January 2008 Shiny New Year Toddlers -Summer's here and our babes show their butts

[willsurvivethis]

Hello new thread

You make a very saucy snow white!

S just stood in her cot and shouted at nap time. I'm very sick of it at bedtimes, naptimes and all through the night so I took her out and told her she didn't have to sleep but I didn't want to talk to her. She stayed in another room for 45 minutes or so. We'll see if it makes tonight better.

I did look Ginge but sorry didn't make any comments. You look fantastic!

Just out of interest like - what is the connection between snow white and pirates??

Nathan no longer naps as such, hasn't for a very long time and certainly not in a bed. He did 15 mins in the car on the way home from the zoo today but that is pretty much all you get with him these days.

Finding it hard to feel I haven't lost plot with Sabela atm. I seem to be scolding her a lot and don't know if it's her or me. I'm trying to keep in mind that it's just our current situation and sleeplessness but it's hard.

Any ideas about what to tell her when dad does die? She's very worried about him and asks a lot what's wrong, so she's bound to need to be told something. I was thinking of just telling her he'd gone away to get better but it's prone to confusion and obviously not convincing if I'm very upset.

Well LaT - you have to do what you're comfortable with but no, i wouldn't say that.
Ask on the bereavement threads?
From what i've read; don't say he's gone to sleep.

Are you religious at all? can you use heaven in this instance? I do with T when we talk about death and it seems to help.

LaT keep it honest and simple and avoid anything that might make her afraid of everyday situations, so if you say he's gone to sleep and then he never comes back she may become afraid of going to sleep, if you say he's gone away to get better she will worry if say she ever needs to go to hospital to get better she will worry that she will never come back.

Something like Grandad is not here anymore darling, he was too poorly to stay here, we will miss him but we will always think about him. And yes like JKS says bring heaven into it if you are comfortable with it, as it gives you a place where he has gone.

A friend of mine had a stillborn son when her dd was three and dd says beautifully I have two brothers, one here called x and one called y who lives with Jesus. Some people find it creepy for some reason but she understands death at her own level.

LaT - J has got very interested in death lately for some odd reason and I have told him that some people beleive there is a Heaven and that when you die it means your bodies are too poorly iyswim.

I have said that the people left behind are very sad but the person who died is not sad/ poorly anymore etc...

He wanted to know about funerals (as we saw a procession the other wk) and I told him its when the people left behind say goodbye and I explained what a coffin was but emphasised how much the person who passed away did not need their body anymore.

I would not mention sleep either tbh as it may scare her to not want to sleep etc...

On the nap front M has not napped for ages in the day (started cutting it out from about 14mths) and now never has one. If she falls asleep in the car etc there is hell to pay at bedtime so I keep her awake at all costs

I also think its important to say that you are feeling sad/cross etc because of missing your dad not because of her iyswim (not that she is naughty obv.)

But just saying there is nothing wrong with letting her know you are

madmouse it was a princess and pirate party but apart from the little girls that came I was the only princess

But you were a stunning princess {smile]

Why thankyou

I checked them out... you looked amazing... like a 30th party not 40th.

E has only just started dropping his nap, although he will have a quick 30 mins max during school pick up. He does get ccranky about 5pm so have to keep him occupied, feed him etc about this time then somehwere between 7-8pm they are both in bed story done, we have to have singing aswell... the goodnight song and the cbeeebies song. Tehy love the routine though.

Have just been having another look at boys names as we have not agreed one yet - I know we dont need to yet, but I would like to have at least aconsensus on a few. So this is what I have.

Benyamin
Timur
(these two can be shortened later on the same as the other two names if they chose to... although I think I would use Ben from the beginning).

Rauf
Mikhail
Mika (I really like this in a kooky way)
Isa
Raif

We need something Islamicish but not the Mustafa's and Mohammeds something abit more unique. Plus mum has to be able to pronounce it, so need to test these on her.

I also saw the pics and thought you looked fab gingeme

Nothing much to report here except I have finally got round to getting my new floor laid downstairs (well quote anyway) from when I had my flood a yr ago

Basically I am going to have a nice new wooden floor throughout my downstairs from early Dec instead of stained carpet (from flood) and crappy lino in kitchen

Not sure what to do about my kitties though as work will take 3 days.. ho hum.

I have also got J's first parents evening since he started in yr 1 tomorrow and have to go there prepared to do battle over his reading as the books he brings home are far too easy for him...

M still pooing lots (from cheesegate 2wks ago tomorrow)

Simps you seen this?

Simpson is great thread

madmouse - thanks

She is going through exactly what I went through with M so I sent her some of M's milk to see if it will help.

That is very thoughtful of you

Hello all.

Bit of a stressful day. S and E are at home as it is Eid and I had my scan at 8.30 and DH had to work. Off to DH family without him in a while, which is fine but not ideal, going to be a long day.

Scan confirmed baby no. 3 is a BOY - S and E very excited about a little brother and I had told S he could have his own room if we had a boy so he is now overjoyed.

Coughs and colds abound here, S is really very under the weather and has hardly moved off the sofa since we got back.

Simps - hopefully it wont actually be a battle and they will just listen and take on board what you say - fingers crossed.

Go Simps Go

Hope the parents evening is ok, they really should send him home with appropriate books.

Mixedm - out of them all i like Benyamin best, and I love Ben as a nickname, and works really well with S & E, esp shortened if they choose to go that way more when they are older.
I like the idea of Timur but not Tim so much but that's just me.
Mika suprises me as the only Mika's i can think of are Finnish (Mika Hakkinen, etc). But i quite like it.
Also quite like Raif too.

Started next block of speech therapy with H today, new therapist and i didn't warm to her, but tbh i haven't to any of them. i feel like it's doing nothing and it's so low-intensity that it's pointless hoop-jumping but hey we have to do it.

Meanwhile he is saying 'byebyedom' to anything he doesn't like, not just his big brother esp my laptop which is rather awkward as he tries to shut it at the same time!

LaT - thinking of you x

Oh and YEY for 3 boys

MM - huge congrats from me

That's lovely Mixedmama.

All peaceful here. Dad seems to have given up on trying to get out of bed so the really stressful lifting etc has gone. Of course, that means the inevitable is closer.

The thing that is making life really difficult is S and D not sleeping. D is teething and having a growth spurt (he is suddenly too big for all the clothes that were too big for him when we arrived two weeks ago)which doesn't help. I coudn't count the times he woke last night. Sabela keeps having nightmares, even if she is in my bed. It's really difficult to get through the days with some semblance of being a nice mummy.

S is desperate to go home, and although I don't want to as I want to stay with Dad and Jane, I'd love to have the kids settled and happy again.

We've got parents evening too, Simpson - I look forward to swapping notes on yr1 tomorrow! Although J definitely outstrips A on the physical development front....(altho he's really improving now he does 2 hours of football every Sunday morning!)

MixedMama - I love Benjamin (would have loved to have had a Ben) and Timur is lovely too, as is Rauf :)

Um..oh dear, I sort of caught up last night, but ran out of time to post and now its the next day and my brain has gone to complete pppfffft!!!!

LaT - Tamara has been doing much the same as S. We had a 1 hour temper tantrum (total screaming session) on Saturday when I put her to bed. She knows she's allowed to 'just rest' and can just chill quietly (but has to stay in bed) but for some reason she got really angry. Of course once she was screaming mad I didn't particularly want to let her up until she'd finished screaming the place down - and I was desperate for her to sleep as she'd had a bad night and we were going out to friends for the rest of the day....I couldn't believe she stuck at it for an hour Problem was, she was then completely disgusting for the rest of the day as she'd knocked herself out with the tantrum....she also had the most enormous tantrum at bedtime that night, when my parents were visiting. In a way that was easier, as we just let A stay up late to watch more of Strictly, until she'd fallen asleep, and at least it proved to my mum that I'm not exaggerating about her temper , but it was horrid! Luckily she hasn't done it again, but I can see naptimes disappearing....Simpson, we've moved T's nap to late morning (around 12ish, straight after nursery) to minimise the bedtime impact.

Sorry to hear about your dad, LaT, sending you much love xx

LaT - let me know if there is anything I can do to help, sending ((hugs))

Well, went to J's parents evening earlier (it was at how many parents cancelled at the last minute or just did not turn up )

He is doing really well

He is in top set for everything (except reading) and his teacher even said he has never had a child so good at handwriting at his age (teacher is v young though lol)

On the battle over his reading I showed teacher the books J reads at home and he agrees J needs much harder books so is moving him up to the top set (table) from tomorrow

The top set currently only has 2 kids in it so J will be only the 3rd kid in this group iyswim.

Sorry to boast But H has not even rung to ask how it went to I have to show off to someone

And show off you should Simpson well done you and your fabulous beautiful boy. Long may it continue xxx

Simps - aww that is brilliant> Well doen J.

Ont he school front I have a mini rant. S was off for Eid yesterday which they give us an authorised absence for. TBH if I didnt ahve my scan at 8.30am I would have taken him in as we could have popped to do our visits after school. Anyway, basically he ended up being really ill all day. He moved from the sofa to bed and that is it, when we did pop to a visit (luckily very close) he cried for 45 mins until i brought him home and was in bed at 6.10pm.

Last night he was up twice and coughing all night long. This morning he hasnt touched breakfast and is still looking really unwell. I phoned the school and the secasked if he had been off yesterday for Eid so I said yes, but that he was actually ill yesterday too and she said she will have to clear it with the Head.... people must exploit the fact that they allow the children to have the day off but feel quite about it as I am not the kind of parent who woulod allow him a day off just for fun or if he was just tired.

DH vetoed all my names so we are back to the drawing board. So far only agreement is Amir/Emir (second is the Turkish version that I would actually buldoze gently persuade DH to accept. Plenty of time and Iam sure there must be more and better out there.

S and E would like to call the baby Teddington.

LOL at Teddington
at the school sec though. Bloody cheek. Its a bit like when we handed the application form for Davids school to the council and the woman told us that we will probably get a visit from the truancy officers if he is out of school for more than 4 weeks. Its not our fault all the schools in our area are full up David is pretty desperate to go to school
DH is fitting our bath in today so glad he used to be a plumber as I dread to think how much it would have cost for a plumber to come and do it for us. He said its pretty simple to do and that horrible disabled seat and gate have gone now. Made it all to hospitalised for my liking.
Anyway MM whats wrong with Teddington? (gingeme hides in the corner)