Do most of you find out sex of pregnancy?

[Janus]

We currently have 3 dds and I am pregnant with number 4 and will have 20 week scan next week. We have never found out sex before and we are not worried at all what this one will be but I find most people are surprised we are not finding out.
I like the surprise and, OK, I could get a little more organised if I knew but that seems to be the only reason, or is it? Did you find out and, if so, why?

we wanted to find out, however DS didn't give us much choice in the matter anyway!

I found out as I really wanted a girl so if it was a boy I wanted time to get used to the idea. Also I felt it would help me bond with the baby more prior to birth and for DH too. It was still a surprise just 20 weeks earlier than if I had waited. No my surprise will be what the baby looks like, hair etc.

I found out and it still seems a total surprise to me nearly 4 weeks later. I was so convinced it was going to be a boy that when the sonographer said it was a girl I had to ask her to repeat it. I think I would have had even more difficulty by the birth after spending 40 weeks convinced she was a boy.

I agree with what people have said about making the baby feel more real!

Weirdly, my dad won't let me tell him, because he wants it to be a surprise, so no one on that side of my family knows. I told my mum and my twin sister and my grandma on that side, and DH has told his entire family and we've both told friends and colleagues.

I always thought I would want a surprise but now I'm pregnant I'm convinced it's a boy, so we're thinking of finding out but keeping it a secret between us. I'll be happy with either but I cannot shift this feeling that I'm having a boy.

A little DS. I thought it would be as my DH comes from a father who had six boys and his father had 8 boys no girls..I guess I might be only having little boys. I know I wont care a hoot when he is born as he is my baby but I always imagined myself with two little girls so I needed time to get my head around that.

Did, couldn't live with the fact that sonographer knows and we don't IYSWIM.
don't really get the "surprise me!" people at all.

We're not going to find out, want to keep the suspense going (and the fight over names...).

Also just to add, I knew as soon as the image came on the screen as I could see his rather obvious testicles! I said instantly to DH 'oh its a boy' and he couldnt see and asked the sonographer who said 'yes she is right'. So I would always go into a scan now thinking I would have to find out as if I couldnt see th testicles I would assume it was a girl and I so from now I would always ask I think. Thanks supersunyday. It has certainly made preparation easier and I have enjoyed internet shopping while on bed rest ordering him little dungarees and clothes which have cheered me up.

I did because although I would have been happy with either sex I had a preference for a girl and didn't wanted time to adjust if it was a boy so the birth wasn't marred by a little bit of disappointment.
I don't think there is anything wrong with boys and I have a lovely nephew who is the most sweet tempered gentle child you would ever hope to meet so I don't think boys are boisterous or aggressive or any of the other negative traits some might attach to boys.
It's just in my head i always imagined I'd have a girl (don't know why).

Just actually bothered to read posts and seen my answer is almost identical to kitten30 so I needn't have bothered :)

We did with DS. He was my first, so the gender part was probably the least surpring thing about the whole process tbh!

I wouldn't have found out if there had been subsequent babies, but not to be.

haha and now I have to ask did you get a boy or girl? Exactly how I felt I didnt want them to say 'its a boy' and for me to feel disappointed then.

Also found out with #2 and #3 because with #2 DS really wanted a sister (and got one) and with #3 he really, really wanted a brother (it's another sister). I wanted to give him time to adjust if he didn't get what he wanted rather than have those negative feelings hanging around the actual baby, and this time he took about a week to adjust to the idea of having another sister and never having a brother (this is our last child).

I got a beautiful little girl who is exactly 4 months old today. I still worried right up until the birth that they had got the scan wrong. I even only took unisex baby clothes to the hospital just in case :)

I found out with both mine. However, the 3D scan telling us that DC2 was a DS2 turned out to be wrong.

I got the surprise of my life when DS2 was actually a DD!

If we had another, I wouldn't bother finding out!

Ah that is wonderful! I am going to give the shettles method a go for the next one as for this pregnancy we were so desperate for a baby that we just wanted to get pregnant never mind about the sex. I think with scans it is more likely they get it wrong that way round (say ts a girl but its a boy) with mine I am convinced it was a boy as I could see it myself.

haha just read alloverits post..I take it back..my god I hope that doesnt happen to me..all these clothes I have bought. How on earth did they get that so wrong?

3D scans are less reliable for sexing a baby than 2D scans, according to various sonographers I have asked.

We've had two separate scans with each of the first two so been relatively confident. And DH was very proud when sonographer with DS took one brief look and said "Oh. Oh my. Yes, that's definitely a boy..."

I think 20 week scans are something like 98-99% reliable at identifying the sex where they can get a good look at the relevant area, so pretty good but as AllOverIt's experience shows not foolproof.

If mine did turn out to be a girl it would be a girl with testicles ..

Like others have said, it is a completely personal decision.

I would never find out. There aren't many surprises in life that you have to be patient and wait for, everything's so instant these days.

Also, I secretly did want a boy really (or so I thought)....but we didn't find out - and after 17 hours of labour, as DP's voice cracked as he whispered 'it's a little girl', we couldn't have been more overjoyed. No disappointment, just absolute elation.

Whereas if I'd found out earlier, before I worked for her, held her and knew her, I may have been disappointed that she was a girl. It's mad really, when I think about it.

We didn't find out - I'd have liked to, but DH didn't want to. The birth was all so incredibly overwhelming that I didn't really care about the sex at all - it would have been a nice thing to find out earlier. It was nice that even though the baby was delivered using forceps in theatre, the surgeon let DH see the sex for himself, and like stresshead, it was amazing to hear DH saying "It's a boy" and we both burst into tears!

Next time I hope we can find out at the scan.

We founds out at 12 weeks scan. We wanted to know so that we could start connecting with the baby more (and knowing the baby's sex helps in our opinion)...

It's my 20 week scan this week and I'd rather not know but I'm leaving it up to DP to decide. I feel as though he's still quite removed from the pregnancy and all decisions are mine really so I'm letting him have this one. If we do find out though I think we'll try and keep it to ourselves.