January 2009- toddlers turning 15mths and all that jazz (really just a new thread so DOG can fit it on her poncey iphone!)

[PatTheHammer]

Good enough for ya dog .

And sorry I do realise some are only turning 14 mths and some are nearly 16mths etc,etc......apologies!

All officially toddlers now though i think (well 120's H and HKZ's J are pulling up/taking steps now I think, think mostly everyone walking of some sort!) Scary thought!

Love the new thread... poncy IPhone... lol. I was going to suggest the new title be something like "No. No. No, what are doing? No, get out of that. No! Where did you get that... where are you going... come back here with that!" Needlesstosay, DD is getting into everything. She can spy an unlatched cupboard a mile away. Well, she is sleeping at night now. Maybe thats why, its exhausting keeping mom on her toes.

moose Celiacs have it hard. You can't even eat food that has been fried in fat thats had gluten in it. Its manageable but you must inform anyone how is cooking for you of it. Too bad there was no other way to test. Poor little fellow. Let him know we are all thinking about him too and sending him good vibes.

So, without boring you with details, I stopped talking to my mother years ago because I was tired of the same old shit. Holidays ended badly with a roaring fight caused by her and someone, anyone. Its been great not having to deal with it but my poor old sisters and this past Sunday, holy cow. She laid into my sister about how she is raising her children, etc. A huge fight ensued, I can just imagine the white trash crap that happened on the co-op lawn. They fought all through dinner, drinking more and more, and she stormed home and then phoned and texted both my sisters continuing to bitch. Then, she emailed me and chewed me out. Incredible is all I can say. She is a cracker. I just can't believe it. Sort of funny but sad in a pathetic way. She blames everyone for her unhappiness, even going so far as to say it. I just want to ignore it but there were things she said that I want to set her straight but then, really, I have no intention of ever speaking to her again anyhow, so why bother? I guess if I'm asking, I should just leave it alone. Why poke to beast?

Morning guys

Chef- how awful for you guys, although I did have a little snigger at your colourful description of the whole shebang, sorry! Sounds like she has 'narcissistic personality disorder' type thingy. I was doing some reading on some threads on here for an old schoolfriend who has got a very similar mother, always playing siblings off against each other and everything always revolves arounnd her. There was a good book recomended on one of the threads, I'll go back and have a look.

Dog- Isla sounds similar to Z at nappy times, he hates it!!! Wouldn't be a problem but he is still doing about 5-6 dumps a day, yuk!

Stripey- welcome back. Poor little C, hope she calmed down quickly. Z is always hurting himself, he is a little bruiser so doesn't always notice! He also has some proper strops now, throwing himself on the floor and everything (only to get ignored as we haven't got the time this time round![grin).

Books- a 50minute tantrum is going some, don't think even DD at her most obnoxious could top that! Easter egg hunt sounded fun. Mine have had great fun doing various ones this weekend, but yesterdays was knackering, took ages!

Moose- It does sound like diagnosis is going to be important, but how terrible for you and him in the meantime. The post-its sound a great idea.

MissJ- Hoping you are ok this morning

We are off round a friends in a bit for a bit of a potter round the village she lives in and then a potter round the garden centre which has a nice cafe for lunch. Followed by possibly a potter round the park this afternoon. A day of pottering!

Wow, new thread enthusiasm!

Thanks for all the hugs and support, it really means a lot. Had a very quiet day yesterday, in bed mostly. Mum took N off, and OH was working. In quite a lot of pain, plus I was very sick throughout the night, so really not feeling great. Then in the evening everyone suddenly arrived at the same time, Mum with N and her partner, my Dad, my sister (who came up from London when she heard, to look after me - so sweet), and OH - so it was like a mini-drinks party for about an hour. So that cheered me up somewhat.

Easter egg hunts sound lovely, especially your ten books!

Risotto - love it - we do the Nigel Slater creamy chicken risotto. I think the key is to have your own chicken stock. Also we add teaspoon of fennel seeds along with the onions/ shallots at the beginning. N loves it too. Have also always wanted to make the risotto balls MM - would love to see a recipe 120 - or whatever your posh name for them was !

Oh no, just saw there is a page 2 - off to read it now.

Chef - don't reply. Your mum was obviously very angry and taking it out on everyone. So there's no point in replying. Delete it and delete from trash can too. I'm sorry you're relationship is so tricky

But they'll just be ping pong war of e-mails if you begin and it won't achieve anything IMO as I get the impression that she'd never agree with you regardless of what you said. But I could be wrong...

If it was me Moose with having to do this until 6 July. I'd be tempted to give up on test and never feed them anything gluten related ever again

OK, caught up now.... chef and dog families can be really hard work - I think that's why I love watching Brothers & Sisters so much, because it's like a lovely fantasy of how they should be, especially if you are rich and living in California . Sorry, that's not very helpful is it? But agree, why poke the beast? People don't change, or not that much anyway.

stripey poor C - we have had a couple of bangs to the nose followed by nose bleeds, and I don't know how I would calm him down without a quick bf. I think sometimes they scare themselves with the drama of their initial yelling!

dog have you tried the pull-ups? I went thru a stage of putting N in his cot (where he would stand up) and dressing up there, it was much easier than trying to persuade him to lie on his back. Now I have a stack of his birthday cards by the changing mat in the bathroom, and I give him one to look at when it's nappy time.

pat the potterer sounds like a lovely day - will see how I feel over the next couple of days, but hopefully we can still do something on thurs? Will fb you.

No-one back to work then? stripey are you still off full-time? I lose track.

x-posted with you tea - agree with you about the emails. Rise above it! (easier said than done). How is DD sleeping now?

Morning!

Chef - have you looked at the stately homes threads on here? They are all about poinsonous parents and there is a lot of support on there if you need to rant with people who have been through it! Must admit I took a look and then realised my mum wasn't all that bad by comparison!!!

Hello stripey.

at work so just skim reading between flicking back to spreadsheets!

lol at pat the potterer

arancini. don't sound that hard to do! Bit fiddly though. will have a go this week. think they'll be great for picnics in the playground!

eh up [grin

mm - must be veryu stressful!!!

hi miss j - yesterday sounded good
you take carexx

both dds ill here
dd1 has earache and a dd2 a cold

hi tink

does a cold count as ill? thought it was a permanent toddler state!

where are you all???

..... I am here, just finished A-level tuition so off to have a drink and then back in a bit.

I had a lovely pottering day, it was most pottersome!!!

lol. sounds perfect!

here i am, have just polished off some cashew nut curry and am quaffing a glass of wine...

missj, am still off (until sept '12!) but have been surprisingly busy with this and that lately, just not online so much. i think loads of folks are back at work though?

chef - sorry to hear about your mother being difficult, i think if your relationship was so conflicted, it's probably best to let it go rather than get into a back and forth about it. no point in aggravating yourself with it, i always think. and i think we should definitely go with your title for the next thread - i find that i say "oh no catherine, give that to mummy, give it to mummy, no,no,no" more than i say pretty much anything else (apart from bye-bye) these days...

tink, sorry to hear about coldy dd - 120, i think a cold is an illness, but i also think c is a surprisingly robust child.

haven't had that great a day, my aunt died last night - she was in hospital with an infection but we weren't under the impression that it was that serious, but she was eighty four and diabetic, and i think since her sister died in december had kind of given up. she was a genuinely unpleasant person, but i know her life was hard and also she was the last of my father's siblings - i am unclear, really, how i feel. sad, i suppose, but not grieving, iykwim. not going to the funeral, too difficult with c and dp is going to be away at a conference so can't leave her at home (would have to go to cork overnight, the timing of it all would be a nightmare). feel slightly weird about this (in ireland, you always go to the funeral). but also relieved, really.

how i go on. bet y'all missed that, eh?

hi stripey. nice to have some company. sorry to hear about your aunt. I felt the same way about my gran. I cried out of shock and then didn't really know what to do with the feelings I really had. It's weird.

it is weird. i did cry this morning, but i am pretty sure it was for all of the past rather than for my aunt; partly i think because hse might be better off, she had dementia and kept forgetting that her sister had died and then remembering, i think it was very painful for her.
but we think she died in her sleep, so at least that wasn't too awful (i hope). but she was person who truly, of all the people i've ever met, was motivated by malice, and although i know things didn't go well for her in her life, my father and my aunt had the same upbringing and although they certainly had faults, they didn't have this incredibly mean tendency. so i'm stuck between pity and feeling nothing. weird.

120 sorry, that was a bit me, me, me - sorry. i'm sorry about your gran, both of mine died before i was born but i imagine it's a much closer relationship to have not working than an aunt

Stripey - hello there (have we met ) Late arrival to thread. Sorry to hear about Aunt, completely understand where you're coming from here too ((hugs))

Handed in the first lot of papers to begin divorce today but know it's the right thing to do after 5 months separation, affair still continuing, he's not wearing his wedding ring anymore, tells me he's only fond of me but in love with other woman etc. It hurts but I need to be realistic I really hope I can somehow bring the children up to be stable adults who feel loved etc.

Sorry to clarify, I'm the late arrival to thread

not at all Stripey! My gran died about 7 years ago (am feeling a bit guilty, not really sure when). Wasn't close to her, like you was upset for my Dad who really valued her pompous and snobby opinions! Am even less close to my Aunt, who used to give my siblings £10 cheques and me £7. ROFL. So petty! Gotta love my family.

The dementia sounds awful. I can't imagine what it must be like to live with someone going through that.

evening tea. you snuck in there! erm, twice. a quick typer!

120, classic! did she hand out the cheques saying nothing, or did she give a reason? they are out there, though - dp has an aunt who used to quarter apples, give a quarter each to her own three children and put the last quarter away rather than give it to dp. can you imagine? not only the meanness to dp, but a quarter of an apple each for her own kids?! and what on earth did she do with the last quarter?

tea- nice to meet you - sorry to hear about your divorce, hope at least it all goes smoothly. introductions - live in ireland with dp and 14 month old dd, and have been a bit offline lately...

LOL at quarter apple and none for dp. Unbelievable!

120 - my quick typing and posting means my message are full of errors