The berry copter thread for all your clenching and hand holding needs

[BlindKitty]

Small print: ideally pg with #1 and had ttc for >12months although let's face it, we ain't as fussy as we used to be, just as long as you're nice

5 second generation berry babies and LOADS more to follow

[CatsCantFlyFast]

Oh kitty that's awful news. So sorry for your friend. How far along was she this time?
I know its the wrong end of the country but the NHS specialist consultant at Epsom hospital specialises in recurrent miscarriage and has been in the national press for his work on it

[Bunnygirlie]

Lovely lovely news, healthy babies all round!

And all girls, wow! A few boys coming up? These girls will need some toyboys

Oh kitty that is so shit, I am so so sad for your friend

[Bunnygirlie]

New list (up to my old tricks)

Merkin: Delivery date: 21 March, girl, 8lbs 10
Thunder: Delivery Date: 26 March, girl, 8lbs 12
Tally: Delivery Date: 7 April, girl, 6lb 14
Boom: Delivery date : 11 April, girls x 2! 5lb 15 & 5lb 2
Katatonic: Delivery date: 24 April, girl, 9lb 11
PoppySeedBun: Delivery date: 23rd April, girl, 7lb 7

Brodicea: EDD 5th May - girl
Kitty: EDD 22nd May - girl
Puppymummy: EDD 31st May - boy
Foody: EDD 15 June - it's a secret!
Angel: EDD 22 June - boy
longleggedlady: EDD 22nd June - girl
Charming: EDD 8th August -
Jessplus: EDD 30th August - surprise
Bunny: EDD 3rd Oct - surprise
Sidney: EDD 18th Oct - boy

[BlindKitty]

merk she thought she was 10 weeks but they said it had died at 7weeks. The prog just stops her from displaying her mc and even lets her abdomen expand so she's been non the wiser . Even if the consultant was in brum I'm not sure she'd pursue it. She's spent thousands in private fertility treatment, for all the good it's done

[CatsCantFlyFast]

Kitty that's awful. I hope she can take some time to recover and regroup and that the future holds more positive news

[Foodylicious]

Congratulations kat & Poppy !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and also in other news...

Crap, crap, crap, crap...

Just realised that makes only 3 more due before me, eek!

That's shitty news kitty, sorry for your friend x x

[Tallyra]

Kitty, yes, sort of. She is a consultant for the labour ward and is part of the antenatal clinic team who seems to have lots of mmc experience.

I'm so sorry for your friend. It really is devastating. Any advice I can help with I'm here.

[BlindKitty]

They've told he she's got to have 3 mcs before they'll refer her, is that normal? Did the consultant treat you any differently, ie drugs etc? I know you had about a million scans but that's it

[Brodicea]

Sorry to hear about your friend kitty - the whole process is just gallingly unfair.

[CatsCantFlyFast]

I think the 3 MMC is normal I'm afriad

[SidneyBristow]

Kitty that's terrible news for your friend, really sorry to hear this, I know how excited you were for her and I hate it for her that she has to go through this again

[Tallyra]

Sorry. Yes, they wouldn't do anything until the third one. I have a post all written on another device I thought I'd posted, will see if it's still there.

[Tallyra]

yes, they would.t do anything until my third. then they sent the foetus away for testing and did a blood test to check for clotting. it came back as a random mutation with clotting fine so they didn't want to do anything else. I pushed to see the fc and got a hysteroscopy to make sure nothing was damaged during the erpcs. all was fine and I got pg almost first go after that!

[BlindKitty]

Thanks guys.

Anyone up to much today? Going to attempt to wash the pushchair covers today...let's hope they still fit when I'm done!!!

[PuppyMummy]

kitty im sorry for your friend.

I washed some sheets and blankets the other day!

35 weeks now, one NCT class left and 4 weeks left at work! I'm gettin quite excited!

PIL coming over today so im doing a nice roast later, think were off to DIY shops for a browse too!

[Foodylicious]

Having a lazy day here today.
33 weeks and 3 weeks left at work!
might wash some tiny clothes later.

you are brave working so late puppy I was getting panicky about baby coming early and having no time to myself/going into labour at work so brought minr forward from 38 to 36 weeks.
we have active birth class this week, water birth next week thrn Birth Positively on 10th &24th.
Still waiting for the nhs class

[PoppySeedBun]

Morning berries - just having breakfast, so a very quick birth story update before I go back to my DH and see if she wants feeding again

So, regular contractions started around 4pm Weds, increasing until I went in to hospital about 1am. At that point, cervix was effaced and I was 2cm dilated. However, once we were there, contractions slowed down and then stopped. So at 4am, we went back home, and I slept until about 10ish. Only a handful more, relatively mild contractions through the morning, then about 3ish, they suddenly got much more severe quickly. Shortly afterwards, my waters broke a bit, and I got a big show, so we immediately set off back to the hospital. Got there about 4, by the time I was assessed I was 7cm already , so we went very quickly from gas and air, to epidural plus gas and air, to fully dilated by about 7pm. We then paused to wait for the head to drop a bit further, but after half an hour of that, they weren't happy with baby's heartrate during contractions, so used ventouse and small episiotomy to do the last bit. She was delivered 8:12 - so about 4 hrs from arriving at the hospital!

Not necessarily what I would have planned in terms of intervention, but I was happy with all the decisions as they happened. Gas & air made me super-dizzy, so the epidural helped allow me to make sense between contractions as well. And so far so good in terms of healing. And she is obviously completely perfect

[CatsCantFlyFast]

Congrats again Poppy. Try to enjoy the first few days, they go so quickly (and the sleep deprivation soon sets in)

Nasty night here, our pattern was thrown by DH getting her to nap while I was in the bath so she didn't want to sleep when we went to bed. Eventually got her to sleep but she vomited after her first feed and we settled into a pattern of feeding, 10 mins doze, waking up and crying, vomit and repeat. Basically no sleep. Luckily DH took her for a couple of hours at 6.30 after I got a feed to stay down which meant I got 2 hours sleep

[CatsCantFlyFast]

Just saw this on another thread. Wish i had read more like this and been a bit better prepared...
blog.hellomagazine.com/giovannafletcher/2014/04/the-first-month-of-motherhood/
Remember the feeling when you got your bfp and it was a bit 'what now?' as the focus had all been on getting pregnant and not what happened next...I focused a lot on the due date and labour and so had the same what now feeling when the baby arrived. Along with a chunk of hormones I wildly swing through a whole range of emotions for a few weeks and wish I had been better prepared for that happening...

[Tallyra]

Merkin, Yes! I agree with you so much. Everyone tells you it'll be hard, but no one says anything about the hormones making it so much harder. I never said this before, but on the way home from the hospital, as I was so concerned I couldn't feed her enough yet, we stopped at tesco and dh went in to get some milk. I just sat in the car and cried. I couldn't give a specific reason, it just had to come out.

[CatsCantFlyFast]

Tally I have cried so much and I am not a teary kind of person. I've cried because I am sad, happy, frustrated, tired, worried, mad and for no reason at all. I'm not depressed or crazy. I'm just a new mum, trying to adjust and learn and not fuck this up, all on v little sleep. I love my daughter in an unimaginable way, but this is hard and its a big change. I'm not afraid to say I'm finding it tough, although I also find it exhilarating too. I am enjoying it, but I don't want to pretend I feel great all of the time and that its easy (I'm looking at you antenatal group) because I think that puts a lot of pressure on new mums who think everyone else finds it easy and loves every minute of their new life

[BlindKitty]

puppy I almost cried seeing the little baby grows on the line the other day!

merk thanks for the link. By the time I pop mine out though I bet things will have settled and you'll be telling me all about how things do get better

Has anyone else's mn changed? Not sure if I've clicked something but finding it hard to view on my phone

[Bunnygirlie]

Gosh it feels like everyone has had or is about to have their babies!

Bit fed up. Still not feeling any movement/flutters here

[CatsCantFlyFast]

Bunny I know the waiting is hard but unless you're one of the lucky ones I think it will be a while yet before you feel anything. I remember wanting to feel it so so badly
Have you thought about getting a Doppler to keep yourself amused in the meantime?

[BlindKitty]

bunny we've all been there! I'm sure the others remember me saying exactly the same! I can remember merk saying the exact same thing to me as she has you now!

Oh and just realised I'm going to have to take a rain cheque on my own leaving party as clashes with nct grr!!