Pregnancy after infertility

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Thought I’d start this thread as I find myself feeling quite out of place on the ‘normal’ antenatal club threads - find it difficult to relate to being upduffed after 'just' having some sex, and thinking ahead to buying maternity clothes, how much maternity leave to take, where I’d like to give birth etc

I realise it’s entirely my own issues and that infertility world has clouded my views, but I want to scream ‘DON’T YOU KNOW EVERYTHING THAT COULD GO WRONG!!’.

There’s a thread for pregnancy after previous loss, but thought there might be some kindred spirits who are navigating the world of pregnancy after infertility

Thinking of you today rach and sunrise xxx

boris - i was the same as blue rose, I went for 2 to 1 to one every other day to slowly reduce. Might be worth speaking to your clinic. I felt that my bloating got better after I stopped and things seem to settle down. My spots only got worse though!

Boris two a day to none is quite a big drop, perhaps it's worth asking about cutting down more slowly. I had 1 for 4 days, then half for a further 4 days. You might be having withdrawal symptoms!

Hi everyone. I haven't posted here since March! I can't believe I haven't kept up with updates.

I'm sorry to hear of those who have lost their babies or are currently having problems. It's worrying enough without complications.

My ICSI baby is due on 16th June and I'm 37 weeks today. Sometimes I still can't believe we have come this far.

Good luck to those having scans today; I hope you have good news.

Osirus - that is excellent news & I am so pleased it is going so well. I am 6 weeks behind you! How are you finding it? I am ok at the moment but worried about what it is going to be like in a few weeks. I know that I am not going later than 38 weeks so 7 weeks to go!

I have good news!! All is well baby Birchy is growing well a little stubborn and wouldn't turn for a good photo. My dates have been moved forward I'm now 13 weeks. I actually can't believe I have gotten so lucky

birchy - I am so pleased! You will have to share pics when you have them. My dates got moved forward at my scan as well.

Congrats Birchy that is great news. Xx

Brilliant Birchy, I just knew you would be bringing some good news this evening. :)

Perfect birchy,congrats!!!
Ladies I have not so good news.
My scan was today and 2 sacs were fount but very small indeed im guessing they stopped growing when I first started bleeding around 10th may,embryos went in on 5th may. Basically the nurse has told me a miscarriage is inevitable but also have a big clot round the 2 sacs ? Anyone else experience this ?
I have been told to carry on meds until next Thursday as they are going to scan me again. The reason for telling me to carry on with meds because (legally) they can't tell me to stop as from 7 weeks they can hear a heartbeat even though the nurse knows they have stopped growing! Mind f*ck or what?!?
I feel like not carrying on with meds as this is just prolonging this nightmare, what is the point? Anyone have any thoughts?
I feel numb at the moment only way I can explain my feelings. I'm scared for what's to come especially with this clot as I don't quite know what it means.....
I don't quite know where we go from here,how much heartache can one person take? I don't want to give up because I know the WANT for more children will never go .. Life is just so unfair.
I want to wish you all the luck in the world and hope you are all given the chance to become parents. I'm grateful that I've been given that chance once and I have to stay forever grateful for that.

I will let you all know how I get on but I don't want to bring you all down . Thankyou all for listening and advice,I'm glad I've finally open up a little and shared my experiences. X

And Kate everything is crossed for you!! I think i was just couple days in front off you. so I wish you all the luck in the world!x

Oh my word Rach. I'm so hugely sorry. My heart is with you. Fuck. I'm so sorry. I have no advice on the medication I'm afraid. Is there a risk if you stop? I hope all this resolves as painlessly and smoothly as possible so you can maybe, dare I say, try again? I'm sure you aren't even thinking that far. You are in my thoughts and I can't thank you enough for all the support you have given me. Maybe we can both re/join in a few months with a new journey ahead of us?! Sending you so much love and thoughts.

Xxxx

So pleased for you birchy, that's great news.

Lovely to hear from Thom and Osirus, hopefully it starts to feel more "real" as you go through pregnancy? I can only take it one step at a time!

Rach I'm sorry to hear your news. I would be inclined to carry on the meds just in case, to give the embryos a fighting chance, it's just another few days. I don't know much about clots or bleeding, but it sounds like the bleeding is separate to a miscarriage? Just going from my own experience. At my 7wk scan I had a second sac which had stopped growing at 5wks but apparently it has now been "absorbed" as it was still visible on my 9wk scan but not at the 12wk scan. The bleeding i had just before the 9wk scan was apparently unrelated/unexplained and I haven't had any bleeding since. It's ok to feel numb, just take the time you need. Is there a consultant you could speak to about the scan today?

Rach050 I'm so sorry that you didn't have good news today. I'm afraid I don't have any experience of meds. You have gotta do what you think is best for you and mentally what you feel you can cope with. I was really hoping for goods news for you. I will continue to keep you in my prayers.

Scan as requested: So they wouldn't move from this position from ages so I had to go wee then jiggle about and they moved onto their side with their back to us and refused to move after!! Little git! Sonographer said it's def a girl with how stubborn it is lol

Congrats birchy!!! Amazing news.

Kate I don't really know if a risk is involved if I stop,maybe I should off ask.... I would love to carry on some sort off journey with you but I just don't know what the next hours/days weeks will bring. I will keep checking to see what happens with you!
blue- I don't know if the bleeding is separate to miscarriage? I took from today that I'm not fully miscarrying because off the meds, as they are stopping what's suppose to be happening fully. Does that make sense? I still don't know what to do, I'm due to take them soon.

Birchy- beautiful pic,brought a smile to my face

I'd perhaps keep taking them Rach if you have been advised to? I know the feeling of thinking the medication is just keeping you going but you never know, miracles can happen and at the very least, it may keep you safe and healthy which is the most important thing. Can you speak to someone tomorrow?

I went back to work today. Found it impossible to smile. But it was nice to be back and face everyone. I am sure it will be easier tomorrow.

I have told my doctor that I want to stop all medication and interventions & just let nature take its course, and I don't think he was surprised, which says it all I suppose. I am going to an open day for Create Fertility in a few weeks to look at options, so that is a positive step too.

xx

Rach, that sounds very upsetting and confusing. Was there a consultant present at the scan? It sounds like the bleed may be separate so I would continue the meds for now and revisit it all at a next appointment, if you can bear it. I'm sorry this is so drawn out for you.

Glad the scan was ok Birchy. I always got the scanners to turn the screen away until/if it looked ok.

Those worried about your birth, please don't be scared. I was phobic about needing an epidural as I had had an awful lumbar puncture in the past. In the end I was induced, 24 hours back to back labour, episiostomy, failed ventouse, emergency c section, ripped cervix etc... And do you know what? I have really good memories of the whole thing weirdly! And I got to meet the most amazing little person at the end of it.

Kate - sounds like good plans for the future. It helps to have a plan x

Maybe I should speak to someone tomorrow Kate....
Is this how you feel now Kate? To stop everything? Feel sad for you but you know your body best. I'm dreading going back to work
Second -no consultant was present but my scan etc was checked over by one, I just didn't see one.
Maybe I should... I just don't know anymore.
I haven't any bleeding most off the day-so messed up! X

Rach & Kate - I am so sorry for both of you and lost for any words. I wish that there was something I could say. I don't know about stopping meds as I just followed the course as per advice.
Birchy - what a beautiful scan picture. So lovely.
Bluerose - it definitely feels more real when the baby starts to kick.

Hi Thom80. I'm finding it ok and it's nice now I'm not at work. I haven't had any problems (so far!) but I am ready to get it out now! I have been so grateful to have this experience though and I would never complain about any of it. Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy.

Blue, it does feel much more real as you go along but I do get moments where I still can't believe it. I don't think much about the IVF now but I haven't forgotten how lucky I am to be in this position.

I'm really sorry to hear your news Rach.

Rach and Kate lots of love to you both this morning. May you feel peace over the decisions you need to make and I hope you and your loved ones can be the strength you all need through this time. Please both of you know that we are here to talk or hand hold when you need us

rach and kate

birchy congrats on the scan. What a great picture!