The berry copter thread for all your clenching and hand holding needs

[BlindKitty]

Small print: ideally pg with #1 and had ttc for >12months although let's face it, we ain't as fussy as we used to be, just as long as you're nice

5 second generation berry babies and LOADS more to follow

[Bunnygirlie]

On it like a car bonnet prof

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2138047-The-Berry-Copter?msgid=48398629#48398629

All aboard the shiny new copter....

[CatsCantFlyFast]

Er one of you preggers needs to start a new thread ASAP. Bunny its prob your turn...

[CatsCantFlyFast]

I read about the epi no and everything I researched suggested it didn't work!

[Bunnygirlie]

I don't think the dads feel it's real till they can feel the kicks through your tum, or maybe not even till baby is here. Things are so immediate for us as our bodies change but they are still so distanced from it

Does that make sense?

[RevoltingPeasant]

Bushy saw about your NDN on the other thread - lovely as your baby will be only about 6-7 months younger, so naturals playmates!

On tearing, I have already decided on getting an Epi-No if this goes ahead.

I think DH is worried he will be a bad father. Or rather, he is unconfident about it. He is not naturally a kid person but I think he will take to the dino.... He is very lovely with nieces and pets. I think it's just not real yet for him. He is very supportive of me, though.

[greatbigbushybeard]

Lol at the backing out of the chopper. Yes feather it is a thing! meant to reduce risk of, ahem, whispers tearing.

rp is your dh also in general less excited about things than you are e.g. Holidays? I think from what you've said he seems really sweet about Dino but remember it's not happening to them so they may not feel it so keenly. Also agree with feather could well be a self preservation thing. My dh will say little things about it and bump, quite sweet really and makes me feel better about frumpville.

Weird with the ears! And I am starting to get hungry!!

Had a lovely day yesterday, went to cinema and meal out, flipping lovely- it did come with a glass of prosecco which I drank v slowly and ate everything- fish cakes, beef and Guinness pie, potato dauphinois, broccoli and ice cream so don't think it could have much effect... I had a sip and if not nice was going to give to dh but it was really nice... was marginally worried about the Guinness but it was cooked so wouldn't have had any alcohol in it.

[Bunnygirlie]

Greetings!

How are you all?

RP scan dread is perfectly normal! I've had it each time! I had a bit of a freak out at work just before my 12w scan.

feather apricots! Every day keeps constipation away, well it does with me anyway.

Btw kale and mango sounds minging lol

Ha ha merk I can't believe you mentioned the p word! talk about freaking the poor newbies out

I'm off to decorate the new thread.

[jessplussomeonenew]

No, Feather, that isn't a thing, it's all fine . And even if it were a thing, it's nothing you would need to think about until third trimester.

[FeatherFeather11]

"Massaging the perenium" - gives merk wide-eyed stare while backing out of the copter. Seriously though, is that a thing?!? Please say it's isn't.

Thanks for all the bum-to-flow advice. Will get on the bran flakes and fruit asap.

rp do you think it's a self preservation thing with your oh? As in maybe he's not allowing himself to get too excited yet?

win all is going to be grand on Monday - just you wait!

bushy yep, I'm hungrier more often and it seems to strike without warning. I go from perfectly fine to absolutely starving within minutes. I'm headed for chubby-ville.

jess I've had ringing ears a bit - like they block over briefly and it all gets a bit weird sometimes, googled it and it's apparently common in pregnancy, so ears don't get a free ride either.

[RevoltingPeasant]

I know, poor Rosie. DH and I went through something like that a couple of years back. Sometimes I think he is a lot less enthusiastic about the whole thing than I am, and I wonder slightly about how our relationship will be impacted when the dino arrives.

Feather you are not alone. I will say no more. Other than other threads have said a laxative called Lactulose is safe, but I haven't gone there yet.

[CatsCantFlyFast]

I have bad news...if you think constipation is tmi on this thread you are going to have a shock! Wait until the conversation drifts to massaging your perenium

[greatbigbushybeard]

Yup feather constipation!! Get those bran flakes into you ASAP. I experienced what you talked about recently so ate some dates and fruits also lots of water too. Veg should prob help too so big salad? You can come out from your rock now

Poor rosie, I felt really sad for her too. I think if a relationship is already strained, ttc is not going to help and then if you succeed, the baby then puts a lot of strain on too. Your comment was lovely to her.

Anyone else finding they're just a lot hungrier more often?

[winohhh]

I definitely had issues with constipation early on feather. It's somewhat improved now. I'm trying to eat more fruit!

I had a missed call from an unknown number yesterday. I was super nervous thinking it was about harmony results until I remembered feather said their number comes up. Phew! Still called them to check they hadn't called though! (Obsessive!).

Glad you were feeling less sick yesterday RP! Hopefully you've turned a corner. I'm feeling much less sick these days (12w5d) although had a bit of a relapse yesterday, I think because I was so tired, due to lack of sleep. Ergh.

[jessplussomeonenew]

Feather, afraid you've come across yet another of the joys of pregnancy - I think early on it's the hormones that slow everything down, then later on there's not much room which has a similar effect. The usual upping your water and fibre intake helps (currently tucking into a bowl of branflakes).

It has been an ongoing source of wonder and annoyance how every part of the body is affected in some way... Everything but the ears so far, and I'm sure there'll be something!

[FeatherFeather11]

Ah, man, rosie's post on the Berrie thread just broke my heart. She's really going through it right now.

bushy bit jel that you're now off for 6 weeks! Enjoy every second! Mmm...wine...seconding rp on the cellar idea!

rp Tuesday! Wow! Sending you strong Berrie vibes. And to you too win for Monday.

Just spent the day cooking all sorts for the MiL's summer party tomorrow. Forgot how much I love it as have been on The Beige for what seems like ages now and not been cooking much.

Embarrassing question, but, er, has/is anyone else having issues with going to the loo? I don't mean for a wee. it's been a good 24hours or more since the last time and I'm starting to feel a bit weird. skuttles off prudishly to hide under a rock

[RevoltingPeasant]

Bushy lay down a cellar! Or, regift. You will not have to buy presents for a whole year.

Kale and mango juice is actually nice. Just, the dino didn't think so.

Today I had M&S sushi (no raw fish obvs) and fruit for lunch, and didn't feel sick at all! Maybe it is passing!

Eep, 12 w scan on Tues and already having periodic qualms. At that point I should be 30% of the way through, but, but, what if...... ARGH.

[greatbigbushybeard]

I second that, the thought of kale and mango- bleurgh!!

Last day of school today-yay!! Had a kids v adults rounders match & was quite chuffed with myself,didn't get out and whacked it a bit too. My flipping legs are killing me now though!! I haven't done any exercise that gets me out of breath since before all of this. No spotting afterward so pleased, hope it was ok. Had a few you're not drinking comments at the pub, said I was driving and going out afterward.

Ironically this year have got lots of wine!! Trying to throw people off the scent by saying how much I'm going to enjoy it!!

[FeatherFeather11]

Oh, and rp, poor you! To be fair, kale and mango don't sound like comfortable buddies. The idea of them both squeezed into a bottle makes me green around the gills!

[FeatherFeather11]

Mmmm....cold rice pudding sounds dreamy. Those nice Rachel's ones you get in the yoghurt aisle in the supermarket are lush!

win glad I didn't piss you off!

bushy good shout in the card too - will do that and get her some lovely earrings I saw in a shop months ago.

I'm at the MiL's from tonight till Sunday. She's having a summer soirée on Saturday and I'm helping her make all the food - I bloody love cooking but will have to reign in The Bossiness. I've most eaten carbs today: croissant, bananas, a bread roll with Philadelphia, half an m&s moussaka, a few green beans, and now I'm thinking about sneaking downstairs for some marzipan. Roll on the second trimester - I need to get healthy!

[jessplussomeonenew]

Happy to have inspired you, Merk!

[CatsCantFlyFast]

It's all your fault I have just eaten a cold tin of rice pudding

[RevoltingPeasant]

Good thing Merk as the diet is not so hot. Today the dino decided it no longer likes the tap water at work (which I have drunk for 4 years without incident) so I went to M&S and got some bottled water to stay hydrated.

Whilst there, I saw they had a kale and mango juice which I remembered liking and thought ooh, that will get some vits in.

45 min later, work loo like scene from Exorcist :(

However, nearly at the end of the first tri! Onwards and outwards upwards! I hope

[jessplussomeonenew]

Elderflower cordial and tonic (in a posh glass with ice and lime/lemon) was my favourite home non-alcoholic drink until the heartburn started to set in. Orange and lemonade is really nice and more readily available, but bit the dust for similar reasons. I have so far resisted asking pubs/cafes for a glass of cold milk, though iced chocolate or chai can be lovely...

[CatsCantFlyFast]

I wouldn't worry about diet ladies, it all calms down once you're into the second tri
No need to drink loads of water for the scan. You can drink too much and be asked to empty a bit out of your bladder (surely almost impossible) whereas if they need it a bit fuller they will tell you to go and have a glass of water. I used to wee before leaving home and drink most of a bottle of water eg small bottle of Evian or whatever on the way there

[greatbigbushybeard]

Feather I don't think it'd be weird at all to get your acu lady a gift, in fact I think it's rather lovely. After all it's a v personal thing helping infertility. I think she'd really appreciate it, perhaps get a little card too and write what you've told us. As a teacher I love the cards that the parents write in saying how much x has come on etc, I keep them for when I'm feeling rubbish to remind myself I'm better than what I think.

winnoh I agree with feather your doctor is a douche bag!! How many weeks are you at this scan?

Can't say my diet has gone back to childhood really but cold rice pudding sounds lush but I've always loved it!! To counteract the sheer load of sugar yesterday ( it got worse peeps, shared a bag of minstrels with dh before bed I ate a big ass salad with some salmon tonight. Had a choc ice today, a brownie cake so bit of an improvement on yesterday!! Pub after school tomorrow, any recommendations for a nice cool non alcoholic drink? Was thinking black currant cordial and soda or lemonade as could have a big old pint of that or a coke (which has become my naughty treat because of the caffeine!)