August 2008: Crap, how did THAT happen?

[CrispyTheCrisp]

oh i hope she does turn up tomorrow. As for the hairdresser, sounds like a great idea. I find male hairdressers chat alot less than females. and if they do try and make conversation with you just say 'je ne parle pas anglais' in your best french accent!

i hope they don't lose the biscuits and start eating ladybirds!

DS has just put his shoes on..do you think he's trying to tell me something?! blimey, they're even on the correct feet! must have been a fluke!

just marking my spot.

dizzy why don't you just go to a different one, go in with a businesslike air and your book already in your hand, clutch it during the washing and commencing nose-burying as soon as the first little snips happen. If the hairdresser starts on "Oooh what are you reading?" just say "Five go to Finniston Farm (or whatever) and I have to have it finished by bookclub tonight" and down you go again.

Queen how's ds today & how are you feeling?

SPD for me was more hip/pelvis grinding and pain than that kicked sensation (though I think they just said SPD to me to have something to say, it could just have been general aches & pains), what dizzy says is also what I was told by physio then, re. getting out of cars etc. Also I think driving aggravates, something about the way you use the pedals - can't remember precisely but by about month 8 they told me not to drive any more. Needless to say I covered my ears and said la, la, la, as one does. God, the remembered relief of a thick fat pillow between the knees.

Hello foggy I remember you!

Really I have not had a bad day just moaned earlier when ought not to have. Caught up with 3 nice friends at playgroup, and coffee lady slipped ds2 extra biscuits after accident, so all fine really.

Evening

Good to see you Foghorn, stay a while if you can

Glad to hear you had a nice walk dizz, i LOVE blowing the cobwebs away on a nice spring day. Hope all is quiet in the ChezDixie and you have your feet up with a glass of vino. Oh, and i rarely speak to hairdressers . I usually use the time to clear out my phone of old messages or take a book in. Go to a place you need never return to and don't worry a jot about being 'antisocial'

miamla any news from DMother? Is she supposed to be looking after DS any days this week? Hope your pains are not SPD, but please take advice from all the knowledgeable ones on here

Lady Poor, poor DS2 . Hope the cheese is good and has restorative powers for Mum

Had a lovely afternoon with a friend and DC's played mostly nicely. Managed to pour out all my crap with work onto her lap so you lot are spared . DD1 got sent to bed at 6.30pm for pushing DD2 over for the third time today . DD2 nearly hit her head on the stone hearth, lord only knows how she didn't so was a real heart in mouth moment and DD1 got sent packing sharpish.

Off to visit a friend tomorrow who is due on Sat. She was admitted to hospital yesterday with suspected DVT, but has been given the all clear to go home and rest. Not sure how much rest she will get when i turn up with two monsters in tow

VG - am badly in need of a colour as well as a cut - will head somewhere new after payday though

hi lg glad ds2 ok, he had a result with the extra biccies! DS came back from the other end of the room at p&t earlier with a big smile on his face. I was mightily suspicious and found a biscuit in his hand! goodness knows what child he stole them off!

not being able to drive?

hmm, i remember foggy but not any finer details.. "hello"

hi qod

ooh dizz and crispy are here too
hello!

just doing dinner..back in a sec

Evening all

dizzy hi sweetie lovely to see you

foghorn good luck with that catching up thing. I manage once a week/fortnight or so and generally have a tome or three to deal with

Glad you lot sorted the thread voting ruck...

Re our new government - today I heard it called the condem party. Nuff said.

At the risk of sounding like a very stuck record - why won't ds2 ever just go to bloody sleep? It's just not right that a 5 year old stays awake this late every night.

Hi all,
lg glad DS is ok, and got some extra biccies.
dizz good to see you here too

lg thanks for asking - DS a bit better today, no sick and only 1 manky poo. I'm struggling. I know I should see it as a good sign, but I had so hoped to avoid hyperemesis this time round. Sadly hasn't happened, and I'm not managing to keep liquids down. Feeling quite low, but my mum is talkin about coming down from Scotland to help out.

Evening all

Dizzy - Hopefully A will be there tomorrow and you can go and get a little 'me' time - if not a haircut then a cuppa with your book somewhere no-one knows you or a good stomp along the beach.

LG - pleased you day got better

Crispy/Miamla - nice to see a coalition working well

QOD - Sorry you are feeling so rubbish - have you seen the doc about taking something for it?

My SPD is definitely in the SP joint and grinds and creaks like an old door in the wind it is worse when I have a full bladder as there is an increase of pressure. I can't do the pillow between the knees as I struggle to lie still long enough.

QOD - you poor thing. My sister has had hyperemesis twice, and just last week she was saying that she wished she had been easier on herself about it and not felt guilty about stuff not getting done, feeling rubbish etc. Please be kind to yourself and draw on any help you can.

Dizzy, my darling, you have been in my thoughts so often this week. A week is no time at all is it? Much love.

Thanks all for your help on t'other thread. You are all v. funny.

No recent illing here from anyone and Dh is due home, so I'm hping all will improve. I have been a crap mum this week, and will do much better with some sleep on board.

My computer is misbehaving, so I'd better sign off.

ladies I posted here but don't need replies - it was more by way of an explaination/threapy session for me

QoD Red is right - accept help from your mum and see if your GP can get you some anti sickness medication. You must feel so drained by it, so rest when you can

ataraxis hope the boy is now asleep? will he go to his room and read/do puzzles/story cd? Also, does it affect him at school? If so, maybe worth speaking to someone qualified in sleep stuff (not like me i hasten to add. I am only qualified in actual sleeping. Well when DD2 allows anyways )

oops the CriMia or should that be MiaCri coalition is all fine and dandy

dizzy replied on other thread. Hope getting it all out on paper gave you some sense of release

Finally found you all. Phew!

dizzy - have just seen your post. I know it's been said before but once more, I am so sorry. Your bravery in the face of such a sad and horrible situation is amazing. It's great to hear that you're at least starting to recover physically. While the rest will take longer, you know where we are when further talking is helpful - and when inanities are easier . Have been thinking of you all day actually and was going to see whether you fancied a trip to the park but in the end the guy came to check the boiler right at the end of his 10 hour 'slot' . Hope to catch up soon though.

Mucho sympathy for the sickness red and QoD and creaky joints oops and mrsm and for DS2's bumps and scrapes VG. Glad you managed to vent though crispy. And hello again FHLH!

Nothing to report here for now other than a toddler who hsa suddenly decided that she doesn't want to feed herself, needs to sit on a lap at all mealtimes and thinks that calling 'mummy' on 10 second repeat is preferable to going to sleep. Had 30 mins of it this evening. Poor DD1 just stoically put her hands over her ears and sighed heavily.

Night all.

Dizzy, I posted on the other thread, and just wanted to add that I lost that much blood after ds and it was really debilitating. Don't rush the physical part of your recovery. There's my bossiness done.

Dizz just read your post on the other thread. I hope that in some slight way writing it all down was in some way cathartic. I hope you get your time alone and agree just go somewhere that you don't have to go back to then it doesn't matter how you act.

Hi FHLH hope you come back again soon.

Another one still suffering with early morning wake up calls. Am starting to try getting tougher on it but this morning I went in and said 'DS it's still night time lie down and go back to sleep'. He lay down then lifted up his pyjama top a little way and said 'round and round the garden' (meaning he wanted me to stroke his back/tummy).

(((((((dizzy))))))) no words, just hugs

Did no-one like Camelegg? non? How about Dick? Or even dick camelegg

Ridiculously early start (well, 5.40 is ridiculous in my book) which is not good after a night at the pub quiz!

Hello fogleg how on earth are you? As ataraxis says, good luck with catching up!

Sun is out here atm, long may it last!

QoD I hope your hyperemesis is short lived, I can't imagine how debilitating that is, especially as a bit of nausea fair wiped me out

ataraxis ds1 has never needed that much sleep. He would happily go to bed at 9pm everynight and get up at 7 (or earlier) with no detriment to his energy levels. O on the other hand is asleep in seconds if we put him to bed any time after 7pm.

crispy and miamla can we have a resume of your main policies?

Morning

DD2 slept until about 6.45 |woo woo) and was then left to sing/groan/contemplate life until 7.10 (official ok getting up time chez Crispy)

Sun is shining although i suspect temps are not quite so appealing.

Off shortly to see my friend. I maybe gone awhile in MIL's little chugbox car......

Have a good day all, especially the Dizxy one

Christ what a night. All 3 playing silly buggers. Any 'me' time afforded today will be spent in bed making up for lost sleep. Dd2 coughing with every second breath & D has started barking like a seal this morning. DH has dropped car off for MOT & if they put £45 wipers on it I'll (rationally) burn them to the ground AND still no idea if A coming this morning, fingers crossed.

Cece, thank you for my fb comment, you made me smile.

i've joined the fb chat too

4.35 wake up here

i phoned mum last night. she defended bro's actions (re leaving message) but reckoned she knew nothing about it. she said she felt so sad that she wasn't looking after DS this week that she hadn't done anything but then slipped up when she told me about the shopping trip she had with bro
She kept telling me that we (me and bro) had to stop being silly and just be friends. when i listed off just a few of the things he's done in the last year that had upset me that were unreasonable, her reply was 'well, you know what he's like' I've told her i'm having nothing more to do with him and i don't want DS anywhere near him either. When i was over there last week, he showed DS a biscuit, called him over. DS ran over to invesigate and bro stuffed it in his mouth going 'ooh look its a magic trick and its gone now'. I quickly distracted DS to avoid him being upset.bro thought it was hilarious. If DS decides in a few years that he wants to see him, that's fine but i'm not wasting any more time or effort on pandering to his (bro's) every (inconsiderate) whim.

She asked if she could look after DS on monday and i said 'yes of course' as long as it was a definite arrangment. DH then had the sense to ask if bro had managed to get his flight yday. apparently not, the ash has cancelled it so the deal is that if bro is still around then she's not having DS (or she can see him at ours, which she won't do because that means leaving her house).

The call actually started with her asking how i was so i told her about how much pain i'm in with my pelvis at the moment. she pretty much dismissed it but then said that she could cancel her plans with bro today to look after DS if i have a mw appt. told her not to bother, that i could manage. which i can. if i walk slowly to the clinic and get mw to see me in a room downstairs (no lift upstairs), i can manage. but now of course she thinks i'm being stubborn. i guess i am slightly but i'm not giving bro more ammunition to fire at me for cancelling his lovely day out with mum in cambridge

sorry, this has turned out to be a bit of a long rant, i was only popping on to say good morning. i'm just sick of the power he's got over her and i don't want him being any sort of an influence on DS.

thank you all for the comments - DH thinks she was probably trying to be funny but frankly I can't be arsed anymore - esp considering I'm now 30lbs lighter than I was in Dec

miamla - right at this moment in time you, DS and DPea are the most important things and if your Dbrother is causing this much stress then he is not worth tolerating at the moment - it doesn't mean that has to be it for your relationship but for right now cut him out - a bit of time to grow up and realise that he is not the centre of the universe won't do him a bit of harm.

Red do you mind me asking, was it iron tabs or a transfusion and when did you start to feel a bit stronger? I'm fed up being knackered and I know a week isn't long but I'm hardly known for my patience and am beginning to worry that this is depression rather than a physical thing

Well last night was fun I coldn't sleep from 1-3.45 then DD had the most amazing screaming nightmare at 4.15 and once I calmed her down (she was still asleep) she went off like a firealarm every 15mins until 6.45 when she finally fell fast alseep for 45 mins. DH slept through the whole thing I gave hime DD and they let me sleep until 9 now wer are already 20minutes late to see a friend and DD is squatting in the corner saying 'no mummy, don't look at my poo!'

Dizzy - can you get some Spatone form Boots to suplement the iron tabs. Remember your body is working very hard to make the blood you lost whilst still using the little iron there to keep your body well supplied with oxygen. Like trying to run a marathon everyday with only one nostril to breathe through.

Back later no doubt

right, am off to post office to return the matty clothes I'd ordered and were delivered yesterday and hair appt is booked for 11am - lets hope its not a chatty one

to list of 'to do'

sounds like we all had a crap night sleep