pregnancy guilt is endless.....amnesty zone

[georgethecat]

accidentally took an ibruprofen
lost my temper with partner x 362 & counting
goat cheese tart incident
work stress
sleeping in wrong position
shouting rude words in road rage - daily
failing to wash bagged salad
occasional cheeky glass of wine
not playing classical music to bump
insomnia

According to research my child will be psychologically, emotionally and physically damaged in some way....the stress of the guilt should be added to the list ("~)

ah ha ha ha let me purge too your in good company

Lost my temper with everyone and rage regularly
Have eaten Mozerella hidden in a salad (and cried, what an arse)
Murderous feelings towards two faced colleagues
Always wake up on my back
Nearly crashed my car last week and my language made me blush a bit
Drank half a guiness and to my eternal shame felt tipsy
Have called the unknown bump he since the very start, may yet end up with a very confused girl
and we will not mention the sex and bleeding last week
forgot OH's birthday card despite arranging a birthday tea etc etc and blamed the baby totally

:o

Far too much caffeine....

too much caffiene
too much chocolate and cake
the odd half of beer or glass of Pimms
work stress
painted furniture with smelly oil based paints and used white spirit to clean up afterwards
still cycling to work and school and occasionally pulling a toddler in a trailer....(ok...not too guilty about that one to be honest, it hurts less than walking and I still have to get from a to b)

...oh and despite avoideing undercooked eggs I can't help but lick the mixing bowl after making a cake

...oh and I didn't bother reading any of the leaflets the midwife gave me either, they went straight in the recycling (third child syndrome!)

I've got a few to add...

Done far too much physical work and heavy lifting.
Drunk my "allowance" of two units of alcohol every week.
Too much caffeine.
Far too much sugar.
Angry at everyone and everything, including the dog.
Didn't go for my GTT (only advised because I have PCOS - no other symptoms or sugar in urine etc)
Have been eating medium/rare steak.
Have been eating runny eggs.
Even accidentally let a bit of Brie slip into my mouth the other day

Yep - seriously physically and psychologically damaged baby on its way here too.. at least it'll be used to my shouting (at other kids) before it arrives...

Oh God, the guilt! This is like confession...

Too much caffiene
Consistently sleeping in wrong position
Undercoated and topcoated new shelving unit
2 glasses of mulled wine on Bonfire Night
Continually bringing heavy sacks of logs into the house for fire
Runny fried egg yolk as part of a full english
Owning a cat, and petting said cat, cleaning up after said cat pooed under the table
Moving furniture alone, including 3-seater sofa
Digging up potatoes from garden, eating said potatoes and probably not disinfecting them correctly, repeat for salads, garlic, onions and carrots.

Oh, and I'm already enjoying kids TV with particular enjoyment of Mr Bloom's Garden and Tinga Tinga Tales ... I have no other children with the exception of the one in my belly. I'd like to hold this 'vice' for a poor parenting amnesty thread.

Thank you

there is something wrong with me. I fail to feel guilty about all of it.
Including
going over my coffee limit
lying on my back because the cat was lying on my pregnancy pillow and I did not have the heart to boot him off
eating a small piece of goats cheese
eating a muffin that fell on the kitchen floor
I am a wicked mother to be

Ahh Im in love with this thread! Mine are:

Had chocolate cake and ice cream for breakfast
Went to Ikea and carried flat pack (well no other bugger is going to do it for me!)
Drank 2 cans of diet coke yesterday
Got tipsy on half a glass of wine (then cried and wondered where my ability to drink grown men under the table had gone)
Got so stressed over wanker ex that I ended up sobbing at doctors
Fall asleep whenever I pick up a parenting book / magazine
regularly forget to take pregnacare and need to get up in night to fix this when it occurs to me

There are probably many more, but the guilt has meant I have mentally blocked the rest out

Too much caffeine
eating pate (did post a thread on it in an attempt to "move" my guilt)
drinking the end of the guinness I'd being using in a stew.
eating goat's cheese
moving a wardrobe upstairs with DH
buying a very heavy coffee table, putting it in my car and carrying it into my house on my own (in my defense, yur honour, I didn't know for sure that I was pg for the above two)
Not really talking directly to bump or singing to it or playing it inspiring music.
Never washing salad or peeling/wiping mushrooms
Not doing pererium massage(hoping the two previous 8lbers will have done the stretching for me!)
runny eggs and licking mixing bowl
ever so slightly hoping this one might be a specific gender (I'll get kicked off for that one.I do mean only ever so slightly and my 20 week scan suggested it might be and I'm kinda only thinking "Ok that would be cool" )
Not doing yoga, purchasing a hypnobirthing CD or planning to have a drug free labour.

heh heh. I expressed interest in yoga classes to the midwife but have ZERO intention of going....

I am like Sospanfach and failing to feel The Guilt. Maybe I'll feel guilty about that?! I too have third child syndrome and have so far:
Struggled to limit my caffeine intake
Ditto that for chocolate, cake and other junk
Had a glass of wine once or twice a week this past month (currently 23+2) and longed for more
Slept in all the wrong positions
Eaten runny egg
Used bad language. Regularly (but not in earshot of other children, just the one in utero)
Lost temper. Often.

I haven't been hit by a lightning bolt (yet) though, so it can't be that bad

just you wait...It's all coming to us

Oh yes, I almost forgot about the possibly slightly thinking that a specific gender would be nice.

do not pass go. do not collect 200 pounds.

Harsh Sospanfach, harsh.

Can I collect a small Shiraz instead?

Eaten runny eggs
Ate chocolate mousse with raw egg in it the other day
Have eaten goats cheese- but I cooked it, surely that makes it ok?
Eaten bagged salad without washing it
Carried things that are far too heavy
Slept on my back
Have overdone it on several occasions
Got very grumpy and shouty at everyone around me.

sillymillyb I had chocolate fudge cake and ice cream for breakfast last week too but I did not feel guilty at all, in fact I was so pleased with myself I tweeted about it 'twas lovely!

Nothing on this thread I reckon seems that bad, so hope you all dont feel too guilty. I think it also depends on how far along you are. I really really need to stop sleeping on my stomach though

Nine months is a long time to not be doing stuff when you need/want to do it.

3rd child here too, but I do still care, really I do!

no shiraz . Go directly to yoga classes. And then attend baby signing and SIGN to your unborn how sorry you are for being so remiss

TBH I think my list only skims the surface of the "banned" things i do. I don't feel guilt REALLY though. I 've just being making informed selfish decisions on a risk/ benefit basis. I've already spent 123 weeks of the last 8.5 years pregnant. My sanity has to be considered at some point!!

Far, far too much caffeine
Ate (pasteurised) goats cheese
Complete rage and cried at work TWICE (oh the shame)
Endless moaning about fatigue
Short tempered
Sleep in all sorts of dodgy positions
The list is endless....

Crossed posts. Gosh remembered I did baby massage and read a book about baby signing( and had sincere conversations with other mums about it) And did yoga with my first. This one will be lucky if it sees an item of clothing that it's a third hand yellow baby groe before it's first birthday!

Ruby pudding for breakfast is lovely isn't it?! I decided it was what the baby wanted so i was doing it for him. See Im really very selfless!

Speaking of which, another one here that was ever so slightly relieved / happy when baby got his willy out at the scan

Mark Stretch Cooked goats cheese is fine according to the NHS.

We're meant to wash bagged salad? Oh well...another one to add to the naughty list...

Hooray for this thread! Mine:

Caffine (inc far too much chocolate)
Too much junk food
Hot baths
Sleeping on my back - tbf though I can't help that when i'm asleep
Lugging heavy things around (namely DS)
The odd runny egg
Brie, though this has been cooked first which apparently is ok

I was much more anal about all these things with my first pregnancy.