Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

[sundayraspberry]

Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

Place marking, hello!

9w tomorrow. Miscarriage last November. 2 kids age 8 & 6.

Placemarking! 34 week growth scan on Monday and anxiety is returning

Ps thanks for the new thread raspberry!

...Just letting those who haven't been back to the previous thread know that I posted a long post explaining/announcing the birth of my baby boy... Pics included! Please do have a read

And thank you to those who have congratulated me already xxx

Just finished off the previous thread with my congrats Paws... OMG, how gorgeous is your little Samuel?!

Have we got an updated due date list anywhere?

Paws huge congratulations to you. Samuel is gorgeous and I'm glad all is well now after your birth experience

Congrats Paws c

Baby measuring 5lb4 at scan today, which is bang on average for 34 weeks but sounds huge!! That relief when you hear the heartbeart never goes . Waiting to see the consultant now and hoping to negotiate out of consultant led care so I can use the lovely birth centre. Fingers x'd!!!

Released from consultant led care but the consultant wants us to see the head midwife just to check there are no issues on their side. Brilliant NHS bureaucracy, sigh!

Congratulations paws. It is so lovely to hear some happy news.

Thanks to raspberry for setting up the new thread.

I had my booking in appointment yesterday with a really nice midwife. Turns out blood tests are really nothing to be worried about after all. I'm glad that's one thing to cross off the list. She estimated that I'm approaching the 12 wk mark but I need to wait for a dating scan to confirm this.

The constant worrying is really starting to get me down. Everything from how awful a blood test would be to have I somehow contracted HIV to what would I do if I got a high risk result on the trisomy test to what excuse can I dream up for not drinking at whatever social event next presents itself. I am finding it so hard to discern between what a proper, reasonable worry is and what isn't. Does anyone have a strategy for this??

The latest thing is this low-level back pain that started sometime yesterday and hasn't gone away. It's not as severe as a period pain (not my period pains anyway) and if I wasn't constantly worrying about it, I imagine I could quite easily forget about it. It comes and goes though. No bleeding or other symptoms. What could this be? I read something that said UTI might be a possibility? I'm not having any pain passing urine though. Has anyone had something similar? Isn't it so typical that before seeing the midwife yesterday, I had not experienced any noteworthy symptom and now this new worry is here and I have no-one to ask.

Any advice / handholding appreciated. And good luck to those with scans or appointments this week.

Well I stop checking in for news on you for a couple of days paws and you only go and have a baby! Samuel is completely and utterly beautiful. Sending you a massive congratulations. Very sorry to hear you had such a time of it but glad to see he is here safe and sound. Hope your recovery is smooth and that you're enjoying lots of cuddles.

Thanks everyone...lovely to read all the congrats...im enjoying every minute of being a new mummy, even though I'm nackered
He really is beautiful xxx

Hi, thought I could join this thread.
Mc just over a year ago at 8 weeks, now 4 weeks pregnant after a year of ttc and very scared and anxious that it will happen again.
My booking appointment is already booked for 4 weeks time, not sure how I'm going to cope with all the waiting!

Hey Freya

Welcome. My story is very similar to yours so I know exactly how you feel. I imagine your doctor / anyone you have spoken with about this has said (like mine did) that statistically you are unlikely to have any problems this time. That most pregnancies result in healthy babies. It hasn't helped me much with my default emotional response which has been worry-based.

The waiting is horrid and nothing makes it better. I coped with those weeks by not acknowledging to myself or anyone else that anything was different. I didn't even do a test. I'm not advocating that as a good response, I guess I'm just saying whatever gets you through is fine! Is your partner being supportive?

I had my booking in appointment a few days ago and the midwife was so understanding about how I feel. She called me today with reassuring results from blood tests and positive comments about my health etc. I hope you find a way to get through these next few weeks and that everything stays uneventful in your pregnancy

Thank you mikesh909. I haven't spoken to a health professional yet other than the midwife when they rang to make the booking appointment, nothing was said about anything even though I put on the form about my mc.
I am aware that it's quite likely that this pregnancy will be fine but I can't help but worry. I'm an anxious person anyway suffering with panic attacks for no apparent reason however my anxiety isn't overwhelming atm so I think I'm doing ok.
I'm doing my best to carry on as normal, but I'm so tired all the time and now I'm feeling sick from mid afternoon until I go to sleep so it's not as easy as I hoped it would be.
My husband is very supportive but we haven't told anyone other than my closest friend as my parents would worry as now I live 250 miles from them.
I'm glad your booking appointment went well, and I hope your pregnancy is uneventful and healthy

It sounds like you're doing everything you can . I was also suffering horrendously with the tiredness but I feel like I've turned a corner in the last week or so. Same with the incessant need to eat. The midwife said it's normal to expect the symptoms to ease off around 12 weeks. [Not that I know that's how far along I am... it's all been a bit of guesswork so far. Dating scan two weeks today... ]. All you can do is keep going, sleep as much as possible, eat what you feel like and remember that it's not forever. Good luck!

Have to share my scan at 9w+3d today - with a lovely strong heartbeat. Over the moon. I am hoping my chances are very good now.

Ahh hooray! Congratulations, so happy for you!

lilydaisyrose, that's wonderful.

I've been bleeding slightly since yesterday morning so I'm very worried, convinced the worst is going to happen but at the same time holding onto hope as I have no cramping, still keep feeling sick and my boobs still hurt.
All I can do is wait and see and look after myself :-/

Thank you

Freya - how pregnant are you?

I'm four weeks

Congratulations lily. Happy news! When is your next scan?

Freya - try not to panic. There are lots of things it could be. Have you considered whether implantation bleeding is a possibility? I think it's common around the time your period would be due?

Take care of yourself

Thanks Mike! My 12w NHS scan is on Mon 30/5 so just a couple of weeks away really. How are you doing?

Freya, implantation bleeding was my thought too - but at 4w, you might have to wait it out and see what happens. My thoughts are with you.

Thanks mikesh909 and lilydaisyrose. My period was due two weeks ago so I don't think it's that. If it was implantation bleeding, shouldn't that have happened already?
There's still not a lot and it is mostly dark, so I'm hoping it's nothing. I think it is a case of wait and see.

Do you mean you are 6w pregnant then if your period was due 2 weeks ago? Pregnancy is dated from the first day of your last period, not from when you conceived.