Staying posifrickentive- Thread 8 for ladies after mc

[keys27]

Hi ladies. I am rubbish at this computer stuff I hope this has worked as we can not add anymore onto our old post.

Back from a fab holiday! Will try to catch up on everything.

I'm absolutely exhausted now though - pregnancy really does take it out of you! Feeling ok overall but I do keep having wobbles where I worry that my symptoms aren't very strong.

northern welcome back, glad you had a good time. I'm having a wobble too and we are pretty much the same stage that my symptoms are not that strong - I felt horrendous last week and the last two days have felt better but I can't see the positive in that.

Lex it's a nightmare isn't it! Hate this symptom spotting. Just under 2 weeks til my scan back with the consultant and 2 and a half til my 12 week scan so it's going to be a long few weeks!

Thanks for the welcome, all. Yes, please squish up and make room on the bench for me!

To be honest, I'm kind of pretending I'm not pregnant as it's far preferable to the constant anxiety. My husband came back from work and I pretty much refused to talk about it. Obviously, I am still thinking about it, but allowing myself some moments of utter denial.

Yes, goulash -good to know I've got a buddy in all this!

Very pleased about positive scan news for others. You're getting there!

northern and lex I'm about the same dates as you, 9 weeks and my symptoms have virtually gone as well! It's so stressful and I never thought I'd be unhappy that I don't feel nauseous.

I keep telling myself that if I hadn't had a miscarriage I wouldn't be worried as I'm not bleeding or cramping. This first trimester is a total roller coaster.

Let's all try and stay frickin positive!

positivity that's so weird - maybe we should take comfort in numbers!!! And you are so right, no bleeding or cramping here either - I did a little search online and quite a few seem to have said the same at around 9 weeks only for it to resurface at 10/11 - fingers, toes, legs, elbows crossed!!
Stay strong mummas!! Xxx

I'm off on a hen weekend in bath, which quite frankly I'm dreading!! It's mrobsessed's brothers fiancé so no way I can bow out really, at least I have his mum there to hide my exhaustion and non drinking!! Late nights a screeching drunk girls not my ideal Saturday at the moment, I think the latest I've been to bed in 9 weeks is 9pm!! Lol - party animal I am not!! Urgh!!

obsessed poor you that sounds like a trial. Especially when feeling so tired. I hope it goes ok.
I'm 5 weeks today and worrying because I feel less sick than I did on Thursday. Probably just being ridiculously anxious but can't stop thinking it will be another MMC and I'm not sure I can do it again. We were preparing to have IVF when I got my BFP so it feels that there is a lot riding on the outcome of this. I probably need to distract myself a bit more. Shame I can't have !
Hello to everyone else, I hope you're staying more posifrickentive than me today! X

Cockles my initial nausea has also lifted. I'm 5 weeks too. With my first I was vomming from day one but with the MC I had a bit at the begining of just being hungry, it did kick in like a bitch later, I think I lost nearly a stone in three weeks. I know it is normal and each pregnancy is different but it is making me nervous that this is more like my MC. I think the reality is that with the paranoia we will find something to be nervous about. Sounds like you have a lot riding on this pregnancy, I know we all do, but it must add an extra level of pressure knowing it is instead of IVF. We will just have to keep each other sane. Have you thought about an early scan? I'm looking into one at 9 weeks as the one we lost stopped growing just after 8 so an earlier than that would have seen a heart beat and given us false hope.

obsessed I hope you can have some fun and enjoy the non drunk bits. If they are not too close friends I would be 'feeling unwell' and head to bed at the earliest opportunity.

I've got a girly night in with my uni friends. They will guess instantly when I say I'm not drinking. They know me well enough to spot when I'm lying and I don't think I can convince doctors I'm on antibiotics with out having a very robust story. I don't mind them knowing it's just this becomes more real the more people that know.

Thanks goulash it really helps to know that there are others in the same boat, even though it is not a boat I would wish anyone to have to sit in.
Fingers crossed for you too and I hope you get just enough symptoms to reassure you without affecting your quality of life.
If your friends are doctors, you have no chance I'm afraid!

I've been feeling a bit rough today so perhaps it's right it resurfaces week 10!

Starting to feel my pants getting a bit tighter too - although probably just bloating!

Hi, I just found this thread. I started my own before I came on here but didn't get any replies yet. I feel quite shocked though not as much as this morning. I keep catching myself thinking 'i'm pregnant, better be careful' but then i try and dismiss the thought if that makes sense?

I tried to conceive for a year and then had a mmc at 10 weeks. Couldn't handle trying again for 3 months and it's been a year since then with ttc and to be honest we'd given up hope a bit.

I took two tests this morning, clear blue normal which registered with a dark positive cross in about 30 seconds and the digital one which says '2-3' weeks.

This is my thread i started because of the shock/uncertain feeling but also because the digital test doesn't agree with my last period is anyone can answer questions on bleed?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2590693-Implantation-bleed

It's nice to know there's a thread here for people that have been through this but horrible that we all have iyswim?

Hello and congratulations! I'm a newbie, too. Just wanted to say hello and that I'm in it with you. Feeding time at the proverbial zoo here, but wanted to welcome you :-)

Hi Nervous, welcome and congratulations!! This is a great place to talk about all those concerns you have after the innocence of pregnancy with no losses has been taken away. It's been a massive support to me.
I had a huge bleed at 8 weeks and was convinced it was all over again but saw a heartbeat at a scan a few days later. There are lots of stories here about bleeding and everything being okay so try not to panic. It sounds like implantation bleeding which I've read can be much more than you would expect. I hope everything works out for you x

Yes yes yes to losing the innocence. One of my friends was talking about how she never even considered things might not go wrong with either of her pregnancies and luckily for her, they didn't. But I just thought how lucky she was to have that innocence and carefree attitude. I know I will never have it, both previous pregnancies have been wrought with anxiety and pretty sure this one will be too. I just wish i could enjoy the excitement that you should get when you find out. But I can't even talk about it in real life...

I feel similarly economy. I can't believe how carefree I was in my first pregnancy. I knew intellectually that it might go wrong but I always believed all would be well. Now I'm the total opposite. I referred myself to the midwives this morning and now thinking I'm an idiot for doing so as it is so sure to go wrong!

And welcome nervous you are in good company!

Welcome on board to all who've joined recently! You've definitely come to the right place for lots of understanding, support and generally sharing all the ups and downs of this crazy journey!! Congratulations on your BFP's xxx

Oops, meant my friend didn't even consider the possibility things could go wrong, not could not Ho wrong. But seems you knew what I meant!

Yes, cockles, I know how you feel. I have my first gp appointment on Monday to get on the radar, but likewise feel sceptical.

I've had a good day today though, didn't even think about pregnancy until this evening! Just need to keep busy.

I had a good run this morning. Bizarrely, I don't have concerns that running/being active can cause things to go wrong. I run, swim and bike a lot and if i gavw those up, I really would,lose my marbles. I was planning to do a half marathon when I was 15 weeks pregnant last time, but sadly didn't get that far. Blitzed the race but had had surgery by that point.

Hi economy, Jay, Cockles and Back:)

Thank you all, you're the first congratulations I've had because we're keeping this one to ourselves until after 12 weeks this time. Congratulations to you all too and sorry on your losses as well .

Sorry you had a bad bleed Jay, that must have been terrifying. Seeing your baby's heartbeat must have been very relieving . I feel a bit more relieved that it could be implantation bleeding. So far this pregnancy has been very different from my first, I hope that's a good sign.

I definitely feel like I've lost innocence about this. I know many ladies who've sailed through with no worries at all and part of me wishes it could be me. I'm concerned because I've been pretty ill the last few weeks with a fluey virus, I've taken so many 'no-nos' if you see what I mean. I'm hoping to speak to my doctor and get an early scan but I had one before, saw a heartbeat and still had a mmc so not sure how reassuring it would be.

I have to tell work as well, which won't go down well but my job means i need to say asap.

When you all got your BFPs what was your reaction? And your OHs? My husband seems a bit distant from it, I don't think he wants to be hopeful at all.

Any second trimester ladies still feeling as nervous about something going wrong? It seems like it is (understandably) expected to be nervy in the first trimester but then people stop worrying as much. I'm 19 weeks and still fretting!

nervousshockedexcited My DP was definitely cautious about getting excited before we saw baby at 12 weeks. I think it's completely normal, as it's hard for them to get excited anyway when they're not the one feeling the symptoms.

economymode I was training for the Great North Run with my first pregnancy but sadly miscarried a month before at 7 weeks. Managed to do the run though. It's great that you've continued with all your exercise - so good for mental as well as physical health!

Welcome to everyone joining :). Sorry I cant have proper catch up until later I just wanted to ask quickly...

sophia I have not felt any movements for days now even though I heard the heart beat on Thursday I have hardly got a bump they said baby was small so I am so so anxious now something is really wrong. Have you felt regular movement.

mode great to keep up exercise :). The best way to be just dont over do
it with training and when its over have a nice rest.

nervous We told family but only close before 12 weeks then after the scan we told other family members and friends.

cockles your name makes me crave seafood. Haha. My mum went and brought crab and cockles and everything really yesterday they had a seafood platter my mouth was watering and all I do was watch.

Really hoping im ok im so anxious now I cant feel any more flutters. The worry never stops.

Congratulations on your pregnancy Sophia1984 I think you're right that they feel a bit more detached, he told me today that it still hasn't sunk in. Because we spent so long actively ttc, it's a shock that it happened now.

Congratulations too keys27, I hope you've felt some flutters today. Can you get a scan for peace of mind? Is their a birthing centre or midwife center near you? I know, with my first, I just rang them in a panic and in two days they got me in.

Part of me really wants to tell my parents and his, but another part is worried too and wants to wait.

Lucinda and Lynsey I'm so very sorry to read of your news... its such a hard thing to go through, a drawn out mmc is never nice or easy, but it does get better with time, although you never forget...please don't give up hope, I nearly did after two, and had no living dc's...but there is always hope as I've found out after a very painful journey. Take time to heal, look after yourself, be kind to yourself most of all xxx my thoughts are with you both xxx

browser congratulations x

keys great news about latest scan! Keeping everything crossed for you x

No baby yet...which is good I guess, although starting to get concerned he is going to be too large to deliver naturally should he get to 37 weeks! I'm 32 now...

Growth scan tomorrow to check his weight...he was 5lbs at 30 weeks, so imagine he'll be around 6 now....if he gained half a lb each week and made it to term, he'd be 10lbs

OUCH!

I only have a tiny frame...i don't think they'd let him get that big...probably end up being induced around 37wk mark??? But then no water birth

Main thing is he's delivered safely though...i keep willing him to come early, as he's had the steroid injections so his lungs are that of a 35weeker, also with weighing ahead of dates he wouldn't have any trouble keeping warm!....is it wrong of me to want him to actually arrive early? Its just I'm worried that if he gets too big, there will end up being further birth complications???