We're posifrickintive! Another posifrickintivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage #2

[Treaclepie19]

For all the lovely ladies who are pregnancy after miscarriage! :)

Awww, thanks longest, treacle, mslad and sunbathing, it's a very emotional time indeed, especially after the journey all of us need to go on.
mslad re epidural, there are different strengths. For the pushing stage it's called mobile epidural, I.e. they put in just enough to stop the pain but you are still fully mobile and can feel everything else, including your pushing. They top that up according to how long the pushing stage goes on. Utter bliss - I highly recommend it!
If you need intervention like forceps or c section then they top that up with the stronger stuff that takes away all feeling up to the chest. The weirdest thing is that with the forceps or ventous they still ask you to push but I still don't understand how are you meant to do that when you don't feel anything! Well I tried to in my head and they said it was fine. With that epidural though you have no choice but to have it. So overall, go for it.

It's nice to hear I'm not the only one sunbathing (although I don't wish any further worry on anyone!!) everybody online, or who is pregnant in rl say that the baby kicks 'all the time' mine certainly doesn't. And I have a posterior placenta. But at mw two weeks ago and scan last week she was moving constantly and I couldn't feel a thing so I have to try relax and hope all is well. mw said I had very strong stomach muscles (which could imply that I had washboard abs pre pregnancy - it couldn't be further from the truth!). The chances are so good for your scan that I would really try not to worry (easier said than done I know!), if your gp felt so much movement and you didn't then baby is obviously moving a lot, but you just can't feel it.

hi everyone, looks like I'll be taking a sabbatical from this thread. My threatened mc has turned into an actual mc today, hope to be back soon.

Silverine, congratulations on the arrival of your little one, your post has just had me in floods of tears (which is a good thing as I've been acting a bit like an emotional robot all day). Please cross me off the list for now.

Heaven, so so sorry to hear that, hope you are being taken care of and we see you back here soon. Thinking of you

I'm so sorry Heaven. Look after yourself xxx

So sorry Heaven, be kind to yourself and do what you need to to cope.

Silverine I well remember being told to push after I'd had a spinal (forceps was the last resort before they'd've gone to a section so they'd put the spinal in and taken me to theatre) and wondering, probably out loud 'how on earth am I supposed to do that?!' Like you I must have done something right, or at least dd saw the forceps, took fright and finally turned into a position where she could be born.

I am so sorry Heaven and I hope you are OK, well as OK as is possible as I know the whole situation is awful. Take whatever time you need to get through it.

Congratulations Silverine

I am going to book a private scan, I can't wait until 12 weeks as my paranoia is going into overdrive at the moment.

So sorry to hear that heaven. Multiple mcs are just gutting. If you need some support head over to the rmc support thread but I hope to see you back here soon.

My thoughts are with you Heaven It is awful. Like everyone else says, take all the time you need and however you feel is ok. I hope to see you back here soon xxxxx

I am 17+4 today and suddenly over the past few days I feel really fat. I have mixed feelings about my flab bump. I mean it is visible evidence that I have a life growing inside of me, but also I am so paranoid about gaining too much weight and not being able to get a clear scan picture and ending up with GD and being on consultant care. I gained 1.5 stone with my MC due to eating and drinking my feelings and planned to lose this before I tried again but I fell really fast.

I know these are trivial things and I should be so grateful that at this point everything seems to be ok.

Sorry if I am sounding ungrateful.... I think i just need someone to tell me 'your bump looks approximately 17.5 weeks, no bigger, no smaller' but obviously everyone is different

Heaven I'm so sorry for your loss. Hope to see you back here soon.

Silverine congratulations!

Glad to see everyone else hanging in there. I passed what would have been my EDD recently. Friend actually had a baby the day before but I was ok. VERY glad that I'm pregnant again otherwise I think it would have been much worse.

So sorry Heaven

So sorry Heaven x

MelB2014 I had an early scan at 8 weeks after 2 mmc's both at 11 weeks - £60 very well spent for a bit of peace of mind.

I'm at 15+1 now - so relieved to be here but still freaking out at every symptom that hints at mc. I can't wait until I get a bump so I know it's really there (sounds silly I know!!)

So very sorry to hear that heavenknows... it always numbs you first before hitting you really hard, doesn't it... hugs! hope you get the emotional and medical support you need.
thanks phryn, mel and ignominous. Weird feeling isn't it stick.

Very weird! I also remember suddenly seeing this pair of legs up in stirrups and not being able to work out whose they were because I'd left mine lying flat on the bed. How I thought they'd got the baby out I'm not sure....

Haven't thought about all that for ages, and now I can't quite believe I could possibly go through it again. I'm caught between expecting it all to go wrong any minute and hoping that it might possibly be OK. I seem to be vaguely nauseous a lot of the time which I'm taking as a good sign, although it could also be my imagination as I've never had ms before.

Bogal that doesn't sound silly at all, the whole thing is so very surreal and actual real visible proof that something's going on helps.

Oh heaven, I'm so sorry to read your news. Please look after yourself xx

Oh Heaven that's so hard. Hope to see you back here soon and that you're looking after yourself

Heaven so sorry to hear your news, take care of yourself and hope to see you back here soon. X

Happy I was meaning to say pleas don't beat yourself up over the weight gain worry. I'm finding that side of things incredibly hard, I've always been slim and am discovering that some eating disorder issues form over half a lifetime ago are probably not and never will be resolved! I'm learning that despite not eating rubbish and exercising daily my body is just going to store some extra fat, and that's good for me and the baby. I also can't and shouldn't train like I used to. But it is hard. I found two things have helped - buying maternity clothes that flatter your size and are comfortable, and the moment somewhere around 20wks (so not long to go!) that your numb is clearly just that and not fat. And above all remembering that we all go through this. Sorry for the essay - but I think we naturally feel guilty for being anything other than constantly happy to be pregnant, when in fact it's worth acknowledging the weight gain stresses!

I echo that, little, great advice. Remember that gaining weight is part of the successful pregnancy journey happy; it is a good sign all is well. As long as you're eating fine (or most of the time, you're eating fine!) then you shouldn't beat yourself up over every pound that goes on. You can't give yourself GD either, it is just how your body deals with sugar when you're pregnant, not a reflection of your diet or lifestyle

Some great advice above. It's a sign all is going well :)
I'm having the opposite problem, ive lost half a stone so far.
Everyone keeps nagging me but there's not much I can do about It.

That's good to hear Tori, thanks :)

It's very quiet on here!
I'm having a mini celebration as I'm 12 weeks today :)
10 days til my dating scan (Feels like forever!)