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Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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sundayraspberry · 07/05/2016 21:44

Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still Smile

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dobbythedoggy · 05/06/2016 03:22

Hello ladies

Just popping my head in to say how pleased I am to see an update from keys. Have been thinking of you and hoping you were hanging in there. Fingers crossed your little man stays put a while longer and you can continue to rest up at home. Saying you've been on one hell of a rollercoaster is an understatement but hope you are on the home straight now.

paws lovely to see Samuel getting bigger!

I am now 3 months post graduation from this thread and so lovely to see some of you who were in the early stages back then progressing. Wishing everyone here all the luck in the world in coping with all the scarry moments pregnancy after mc brings.

Eastend2015 · 05/06/2016 09:29

Thanks Dobby, great to hear from you. How is life as a mummy? Grin

princessconsuelobananahammock · 05/06/2016 20:28

Hi all,

Just popping in to say hello really! I feel like I can release my anxious brain here & then get back to pretending all is fine again in real life.

This is going to be a long few weeks.

Hope everyone else is ok Smile

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 05/06/2016 21:06

Tinklypoo, how far along are you? I ask because I am starting to think I may need a bra fitting, but I am only 5+4 and really don't think I ought to be getting increased boobage at this early stage. Plus, like many of us, I am working on the assumption that this pregnancy might not progress (I got to 9 weeks previously) and really don't want to shell out at Bravissimo for a temporary increase. But I am getting overspill in my current bra size, so will probably have to go for it in the next week or two

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 05/06/2016 21:55

Thanks Tinkly, I will check out the self measuring instructions. When I was pregnant with my DD I went through several bra sizes and ended up pretty massive, so I would like to keep going as long as possible before the first shift. I have an early scan on Wednesday (6w) at the fertility unit (even though this was a v lucky natural conception, not the IVF cycle we were originally planning, as we are on their books we can still have all the early check they give to assisted conceptions). If there is no bad news at that scan, I may permit myself a new bra purchase.

I am trying to remain upbeat, but it is so difficult to be hopeful when every day you fear the worst. I think my fears are compounded by the fact that my mc was nearly 3 years ago. It has taken 3 years to conceive again and, at 40, with my history of barrenness, the chances of me getting another go, if this pregnancy ends in mc, are slender. But I didn't expect to get this chance, and so far I am still pregnant, so no need to assume the worst will happen yet.

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 05/06/2016 22:37

I hope I'll be sticking around too!

Although I may just have done a silly thing. Tested with a CB digital on Wednesday (5w) and got a pregnant 2-3 weeks. All fine, as expected. Just tested again and got the same result. At 5+4 I should be getting 3+. Now googling for examples of other people who have had similar and found lots of threads that end in miscarriage. Plus plenty of threads telling the OP to step away from the CB digital tests cos they are not accurate.

I am worrying myself needlessly, aren't I?

Bowserlovesmojitos · 05/06/2016 22:58

Just popping in after lurking a bit to say congratulations to Lynsey - I was so upset for you earlier this year so it's lovely to see you back and your partner is communicating with you Smile
Just at 25 weeks and getting reassurance from kicks - anterior placenta so rather cushioned at times but does mean I am not desperate to have scans all the time.
I do still feel like i'm waiting for things to go wrong, whilst also feeling excited. I guess after a loss you have that constant feeling of waiting for the other shoe to drop but paws crossed.
Just to add to any concerns about heavy bleeding - please please take heart it is not always the end, we lost a twin and I had a huge ongoing bleed but this little one hung on in there so anything is possible!

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chelle792 · 06/06/2016 08:58

lynsey I'm a little late responding, sorry. Just wanted to reassure you that this pregnancy, my DH didn't want to think about it or talk about it. He just wasn't engaging with it at all. Now I've had a scan at 9 weeks, I can visibly see he is more relaxed, he's now starting to plan what he wants to do with the spare room he's planning on building the furniture. I think my dh was just terrified we'd have to go through all the grief again.

butterfly i do hope the meds are helping make things a little more tolerable for you. Sucks that you're so poorly Flowers i had a really rough time a couple of weeks ago - antibiotics, a cold and the congestion was making me so sick and nauseous. It really was crummy.

raspberry what renovations have you got going on at the moment? We are having our heating and bathroom done in August and DH is also hoping to rip out and replace the staircase/banisters and god knows what else before I'm too heavily pregnant. He's also now on about putting another wall up somewhere.

Ah I feel your pain with bras!! I bought new bras just before six weeks. I had a fitting. She gave me one with a little extra cup room but I've already filled that now and I'm only 9 weeks! Hopefully they'll stop soon!

I'm rocking a little pregnancy bump at the moment and it feels massive. I know that it' not actual pregnancy and mostly just bloating but DH looked at me last night and said "your tummy didn't look like that on Friday" Grin We're both pretty frugal broke and only spend money really when necessary but he said I'd be needing some new clothes soon! We need to save so hard before Jan as being self employed (both of us) I only get statutory maternity, DH gets no paternity and generally speaking he doesn't earn much for the first three months of the year. Scary times!

LynseyH5 · 06/06/2016 09:34

Hello bowser! lovely to see you are over the half way mark and thank you for your words. It feels like a lifetime ago I was here but hopefully I'm here for the long haul this time.
chelle it's that age old thing isn't it where people forget that the male struggles too. My partner is now much calmer about things but I do think alot of that's because of my attitude this time. I'm carrying on as normal, not stressing and trying to keep the attitude "what will be, will be!". I know I won't feel that way if it's bad news again but I'm not thinking that far ahead. One day, one step at a time!

AButterflyLightsBesideUs · 06/06/2016 11:16

oouch to the broken toe Mimi! A friend trod on and broke mine in PE when we were 11 - it's fused weirdly now so can't bend. Hurts like fuck if I stub it these days.

Sunday no not a bug sadly, just blardly awful pregnancy sickness. I am quietly panicking about multiples (probably totally unnecessarily) but because I can't understand why it is so bad this time. My balance is off, but might be the avomine, so I feel really odd if I'm sitting/standing, and am pretty much permanently lying down to keep the nausea at a more bearable level. I've never been this ill. I think on the whole I would prefer to have campylobacter again rather than this, and that is saying something!

tinkly your post of frets raised a smile, I can relate to that! It's like at the start all you can think of is hoping that the pregnancy gets through the first few weeks and after a bit suddenly the possibility that it might all be ok starts to dawn and then suddenly there's a whoosh of things that you now might actually have to face, like birth and a baby, and mind goes into overdrive churning through all eventualities.

6+1 today. As I said before I have largely forgotten about the pregnancy, I just feel like I am serving time in some horrible sick zone and am marking off the days, but not really knowing when the end of it will be. I am trying to hold on to the fact that with all my other pregnancies it was worst at 9 weeks and slowly receded after that and I was ok largely by about 13 weeks. Please may it be the same! Day 8 in the nausea camp, and counting. I miss real life.

Lynsey what will be will be, indeed. It helped me a bit to realise that there is almost nothing you can do to lose a healthy pregnancy, and almost nothing that can be done to save one that is not going to stick. I just have to go with it and hope for the best whilst being pragmatic and not assuming success.

princessconsuelobananahammock · 06/06/2016 15:45

Hi all,

Abutterfly I hope you feel better soon. It's too hot & sticky to be feeling so ill Sad

Everyone's renovation plans sound exciting! I'll definitely be waiting a bit before looking at ours!

I've annoyed myself less today as I've been working. Nothing like 30 kids to distract you all day! Still poking my boobs like a weirdo though! Again, being at school has stopped me doing this somewhat!

MollyWho · 06/06/2016 20:26

Firstly apologies, I haven't posted since page 2 but I have been keeping up with all the worries and words of wisdom.
Had a scan last week as a follow up to the tests I'd been having as a result of recurring mc and was measuring to my dates, 6 wks then, now 7 - it reassured me for about a day.
Follow up with consultant yesterday said tests so far all clear but it resulted in a prescription of progesterone suppositories Shock have read positive anecdotes but just wondered if anyone here has been using them or has any good info about them?

CocklesandMussels · 06/06/2016 22:05

Hello, I've posted here a bit (a while ago) but I've not been here much, partly due to hyperemesis, partly due to generally being a bit crap. Lynsey congratulations. I think I joined the thread just after you left last time and it's great that you're back.

Molly, I was on progesterone with this pregnancy. One previous MMC, three chemicals and spotting before my period every month for the past year. I never had my progesterone levels checked though. To be honest, my pregnancy symptoms this time were way more pronounced early on than when I miscarried, and it felt different from the start, so I'm not sure if it was the progesterone that helped, or something else. But I think there probably is something in it. A friend of mine is in a trial at the moment looking into it and I wonder if it will be prescribed a lot more in a few years time. The only downside I had with it (apart from the mess) was thrush. I'm now 17 weeks and off it, which is nice! I was on 400mg twice daily, I'm brewing twins. A very quick scan at my consultant appointment last week showed two good heartbeats, and they had definitely both grown a lot since the 12 week scan. Wishing you all the best with it.

MollyWho · 07/06/2016 06:58

Thanks cockles that's good to know. Congrats on the twins x

sundayraspberry · 07/06/2016 08:25

Keep yourself well hydrated if you can keep fluids down butterfly, might help with dizziness. Perhaps try still lucozade too.

Glad you and your partner are on the same page again lynsey, think most men have these moments of panic!

Yorkshire really hope your scan goes well tomorrow. On the subject of bras, I waited until after my 12 wk scan before getting fitted as I thought it would tempt fate any earlier but was soooo much more comfortable after and I'd only gone from b cup to c. I can recommend a good independent bra shop if you are anywhere near Skipton. Wondering when to get remeasured myself, any ladies who already have DC have any advice, do I go pre or post birth? I'm small chested so tempted to wait until after.

Chelle we've got all sorts going on in the home atm! Electrics, plastering, walls being taken down Hmm DH also decided the baby's room needs finishing even tho it'll be in with us for 6 months so it looks like men also get the nesting instinct! We are doing all the work ourselves too to save some cash but it's slow progress.

Cockles good to hear your twinnies are growing nicely! Has the shock worn off yet? x

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LynseyH5 · 07/06/2016 09:15

Butterfly I really like what you said, it felt comforting to read that, if it's ment to be, it will be and if not... there is nothing we can do that will make a difference.
Thank you cockles. I do remember your name so I think your right, we passed each other. Congratulations on the twins! How exciting and scary all at the same time!
sunday things are definitely better with my partner. He's much calmer about it now which is helping me stay a little level headed. I desperately want this to work out (as we all do) but this time I'm trying a different approach. I've told harldy anybody and it feels like there is less pressure that way too.
The one person to know other than me and partner is my fitness instructor and I was gutted she felt it best for me not to attend anymore. She said with my history and being so early on, it's best to play it safe. I obviously don't want to do anything risky but still upset I can't keep up with it. All accounts on the net say excercise is a positive so feels like a bit of a kick in the teeth!
Hope everyone else is doing OK today....do you find that when the sun shines, it makes everything feel better?! I do!
I'm not sure if too much sun and not enough sleep is the cause of my tiredness or if pregnancy symptoms are starting already.... I feel exhausted!!

Eastend2015 · 07/06/2016 11:51

Hello all, just checking in. Day 2 of mat leave and enjoying the sunshine 😄

Lynsey I did a few high impact classes at the beginning (dance cardio and that sort of thing). Any risk seems to be more related to over doing it or maybe falling but if your instructor has advised not then definitely follow her advice! I did personal training for about a year between my MMC and about 25 weeks pregnant which used up all my free cash but was well worth it for my state of mind and meant I have avoided lots of the usual aches and pains. At the beginning I did quite a varied programme with her to strengthen my core then when I found out I was pregnant I eased off the cardio and did Pilates and trx based stuff and swimming so exercising 3 times per week. More recently, I've been doing preggy yoga and body balance so a lot more gentle but still kept my back mobile. Went for a swim this morning and it felt great so even if you can't do the high intensity stuff I highly reccomend finding some other options that work for you!

DoubleCarrick · 07/06/2016 11:52

just checking my name change (it's chelle)

sunday i know the feeling about the house works! It's good that DH had already started decorating the little room before I found out I was pregnant so that's finished already. I feel the pain massively because DH is a decorator by trade so everything takes him ages as he wants it perfect I'd happily just slap a coat of paint on the walls I agree with you on the nesting instinct. Sunday DH decided to "sort out" the spare room. It is piled high with materials for the bathroom. He's gutted the place and thrown loads of stuff away. It does look better but he's desperate to get everything sorted!!