Staying posifrickentive- Thread 8 for ladies after mc

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Hi ladies. I am rubbish at this computer stuff I hope this has worked as we can not add anymore onto our old post.

No of course it's not surprising you are finding everything challenging! Of course your depression won't have had anything to do with your DS's condition, that's a horrible thing to say! Do you have a DP now who is supportive of your pregnancy?

Yes, thankfully my DP is lovely. He's a fantastic step dad to my DS and loves us both dearly, we're all very lucky to have each other. He found the MMC really tough and has struggled to talk, but strangely opened up massively when I fell pregnant again.

Sorry didn't write the previous post well. XP said he didn't love me any more when DS was 3 months and said he'd fallen out of love with me because of the way I was eg: the depression. That brings its worries because whilst I know DP is a completely different person in every way, I do have a nagging feeling in the back of my mind about it and the anxiety following our MMC doesn't help.

Thanks Flourishing, great news about your scan!

AKP I know how you nervous you are. We've booked a scan for Saturday (6+5). Having had a successful scan last time then a MMC a few weeks later, we know it doesn't mean a successful pregnancy but I want to know if I'm currently pregnant rather than wait a few weeks and find out it's another MMC. Every twinge, pain, cramp etc I'm analysing although a lot is trapped wind at the moment I'm realising so I just want a snapshot of where we are rather than a scan for reassurance. Hopefully your GP can refer you to EPU for a scan.

jo I'm getting a lot of post lunch wind at the moment, so that's a very viable diagnosis ... When we were trying post MMC I was so focuses on trying I hadn't considered how worrying this bit would be! Will keep everything crossed for Sat for you.

Ahh trapped wind could easily be the culprit! Much more painful than you'd think.

I'm glad your DP is supportive, do keep remembering he is a different person to your ex!

I woke up this morning with a terrible pain my left side which, ahem, turned out to be wind!

In never used to be painful!

Golly - i'm with you Northern....had trapped wind over a few days earlier this week and i'd said my goodbyes it was so so painful. Ended up vomiting with the pain
Midwife later today so a) will ask for anything to help and b) hopefully will be able to hear heartbeat so a bit of reassurance that little one is still ok after all that.

Wind clearly has a lot to answer for!!

Just tried to make a docs appointment - next available 25th April! Ridiculous! Will try and sort my booking in appointment with the midwife instead.

I've got appt with specialist in 2 weeks and then midwife in 3 weeks so I'm just plodding on at the mo. Next Scan just under 4 weeks away.

It's a strange time once you get past 12 weeks as I'm feeling calmer and less anxious to have got to this point, but I still don't really have anything to reassure me that everything is ok so I still have niggling bits in my head! Definitely loads better than I felt in week 11 though now I'm in week 13!

Still rough as a very rough thing here. My friend took the kids off me this morning so I had a few hours of sitting very still/lying in bed. Can't say I feel much better for it though.

I phoned surgery at 8.15 am this morning to see if I could get an apt to request anti nausea meds as am really struggling. All appointments had gone already! Had a phone consultation, where I was told no, they wouldn't prescribe anything and all I could do was drop off a sample in case of urine infection.

i know that everyone says sickness etc is a sign of a healthy pregnancy, but I still feel my body could play a horrible trick on me and I'm going through all this and there won't be a heartbeat at the next scan. We have onebooked in for 9 weeks. I was going to cancel after we had one last week after the bleeding and all was well, but I'm going to keep the appointment. This is one expensive first trimester.

Also feel like I'm putting on so much weight. I can't exercise as feel so grim, but eating is all that temporarily stops the nausea. Not great for someone with a history of anorexia and deep rooted body image issues.

Can someone remind me why I tkhought this was a good idea?!

economy that's a bit off that they wouldn't consider anti nausea meds. Perhaps they have some sort of policy where they say no the first time but prescribe meds if it's ongoing just to rule out people with 'normal' morning sickness. Might get someone more sympathetic if you try gain next week?

northern it's a really strange time between 12 and 20 weeks as you can relax a bit after the 12wk scan but still have no movement from baby or growing belly to reassure you, just got to tough it out until 20wk scan and hope you have a nice midwife who checks heartbeat with a Doppler at your 16 wk check!

I'm struggling to recognise a pattern to baby's movements atm which is another thing to worry about after getting through first trimester without stressing too much. Can I start a 3rd trimester fretting bench please?

Scan over, baby is wonderfully happy and healthy with a great heartbeat and we are so thrilled. Only 6 weeks 2 days DD 29/11 :)

Great news Soda

economy I think that's terrible too, surely they can offer you something if it's that bad?

Thank you for all the hand holding yesterday ladies. I'm feeling less anxious today despite the fact that I'm feeling lots of tugging and pulling sensations - I'm putting it down to thinks stretching. It's not confined to one side and it's all in my lower abdomen.

My boobs are really hurting today and I've got some serious hormonal emotions going on - taking these as good signs.

Sunday don't worry about an established pattern- I have been in for monitoring and had a long talk with my widwife about it. Not all babies are the same! While the guidance a about patterns now rather than a specified number of movements, as long as you are feeling at least 10 movements in 12 hours then there shouldn't be any reason to worry. Obviously if you are particularly concerned then do talk to your midwife about it and they are the best placed to advise. If it helps, I'm 30 weeks on Monday and every day is still pretty variable. Lots of ladies in my antenatal group are the same!

Great news soda💐

Hi everyone!

It has been a while since I have been through the thread so lovely to see positive scans and news!!

Saw our little one today at the 20 week scan and everything looks great and a GIRL!

Although I felt that she very quickly went over 'that area' and just said it looks to me like a girl, with DS I remember them showing me exactly what everything was and I felt quite confident he was a boy, this time I'm hesitant to prepare for a girl or is this quite normal??

economy Try again tomorrow. You do not have to suffer with this. The NICE guidelines are quite clear about nausea and vomiting in pregnancy and helping to alleviate symptoms if a women's ability to go about her day to day life is compromised. The hyperemesis thread (on pregnancy board) has some really helpful links which I read in anticipation of having to fight for meds. I ended up with a totally amazeballs GP who was sympathetic, reassuring and wonderful. Plus I got meds!

Great news soda

sunday Sorry you're fretting. Will be joining you in 7 weeks, I'm sure! With DC2, I felt very few movements and this one seems to be following suit. Positioning of baby, uterus, scarring etc. all made a difference to me. Have a chat with your mw if you're concerned.

Congratulations about the good scans soda and crumbles! Not sure I'd be convinced if the sonographer just skimmed over the genital area, although there is less anatomy to point out with girls I suppose!

Thanks for advice re movement, just having an emotional wobble. I seem to have one day each week where I feel no movements for nearly 24 hours, I think it's when baby has a growth spurt and has less room to move briefly, if that sounds plausible? Happily kicking away again now

Sunday luckily I've got an NHS scan at 17 weeks as well as I don't think I could have lasted to 20 weeks without having some reassurance of what's going on!

Great news soda and congrats crumble

Congrats crumbles, so exciting!

How many weeks are you sunday? While I have had quieter and busier days, I haven't had 24 hours of absolutely nothing since maybe 27 weeks. Its odd to think, but the midwife did tell me there are still plenty of places to hide at that point! As I say though, do speak to your midwife if you are at all concerned! How hydrated I am also seems to make a big difference!

Hi everyone,
economy sorry you haven't been able to get some anti-sickness drugs. Cyclizine has been all that's kept me sane (plus the odd metoclopramide on bad days). I deffo second the advice to call again. I'm lucky, my GP is ace and very sensible.
crumble that's great news!
soda great news for you too
Hi to everyone else, I am reading through the thread I promise. I find my concentration is terrible at the moment - is it just me, or placenta brain?
I had a bit of a wobble yesterday as I didn't feel very sick so convinced myself that it was all over. Back to the puking this morning though and I'm oddly grateful. That feeling won't last, I know.
Have a good weekend everyone!

Thanks all. My friend is officially a saint and took my kids for another few hours yesterday and then kept me company until my husband got home (early, as I couldn't face driving to the 5 year old's ENT appointment at the hospital). If things are still bad next week, I'm calling again. I have my booking in appointment on Wednesday, when I should be 9 weeks on the dot.

Another weird symptom today - a churny stomach, kind of like I have diarrhea, but I don't. Just gurgling and sharp pains every so often. Of course, I'm worrying...

economy I had/have the exact same thing which panics me every time but so far all ok

13+5 here today - not much happening at the mo.

I've got my appt with the specialist next week - any ideas what it involves and how long it will likely last? I'm shared care with midwife because of BMI