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Do most of you find out sex of pregnancy?

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Janus · 09/11/2010 21:55

We currently have 3 dds and I am pregnant with number 4 and will have 20 week scan next week. We have never found out sex before and we are not worried at all what this one will be but I find most people are surprised we are not finding out.
I like the surprise and, OK, I could get a little more organised if I knew but that seems to be the only reason, or is it? Did you find out and, if so, why?

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bessie26 · 09/11/2010 21:58

no, I like surprises! Grin

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 09/11/2010 22:00

I didn't with either of ours.

I liked the surprise!

littlemisslozza · 09/11/2010 22:01

No, didn't with either of ours.

Ineedsomesleep · 09/11/2010 22:01

We didn't find out with either of ours, mainly because one friend did and they got it wrong.

Phoenix · 09/11/2010 22:02

We didn't with ds1 but did with ds2.

Tidey · 09/11/2010 22:03

1st pregnancy - We would have liked to have found out but the hospital had a rule against it

2nd pregnancy - Hospital had changed rules slightly and you could pay for an extra scan to find out, so we did that.

simpson · 09/11/2010 22:03

I didn't with either of mine.

megonthemoon · 09/11/2010 22:04

I like the surprise too - I just get the surprise at 20 weeks rather than 40 weeks Wink

IRL I find it's 50:50 amongst my friends as to whether you find out at the scan or at the birth.

Phoenix · 09/11/2010 22:05

We did with ds2 because we I wanted to be organised and I had fallen in love with his name and needed to know if I would get to use it:o

starfishmummy · 09/11/2010 22:08

I liked the surprise. Old mum.so had amniocentesis and consultant was a bit ssurprised that we didn't want to know, he wrote it in red in several places on the notes so no one would blab

cotswolder · 09/11/2010 22:09

we didn't. Both agreed that there are few enough nice surprises in life and that this would be one of them!

DancingThroughLife · 09/11/2010 22:13

I liked waiting for the surprise. And it saved me a fortune in buying loads of clothes beforehand! I know that if I'd have known, I'd have bought so much stuff in advance that the baby would never have had chance to wear it all Blush

I wobbled on scan day and told DH I'd want to know if they offered, but he stayed strong enough for both of us and I'm glad he did.

Crystylline · 09/11/2010 22:13

I know and needed to as not much money and needed to plan and get organised.

If circumstances were different, well probably would have waited for the surprise a little later.

TBH, being pregnant was surprise in itself! Shock Grin

Pootle78 · 09/11/2010 22:13

We haven't and am surprised that every person I see (including all the randoms of the street!) the first question is either what are you having or those that are more blunt - sex? Yes, do you need a sex ed class?!

Beamur · 09/11/2010 22:15

We didn't find out before - wanted it to be a surprise, just bought some neutral/unisex coloured basics and more once DD arrived.

Jojay · 09/11/2010 22:16

I did, both times. I'm glad I did and would find out again

QueenFizzBangPoppingEverything · 09/11/2010 22:17

I didn't with either of mine.

With DD it was a surprise but with DS both DP and I somehow knew he'd be a boy, and when he was born neither of us even looked. In fact I said 'Oh here he is' before I'd checked.

upahill · 09/11/2010 22:18

No we didn't bother.

BabyValentine · 09/11/2010 22:20

No, we didn't either. Wanted a surprise!

marriednotdead · 09/11/2010 22:57

I didn't want to know either time.

Exp#1 was convinced DD would be a boy, I told him I'd have a girl to spite him. I was right.

Randomly saw a clairaudiant(sp?) several years later. First thing she said was that at the appropriate time, I'd have a son, and that he would be enough, I wouldn't want any more. She was right.

cordiality · 10/11/2010 08:38

We found out as I think the whole thing was a bit surreal for us so it made it seem much more real once we knew the sex. We now love referring to her as 'she' and 'our daughter' and it feels like she is her own little person already. Can't wait to meet her now!

Samraves · 10/11/2010 09:06

Wow- seems like most people haven't, although I am with you cordiality - we did as it made things more real. I didn't like calling her 'it' and also have a step daughter who was desperate for a little sister - I wanted to give her plenty of time should she need to get used to having a brother and not be disappointed at all!

Poledra · 10/11/2010 09:11

Didn't with DD1 (though DH wanted to, and was pretty sure following on from the 20-week scan that he knew it was a girl but didn't say anything to me). Did with DD2, as DH had gone with my preference the first time so we went with his the second! Also, DD1 was, like the PP's stepdaughter, desperate for a sister so we wanted to be able to prepare her for a brother.

Definitely did with DD3, as I had to have 4-weekly scans throughout my pg, so it was just easier than trying to avoid knowing all those times - we also told each person who did the scans so they wouldn't get into convolutions trying not to tell us!

It's probably just as well we had all girls, as we never could agree on a boy's name Grin

Francagoestohollywood · 10/11/2010 09:18

We did both times. I was so curious to meet my babies, that knowing the sex was at least something I knew about them.

ilovesprouts · 10/11/2010 09:21

not with my first two dcs ,but did with my 3rd wich was a boy

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