Do most of you find out sex of pregnancy?

[Janus]

We currently have 3 dds and I am pregnant with number 4 and will have 20 week scan next week. We have never found out sex before and we are not worried at all what this one will be but I find most people are surprised we are not finding out.
I like the surprise and, OK, I could get a little more organised if I knew but that seems to be the only reason, or is it? Did you find out and, if so, why?

DD1 - No
DD2 - Yes, as DD1 was only 20m when DD2 was born, and we thought it would be easier for her to understand :o
DS1 - Sort of! I asked at 19w after a bleed and was told it was a dd, then had to have 4 weekly growth scans due to my BMI. Somehow they never picked up that it was a DS! Thankfully i really didn't think he was a DD, so just bought Neutral baby stuff

I didn't want to find out the sex of my three dc's, however with two of the pregnancies the sonographer accidently told me the sex of the baby.

We did find out for number 6. I was convinced it was a much wanted DD (I don't know why I thought this!). DH asked the sex at 20 weeks and it was another boy. I cried all the way home for the DD I would never have. But I got it out of my system, and started to look foreward to the birth of another baby boy. Looking back knowing to sex was a good thing for us. But 5 surprises were also fantastic.

I did. I found it really difficult to think of my bump as a baby until I could start calling him "he".

We found out with no 4 for the sake of older sibling who already had 2 sisters. I found it strange knowing as it was like the baby was already born as everyone referred to him by his name and I got a bit freaked by it! I preferred having the surprise with the other 3.

Didnt find out for dc, I had a feeling what it was and wanted to see if I was right, and also wanted the suprise.

With DS1 the obstetrician gave it away and we were really annoyed. With DS2 we definitely wanted a surprise. Our community mw said it was so nice that we didn't know, as almost everyone she worked with did find out.

With this one we probably will find out. DH wants to be organised, whatever that means. If it's a boy I have everything, and if it's a girl, she will still have blue sleeping bags and whatever babygrows we already have, so it makes no difference to me.

we didn't find out. Gave me that extra urge to push that bit harder ! (and no squinting at the scan pictures didn't help!)

nagynolonger Wow 6 boys, how special is that! The odds must be ??!!* I can't imagine! How lovely!

Didn't find out with DC1 as I was looking forward to 'the moment' at the birth, but it all went emergency forceps on us and I was exhausted, numb, in shock and fairly traumatised - so I felt nothing at finding out.

DC2 we found out at 20 weeks so I could do it all differently this time. I really enjoyed the shock that it was a boy (DD first time) and knew that however the birth went I had had time to enjoy my 'moment'. (Also went for an elcs which was a breeze in comparison!)

I found out at 20 week scan, but didn't tell anyone, not even DH (he had to work when I had the scan). I can't explain why I didn't want to tell my own husband and DD's father, I just wanted to keep it secret.

DD has 4 DC and has known the sex of all of them.

It was great being able to put a name to the "bump" and it also gave me time to make the appropriate cot and bed quilt.

No.5 is due in February and again we all know the sex and name of this one.

We have had our 20w scan and chose not to find out. But we've been calling the bump 'he' for ages. It's not because we're sure it's going to be a boy it's more a generic term. A bit more personal than 'it'.

It will, however, confuse a lot of people if he turns out to be a girl as loads of people assume we know since we're using 'he'.

Whne my child was not yet born I referred to her as 'the baby' and not 'it'.

Does knowing the sex really help with bonding? In what way. To me, it's still an unseen, unknown, abstract thing even if you know what's between its legs. If anything, having a scan and later looking at the picture helps to make it real.

Someone once told me that if we were meant to find out before hand God would have put a window in our tummys.

I posted already but am posting again after an experience at work yesterday. I told someone we were having a little girl. Cue screwed up nose and a hauty response of oh i can't believe you found out, I wouldn't dont you want a suprise (this went on for 5minutes)! ughh, decision made already and no i hate surpises! surely everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I can totally see why you wouldn't and wouldn't push my preference of wanting to find out on anyone else its personal preference.

I liked knowing so that I could bargain-hunt over a period of time - spending less not more because of the knowledge! Also to give the baby more of a personality I suppose rather than just being 'the baby'. And when we had dd and were expecting again, I wanted to have time to break it to her that it wasn't the sister she was hoping for! I suppose if I'd been desperate for a particular gender I would have waited - less disappointment when there is an actual baby there to love! Actually it was a bit of a shock finding out we were having a boy, but did console myself with more bargain-hunting!

So far everyone has asked the question 'are you going to find out' and then they've been very disappointed in me when I say yes we are. Very odd!! Only once person has nodded and said yep, I did.

Having not found out (DD1), it being blatantly obvious (DS scan photo in glorious profile) and finding out (DD2), on the whole I dont ask but if people say then I only ever comment positively whatever they have chosen to do.

I chose to find out my DDs sex becuase my partner and I were curious. I wanted to know if the baby inside me was male or female becuase it just felt odd always referring to the bump as "the baby" or "it".

I'm not talking about pink or blue babygros, I'm talking about buying up jumble sales and charity shops full of things you like for the next couple of years, as well as receiving bagfuls of hand-me-downs from friends