We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage #2

[Treaclepie19]

For all the lovely ladies who are pregnancy after miscarriage! :)

Oh my gosh, wow! Congrats Boozle :)

Congratulations Boozle that is fantastic news, and so soon. So exciting!

Congratulations Boozle - that's some pretty rapid organising you now get to do! No time to worry about it all, which sounds good to me.

Yay for scan Broody, that's great.

Those of you who've had/are having early scans, when do they do them? After my first mc the midwife at the EPU said they're not funded to do reassurance scans until after 3 mcs, but in reality they do them because they know how hard it is. The second one I didn't get that far, so I'm now wondering if this does continue for the next few weeks without bleeding (which I still expect to see every time I go to the loo), when should I be phoning the EPU to beg for a scan? I don't want to ask so early there's a risk of not seeing anything, but obviously the earlier the better for my sanity.

I was scanned every week from 6 weeks - 10 weeks and then again at 12 weeks

I think I was particularly lucky though with my consultant

Stick I had one at6+4 but only because I begged the epu. They don't even let you self refer but I was desperate :p

Getting bored of waiting for my scan. 2 weeks to go yawn.

Excellent news broody you must be so relieved. I got my letter in yesterday saying 1:4820 chance so one less worry for me.

stick I also got weekly then fortnightly scans from 5 weeks as I'm at a specialist RMC unit but if we are ever in this position again I will not get one until 8 weeks, the upset and worry I had after 6 weeks when they couldn't see a hb was horrible. The risk of mc goes down at certain weeks 8, 10 and 12 so by waiting till 8 they will be able to offer more reassurance.

I had my sneaky last scan at St Mary's yesterday and baby was wriggling about and waving again - so lovely. I then met with my RMC consultant and he gave me a "graduation" pack as I am now moving to sole care at my local hospital - I cried . Felt like hopefully a start in the end of a very long painful journey.

Thanks cava (and others) - I kind of figured waiting till 8 weeks might make sense, not least because if I get that far it will be past the point of both mcs. Hurrah for your lovely scan, and fingers crossed that it will be smooth sailing from here on in.

Hi all. Been quiet for a bit as the nausea kicked in massively and have felt really horrible. Ugh. Agree with comments up thread that mine seems to have been at its worst weeks 10-12. Had a scan last weekend and all was fine measuring 10+5. I also had the Harmony test and gets the results a week on Saturday. also have nhs 12 week scan next Wednesday. Nearly there!

Hope everyone else is doing ok.

Glad all went well Cava :)

Not long to go worried :) My scan isn't til 13+3. I'm 11+4 today. I thought the being sick was just a 2 day fluke but I was sick again last night before bed.
My sickness just waited til later on :p

Hi Treacle. The only thing that worked for me was rest. I had a few days of work and just rested. Went back to work yesterday and actually felt like a human being for the first time in ages!

I'm off work anyway :( It's bearable to be honest. It gives me hope baby is still ok.

I had a scan at 6 weeks and saw a heartbeat. I'm now 8+4 and have my booking in appointment next Wednesday, but I can't stop worrying.

I am really struggling at the moment with my emotions and really wishing I could go for another scan just to see what's going on. I am less tired this week although I am definitely NOT less emotional and my boobs are still really sore/I hate anything that smells of anything.

Just cannot wait to get into the post 12 weeks bit. I don't think I've ever been on such an emotional rollercoaster before!

Please tell me it gets easier!!

Mel I was the same.
Had a scan at 6+4 but then paid for a private one at 9+5 as I was going crazy.
Now 11+4 and want another!

It's horrendous isn't it Treacle. I never ever thought I would be like this so I guess it's the hormones!

I might talk to my husband tonight about paying for a private scan. I know it won't change anything but it would really easy my mind if I saw a hb again.

Will the midwife be able to check for a hb at my booking in? I never made it that far last time so have no idea what to expect

The worry is horrible, definitely.

The ladies on here all advised me to have another scan and I was so glad I did.

The midwife doesn't tend to listen for the heartbeat until around 16 weeks apparently. Mine was just paperwork and height/weight/bmi.
Sometimes they do blood and urine but mine will be done at dating scan.

Oh yes, the worry! I drive myself mad with it!
My mw said she could check for HB at my 16 week appt but it's v hit and miss if she can find it as bubs is still small at that stage, so they tend to wait until 24 weeks. I opted not to try because I know I'd have panicked until my anomaly scan if she couldn't find it - four weeks of pure worry would not be good for my mental health!

Hi all,
Apologies for the long absence. thank you so very much for the lovely comments and baby welcomes!

For those who are curious, a bit more on the labour (it's detailed so please skip if not, it's for me too to remember...): waters broke at 3.30 am on Sunday. Apart from bits of show over the previous few days, there were no signs, I got up for a wee as usual and it wouldn't stop leaking when I wiped, eventually a bigger gush a few mins later. Made it into the hospital, 3 cm dilated. Contractions started off strong but then slowed down and picking up again lots of times, but really painful - gas and air and TENS useless! At many points I was desperate for the drip to speed things up but was told time again they don't induce until 24 hrs after waters breaking - so unfair when you're in agony!!!

I had requested epidural very early on but again wouldn't give it as contractions were erratic and they wouldn't check if dilation had increased because of risk of infection... so how are they meant to know when to give it?..

I was resisting pethidine as I thought it would slow things down even more but finally relented at 9pm on Sunday. This indeed quietened things down and made things more bearable for about 3 hours. I was counting down to 3am when it would be time to transfer me to high risk for drip and epidural, but this didn't happen until about 5am... I was hitting the roof by then!

Once I did get transferred though, things really picked up. Finally got the epidural and the drip but on examination, the baby was positioned awkwardly - not back to back, but head at a bad angle or something... Tried manual turning several times (which must have been so traumatic for poor baby!) but to successful. Finally started pushing at 9.45 - really hard work but at least the epidural was doing its job! Things were progressing but not sufficiently and after 1.5 hours I was told I'd need instrumental delivery - very scared! Suddenly everyone was rushing around, DH changed to come into theatre etc... Once there epidural topped up and tried manual turning again. Then the forceps arrived and I was told I need to push - can anyone clarify how are you meant to do that when you can feel nothing from the chest down?!!! Well I did what I could and could feel a lot of pulling by forceps...

Baby finally out 12.30pm. His head was really swollen and had big red marks from the forceps. Other than that he was fine and DH and I both broke down sobbing with relief! We are still in shock and can't believe we're parents and that he's for real! His swelling went down fairly quickly and his marks are going too now. I break down crying every time I talk to him and say to him I'm his mummy!

So there we are, that's out story, the culmination of 9 months of constant worry and a roller coaster journey, but he's finally here and gorgeous! I'm recovering ok: still sore stitches, with haemorrhoids, incontinence, etc. but happy!

So ladies, keep up the faith, you'll all get there! Here comes my last stats update - in need of volunteer to take over. See you all on the postnatal thread but I'll still lurk and cheer you on. Hope the quiet from holly and tanny mean that they are not far behind me. Also congrats broody on the great scan.

HollyBen: MC (10 weeks), DD, MC (9 weeks), EDD 2nd March 2015
Tannyloo: 2 DS (14 & 2.5), 4MC (1BO), 1 MMC, EDD 3rd March 2015
Missmakesstuff: 1 mc, edd 23 March 2015
Ilovechops, 1MC,1MMC,1DD, EDD 24 March 2015
Littlemissy12345: 1DD, 2mc, EDD 25 March 2015
FloreneceandZebede: 1 ds (2y9mths) 1 mmc Feb 14, EDD 25 March 2015
Suzybean: 38, 1 DS age 5, mmc Feb 13, mc March 14. EDD 12th April 2015
Psmith: 1 MP, 1 MC, EDD April 23rd 2015
OneDayLikeThis2013: 27, no DCs, MMC June 2014, EDD 26 April 2015
Haily111: dc3, mc May, EDD 5 May 2015
Mslad: 33, no dc, mmc June 2014, edd 18 May 2015
ToriB34: 34, no DC, mmc in July, EDD 29th May 2015
Longestlurkerever: 1dd, 2mc, 1mmc, EDD 30 May 2015
SunbathingCat: 35, no DCs, mmc in May, EDD 13 June 2015
WrappedInABlankie: 1 DS, ectopic 3/14, EDD 22 June 2015
Phryn: Age 32, no DC, mc in Aug 14, EDD 6th June 2015
Thesmallbear: 33, 1 MMC in June 2014, EDD 2nd July 2015
Boozle: 1NMC, 2MMC, 1DD, EDD: 4th July 2015
sarahlou20: 35, no DC, 1 MMC, EDD 9th July 2015
ThePurplegiraffe: 36, 1dd, 1 mc in Sep, EDD 11th July
Ibelieveinpink: 31, mc, mc, dd1, edd 12 July 2015
Ignominious: DD, MMC in August, EDD 12th July 2015
Broodylicious: 36, 1 dd, 1 mc at 12 weeks on feb 27, EDD 20 July 2015
Thegirlwiththebrokensmile: 28, 1 dd age 2, 2 mc, 1mmc, EDD 23rd July 2015
Charlieis30: ttc #1 MC Feb 14 7.5w, MC Aug 14 9w (trisomy), EDD 26 Jul 15
Littlelady33: ttc #1, mmc March 13 and 14, EDD 25th July 2015
Happygojo: 28, no DC, MMC September 2014 (blighted ovum), EDD 10th August 2015
Daisysunshine: 23, no dc, TTC 14 months, 1mc sept '14, EDD 10th August 2015
enviousllama: 33, 1DS (2y 5m), 1MMC (Nov '14), EDD 7th Sept 2015
CommanderShepard: 32, 1 DD via EMCS, 1 MC December 2014 (5 wks), EDD 20th September 2014
Treaclepie19: 24, 1 mc in May 2014 at 8+4, EDD 20th September 2015
worriedmum100: 39, 1 DS (nearly 4). 2 MCs around 6 w (June 2010 and Feb 2014), 1 MMC (July 2014 at 9 w). Also have endometriosis & Ashermans Syndrome. EDD 24 September
SomeSortOfDeliciousBiscuit: 30; TOP at 14wks due to abnormalities, 1 DS, had cancer treatment, 2 mcs at 4-5weeks. EDD 29th October 2015
HeavenKnowsImNotSoMiserable: 35, no DCs, MC at 11+4 Sept 14.
EDD 1st Nov 2015

Need updates:
AddictedToRadley: 1 DS (5.7yrs), 13 MCs inc DS's twin, EDD 8th Feb 2015
BadgersInTheSlurryLagoon: 1MMC, 2MC, EDD 24 Feb 2015
Davidtenantsmistress: 4MC, 2MMC, 2DS, EDD 27th February 2015

Thread Babies:

Jessw25 Baby Oliver born 9 July 2013, 5lb 11oz
BobaFetaCheese Baby Alexander born 30 July 2013, 7lb 4oz
Andadietcoke twin girls born 29 August 2013, Charlotte 5lb 5oz & Sophie 7lb 13oz
Pentagon baby Elsie born 23 October 2013, 7lb 5oz
Bodicea baby James born 3 November 2013, 8lb
Ibelieveinpink baby Imogen born 14 November 2013, 7lb 4oz
BumpKitty baby Matilda born 18 Nov 2013, 8lb 2oz
Luckysocks13 baby Charlotte born 24 Nov 2013, 8lb
Jmf294 baby Alexander James born 25 Nov 2013, 7lb 4oz
Shellsocks baby Noah Stephen born 27 Nov 2013, 9lb 3.5oz
Gardenworm baby Wolfie born 1 December 2013
Janielovesluckysocks baby Leo Thomas born 4 Dec 2013, 7lb 5oz
Bootyluscious baby Sofia born 17 December 2013, 6lb 2oz
ChocolateTeabag: baby Joss born 18 December 2013, 7lb 7oz
Blackholes: Baby girl born 23 December 2013
WhatwillSantabring: Baby boy born 6 January 2014, 8lbs 7oz
pumpkinsweetie: Baby girl born 7 January 2014, 6lb 4 oz
Christinedaae - Baby girl Sawyer born 6th Feb 2014, 9lb11.5oz
MissMedusa: Baby Rhydian Thursday 27 Feb 2014, 1080g
TotalShock - Baby James born 25 February 2014, 8lb 1oz
Swangirl: Baby boy, 4 March 2014
SaggyOldClothPussCat: Lucy Elanor born 7 March 2014, 7lb
Pixielady83: Baby girl, 9 March 2014
GuffSmuggler: Baby boy, 3 March 2014
Fod: Baby Girl, 7 April 2014, 10lb 3
TeaAndANatter: Baby Henry born 18 April 2014, 7lb 15oz
Kjh5: Baby Logan born 19 April 2014, 3.3kg
CbeebiesIsMyLife: Baby boy born 2 May 2014
StarsInTheNightSky: baby Jasper, born early May 2014, 8lbs3
Tomkat: Baby Lolly born 16 May 2014
Bakingtins: Baby Faith born 23 May 2014, 5lb 3oz
Penguinita: Baby Elanor born 27th May 2014, 6lb 1oz
Emki: Baby Michael born 29th May 2014, 9lb 10oz
Pgchimp: Baby boy born 16th June 2014
Fishcake77: Baby boy Jack born 26th June 2014, 7lbs 14oz
Nerdy bird: baby girl born 1st July 2014
Keepingthefaith: baby girl born 2nd August 2014 10 weeks early 2.5lbs
MrsGiraffe12: baby girl born 1 Sept 2014
OneLittleToddleTerror (now TwoLittleTerrors ): baby girl born 14th September 2014
Alb1: baby boy born 14 September 2014
fedupofrainydays: baby boy born 16 September 2014
Squizita: baby girl born 21 September 2014
HopefulHamster: baby Serena Lorelai, born 1 October 2014, 7lb3
Londonjen: Baby Eleanor born 6th October 2014
CorporeSarnie: baby boy born 26 October 2014
Cakebaker35: Baby William born prematurely at 27 weeks, 21st October - 29th October 2014, may he rest in peace
cheesecurry86: Baby Lewis James, born 6 am, 9lb 2, 16th November 2014
Gwlondon: baby Alexandra, born 2.40 kilos, 20th November 2014
Cuppachaplz: baby Percy born 6 December 2014, 5lb 4oz
Liesal: baby Alexander William, born 14 December 2014, 7lb 3oz
QuietTiger: baby girl born 18 December 2014
Seasides: baby Freya born 20 December 2014
TeaRex: baby boy born 20 December 2014, 7 lb 6 oz
Amicablemoomin: baby girl just before Christmas 2014
CallingAllEngels: baby boy born 9 January 2015, 7lb 15 oz
GailLondon: baby Oscar born 2 February 2015, 9lb 7 oz
Babytinks11: Baby Lacey-Rae born 13 February 2015, 7lb 15 oz
Blankfornames: baby Bobby born 21 February 2015, 8lbs 7 oz
Silverine: baby Patrick born 2 March 2015, 3.78 kg (8 lb 5 oz)

silver I am properly crying now! Sorry you had such a traumatic time but huge congratulations again on reaching parenthood.

That made me teary too silver, congrats again :)

silver I'm not usually a crier but there seems to be something in my eyes reading your post.....I'm so happy for you. sorry it was a difficult birth but sounds like it's all worth it. Thanks also for the stats update. Could I ask a question about the epidural? How does it actually feel once you've had it? Does it feel like you're paralyzed? (I like the idea of less pain, but also find the paralysis bit scary) No worries if you're not up for a question and answer session- I can imagine you're busy with a lovely snuggly baby

Congratulations boozle - lovely news and very impressive organising for Easter. Hopefully focusing on wedding things will take your mind off pregnancy worries.

mel sorry you're having a hard time. It's horrible and time seems to pass so slowly. I never thought I'd say this, but it does get a little easier as pregnancy progresses. On saying that, I've never relaxed completely. Everyone talks about their baby moving all the time, but I don't find that, I wish I could feel her more, so that's always on my mind. If you can afford another scan I would go for it- it's worth it for the peace of mind it brings.

sunbathing I also called the third trimester at 26 weeks. I decided that 3 sets of 13 weeks would take me up to 39 weeks. I think I was just impatient to speed things along in my head. Lovely you saw movement!

Hope everyone here is holding on tight
xx

Lovely update silver - thanks for much for sharing.

Hope the ladies in waiting (sorry names escape me this evening) are doing okay and that your babies arrive soon!