Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

yorkshire so sorry you are in that horrible limbo

tinkly that's great about your scan, the odds are really good for you now. Is it sinking in for DH yet do you think?

whatser I concur with the others, you have nothing to worry about with your food intake - your colleague was rude, ignore it. I hope your MW can get you a reassurance scan, I think you'd really benefit from one.

keys great news that baby is still cooking.

Aargh to the wind mimi, I am having a lot of that at the moment too - I think it;s my shit diet and lack of exercise but it's spectacularly painful isn't it.

6+6 today, still feeling rubbish, still on anti nausea meds. I went into the garden today, walked to the end of it to look at the veg patch. It's the first time I've been out there in a fortnight and blimey has everything come on a lot. I'm so weak at the moment though, that nearly tipped me into a flop/vomit. Stumbled back in and fell onto the sofa willing the nausea back down. I am quite miserable to be honest, and utterly bleeding shattered. My first set of thyroid bloods are back though and I need to up my meds off of those so that goes part of the way to explaining the crippling tiredness. I keep reminding myself that one day this will be a memory and not a reality.

Sorry you are struggling Butterfly. Glad the meds are helping. After our mmc in January dh booked a holiday to give us something to look forward to. It will be our first holiday abroad with ddand was a lovely distraction whilst we were in the depths of despair. Then we decided, seeing as we weren't in any rush to save money anymore, to have a conservatory built, due to be built in three weeks. Today we both bought brand new cars! On a hire purchase agreement which we both had before with our old cars but before renewal time by 8 months for me and a year for dh! The cars are the same cost per month as we were already paying on our existing cars and the conservatory came about after we remortgaged at the end of our term and found we could borrow a bit more and pay less. The holiday has been the only real expense, but still, I think I'm filling the void with stuff. Which is crazy because I'm pregnant and should start saving! I'm scared though. If I start saving it is real. I really think I need that scan. Otherwise I'm going to end up broke and completely bonkers!

Yorkshire I'm so sorry you haven't had more promising news.

Raspberry yep have those wobbles too. I just want the baby here now and safe.

Mimi wind does get better in later trimesters but it can still be a real pain. I seriously was beginning to think something was happening earlier given the pain/ cramps so was trying to bounce up and down on my birthing ball and suddenly paaarrrrrppppp!!! DH was shocked, lol!!

Yorkshire I'm so sorry to hear about your levels sending you lots of

Tinkly really pleased to hear that things are going well.

Everyone's building/decorating/renovation/money spending news sounds good!

I'm 6 weeks today I think. It's 6 weeks since the start of my last MC so I think I go with that? I've booked a scan for the beginning of the week after next. It feels like a manageable time to wait (ish!) and I think I should be able to see something at 7 weeks? I could have gone this next week but I was worried that even if things were ok I wouldn't see anything and I'd still be worried anyway. I still don't feel like I've got any symptoms. Perhaps slightly sore boobs but nothing more. I did a cbd in Friday (so 5+5) and it still said 2-3 rather than 3+. Do you think that's ok?

Yorkshire the limbo your in is horrible, having been there I truly wouldn't wish it on anyone. I really hope you come through this with positive news and this is just a blip.

I can't believe how many of you are renovating and decorating etc! Is the nesting instinct kicking in early?!

keys sorry to hear your still having such a rough ride but so glad baby has stayed put for now. Everyday baby gets stronger so hang on in there, your doing amazing.

I have felt absolutely exhausted this last few days and I can't make my mind up if its the humidity or pregnancy symptoms. I'm extremely thirsty which I've experienced with previous pregnancies too. Going by my dates, makes me 5 wks today. Everything is calm and I have nothing to make me worry right now but then I'm still knicker checking! I'm still trying to keep the calm attitude and let this go where it does but still think I'm in a bit of denial anyway, like I won't have a baby at the end of it so why get attached. I still remember someone posting on the previous thread I was on about losing naivety once you've experienced a miscarriage and it really is spot on.
I really hope this pregnancy works out cos I really don't want to keep putting myself through the wondering!

However, at least I do feel calmer this time and although I waver, as you can probably get from my thoughts above, I'm doing my best to take it as it comes

Eastend your post just had me in giggles, maybe I should get a birthing ball now for wind relief. It might be less embarrassing than the neighbours constantly seeing me on the floor with my bum in the air trying to cajole my parps out.

Am starting to feel like a proper pregnant woman now, have made breakfast whilst feeling nauseous, was almost sick when I discovered our milk had turned in to yoghurt, and had a cry cause DH wouldn't dish his food out, while I had to sit down for a few mins. I don't think DH was prepared for the preggo mood swings this morning.

Hello, hope you don't mind me joining you I had a mmc in May,, chose the surgical management (evac). I had a BFP yesterday. Shocked is not the word. We had planned on waiting a few months to let things settle down. Should have been more careful really! Still not 100% sure how I feel about it, definitely a mixture of emotions right now. I was so sure my period was coming, don't even know why I took a test! I'm hoping my GP is supportive, I know I should have had at least 1 period after the mc!

Has anyone else gotten pg after mc straight away without having a period first?

Glad it made you laugh Mimi!! Xx

Exact same thing happened to me Flying a few years ago. I had a MMC and D&C in December then found out I was expecting again in the January, so must have caught the very next egg with no period in between. I was completely shocked too and felt terrified as I had been doing aerobics with lots of sit-ups the week before. Anyway I had a completely normal pregnancy and had a healthy baby boy. So congratulations and fingers crossed, chances are it will be fine this time for you too.

Why do all the fears you have pop into your head in the middle of the night? Now can't get back to sleep.

Spent most of the day being sick so had a takeaway for tea as I was starving and feeling better. Now got the trapped wind which I mistake every time for something bad happening even though I need to just pump!!!!

I think that's normal, Macauley. I had a lot of twinges and cramps to begin with which have settled down now. Both having the cramps and now not having the cramps were/are a bad sign in my head!

Just checking in to say hey. Tinkly i'm so glad you're scan went ok. We're both still on track for the same dates!! (can't remember if i said i name changed - it's chelle792).

I had my booking in appointment with my midwife today but she cancelled so looks like it's going to be next week now. She's going to book me for my scan though which is good.

Had loads of horrible migraines again this weekend so my chiropractor friend is seeing me at 11.30 to crack my neck and hopefully sort me out a little. I normally dose up heavily on painkillers to get through and am really struggling with not being able to do that!

Haha, I felt it was time for a change because I tend to share too much information and my last nn was linked to my email address so obviously identifiable for people who know me. With all of the DM stuff, I didn't fancy that. I feel a little more protected now.

I do feel really lucky about all the nappies but it's really frustrating that I don't really have a clue what to do with them! I think I linked a youtube video on the thread and that was really good about how to fold prefolds. I'll have a little look on the parenting thread and see if I can work out what I'm doing from there - thanks

I'm not too worried about the booking in appointment now I've had the scan at 9 weeks. I feel like everything is going ok and just looking forward to the scan really, like you! Not sure when mine will be yet though. Nice to hear that you're starting to relax into it a little - I feel the same. Although my mmc was at 11.5 weeks the baby has developed more than last time.

What do you do? Do you have an outside job? I don't start till 3.30 today and am so thankful that my chiropractor friend sorted my neck out because it has eased the worst of the migraine

Hi everyone...

I've just read through the updates from the last week - have been away on a big family holiday. Obviously I had to share my news with everyone. At 15 weeks, it's getting rather obvious and the nature of the trip meant there were certain things I couldn't join in with. So now it is out there in the big wide world, I've told everyone I care about telling personally, which feels good. What feels weird is the normalcy and positivity with which everyone else discusses things - questions as to our plans, expectations, predictions as to sex etc etc. I only ever told one friend about my MC so most people have no idea what's going on inside my mind. I think it may have been a good thing for me to have to pretend to be normal about pregnancy for a week. A bit of a 'fake it til you make it' type situation. I really really hope I will not come to regret it.

It's good to read everyone's news. If I didn't say before, I'm really pleased for you Double that your scan brought positive news. Good luck to both you and Tinkly for booking in appts. Yorkshire - my sympathies to you. The waiting is horrid, no-one deserves this. Thinking of keys, your situation sounds incredibly stressful but also like you are doing a wonderful job. Butterfly I hope you're feeling better with the medication? I hope you're getting through the days ok . Welcome to everyone new! And sorry to anyone who's updates I've missed!

I've got my 15 wk appointment with the midwife tomorrow. Am I right in thinking this will just be routine stuff? It will actually be the first time I'm meeting my proper midwife, as they squeezed me in for booking in at the hospital on a Sunday as there were no appointments left. The lady I saw there was so lovely. I hope the one tomorrow is going to be as nice...

Sat waiting for the midwife for my booking appointment and my stomach is in knots. I feel like I want to run in the opposite direction. The thought of filling in three maternity booklet and making appointments that might not happen makes me feel sick. I think I've buried my head in the sand and now I have to start acknowledging it. I'm 7+4 which is when they dated my lost baby on the private scan. I was supposed to have been 10 weeks 5 days but the measurements said 7+4 so today is really hard.

for you Whatser. That is so hard. I hope you feel you can share what's in your head with the midwife and that she will be understanding. The emotions you feel are real and valid but they do not detract from the fact that there was nothing you did or didn't do that made 7+4 a significant day last time, and nothing to indicate it will be so this time. You've done everything right. Best of luck to you for your appointment, let us know how it goes.

Thanks both. Midwife was lovely. It's just so hard. She's booked an early scan so just got to keep my fingers crossed now.

whatser glad midwife was lovely and you are getting an early scan. My booking appt is next week and im not filling out the forms till the night before.

To the ladies suffering from headaches are you taking anything for it? My sickness is making me dehydrated and now got a headache but unsure if I want to take anything.

Hi all. I'm feeling rubbish today My belly hurts & I took another cbd which still says 2-3 weeks. I just feel so sad There are no real signs that anything's wrong (except cbd) but I don't really have any symptoms at all. I just keep thinking about my MMC. I had no idea then either. I'm only 6+1, this feels horrific

Midwife said today that paracetamol is fine but nothing else over the counter.