirdly I was feeling ok (ish!) about going, having it confirmed that I'd had another MMC and getting it over with. That's a very strange way of thinking. Now I feel like I'm being tricked into thinking everything is ok. I'm a disaster!!

I think the hardest thing, princess is that we never truly know if everything is going ok trust your baby and if all the chromosomes are ok then your baby will have a fighting spirit and be ok. My symptoms have been a lot less this pregnancy so far compared to when I had my mmc. I think it's just how your body is dealing with the hormones. Fingers crossed for you.

New appointment with mw sorted and booked. It's hard to explain how she works it without making it sound weird but in my mind she's not crossing any boundaries. I'm only opting to book in with her because I already know her. The booking in needs to be nhs time because I need to be in the system to get nhs care.

I'm already terrified of all of the potential examinations and won't cope with a stranger touching me. When I was a kid I had a particularly traumatic incident with a doctor involving internal examinations and am not keen for a repeat.

On a side note - I think I'm getting a bump AND dh this week is booking the plumber to replace our broken heating so it'll be safe for the baby. Should be next month!! --problem is it's all tangled up with our leaky bathroom so that will also be ripped out next month too!!

I was talking to DH last night and saying that it does seem particularly cruel that symptoms of early pregnancy can be basically the same as PMS and the same as signs of miscarriage. He smirked and said "yet more evidence of a lack of intelligent design!" I'm having a lot of dragging achey pains, exactly like period pain and I'm finding I'm just having to try and hold my nerve. I have had these pains through most of the first tri in all my pregnancies, and all have got past the first tri (though only one ever got to the end!), so it's probably just things stretching. But equally I'm pretty sure it's what I would feel at the beginning of a MC. Stressy times.

princess I understand the dissecting of symptoms and trying to second guess your body. The truth is we have no clue. I have often bemoaned the lack of a little viewing panel into the uterus so we could keep an eye on progress. I hope your scan is good news.
I know what you mean about resigning yourself to bad news and making your peace with it just in case. I actually think I am more freaked out about the possibility of having an actual baby than I am about another loss. Horrendous as losing babies is, it feels a bit like my safe area - I've done that twice, know the drill etc, it doesn't hold shock value anymore. I feel quite twisted up and confused to be honest.

I was talking to DH last night and saying that it does seem particularly cruel that symptoms of early pregnancy can be basically the same as PMS and the same as signs of miscarriage. He smirked and said "yet more evidence of a lack of intelligent design!" I'm having a lot of dragging achey pains, exactly like period pain and I'm finding I'm just having to try and hold my nerve. I have had these pains through most of the first tri in all my pregnancies, and all have got past the first tri (though only one ever got to the end!), so it's probably just things stretching. But equally I'm pretty sure it's what I would feel at the beginning of a MC. Stressy times.

princess I understand the dissecting of symptoms and trying to second guess your body. The truth is we have no clue. I have often bemoaned the lack of a little viewing panel into the uterus so we could keep an eye on progress. I hope your scan is good news.
I know what you mean about resigning yourself to bad news and making your peace with it just in case. I actually think I am more freaked out about the possibility of having an actual baby than I am about another loss. Horrendous as losing babies is, it feels a bit like my safe area - I've done that twice, know the drill etc, it doesn't hold shock value anymore. I feel quite twisted up and confused to be honest.

sorry for double post!

Ooh, just found the post - my scan date has come through. It's 23/7, just worked out I should be 13+1 by then. Gah, that seems a very long time to wait!

Sorry - 25th July I mean. Which is slightly inconveiently the first week of the summer holidays. I was hoping to get it the week before while DD is at school. Oh well!

princess I also had less early symptoms this pregnancy than with my previous mc like double says. I put it down to my boobs/hormones/womb etc having had a practice run!

Double I've not had to have any internal examinations yet and nothing more invasive than blood tests so far and provided things go ok I'm assuming it'll be mainly a midwife 'down there' during labour. If you feel anxious when having examinations just be honest with whoever is doing it and I bet you'll feel better just having mentioned it.

Butterfly glad you've got a scan date through even tho it seems like ages away. I keep sane by having something to count down towards!

Yorkshire sorry for your loss, I hope you're getting well supported and lots of hugs

Double your MW sounds like a bit of a wheeler-dealer, but it's clear that familiarity is important to you. I hope you can get something sorted that gets you NHS care and the MW you want.

I've got my scan a week tomorrow. Feeling sick most mornings, so tired and my boobs are busting out, haven't really had strong symptoms like this before so feeling confident it's going to be positive. And looking forward to buying some maternity bras if it is

I've just had my scan and we saw a heartbeat. I'm measuring at 8+3. I can't believe it. I know I'm not out of the woods yet but it is such a relief to get past the first hurdle.

Whatser that's great news about your scan. I know 12 wks is the proper milestone but a MW told me seeing a hb at 8 wks cuts the risk of mc by 80%. I'm so pleased for you hun.

whatser that's wonderful, I'm so happy for you

whatser that's fantastic news, really pleased for you too!

butterfly yes I think I relate to where you are, I know what I'm doing with MCs having had two of them and no DCs yet and my initial expectation was this one would go that way too, and the question was how long I'd get to have with them first. Now I've gone past the 7 week milestone though, I'm finding my thoughts are turning to considering the reality of a baby possibly coming into my life at the end of it. I think I've been so preoccupied with getting and then staying pregnant I've not really thought about that properly, but it's starting to filter through.

whatser I'm so happy for you!!!!!

mimi we are scan date buddies.

Having a weird day. I've been sick about three times and felt nauseous all day. But I went to the loo earlier and there was a tiny spot of blood when I wiped. This was about five hours ago now and there has been nothing since. Getting a lot of pulling pains. Not sure what to think and trying to remain calm and positive (it's quite difficult though).

Hi all, I'm new here, I have one DD who is 16 months, I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks last Feb and I am now 8 weeks preggo and TERRIFIED!! Every twinge, I'm obsessing, I have an obsession about going to the loo every few mins to check im not bleeding -I have a cold and I'm obsessed that that is going to hurt the baby and I'm already dreading my 12 week scan incase they tell me there is no heartbeat 😢 Is it normal to be this terrified/ 😢

whatser I'm trying to channel your positivity.
I should be 8 weeks today and have a scan tomorrow after last weeks spotting. I'm trying to not obsessively think about it but am definitely scared.

God, I check the paper every time I pee. I swear I'm peeing more just so I can go and check.

Truly I cried through the whole thing. I sat in the waiting room and couldn't even imagine positive news. It is all so scary and so reminiscent of what I went through when I lost my 2nd baby. I'm so grateful and relieved for positive news today but I feel like the countdown to the next scan has already started. I hope you get positive news tomorrow. Macauley if you have any more bleeding call the epu. I had a tiny bleed at 5+4 so I completely understand your worry. I decided to wait it out because I knew they wouldn't see anything on the scan anyway. If you are 7 weeks or more then scan will be more accurate. Thanks for all of your good wishes everyone x

Thanks whatser. I will do if I have anymore by tomorrow lunchtime. Epu is right next to my work so easy to nip across. Got midwife on Wednesday so will tell her then and a scan booked in for friday. Praying and fingerscrossed it was a one off.

I think my contact knicker checking caused my bleed. Fingers crossed it is nothing x

The knicker checking never goes away - I'm 23 weeks and still checking now!

Oh no northern don't tell me that! I had it in my mind I had only a few more weeks obsessing about knicker checking then I would be calm and less crazy lady peeing 500 times a day!