Staying posifrickentive- Thread 8 for ladies after mc

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Hi ladies. I am rubbish at this computer stuff I hope this has worked as we can not add anymore onto our old post.

Hi everyone, I've been waiting to post until after I've had a scan but I'm sort of struggling a bit.

I'm roughly 8 weeks tomorrow but had chemical/early miscarriages in December & January.
Have a 1 year old.

My doctor wants me to have an early scan but seeing midwife on Tuesday for booking in/if she will refer me.
I'm hoping more for my stress levels she will.
Still have loads of symptoms & I'm eating us out of house & home! & can't remember being this exhausted last time.
I just know I'll feel better if/when I see a heartbeat.

Anyway that was long!

Welcome doleritedinosaur I'm glad you didn't wait to post - the first trimester is when you need the most support as quite often we don't tell people in real life till after the first scan. Please feel free to share any worries you have here. If your doctor thinks you should have a scan then maybe they can refer you without your midwife having to? I had an early miscarriage in August then conceived again in November and am now 20 weeks. I think with chemical pregnancies and early miscarriages it's often just a matter of bad luck than anything that's going to affect future pregnancies, but I know how hard it is to relax till you've seen the heartbeat!

So sorry to hear your news Goulash Take care of yourself. I found the 'TTC after miscarriage' thread a great support x

Sorry about your news Goulash, I know how hard it can be & hope you are successful soon.

Thanks Sophie, the doctor wrote a long note for the midwife so I'll see what she says Tuesday & go back to doctor if needs be.
The doctor ran a lot of blood tests & they all came back normal so there's definitely no obvious reasons for the miscarriages which is good.

Congratulations! Halfway mark too!

So sorry to read of goulash's sad news. You may not be reading this, but I hope you are getting the support you need and just do what you have to to keep your head above water.

So sorry goulash

goulash, I'm sorry for you and your OH. Hope you have a quick and uneventful physical recovery xx

Hi doleriteddinosaur (fab name!). Am sure if doctor has recommended an early scan then there won't be any problems getting one. Congratulations on getting to 8 weeks, here's hoping the next 32 wks go well

I'm feeling sorry for myself today, been poorly but gonna take a day or two off work to recover. Ive been very well so far during my pg, just hope it settles down. Missing out on a roast dinner tho

So sorry to hear that Goulash. Hopefully you'll be back here before too long.

dinosaur thats good news that they didn't find any reason for the miscarriages. Hopefully you've just had a lot of bad luck and you luck changes soon.

Thanks so much for the warm welcome everyone. Still having brown discharge so not too sure what to think right now. We're hoping to get a scan sometime this week when I'm 6 weeks, hopefully there will be something to see this time.

So sorry goulash

So sorry the heat that goulash, please take care of yourself and I hope to see you back here very soon xxx

So sorry goulash

Thank you for all the thoughts and flowers. It is utterly sad and has been physically quite harrowing, but I have been very open with friends and family and am feeling surrounded by love and support. It is going to be less than fun but I can get through this and I fully intend to be back here cheering you all on again soon. Stay positive and grow happy healthy babies

I'm so sorry Goulash.

I managed to get a BFP so it puts me at 5+3, a whole 2 days further than last time. Now just trying to relax as much as possible although it's proving to be incredibly difficult!

It's lovely to hear so much positive news as well!

I had a mmc on the 10/2/16 and found out last week that I am pregnant again, but have no idea how far along I am

Congrats pduck and welcome tamzo.
6+2 today and feeling pretty ropey, I had to stay off work this morning. I'm hoping that bodes well but also wondering how I'll cope. Sickness went on to 18 weeks with DD, and I currently have a 4-hour round trip commute. May have to buy a lot of paper bags. Eek!

Goulash I'm so sorry. I've only just read your news, sending you a huge hug

I'm starting to realise the anxiety isn't going to reduce even though 12 week scan was ok so have resigned myself to private scans when it all gets too much which at least offers a little reassurance.

Has anyone made use of any counselling offered by their midwife? I am wondering if it could help a little...

Hope everyone is doing ok - Paws and Keys I hope there have not been any further issues with your little ones.

So sorry to read your news goulash xxx

Welcome to the newbies xx

Need a bit of a hand hold here as feeling v anxious again. Have has another couple of days with very few symptoms - 10+5 today and I know they come and go at this stage but it still makes me so nervous.
DD has been off school all last week with this horrid bug and now I'm streaming with it so maybe that's masking other feelings?
Anyone else with intermittent symptoms at this stage and everything still ok? Reassure me ladies.
No spotting it cramping to speak of, but sadly I know that can't necessarily mean all is still well with bubba.
2 weeks till my 12 week scan xx

keys I hope you're finding enough to keep yourself busy while you're on bed rest. Actually enjoying being a new mummy again this time around, with dd l stressed out about everything. But now I'm so much calmer I feel like I can actually enjoy all the cuddles even in cluster feed form, rather than worry about sleeopping, feeding and nappy contence.

paws Although I know it won't. Hope time flys by for you and that you have your little one in your arms before you know it.

cockles the best gift I had when strugling with sickness was a clip lock box. I ended up with several, which were swiftly religated to the shed at the end of pregnancy. Makes things much less smelly and messy if you have to wait to dispose of the evidence.

So sorry to hear goulash - it just isn't fair

Goulash so sorry for you and your DP. Glad you have supportive people around you.
obsessed remember to focus on the positives. Symptoms come and go and if you hadn't been scared by a MC you'd think everything was fine.

I have been feeling a bit nauseous throughout the first few weeks but I'm 10 weeks now and my sickness has really kicked off. I was feeling ropey all weekend but I spent a lot of yesterday running to the loo to be sick so had a come home and I've taken today off work. Feel a bit down as we have decided not to tell anyone until 12 weeks and I just feel a bit lonely.
Hope everyone else is ok x

pduck we're due around the same time then.

Hospital won't give me an early scan despite GP request, so am arranging for one at around 9 weeks. 12 week scan on May 4th.

The other mum due the same time as I should have been has had her baby and I am finding it really hard to cope. Her parents are down and doing preschool drop off, so obviously lots of people are talking about it. It's just making me feel so sad and, I had to admit, I can't feel happy for her, which makes me feel ashamed of myself. Someone asked down the thread about counselling. I wish wish wish I had taken up the offer of it, the mc has affected me way more than I thought it would (ie turned me into an uncharitable cow that can't be happy for others), but at the time, I just didn't want to talk about it.

I'm feeling physically drained most days at the moment and just a bit spaced out. No nausea, which I guess is good. Isn't it?!

Hope you're feeling less anxious today obsessed, it's hard when symptoms change, I'm no longer nauseous & was with my DS but cannot stop eating.

Booking in went well today, had a midwife & a student, both really good.
Midwife was sneaky & got me a scan for tomorrow because of my unknown dates but here the hospital won't scan unless absolutely good reason like bleeding but she got me in. She found it frustrating as the next local hospital scans everyone!

& if I want can basically have a home birth & push for it. So hopefully everything will be okay tomorrow.
Feeling bit better today just want it to be tomorrow morning now.

Hope everyone else is doing okay.

Economy I am in the same boat except with family members so it's impossible to escape.

I have no real advice except to say that a) do not push yourself to do or say anything you are not ready for - it is ok to be selfish and b) honesty and communication are absolutely key, if required. It's hard to say and to hear blunt things but long term it is easier to rebuild the relationship.

I am sending you a huge cuddle and a shoulder for any tears - it's nearly 8 months on and it still takes my breath away with the pain of it all.

Feeling really overwhelmed and anxious today. Got my scan Thursday with the consultant and I'm dreading hearing bad news. I'm overanalysing everything - no sickness since about 9 and a half weeks, although I'm still tired with sore boobs and really emotional.

I just keep thinking back to the scan I had last year when I found out about the MC and even though I've had a few scans this time and seen a heartbeat I know that means nothing. I really don't know how I'll cope if it's bad news again.

The fact they saw those cysts / fluid last time and they commented it could be a partial molar makes me really apprehensive.

Economy - huge hugs. One of my friends has just had a baby, same week ours was due, and has named her with the name that was top of our list. This pregnancy stuff is shit :(

Sorry to see so many of us having a crappy day - hopefully we'll have some happy nexs to share soon