for mums 2be moving on...part TWO

[Marina]

Wills, so pleased the baby is the right way up. I don't know much about pre-eclampsia but understood it is always a risk if you had it in your first pregnancy. Very much hoping Mears or Leese is around to enlighten you professionally. Let us know how you are doing, and let's all send the vibe equivalent of raspberry leaf tea in the direction of the Peak District this weekend!

Things have quietened down a bit now so sending DH out for another curry No word from the hospital so I presume that is a good sign.

DDs birth was so magical I can't beleive DH is worried about it really. He's more concerned with missing work. Told me he's definielty going in tomorrow. No sign of releif that he was around to support me through a pre-eclampsia scare just mutterings about how much he's got to do. Don't think he's planning on taking any paternity leave at all this time. He's spend most of the day either winging about his work or telling me that we have been overspending and will have a financial crisis by the end of the month. Just what I want to hear when I am about to go into labour. Like I said my 5yr old is more supportive. Have hope things do happen tomorrow instead as its no bonus having him around.

Just looking at the message above the 'add a message' box - from Marina sending me raspberry leaf vibes on the 25th July. Almost a month later I'm still here. Ah well I suppose I'll laugh about it all one day

oh poo, katherine, thought you'd be in the full throes by now.

pack him off to work and do it without him tomorrow! then present him with a beautifully wrapped clean and sleeping bundle and say "dinner will be on the table in 10 minutes darling - would you like a gin and tonic?"

only kidding of course. mind you, a large gin might kickstart you as well!

Oh Katherine ... I got up this morning and logged on just to see if you had 'dropped' and you are still there!!!!! Bum! It will happen ... that baby has to come out at some point!!!!
Your DH reminds me of my DH ... when I had my m/c he moaned about how much work he was missing (although he was supportive most of the time) and at the moment we are having a discussion about his annual conference. This year it was mid Feb ... and he was away for 5 days. I keep asking him to find out when next year's is ... bearing in mind I am due 30th Jan and therefore might not even have given birth by mid Feb and might well have had a c/s so wouldn't be able to do much etc ... and he just won't ask his boss! I have asked him tp put it to his boss that if the date is not set yet to bear in mind my due date and it would be great if it could be put back to mid March ... but for some reason he won't just do it ... and keeps suggesting that his mother comes to stay! GGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!
Katherine ... darling ... hope something happens tonight ....

I've been the cause of work trouble too. My dp works locally most of the time so it's been business as usual. First time I'm really worried about something (the appt yesterday for the sweep), and his manager demanded he attend a meeting at a site 2 hours away. Funnily enough my birthing partners hubby happens to be a senior manager in the company and when he found out went ballistic!
Don't you just love causing havoc!

However, he is concerned the baby is coming on Friday as he's got a golf match planned again! (Nothing like getting the priorities right between bump, work and GOLF!)

Oh, and he wants me to test drive a new car too...which is great, but it'll mean getting there in the MG. (finally got to be practical about this!).

Do you think the dealership will be happy if my waters break in their demonstrator ?!

Almost worth doing to find out!

Oooh Myersthecat ... I definitely think you should try to go into labour during the test drive!!!!

That would get them some publicity Myersthecat!!
Katherine, what is it with these men!! Mines the same. Day of secondm/c just said - anyother day darling and I could be there etc... Came with me after that but he made sure Mum was there - she's nurse anyway so she's very useful anyway but nothing surprises me any more. Your DH does sound very on edge, work plays such a huge part in their lives - I couldn't give a crap about my job really but it's in built to be like that with them - buggers. Hope today is a better day for you and things get going again!! 'The calm before the storm'!!!!

myersthecat - I'm sure if you actually gave birth in the demonstrator they would GIVE you the car for free, in return for a few articles and photos in the local rags, of course.
could be lucrative! Hope you are testdriving something v expensive....

My DP sounds fairly similiar - he is nursing a sport injury at the moment (grazed both of his knees quite badly at football on Sunday) and everything has to be done to maintain his comfort because of this!!! Never mind me being 9 months pregnant and could do with a hand!

Im off to midwife soon for my 40 week appointment - wonder what she has to say - fingers crossed baby is on his way back round to a good anterior position!

Becca
xxx

BTW Ghosty - I took Meg to that childrens party and you wont believe what was smeared all down one of the slides.......yep - horrible.

Well I'm still here Everything has gone quiet again. Can't beleive it! Were there 24 hours of period pains and contractions for nothing? Did the sweep just cause irritation rather than the real thing. SOooooooo fed up. Still loads of mucous coming though. How much is there up there. Never had a show with my other two and assumed when people spoke about "a show" that it was a one off plug, not days of snotty stuff!

DH has gone off to work so I'm really hoping that this baby is awkward enough to seize the moment for maximum drama and come today. After all DH has agreed to take tomorrow off (got to clean the holiday cottage again!) to come to my scan and monitoring and then its the bank holiday so today really would be the most inconvenient! Maybe this is the qiuet before the storm!

Oh well just waiting for MW to come and check my BP and urine again. No DH to squabble with this morning so I bet its come down a bit!

Myersthecat - I love the idea of you being crow barred out of the MG to have your waters break in the demonstrator. Wonderful! Why not go the whole hog and have the baby on the back seat

Hey maybe you'll get a free car out of it!!

Come on girls, hurry up and pop. I'm gonna catch up with you at this rate!!

BR (38+6)

Mmmm...getting very tempted.
I mean who would want to buy a leather interior jaguar, that some woman has given birth in!!!

Mmmmmmm.....

Better get down on the beach for a good walk on the shingle first, followed by a bumpy ride in the MG (we still live on a building site so the roads aren't all that clever!).
That coupled with dps driving should get things started!

So very very very tempting......

I'm going to sound awful now but I have to agree with men. I suspect its because they really can't multifunction rather than they don't care. They go to work 5 days a week and at work their attention is soley on work. I suspect that they can't juggle priorities the way we can. My dh is just the same in many ways, its not that he even likes his job that much its just that he can't juggle all the requirements on his time and for 9/10 hours a day 5 days a week he can concentrate on just work. Hope I'm making sense here - to concentrate on work is something that is far easier to do than family or emotional stuff etc etc etc....

Well things are going from bad to worse here. MW has just been. Teh reason I didn't get the lab results back is because the hospitla labs have crashed and they can't do any blood tests. This is stepping Hill Hospital in Stockport - a big place. How can they function without labs?

Anyway my urine is worse - +2 with protein now so she can't ignore it. I've got to go to Stockport for 3pm for a full assessment - they will scan me, monitor me, do my urine, BP everything except a blood sample which would give them an answer in a few minutes. Grrrrrrrrr. They will decide if I need to deliver there and then or what. Unless they give me the all clear for a homebirth, which I feel is very unlikley in a big hospital, then its all off.

I am so so miserable. I know they have to look after me and the baby and that I should be worrying about my health rather than where I give birth but everything was so positive yesterday and now its all collapsed. I've had to drag DH back from work, got to take in my hospital beg, everything. Why couldn't this little one just have come eh?

To make it worse the kids are really playing up, obviously picking up on the crisis. They leapt all over me when the MW was examining me and they've completely trashed the house around me. Somehow I've got to stop bawling my eyes out and get my act together for when DH gets home as we will have to leave straight away to make this appt - and its in the same place where I had my horrible MC.

MW finished off by asking me to let her know what they say as if its off then they won't need a 2nd MW on call tonight. Thanks a lot. Shes obviously written me off then.

Help! I'm all over the place. Sat the kids down to lunch so I could pack but my mind is whirring so fast I can't think. Got a headache now. Is it stress or pre-eclamsia?

What do I need? Have packed 3 nappies (all I've got are the washable ones so if they keep us all in will just have to go and buy some, no wipes either!) 4 baby grows and vests. And the car seat. Anything else?

For me, 6 washable breastpads, all my washable sanpro (will have to buy some if I need more) 2 nighties, dressing gown, slippers, couple of flannels, toiletries, essential oils and a t-shirt and trousers in case I mess up what I'm wearing now. bras and kickers.

Yet another no doubt muscous encrusted sample and my notes. Oh better get the camera too.

Oh I really hope I don't have to deliver there - over an hour from home. What if I have to stay in. Don't mind the idea of the local MW unit but Stockport!

Oh Katherine, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that you come back today with no baby (in the most positive way obviously!). Your headache is probably stress - I always got headaches just before I went to see the mw, just to convince me that my bp would be up.

Try not to worry - and if you do end up being kept in, remember it is for YOUR benefit, and you will still get your lovely baby at the end of it. And what's more, if you are kept in, the baby will come sooner rather than later, and you won't be pregnant anymore!

Seriously, I really hope they give you the ok, and you get your home birth. I'll be thinking of you today!

Katherine - calm down - no wonder you have a headach!! If it is a sign of pre-eclampsia then the last thing you want to be doing is getting stressed out. Could you go for a walk with the kids to a local pharmacy and just get a bit more disposable stuff.
I know it is not what you want but set your mind to the fact that you are staying in tonight and that you are having this baby in Stockport - it can only get better.
Good luck and try not to worry.

Katherine that all sounds fine. Maybe some money and some food and drink? Maybe a pillow??
I'm so sorry you're having a miserable time. I really hope this baby arrives soon (somehow, anyhow) so that you can forget all this c* and just gaze lovingly into its gorgeous eyes....just hang on to that....

Thanks Muscia. I know I just need to have a major rethink about how this baby is going to come and get on with it. I can either be miserable about whats happening or be positive. Thats it at the end of the day so its down to me. I just feel so wrethced that OK part of the problem is my health and that is worrying itself, but a major part of it is that the crappy hospital isn't functioning properly and whether I get my HB may depend on some machine not working properly. IF the MW had come and told me the results were bad and I needed to go in then I would never have questioned it - our safety is the most important thing. But the bottom line is that because the machines are down I have to go through all this stress, drag DH home from work, pack up my bags, drive an hour back through the traffic, go through countless tests etc and maybe give birth in hospital because at the end of the day they will be reluctant to let me home without the blood test results.

I could go into labour naturally at any point and all the time I am there then I am at risk of starting and they are not going to let me go again are they? And what if it starts on route. This was my biggest motivation for a HB.

And I might get there to find they have got their machines working and everything is fine so they send me home again - great yes but what a waste of time and stress.

Sometimes I wish I was a cat so I could just crawl away into a hidey hole and come back with a lovey baby to show off instead of all this carry on. Even crawling under a shed or into a loft to give birth has got to be better than this Think I've got time to hide before DH gets home?

And Jaybee and Elliott - our posts crossed. Jaybee we live in the middle of nowhere, 3 miles from a small town down a 3/4 mile long narrow bumpy track with access to the cottage across a footbridge. An idyllic place for a HB but not ideal for emergency access which is why the MW won't take any chances at this point. But I'm sure they will have the disposable stuff at the hospital anyway - just wanted to get away without using any of it.

Feeling a bit calmer now. Trying to change my mindset. DH will be home soon so better grab the last few things. Just realised I need to pack a bag for the kids too - give them something to do while all this is going on. Don't have any relatives to take them so they are part of the package too.

Sorry to hear the news, Katherine. Try and be positive and reserve your energy. The most important thing is you and bumps safety. I know that it feels really naff, but if you get the right treatment you could be in and out of hospital quite quickly. If you were at home and things didn't go to plan, then you may have had to have a prolonged stay.

Sounds like you have all the essentials packed. Have you a TENS machine or any other pain relief stuff that you want to take with you ?

Can someone look after the children so that you can spend some time calming down before hubby gets back ?

Good luck.

Beleive it or not.... I'm back! Still with bump! Can't cope with this rollarcoaster. They could find NO protein in my urine! So concluded that all the other protein was from my show and I got lucky catching this sample. Even my BP was down a bit.

They were about to send me straight home again but I convinced them to do the other stuff save having to go back to the local hospital tomorrow so I had monitoring which was fine and then a scan which showed the baby hadn't grown much more but they were happy with it all. Then she checked my cervix which is now 2-3cm dilated. Only 7cm to go! and she gave me ANOTHER sweep - she was much more vigorous than my own MW and it was quite painful - felt convinced she was going to come out holding the baby!

I then had to wait 20 minutes to be given the all clear by the Dr who spent most of his time throwing a wobbly about the vagueness of my due dates as all he wanted to know was when I would reach 42 weeks for induction. Eventually they settled on the later due date which gives me till Tuesday when I go back for another assessment. Said I didn't really want to be induced unless baby was unhappy and they said they would re-evaluate but try to respect my wishes. If worse comes to worst though my other labours started with my waters breaking so if they do that then it probably won't be much different for me than what would happen eventually anyway. But we'll cross that bridge on Tuesday - if I'm still pg by then.

Had about 6-7 contractions on the way home so please please let this be the proper start this time. Would love to have this baby tonight and put me out of my misery. Can't cope with all this will it, won't it, crisis palavar. Feel totally worn out by it all.

Well fingers crossed. Off to bounce on the sofa again.......

Oh good luck Katherine! Go BUY a child's trampoline. Don't supose dh feels up to playing "his part"? .

OMG Katherine, sorry you've had a bad afternoon, really hope this one shows tonight. Blimey, we can't stand the suspense so heavens knows what it's like for you!