Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads part 9

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New thread!

Good luck for today Dachs!!

Is there a relieved icon??? Dd is back at school . Can't believe my little girl is now a year 1....

Daisy that's it lovely, you take control while you can! Daisybean will be ignoring pretty much all you say from birth ...

Hips are pretty crap now tbh. I had physio on Friday and she gave me crutches. I was so down in the dumps that I went home and cried. Feel like a right idiot/fraud with them tbh. Really hoping the chiro can work a miracle next week. I can see my home birth vanishing in a puff of smoke.

I've also turned nocturnal. It's awful isn't it?! I slept for a bit, woke up for ages, then wanted to drop off as the blinking alarm went.

Cep have you looked at Miracle bags? Have a google, they're lovely.

I've just ordered this as it's my birthday in a couple of weeks, so hoping that will give me enough space for a while as I'll be bf'ing.

Oh, picked our pram up yesterday! I got a Bugaboo Cameleon second hand from ebay. It's 2nd generation and is in really lovely condition. It's red fleeces with dark grey base. I love it!!!

Morning All...

Lots of chatting over the weekend - lovely to start my day to this morning!

Dachs - good luck! Thinking of you and hope all goes well.

Cep - have you tried TK Maxx? They've got lots of snow suits at much reduced prices.. (have bought a whole heap of stuff from there including ALL the Avent stuff at almost half price).

Pink - not long to go! Daisy - liking your deadline for MiniDaisy.

WIW - I had my anti-D last week and actually didn't feel a thing. In fact, the blood test I had hurt more!

Milky - I was measured for the first time properly at my 28 week appt last week. She also felt for his head, his bottom and his feet.

Cep - going back to your post over the weekend, I do think part of the issue is that many men (mine included) internalise emotion. DH does see his role as being the provider once little one arrives and he does bottle up any worries he has in that regard. Until now we've been on a par, both earning and living interdependently and the roles will obviously change for a while. He doesn't want to share his concerns / worries etc with me and so we end up just at loggerheads with eachother. Plus it doesn't help that we haven't had any physical intimacy at all since I became pg. I think NCT will help us as DH has a group of like-minded cavemen to piss about with share his concerns with. Does your DH have any close friends at the same stage as you both? For my DH, it's enough to just have reassurance that what we're going through / how he's feeling / how I'm "behaving" is normal. And I think most of it is actually fear of what MIGHT happen rather than what is actually happening.

Quite envious of the Northern meet - Southern Ladies, we need to make ours happen.... can we revive it?

I'm now thinking changing bags are overrated - a big handbag with the right compartments should do it.. We were lucky to inherit a Stork Sak from a friend. It's navy so good for DH to use. Although he seems to have his own plans.

Went for our maternity unit tour at St Georges on Saturday. I'm glad we went and I was quite impressed with their facilities. However, I also found it to be quite terrifying and I somehow managed to (sneakily) burst into tears on the tour. DH didn't know quite how to react (no one else saw miraculously) but then it resulted in a post-tour discussion on why did I react like that. Answer: "cos I'm scared." DH's "sensitive" reply: "Well you should've thought about that 7 months ago." Tosser. I put it down to his inability to handle emotion. I'm not scared as in saying I don't want to have little one, it was just all quite overwhelming. Plus, it made delivery / little one's birth all seem more real.

Ooh harassed - love the look of that bag - most - hope it gives you some relief from your sore hips you poor thing.....

Well done on your maternity tour lara - I think I'll find it quite terrifying too - we're going in a couple of weeks (they only do tours midweek 9am to 2pm - not particularly helpful for us working types....) Thanks for the reassurance on the anti-D too.

Hello all!! No news to report here. Drinking lots of (surprisingly tasty) raspberry leaf tea and sniffing clary sage oil but not a inkling from mini wombat that she might be considering making an appearance. In fairness, she's not even due for another 5 days (and probably a few more than that by my dates) so I'm getting impatient a bit prematurely

at daisy giving daisybean a 3 day deadline already!!

GOOD LUCK dachs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!'

Happy term pink!

Cep sorry to hear you're having such a hard time with dh. I think the stress of pg makes everything harder xxx

wiw your hols sound fab and it must have been great to get a break from the Dubai heat. Good luck for the anti-d.

Glad all those on the northern meet up had a lovely time! We need to rearrange the southern one...

First lot of bloods came back okay but still waiting on the second lot.

Can't remember who was asking about skip hop bags? I've got the smaller one but obviously mini wombat hadn't arrived yet so no idea if it's big enough. I just know of I have the space I'll end up carting around a whole load of totally unnecessary crap!!

Right, my memory has now totally failed me sorry for everyone I've missed out (still typing on iPhone do can't scroll back).

Bacon sarnies for all xxx

dachs thinking of you...

harassed I am jealous of your Cam. We went to see one that was exactly as you describe except it ended up being a first generation, third hand one and I gave up. Went for the Sola from M&P which I hope we don't regret. However, managed to get loads of our accessories second hand in really good condition so feel happy about that.

lara I haven't done the tour yet but did go to my MU a few weeks ago when I had that scare. It scared the living daylights out of me :)

SOUTHERN MEET UP Tuesday 20th September at 6.30 for dinner near victoria station? I'll reupdate the other thread in a sec so go there if you fancy it.

pink - happy due date and w33 5 days can go veeerry quickly.

I am also nocturnal. It's a shocker. We find out this week if MrBM is able to work in London when his office closes. Am trying not to mental about the potential for him losing his job but I think it's not helping the middle of the night situpathons.

Just lurking for dachs, thinking of you.

Finally got off at about 6am and alarm went off at 6.45..... so working from home.

It'd upset me too, Collie - I am terrified of ending up with an outie. Mine has become a weird shape and DH is fascinated that he can now see the back of it...

BigMac - good luck for Mr BM's transfer. It's easy for me to say but I am a strong believer that these things always work out somehow.

Thinking of you, Dachs...

collie me too - it's still there but going weirdly flat around the outside.

xpost - thanks lara you're right and me too... one way or another it will come good eventually. I think i'm most worried about having to go back to work really early because mrB doesn't have a job anymore and can stay at home instead.

Embrace the outies ladies!!! I'm told under good authority that they do go back afterwards which is a relief. In the meantime, when it pops out, get your OH to put his hand across your belly button and then cough-it makes it poke out more and prod him which I find hilarious-it grosses DH out no end

One healthy heartbeat. One potential ectopic twin. Having scan from specialist on Thursday before I see my obstetrician. Am completely mentalling and madly worried.

dachs you must be in utter turmoil! Thats great news about the healthy hb, but very scary re the potential ectopic. If that's the case what would that mean for the healthy one? Oh sweet, NOT what you needed at all, I wish it had been more straight forward with just the heathy one! You must be v worried, metalling totally understandable. I really don't know what to say. What will they be looking for on Thurs? What can they do?

Massive squishy (((hug)))

Glad I'm not alone in the belly button phobia! pink I think DH would strangely enjoy that.... He keeps trying to poke it now and loves it when pup moves and makes it totally disappear!!!

dachs I'm seconding collie's post and ((hug)). I hope the next couple of days pass quickly xxx

Oh Dachs huge hugs. I'll be keeping everything crossed for you that the potential ectopic turns out not to be a problem xxx

bloomin xposts

pink I can't tell you how much the post about the bellybutton just made my whole body shudder. Belly buttons and feet are on the urgh list for me... I'm just going to have to learn to embrace it.

Returns after quick google. dachs dr google calls it a heterotopic pregnancy (which I'm sure you already know). Says there is a 1;10,000 chance! Seriously, your karma is definitely due to change! Are they certain one is ectopic or us that what the scan on Thurs is for? Have read (again via dr google) some very positive stories of the healthy bean surviving and sticking though!

Xxxxx

The scan on Thursday is to determine whether it is really an ectopic or whether it is something else.

I agree re: karma. I think I am the world's unluckiest person.

I have much data to back this up - my honeymoon, my replacement honeymoon, various other holidays, learning to drive and various other things. This is the icing on the f*cking cake. Why can't something just go right for me - just once. I may not be little miss perfect but I'm a nice person and I don't think I deserve all this crap.

you most definitely do not deserve all this crap *dachs. It's shitty and unfair. Have a good rage today and then start the coping strategy until Thursday. Are you back at work yet? If not, have you got any mates you are prepared to tell who could take time off over the next couple of days to distract you?

dach i'm sorry it wasn't so straight forward for you today. yay for a good hb though. fx for thursday.

wombat it was me asking opinions about the skip hop. My parents are buying it for me (which added a bit more pressure to ge the right one), and i think i'm going to go for the bento. not because it's more expensive but because it's bigger and has more space. i'd rather have too much room than not enough. Especially as i don't know if the breast feeding is going to work and i end up on bottles again.

Dachs - I still feel deep down that this time things will work out. Fingers crossed for good news on Thursday. No one deserves this much bad luck... Hope you have a sticky few days for your little bean.

Anyone recommend any good / reasonably priced maternity tights? I am literally only going to be wearing them for a few weeks so can't justify paying what so many of the shops seem to be charging. When on mat leave I plan to live in leggings / jeans and pajamas so would appreciate any recommendations for tights that don't have a price tag to make my eyes water.

lara there's a maternity wear blog on the Guardian website and the writer said that Mothercare's had the best staying power/comfort factor. Haven't tried them myself...

Aha - thanks BigMac... Will go straight there. With heavy rain forecast for tomorrow, I don't think I can do the bare-legged thing for much longer. I always find that suddenly a day appears when it's no longer appropriate to be bare-legged, the whole world (apart from me) suddenly seems to have received a secret memo and starts wearing black tights and I end up spending the day feeling naked.

Next stress will come in a few weeks time when I wonder what to do about pregnancy and coats... Am thinking that I will try and make do with my normal attire and just not do the buttons up. I have a couple of swing coat type ones that might just cut it.